Asexual Author: Asexuality And My Personal Asexual Story On Straight Up Gay Podcast!


Listen to my interview about Asexuality and my personal Asexual story on the Straight Up Gay Podcast – and no, I am not gay, I am a heteroromatic asexual – attracted to guys (hetero), I don’t want sex, love kissing and romance, but asexuality is tagged onto the LGBT+ QIA Acronym. Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual. Although Asexuality is about who you are not sexually attracted to – no one, whereas the other identities are based on who they are sexually attracted to.

https://pinecast.com/player/0b589f01-df23-4648-99b0-bfc899dc7bf8?theme=minimal

Here is the link to iTunes
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-straight-up-gay-podcast/id1191090742?mt=2&i=1000391267315

If you haven’t yet checked out my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book on Amazon, it is an insightful read, even if you are not asexual, so be sure to check it out now!! http://amzn.to/2gKnsDs

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

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ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES 5 STAR BOOK REVIEW FROM A NEWBIE TO ASEXUALITY!!!


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on July 26, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

For something that I knew nothing about, this book was an upfront and personal invitation to dialogue with the asexuality community. I’m appreciative to the author for her dedication to give voice and visibility to a sexual orientation that currently has little in modern society and media. It’s amazing how different the people in this book are and how different their stories are. I thank them for their bravery and willingness to share their lives.

If you or someone else would like a harmless, cheap, enlightening, insightful, serious, and even entertaining read, then this is your next book.

I was absolutely thrilled to read this Awesome 5 Star Asexual Perspectives book review, from someone who is completely new to asexuality. They obviously thoroughly enjoyed reading Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories Book so much, and captured the spirit of this book in their review words. I was so happy they not only liked reading the book, but that the praise and recognition for the visibility of our orientation, is so greatly received.
 This feels so good as a writer, that people love my written work, and it is written that well that people outside our asexual orientation, can understand it.
Never give up on your writing dreams.
Stay quirky always, and write soon.
Sandra
xxxx

WHY SEXUALS SHOULD GET ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK??


Asexual Perspectives print book
Author Sandra Bellamy With Her Asexual Perspectives Paperback Book

If Kindle books are available in your country, you have NO excuses not to get it. You don’t have to have a Kindle as you can download the Kindle AP to almost any device. CLICK HERE http://amzn.to/2u5Q2EA TO GET IT, OR HERE http://amzn.to/2sO3sB4 if you live in the UK. (Please note that not all countries have Amazon Kindles books. You can still buy the paperback edition on Amazon or request it from your local book store!! (And soon you will be able to buy a digital copy on my own Quirky Books E Book Store).

So I hear you say, why would I want an asexual book, when I love sex and am not asexual, right??? Because 1% of the population, IS ASEXUAL and this means that 1 in 100 people you come across in your life, IS ASEXUAL. This means you could end up talking to an asexual, being friends with an asexual, dating an asexual, wanting a relationship with an asexual, and falling in love with an asexual!! And how is that type of relationship dynamic going to work???? If you do not understand what this misunderstood and often unheard of sexual orientation, is about??? Sure, you can stay ignorant, uneducated and shrug it off as you do not need to know, but I am sure if you fall in love with an asexual and want to get married, live with, and have kids with an asexual, then you will NEED to understand your partner. After all, it is a partnership that requires understanding of both of your sexual orientations.

Heterosexuality, is often talked about and not kept in darkness, but even so, you still have needs and those needs are individual to you!! An asexual has their own asexual needs, within their sometimes more complex orientation and the sooner you grasp the foundations of what your love one requires in that relationship, the sooner you can find that deep emotional connection and bond, that will stand the test of time, long after your bits are not doing what you wished them to anymore.

Shop now, write soon, and keep being QUIRKY YOU – always!! xx Sandra (Aka Asexualise and Quirky Books)

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES QUIRKY BOOKS UNBOXING VIDEO FROM AN ASEXUAL FAN! #APAM


This awesome Asexual Perspectives Unboxing video is from an avid Asexualise fan. I could feel his excitement come through the screen. Watch it and see what you think!!

I feel so very blessed to have interviewed 46 Asexuals around the globe for this 560 page book – it is a very different Asexual book!!! And it feels wonderful as an author, to know that my book is making a difference to other’s lives, this is why my number one passion is writing – the ability to literally change lives through the written word, just cannot be beat. And when it is teamed with my other passion, asexuality, it feels like I am floating on a bed of aceness!! Thanks for all your support, stay quirky and write soon xx Get the book here http://amzn.to/2tu7EsE And it is on Amazon Expanded Distribution so you can request it in book stores!!

Print Book Publishing With KDP Or CreateSpace? – Avoid This Mistake!


As a writer you may have many goals, one is usually to see your book in print and many people decide to self-publish these days using Amazon’s print on demand (POD) service, called CreateSpace. Most would be writer’s and authors will use Amazon’s CreateSpace and so will existing Indie Authors.

Although I am the author of 3 Kindle books using Amazon’s KDP system (Kindle Direct Publishing), I have yet to publish a book in print. This year, I decided to get more serious and go into print with my Asexual Perspectives book, as the demand is there. This whole process started in January after the launch of my Kindle version, and is still not over yet! Boy is it tough being a jack of all trades as well as a master of writing to get an indie book published in print!!! Not for the faint hearted – but for the love of writing! My book is non-ficton and Approx 560 pages, so that is why it has taken me longer than predicted to get it out there and just as I think the publish button is near, something else crops up!! Arrrghhh!!

I think it’s good that I write posts that can help you to avoid some of the mistakes I have made, or almost made. One such mistake is using KDP to print instead of CreateSpace! This is one of those, ‘I almost made a big mistake jobbies!!’

KDP is currently in Beta mode for enabling you to publish your Kindle book in print. I kinda like being one of the first for things and it sounded great, just click a button and add your print version for one of your Kindle books!! Easy right? Me being naive to this stuff, thought great, hey presto and out pops a printed version! No. You still have to create a print version cover for your book, and after many hours of playing around with the “cover creator”, and uploading versions that were a muddled up version of the original I did in the KDP Kindle version cover creator, I finally conceded that I would need to pay someone to create the print version of the KDP cover, exactly. Which was not straight forward and that is another whole post entirely!! (Note to self to create that post.)

Thankfully, I am in an awesome book group on Facebook that is run by a six figure Author, (something I can aspire to after becoming a hundredaire and thousandaire Author – and the rest!). Well I am making a little money with books, even if it is not yet a ton! But if you add up all the hours and costs, then it would be a profit loss – well I won’t go into that! Positive mindset is key and my love for writing never dies, so I am onto a winner anyway! I was chatting in this book group through my post and comments and they stopped me from making a huge mistake! They told me that you cannot get discounted author copies while using KDP for print but you can if you use CreateSpace then you can. Thank God I did not hit the publish button yet. So I had to go through the cover upload and interior content upload again using CreateSpace but I registered as a publishing company under Quirky Books and thank goodness I had not used my ISBN yet, so I typed that in. The book had to gain approval and now I am on the proof stage with final edits – yet again, under way!!

From the KDP forum: “CreateSpace will send print proofs to examine before approving the book for sale. They will also sell author copies at a discounted price. AND they will distribute the book to other markets of your choosing. As of now, KDP for Print offers none of those advantages.” Check out this forum thread for more information https://kdp.amazon.com/community/thread.jspa?threadID=345180

I hope that helps you in your own Author journey?

As always, stay quirky and write soon xx

QUIRKY BOOKS IS NOW AN OFFICIAL PUBLISHING IMPRINT!


Today, I got my own publishing company imprint ‘Quirky Books’ and that is what the print edition of my Asexual Perspectives book will now go under. OVER 6 years I have waited for this, since starting this blog. This is an awesome, quirky day.

This picture was taken is EuroDisney in 2014, and this month I am going on the biggest self-date ever, to EuroDisney for my birthday. 5 days and 4 nights of quirky bliss, with two nights in London, 1 night before and after.

Always stay quirky, embrace your quirky, and be true to who you are. Never let your sparkle die or your light fade xx

And – write soon xx

INTERPRETER OF DREAMS – BOOK BY B BANU – QUIRKY BOOKS REVIEW BY SANDRA BELLAMY! MADE FOR ME!


 

 

5.0 out of 5 stars A truly remarkable book that is life changing and makes you think as if your life depended on it!! Profoundly moving and deep., 20 March 2017
By
B Banu Book Review
Interpreter Of Dreams Book Review
This review is from: INTERPRETER OF DREAMS (Paperback)

I found this book profoundly moving and deep. It’s a miracle in and of itself. It had a profound impact on me. Often echoing my own thoughts and words, that are word for word the same. It’s although the author has written it especially for me, without consciously knowing it, and with a clear message to follow my dreams, even down to the minute detail of pursuing love and a future relationship with my asexual Indian soulmate, whom I have never yet met, but whom I feel I am getting closer to, every single day of my life. I intuitively feel him and have known I have a soulmate from the age of 10, maybe I knew him in a past life or maybe only this, but it gives me hope that he may be looking for me also.

I also have many career goals and aspirations like the girl in this book, and I suffer from some of the same anxieties and disturbances. It’s like the chopping and changing of her mind, that changes her thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions, are similar to my own mind, and with similar consequences, so I really related to her. Although she is physically braver than me. This book is even told in a very unconventional and quirky style – just like my personality is quirky and unconventional. This book makes use of 1st, 2nd, and 3rd person viewpoints, and slides in and out of each to change the pace and action. This book has so much truth, wisdom and knowledge in it, that is a credit to the author, who has learnt all of this stuff and interpreted it into a wonderful parable, with so much meaning, thought and emotion.

As a published author of non-fiction books, I tend to read what I like to write, and often fiction does not appeal to me and as such, I do not usually take much value from it, but as this book is a parable, that resonated so much with me, I got tons of value from it. It made me think so much about myself and my life, and I love that!

As a fellow writer, I believe, if just one book I write changes one person’s life in such a significant and powerful way, that it may change it for the better, forever, then my life has been worth living even more and my time has been well spent. Thanks Banu for creating this profound, moving and touching book, that has reached parts of my soul that I did not know was possible to reach. I love this book xx

Buy Banu’s book here:

http://www.amazon.in/INTERPRETER-DREAMS-B-BANU/dp/9385524577

http://power-publishers.com/buy-books/fiction-novels/interpreter-of-dreams-ebook-detail

Connect with Banu https://bbanublog.wordpress.com
bbanunovels@gmail.com

What is Asexuality? An Introduction to Asexuality, The Asexual Spectrum and Asexual Perspectives!


 

So you may have read about my Asexual Perspectives book being published, but just what is Asexuality and what does it mean to be asexual? Watch this video to find out more and read my book description below. Asexual Perspectives is currently available to read for free on Amazon for ‘Kindle Unlimited’ readers, so what have you got to lose by finding out more? 

Shop on Amazon.com http://amzn.to/2kyL22x or Amazon.co.uk  http://amzn.to/2k9asY1


ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES, LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY! Book!
ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES, LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY!What is Asexuality and what is the Asexual Spectrum 

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

If you have resonated with any of these points and you want to know more, please invest in this book and buy now on Amazon.com http://amzn.to/2kyL22x or Amazon.co.uk  http://amzn.to/2k9asY1

Heteroromantic Author Sandra Bellamy, is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.