How To Shift Your Mindset From Writer And Author To Your Own Book Publishing Business


Ever wanted to own your own Book Publishing Business but you keep doubting yourself that you can? Or maybe you have never considered it, because you always thought traditional publishing was the way to go … no, and in this post I reveal why, and how you can stop doubting yourself for good. If that sounds like something you want to know more about, read on…

From 2nd October 2020, I went through hell, with mental, physical, and emotional trauma. It took me a year to leave a day job (October 10th 2021 was the day I officially left), that made me really poorly because of things that went on which I wasn’t expecting and didn’t deserve, and I was off sick from for a long time (so been able to self-isolate a lot more than those who work and keep myself safer). I can’t currently discuss more about this publicly for legal reasons and might never be able to, but I think you get my point.

I went back to therapy for the first time since 2014, and was unofficially diagnosed with PTSD – I got an assessment score of 49. A score of 32 and above means you have the condition. Furthermore I was diagnosed with complex PTSD (CPTSD) as I have had uncontrollable emotions, and was crying almost every day I woke up, until 16th of December – when everything changed for the better, for good.

In November last year (2021), I went out clubbing for the first time ever since March 2020, for 5.5 hours, this was the first time since I broke my ankle back on 17th of April 2021 and I’ve done extensive physio to walk again and regain strength in that ankle enough to go clubbing. It was the longest I had clubbed for, since I went to Ministry Of Sound in London, in 2014. 2 days later I got sick with a respiratory/chest infection and lost my voice. I had to have 3 lots of antibiotics in 6 weeks and was still coughing on Christmas Day and on New Year’s Day I was battling with severe rib and chest pain – like someone had stabbed me with a knife in-between my ribs and left the knife in (even though they hadn’t), to the point where the next day it hurt me every time I breathed in (and felt like I was being cut with glass, on top of the feeling I had a knife in my ribs), and later I went to A&E on the advice of my local NHS Walk In Centre and Devon Doctors on call, who suggested a rib and chest XRay respectively. But instead of having an XRay I ended up in a Covid hot room, about to have a bed made up for me, a monitor hooked up to me, and blood tests taken, when I didn’t have Covid and all my tests for that had been negative. I was horrified! It was like something out of a surreal horror movie. They put my life at risk unnecessarily, because I had purposefully been keeping myself safe from getting it as I have a low immune system (which I take good liquid bacteria for) and too many allergies to have the vaccine. And there was a patient who was in the same room as me that I heard them diagnose with Covid right before the Doctor saw me, and I told them all my tests were negative for that – including the one I had done at 8am New Year’s Day, before visiting my parents and my guinea pig daughter Angel who lives with them. Their reasoning being I was in the hot room they said before the Doctor saw me, was because I had had a cough – I already told them I don’t think I coughed once that day, and the Doctor I saw before Christmas who said I had a chest infection, with some infection still in my lungs, said I would still be coughing after I finished the antibiotics she gave me and I had some rib pain then, just not as severe. They also said it was because many people have Covid and I am not vaccinated, which I felt were ridiculous reasons, just because lots of people have it and I am unvaccinated, doesn’t mean to say I would have it.

During the time I got sick (I got my first lot of antibiotics on 16th of November), I was forced to rest during that month as much as possible – although I did do some work on my Asexual Guide To Sex book, and take stock of my life, reflect on it, and what I really want to do with me life and make some drastic changes to it. For years I have had a voice in my head being a coach to myself that said, if you only just focused on writing books for the next 1-2 years and nothing else, what do you think your life would be like? And how much better it would be. But I was always crying, upset, and in pain from this, because I hadn’t made the decision to go all in before, I kept going off on tangents because people kept telling me I am not making enough money from my writing and I kept telling myself that. They told me I can’t make enough money from writing books, that basically it’s an add on to a business, not the business, and that I need to do something else to make money, because otherwise I will fail. And some of the people have years of business experience and made hundreds of thousands of pounds, one has even made billions, and published his own book. But… these people do not specialise in a book publishing business, they don’t focus on book publishing, they just use it as one asset in their tool box. For me, writing is my life and soul purpose, and my destiny given to me by God is to have lots of books out and publish by the time I die, so I can continue to save lives long after I am gone. I see that in my destiny and soul purpose (along with helping asexuals and getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. – That’s why I loooove writing books for asexuals. As it’s both my life and soul purpose in one).

As the beginning of December, I started working my way through the first 2 module of Ray Edwards – How To Set Up A Copywriting Business, video training course, that I bought on a late Black Friday deal. This course teaches you how to start a copywriting business and get clients. But… I only finished the first two modules, which apply to any writing business. That’s when it hit me twofold in the most profound way, and I love Ray for helping me figure this out.

  1. He said to, never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can. (This is because he was talking about copywriting is all about influencing others, but first you must be able to influence yourself – that’s it! The thing that changed the way I think.)
  2. Writing is a business and you can make thousands of pounds from it.

I didn’t need any more of that course, because that was enough to know I don’t want to work for someone else and write copy for others. I want to write more and more non-fiction books that change lives and leave a lasting legacy. And the 2 things I needed to do to accomplish that, is to influence myself enough to know I can make thousands of pounds and a full-time living as a writer. And to focus on book writing as a business.

I had a wobble…

Self-doubt crept back in…

But on 16th of December 2021 my best friend Andy took me for a meal in Nandos as an early Christmas present. (He also bought me some pressies too for Christmas Day.) Before we went out, we discussed my self-doubt and I was trying to understand why I didn’t fully believe in my intention, when I did the previous week. But then it hit me as I came out of the toilet in Nandos, what made the difference, so I was able to go all in… It was a mindset shift, from I am a Writer and Author, with my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books, which is fantastic, to I am the Writer, Author, Manager, Promoter, And Marketer, of my Book Publishing Business. But the most important thing to remember is Writer, Author, Owner, Manager, Promoter – (which involves far more self-promotion as part of a marketing strategy to sell more books), of my own Book Publishing Business of Quirky Books. And that’s when I decided to go all in and commit 100% to creating a successful book publishing business, rather just seeing myself as an Author and Writer.

I don’t think it’s the books that’s the problem – why I have lower sales than I would like, I think it’s me and my mindset that needs to change. I think I need to ensure that I promote myself and my books far more and get a lot more publicity going forward. Such as get on more podcasts, be in more online magazine articles, get more radio interviews, and so much more. Which I will be doing with my Asexual Guide To Sex book – so watch this space for that. I’m so excited! I think mindset is so overlooked when it comes to book sales, or lack thereof.

Last year I studied an expert in mindset shifting. He said instead of affirmations, you need to look for confirmations. Which is proof you can do it or have done it before. Which I am able to do with writing non-fiction books. I am a successful Author and writer who can make money from writing and publishing books, because I have consistent monthly income from once book since 2017, and another since 2019, even though I would like a much higher income from those, it’s still proof I can make consistent sales for years, when some people don’t make any sales at all. Also, a couple of years ago, a traditional publisher that had been in business for 35 years, found my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book in an LGBT shop in London and approached me on Twitter to tell me they were interested in publishing my book under their publishing imprint, but…:

  • They wanted to remove half the stories (because the ones including any mention of sexual abuse, would not be suitable for their publishing style and image, and it would make the book cheaper to sell, and they had a maximum price they would sell the book for.) Bear in mind the book is called “Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories“, it would mean changing the title also, and my audience getting less valuable stories.
  • They also wanted all of my reviews I had built up myself over the years. (Now I am not sure if that would have been possible anyway, because if they removed some of the stories and the title changed, it would have in essence made it a different book, and I don’t think KDP would have allowed that.)
  • I would have to ask their permission to quote from my own book (no thank you). I sell a lot of my books by quoting from them – so if you haven’t already tried to do this, I highly recommend it.
  • They wanted me to read another book to replicate that person’s style (no thank you, I want to keep my own style).
  • I would have got a maximum of 12% commission on book sales, even after the representative from their company had just told me on the phone I would have got 15%, he then reduced that figure in the follow up email. (Which immediately made me trust them less.) I get up to 70% through publishing my books myself using KDP.
  • In the end they agreed with me not take that book on themselves as they spoke to their marketing team and said because I have so successfully published that book, they doubt they could meet my marketing expectations.
  • They refused to take on my Asexual Sex Guide To Sex book, which they wanted to consider, and I had to apply to them to consider, because again, it has some stories which include sexual abuse and they thought the content would be too risky, but told me their marketing team said there is a market for it, and it will definitely sell. I was very happy and grateful I had this positive feedback from a company with 35 experience.
  • They were interested in publishing my next 2 books, after Asexual Guide To Sex, and years ago it would be my Author/Writer dream to have a traditional company publisher my book, but now I want to build my own book publishing business and get my Quirky Books imprint portfolio increased. I have no desire to work for someone else, when I am so super successful at publishing my own style of books, in my own voice. Raw, real, authentic.

I just need to write more books and focus on having an actual book publishing business and stop going off on tangents with things that have nothing to do with writing, publishing, promoting and selling, more books, because people keep telling me you can’t earn a full-time living from writing books alone – which simply isn’t true, because others are doing it, so why can’t I? Remember what Ray Edwards said, he said to: never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

So after all of the heartache and pain, and everything I have been through over the last year and more, I am so happy to now be focusing on Quirky Books as a book publishing business and accelerating my Author journey to another level entirely, and feeling much happier now I have clarity and focus on exactly what I want to do for the rest of my life and beyond. God has given me the precious gift of writing and made it my mission to write books that change lives, from pain to gain, so I am going to fulfil my destiny. He also gave me the mission to help asexuals, so by doing both it’s my ultimate bliss and happy place. I am also on my way to creating my Children’s Book publishing dream too, with immense help from the Children’s Book Creator course and the support group which comes with it. I would highly recommend it, if you want to write, illustrate, and publish your own Children’s books yourself. Although I have been working my way through the video training course, I am focused on finished my Asexual Guide To Sex book as a priority. Read more about the Children’s Book Creator course here: Calling All Would-Be Children’s Book Writer’s, Authors and Publishers – How To Write And Publish Your Own Children’s Books And Save Yourself Hundreds Of Pounds and remember, don’t let yourself be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Dear Writing I’ve Missed You – A Letter To My Love Of My Life – A Writing Poem From My Soul


 

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Author Sandra Bellamy With Her Asexual Perspectives Paperback Book

Happy to say that I have an extra Asexual Sex Story for my Asexual Guide To Sex book and all next month my main focus is finishing writing this book. Which will be my second for asexuals.

Writing will always, always, always be the love of my life. I want to write a letter here to my love of my life.

Dear writing I’ve missed you.
I’ve missed you so much, I want to kiss you.
Without you in my life, I feel like I am dying,
And right now I am crying.

I am trying to do the ‘right thing’,
I am trying to do what should bring,
Well you know, the big M thing,
But dear writing you are the only thing,
Academic wise,
That makes me come alive,
You are the one thing,
That never tires,
And the one thing I never, ever despise.

Writing is like setting your soul free,
It’s the ONLY way in my opinion,
You can ever leave a true, lasting legacy,

It’s the only way you can truly change the world,
You can light up another’s life,
And make them see,
That all the truth and power,
Lies within thee.

Dear writing I have missed you,
I truly want to kiss you,
You are my heart and soul,
And without you I am dying inside,
If truth be told.

So what happens when we are not doing what we are suppose to be,
Is our body reacts, involuntary,
It shakes us up and makes us see,
We aren’t fulfilling our true destiny,

God, the universe, the powers that be,
Show you the dangers of not living your destiny,
They give you pain, they induce the worst,
To say what the heck do you think you are doing, Why are you not giving your body what it wants and needs,
And denying it’s thirst.

See you may think writing is just that,
But when you truly listen to your soul,
You know it’s far more than that,
When you deny yourself to use the gift you were born with,
Or you denying it, in favour of another it,
It’s like losing a best friend over and over again,
It’s like agony and then some again.

Your body will go crazy,
Your spirit will feel more lazy,
You heart will pine for something you are denying it,
And all for what?
To conform and fit in?

Maybe this was never your intention,
But maybe subconsciously, that’s what you forgot to mention,
Maybe you need to stop denying your body, heart and mind the truth,
And that is, your writing is living proof,
Of exactly why you were put on this earth,
So please go back to it, and live your full worth.

Go back to the joy that you once new,
And connect with that disconnect,
Your soul and body will thank you.

See you never really left it and me and you know this,
But when you think about it, you body is in a mess,
But it’s nothing you can’t fix.

Because within your body, soul, and mind,
You need to have the courage to know this is my time,
Other things can wait,
But this can’t.

Because you need help,
Others need your help,
And the only way to fix this,
Isn’t by doing what others do,
It’s to look after precious you.

It’s about standing up for what you truly believe in,
For taking a stand and not trying to fit in,
It’s about working hard at what you truly love to do,
It’s about reaching for the stars, the light and the moon,
It’s about getting your best friend back and healing you,
It’s about reaching out to your writing and taking it by the hand and singing Grease Lightening,
It’s about remembering the heart and soul of you,
And that writing is you and at the heart of what you do.

It’s about living your life, fulfilling your own purpose and destiny,
It’s about taking charge of your life and living your truth with passion and vigour,
It’s about being you, Sandra Bellamy the writer,
And loving what you do.

It’s about knowing no other occupation will do,
Because writing is your life, it’s your heart, its about you.

When I say it’s about you, you know it’s designed to help others too.

You went through shit,
And you got through it,
You needed that to happen,
To write about it.

You needed to have lived life,
The rough with the smooth,
Now go ahead again,
And prove them wrong.

Be who you are truly born to be,
Don’t hold back,
Don’t come from a place of want and need,
Don’t come from a place of lack.

For when I think about writing,
There is a joy within my heart,
Like nothing I ever feel again,
Nothing ever comes close to this piece of me,
That’s why I have to fulfil my writing destiny.

I want to thank you God and the powers that be,
For manifesting chaos and pain within me,
Because I know you want me to see the truth,
No one and nothing can heal me, but my own self.

So I am going back to writing more,
To blogging,
And opening up my writing door,
And if I have to leave other plans behind I will,
But I think that maybe, just maybe, it’s been about writing all along,
Because I don’t do a business in which I can’t sell books,
I don’t just do a business and this I overlook,
It’s always in the back of my mind,
How can I help more people, using my writing shine!

But right now more than ever, I need to help me,
Because by helping myself, I will always help others you see,
They will always go hand-in-hand for me,
And that’s why I need to fulfil my writing destiny.

I noticed I just used the word need,
But when I use that word in the context of writing,
It’s a need within my soul,
It’s a thirst within my heart,
And I have been denying it more of late,
To focus on other things and make this wait.

No more will writing wait for me, it’s fighting back in my mind,
And telling me to fulfil my destiny,
It’s longing and it’s missing me,
When all is lost and gone,
Writing will still be with me.

So close the doors and shut your eyes,
Getting back to what you love and come fully back alive.
Go back to living and being beautiful you. Loving truly what you love to do.

Get your writing best friend back,
No longer have this lack,
Go grab it now and end it’s sorrow,
Dance with it in the moonlight,
And no longer will you need to borrow,
Short term happiness,
But you will get that writing friend back and put an end to this madness.

For one perfect month, I want you to focus at least,
On your writing joy,
And having a writing feast,
On getting back to the true love of your life,
Who has always been by your side.

Instead of leaving your writing best friend,
To fend for itself,
And be behind you,
Waiting from afar,
I want you to join hands once again, and live in writing bliss and harmony,
Focusing on your destiny.

Because when all is said and done,
And you look back at your life, and you are almost gone,
You will go with a happiness inside of you,
That you lived your true authentic life,
You did what YOU do,
And your legacy will live on.

 

It’s great to be back with you. Missed blogging and writing so much xx

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

 

Bookstore Quote For Book Lovers – How does it make you feel?


I hope you like this bookstore quote for book lovers, by Reese Witherspoon? Would you agree or disagree?

How do you feel when you walk into a book store? Or do you prefer to buy all of your books online? I would love to read you, so please leave your comments below!

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

How to Build Credibility As a Non-Fiction Author and Become An Expert!


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How to Build Non-Fiction Author Credibility and Become An Expert!

So many people can call themselves a writer and there is nothing wrong with that if they are writing – You become a professional writer when you have something published and get paid for your work.

So to be able to write good books is one thing, but to be able to build credibility as a non-fiction author and expert in your subject matter is another. Sometimes they go hand-in-hand and other times they don’t.

As a writer of a good book that people want to read, you have to:

  1. Know your subject matter and/or have researched your subject matter, or pay someone to do that research on your behalf!
  2. Be good at English language and Literature – or have a fabulous editor who will mop up your mistakes and put them right.
  3. Or interview people who have knowledge, insight, and experience, of your subject matter.
  4. Good book formatting.

To build credibility as an Author and Expert in your subject matter, you have to:

  1. Have personal experience of your subject matter.
  2. Know your subject matter with research being an optional extra, not an (or) instead of!
  3. Be good at English language and Literature – or have a fabulous editor who will mop up your mistakes and put them right.
  4. If interviewing people for your book, you must interview people who have knowledge, insight, and experience of your subject matter, in comparison/contrast to your own.
  5. Good book formatting.
  6. Be interviewed on your subject matter for other publications, these can be both online or offline, such as magazine articles.
  7. Do other work in your subject matter.
  8. Have a blog or vlog about your subject matter.
  9. Been seen across a wide range of social media with your blog posts, vlogs, articles, that show off your expertise and knowledge in your subject matter.
  10. Have social media profiles related to your subject matter.
  11. Have a Facebook business page in your subject matter.
  12. Run a Facebook group around your subject matter.
  13. Write and publish more books in your subject matter.

I hope you can now see the difference.

As a writer of good book that people want to read without the personal expertise, you can still flourish as a writer and Author if your marketing is good. I know of people who make a good living from paying others to ghost write or do research for them – so far I have not tried this! I like writing from personal experience. But this is one method of earning a living from books that some people choose to do – pay someone to write it for them! And they do it with hot niche topics.

Have you ever paid someone to write a book for you, or portions of your book? And if so, did it do better than your own books of which the subject matter you are an expert? Or did it not sell nearly as much? Please post your answers in the comments below so we can all learn from each other.

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

 

 

Free Your Books!


Free your books

I love this quote so much. Have you considered that your books may be imprisoned by you if you haven’t opened them for such a long time? Do you feel like your books are real, with a secret life of their own? And just like the film Toy Story, in which the toys come to life, your books come to life! If your books could talk to you, what do you think they would be saying to you right now? Please comment below!

Until next time, write soon and stay quirky

Sandra xx

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What Does Your Book Genre Say About You?


What your Book Genre says about YOU:

Literary Fiction – Deep thinker. Problem solver. Open minded – Easily relatable to everyone around you.

Fantasy/Sci-Fi – Imaginative. Escapist. Thrill Seeker. Witty. Daydreamer. Somewhat of a loner but has a good group of Friends.

Mystery/Thriller – Inquisitive. Mostly Reserved – prefer to Lay Low. Always up for new Plot Twists in Real Life.

Romance – Passionate. Idealist. High expectations on dates. Will go the extra mile for the love of your life.

Non-Fiction – Grounded. Pragmatic. Good listener. Love BIG Gestures. Secretly hope that someone will write about YOU.

Classics – Book nerd. Enjoy the simplicities of life. Intelligent. Not a fan of the spotlight even though you are highly opinionated.

All Genres – Overall well-rounded. Easy going. Open to new foods, new adventures, new people. For the most part, you are positive and fun to be around.


Even though I don’t read romance or write it (I mostly write non-fiction), I am hugely romantic in my personality, so I relate to that genre personality really well – how about you? Do you think these are accurate or not?

As always, until next time, stay quirky and write soon.

Sandra xx

INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FOR BOOKSTORE LOVERS! HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE YOUR BOOKSTORE?


Book Store Lover

I know some people who absolutely love bookstores and just can’t get enough of them, it’s like they are a baby in a huge playpen full of their favourite toys, their eyes light up and they are instantly lost in a world full of magic, mystery, wonder, excitement and fantasy! Is this you? Can you relate? (Comment below if you can!)

As a writer who is slow to read, I tend to only read the types of books I like to write – which is predominately non-fiction, self-help, how-to books. So I am not so enthused about going into bookstores, I prefer to just get a book when I need it, and I usually buy it from Amazon, which is where I sell my own Quirky Books.

What do you think about bookstores? How much do you love your local bookstore?

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon.

Sandra xx

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Book Quotes For Writers And Book Lovers! Why The Books I Write Are My Best Friends!


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As a Writer and Author, I often feel like some of the books I write are my bestest friends, because just like a best friendship, I spend so long working on them and with them. My books know my secrets, and sometimes they even pass some of those onto others, but there are many secrets and parts of my life that they never share, because of the difficult experiences I went through when I wrote them that are personal to me. My books helped me to get through those difficult times, without revealing to the public what happened. They listen to me and raise me up when I am at my worst and they educate me when they speak of their own free will of expression. My Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book took me two and a half years to write and it really got me through some difficult times in my life and I will always be very thankful and grateful to it for that.

I sometimes think that books are the magic of life and I still think that, but I believe you can create your own magic in life and you can make dreams come true! I know I have made a lot of my own dreams come true in life, and I still strive to do that every single day of my life! If you want to be in a horse drawn carriage, you can hire one! If you want to have your own castle, you can build one. If you want to be a princess or prince, you can be the prince or princess of your own life, you can buy the outfit, learn out how act like one or be a quirky prince or princess, and even change your name to include prince or princess! (You’re tempted, I know). I have a dress that I call my princess dress, because I feel like it is one, and I feel like a Disney Princess in it!

Have you ever felt that the books you write or read are your best friends?

How do you create magic in your own life?

Which quote do you resonate with the most?

Please comment below – I love to know what you think?

As always, stay quirky.

Love Sandra xx