7 Steps To Being Successfully Single and Happy Being Single! #ICBSD


International Celebrate Being Single Day - Feb 14th!
International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!

International Celebrate Being Single Day is just around the corner (Feb 14th), and having founded this special day for singles to celebrate being single, you may be asking yourself, just what is so great about being single. For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my www.Twitter.com/quirkycoaching profile and thought, just what is #powerofone. Power Of One is a powerful online training and coaching programme that I am creating, to show you, just how to be single and be happy being single.

Since being predominantly single from November 5th, 2011, I began to challenge my mind about the way it thinks about being in a relationship and being single. I was in relationships with guys who were no good for me since 15 years of age – until 2011 – about 19 years of my life! With the largest period of being single in that time, just 6 months! 2 relationships I had were long term (not good for me) and lasted years. I wasn’t a happy person back then and had low self-esteem. I did not like being on my own because I felt alone and very lonely, I liked to be needed, wanted and loved, and felt I wanted someone there for me 24/7 as life would be boring on my own. I am also a very romantic person.

It is fine to want to be needed, wanted and loved – but what I have discovered is that you need to get these 3 things from yourself first and foremost; to be at one with your own soul – then you will you be happy and fulfilled as a single person and less likely to get into a relationship that is no good for you because you will not ‘need’ to be in a relationship. In fact, you may fill your own life with so much joy and happiness that being in a relationship no longer appeals to you. Either way,  you will have unleashed your power of one and be on your way to being a super successful single sensation.

Step 1. You need to take stock of your life and realise that you have a problem being single and find out why that is.

Step 2. You need to be willing to have an open mind and accept you need to change in this respect.

Step 3. If you have been in relationships for most of your life, you need to give yourself some time to yourself and vow to do all you can to stay single for a set period of time – mine was a year; so I could have time to stop ‘needing’ someone. If on the other hand you have been single all your life and would like to be in a relationship but don’t know how to go about it, then you have some work to do on yourself to ensure you can be single and be happy – as well as work to do on your dating and relationship skills. You can still enjoy dating as a single person and it is good to see what is on offer from a variety of sources, rather than thinking one person is the only choice you have!

Step 4.You need to explore and find things to build your confidence and self-esteem, as well as discover ways to help you to be happy being single. This could include learning from books, articles, training courses, magazines, blogs, videos, audio books and podcasts, or through coaching and/or being mentored.

Step 5. You need to decide what ways you learn best –  visual, auditory (listen), verbal, written, – so you can pick which learning method is best for you and implement it. If you don’t know which suits you best, try each out until you find which works best for you. Being happy to be single is a skill you need to master and maintain and you need to recognise this and accept it.

Step 6. Take massive action. You need to implement what you have learned, if you are not prepared to do this then you will stay stuck being single and unhappy – everyone has a choice regardless of their circumstances. If you have no money there is free to watch YouTube videos, blog posts and online articles to read. There is no excuse for not changing your life!

Step 7. Evaluate and monitor your progress via each learning method. If something doesn’t work, then try something else until you can honestly say you are happy being single.

If you would like the early bird offer for my new online training/coaching course when it comes out – just fill in the form below and you will also receive a free bi-monthly newsletter with information, inspiration, motivation and advice, about how to be happy being single.

How are you celebrating being single on Feb 14th – International Celebrate Being Single Day?

Please add #ICBSD to any posts and media you post online to show how proud you are to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day!!

What struggles do you have being single and what help would you like to overcome them?

Until next time

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra

What Can You Do First?


Angel after being dried from her first bath!
Angel has just had a bath for the first time and is now dry!

Doing anything for the first time can be scary but as I reflect back on this year to date, I have done a lot of firsts and will do more next year.

Angel had her first bath a couple of weeks ago and the bathing went surprisingly well – the hair drying took a lot longer and she decided to repeatedly try to climb under or over my arm at lightening speed. It must have taken twice as long as it should but because she is so gorgeous and so funny, it didn’t really matter because I love her so much. It will be her first Christmas soon, baby’s first Christmas is always good and a memorable one!!

So my firsts for this year:

  • I succeeded in learning how to use Photoshop so now I create all of my own T-Shirt designs and do the artwork for them.
  • I got tiered up to the next quantity of T-Shirt designs so I can sell more at one time on Amazon.com
  • I wrote and published my ‘How To Get Started With Twitter, Get Going and Get Growing A Step By Step Guide” book.
  • My Asexualise My Asexual Life YouTube channel has grown to over 150 subscribers.
  • I interviewed over 40 asexuals for my Asexual Perspectives, Love Life And Sex, ACElebration Of Asexual Diversity book and I am trying hard to get the Kindle version published before Christmas.
  • I completed a Marketing course (still got to action all the modules now though).
  • I learnt how to use IMovie and can now create my own videos.
  • I did an’ Inspire With Video Materclass’, so I can create my own inspirational videos.
  • I completed a “Your Next Bold Move” course at the beginning of this year and it helped me to plan and be more productive for the rest of the year.

What first have you had this year (2016) and what firsts are coming for you next year?

Stay quirky

Sandra

HOW TO MOTIVATE YOUR MORNING AND INSPIRE YOUR LIFE!


HOW TO MOTIVATE YOUR MORNING AND INSPIRE YOUR LIFE! In this video I give you the strategy I use to motivate my morning, inspire my day and change my life.

Stay quirky

Sandra

Celebrating 6 Years Blogging Anniversary With Quirky Books


6 Years Blogging Anniversary With Quirky Books
6 Years Blogging Anniversary With Quirky Books

Wow! 6 years to this day I started Blogging on this blog – Quirky Books. This photo is actually taken from a video I did recently for my other channel.

Sandra Bellamy
Sandra Bellamy

Thank you for all your support; love, kindness, and friendship you have shown me. This blog is one of the very best things I ever started in my life, it helped me changed my life to be much more positive, and helped in my recovery from depression that I had for years prior to 2012, and I cannot thank you enough for all you have done for me. I love you to bits xx

Coming Soon
Coming Soon

I want you to be one of the first to know – that I am changing my QuirkyAcademy.com into an online training centre for Entrepreneurs, Start-ups and Creatives. So if you are interested in any of those areas, and as creative writers I expect you are – then watch out in the next few months for courses to empower and accelerate your learning in all aspects of these areas.

Keep writing, keep being quirky, and keep being you xx

Sandra xx

ACHIEVING THE UNIMAGINED!!


ACHIEVING THE UNIMAGINED!! This weekend I will be at this event. Tony Robbins, the World’s Leading Coach and Business Strategist – changed my life in 2012, and I could not miss this opportunity to see him again. I will also be spreading awareness of Asexuality at the same time as my other businesses, hence the business cards below. I leave on a sleeper train at 1.06am Saturday morning and the event is a two day seminar of back-to-back entrepreneur speakers and I have a leisure day on Monday before returning home.

I love life and I love living which is a far cry from the depressed girl I used to be before I ’embraced my quirky’. I am far from where I would like to be financially but I am really happy that I am now following my dream of having my own ebook store rather than chasing money. Of course I have more up my sleeve than just that – I will be doing online training courses too. I have changed to focus more on digital products with my writing and upcoming training. If you are looking for a certain non-fiction book or a training course on something you need to know how to do – please let me know as I have a lot of knowledge and experience to give to the world.

Asexualise Business Cards
Asexualise Business Cards

Stay quirky and always be true to who you are.

Sandra xx

Generation Cherry Book Review By Sandra Bellamy Quirky Books


Generation Cherry Book Review

Generation Cherry is a cracking book for the 50+ generation. Being an avid reader and Author of self-help, how-to and Personal And professional development books, I can see how much time, effort, knowledge and skill, the writer has put into creating this book.

Essentially, this book is a well-written and crafted system for how to cope with your life after retirement, redundancy, or a change in circumstance, using the 4 autonomies to get your life in balance, keep it that way, and get a second bite of the cherry of life!

What is good about this book is it also covers how to deal with life when you have less money, in a productive and positive way, using Enlightened Thrift. So you have that feel good factor in your life, whatever the circumstances.

The use of quotes and references throughout the book adds to its helpfulness and I particularly enjoyed reading the play on Stephen Covey’s words “Seven Insidious Excuses Forcibly Rejected By Highly Effective people”.

If you are into NLP, A Coach, Entrepreneur, or New Lifer, this book is for you!

I would have given this book 5 Stars because I admire the Author’s work and have respect for him because of it. However, I am not the intended target audience, I am under 40 and did not like the remarks made about young people throughout the first half of the book. I felt they are stereotyped and as not knowing what they want and that they aren’t as successful in business as older people are. The Author managed to redeem himself in the latter half of the book, where he reveals having a young mindset is key to living a long and happy life, and that in his 70s, he adopts a young mindset and is still learning and looking forward to new adventures, while being a second biter of Generation Cherry!

Sandra Bellamy/Quirky Books

Author Of Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work – An A-Z ‘How To’ Guide and How To Get Started With Twitter, Get Going And Get Growing, A Step-By-Step Guide.

Generation Cherry, is out on Amazon on 17th of January – 2017! And available for pre-order now!!

Generation Cherry
Generation Cherry

Inspiration Inspired Trailer – Inspire and Empower Your Life! BE DIFFERENT – BE YOU!


Inspiration Inspired Trailer – Inspire and Empower Your Life! BE DIFFERENT – BE YOU! Inspirational and Motivational videos to empower and enhance your life, leaving you with that feel good factor. Education and Inspiration for the mind, soul and spirit. Self-belief, positive thinking, mindset, attitude. Personal growth, Personal and Professional development at its best. Dare to be Different! Dare to be Quirky, Dare to be original, Dare to be YOU! SUBSCRIBE NOW!

What is the number one mistake writers make?


What is the number one mistake writers make? To quote entrepreneur Brendon Burchard’s phrase, common sense is not always common practice. Watch this short video to discover more! Don’t forget to subscribe!