A Poem For The Talkers – By Author Sandra Bellamy. With Thanks To Gary Vee.


Your job is one of the hardest.

Yet it’s one of the most taken for granted.

To keep a conversation going without uncomfortable silences,

is no easy task.

To have multiple text conversations going at once, making each individual feel they matter, is not easy.

To be able to speak fast to fit both your own life in and other people’s in it, and not waste a moment of your precious time, is a gift most people take for granted.

To be able to answer people when most wouldn’t bother because they are busy and have their own lives, and can’t speak so quickly or multitask their talking, is incredible. Sometimes they just don’t have the words to say, yet words never fail you. So it’s an incredible gift you have.

Yet talkers are often given a hard time.

That’s why I admire people like Gary Vee, who admits he interrupts people because he has so much energy. He often knows what people are going to say before they say it, and many a time I’m the same way as he. It’s not our fault if people talk too slowly, that we know what they are about to say, before they finish their sentence, but they want to finish it anyway.

But Gary Vee gets shit done, when others can’t. He lives as his true authentic self, when others can’t. He tries his best, and lives with zest. He doesn’t waste years of his life pretending to be someone he is not. He pumps out content faster than anyone I have ever seen, and he cuts his long talks up into smaller chunks, to impact the world and change so many thousands of lives at once. If he wasn’t a talker, who loves to talk, if he didn’t like the sound of his own voice, and he wasn’t gifted with the ability to use it every minute of every day, as much as possible, he wouldn’t be able to help people and prevent them from being lead astray. His success in helping others lies not in holding himself back, but in realising his talking is a gift to the world, for those who want to hear it.

So thanks to the talkers, the speakers, the long talk walkers.

Thanks for keeping conversations going.

Thanks for having so many wise words to say, and being ever knowing.

Thanks for all the groups and teams you hold together, through your text, videos, and audio talks.

Thanks for being there talkers, when others with less words fail to comfort those in their hour of need, because their words fail them, can’t you see.

Thanks for all you do, and the impact you create.

Thanks for being a great teacher because you repeat things over and over again, so I can remember them. Even if you do say them in a different way, it helps me to retain those memories, and important information and education. To improve my life and that of others.

Talkers prevent deathly silences

Talkers talk people out of suicide.

Talkers negotiate hostage situations to save lives. They even save their own life in this way too.

Talkers can make great writers because they never run out of words to say, there is no lack. They have yours and their own back.

Talkers are a walking book of wisdom throughout the years, one which you are benefitting from for free, often and usually.

Talkers have an abundance mindset because there is always more that can be said and to share.

Talkers are gifted in the art of talking, with the ability to strike up conversations with strangers, with ease.

Talkers can bring cultures together, and people together, that are oceans apart.

Talkers can flow in conversation with you.

Talkers can make you feel alive, because they get excited about a thing you are talking about, they may relate to it and do a talking interruption interaction, because it sparked off their creative talking ideas, and who knows where it will lead, but it’s an exciting adventure.. if only you would see it that way!

Yet talkers get given a hard time and are not appreciated for their aliveness and ability to think in the moment, and spontaneously interject.

If a talker hears what you say and gets excited in this way, it means they like talking to you, they value you, and they want to interrupt you to find out more, or explore more, dive deeper, than superficial idle chit chat. Go deeper than you may have done before.

Talkers have the ability to keep 3 conversations going at once, with the same person. So if your mind is all over the place, they will be able to go to each place with you, keeping up with that energy that others can’t.

Talking takes a lot of energy, it takes vibrancy and being ‘there’ with you.

Just because a person is a big talker, doesn’t make them a bad listener, this is a stereotype that is very damaging. In order for a talker to be able to talk a lot, they have to have been educated with a lot of words in the first place, which they had to learn and listen to.

Talkers will appreciate and love themselves so much, that they will want to tell their full story, they will want to finish what they are saying, and they will want to give the whole picture, to give context to foster understanding and meaning. They actually speak with purpose, intention, and meaning, not just for the sake of it, but because of a love for it and a zest for the life of words. To leave words unspoken that they feel needed to be said, is like containing them in a mental prison at times. This can lead to withdrawal and mental health difficulties. Some people need to be heard and talk, in order to be healthy.

Extroverts can get energised and buzzing off talking, it fills them up like a tank of petrol fills a car. They need talking, they like hearing what others have to say, and being around others. Sometimes they love active talking interactive interruptions, as well as active listening.

There is a difference between active talking interaction interrupts, because talkers get excited about what others are saying, and/or, it gets their creative mind juices flowing off on tangents, than people who are just interrupting for the sake of it, and trying to change the subject, because they don’t actually like what the other person is saying or they don’t want to hear it or listen to it

Tangents can lead to new revelations and make the conversation more exciting and interesting. So long as people also get to finish what they were saying in the first place, it’s all good.

But if someone is having a bad day, it can be a good thing to interrupt them anyway. To break their pattern, to get them to think of good and more positive things, so it can brighten their day. Talkers help in this way.

Talkers can also help people to talk more, to uncover within themselves, things they never knew before. This can lead to self discoveries, and help them to excel in their life and open up new possibilities.

Some people are uncomfortable with silences and talking is their preferred default.

Some people live on their own and the only person they have to talk to is themselves. If they are a natural talker or extrovert, this isn’t their most healthiest way of being for them. If you have a partner you regularly talk to, or someone you live with who is always there to talk to you, thank yourself lucky, you always have people to talk to whenever you want. Even if you don’t do this all the time, it’s an option.

Don’t expect a talker who doesn’t have much opportunity to actually talk to people, to waste that precious talking time. That’s like handing them a gift of life, and a lifeline, and then expecting them to put it under the Christmas tree to wait for the ‘right’ time to open that gift.

Talkers are often good at selling things; good at persuading people, good at acting, and anything that requires talking:

Texting and walking

Audio calls.

Video calls.

Writing books – the spoken word in words on a page.

Blogging.

Vlogging.

Public speaking.

Business seminars.

Workshops.

Online courses.

If you watch TV, movies, or any kind of videos with speech, you watch and listen to talkers. If you attend business seminars, you watch and listen to talkers. If you listen to podcasts or radios shows, you are listening to talkers. If you go to school, college, or universities, or do online courses, you watch and listen to talkers.

You get entertained by talkers.

You get educated by talkers.

You get informed by talkers.

You learn most of your stuff from talkers, whether that be audio, visual, or the written word.

Talkers have the power to heal, educate, and transform lives.

So think in your life if it weren’t for the talkers, you would have to keep conversations going yourself and reach for more water…or whatever you drink. You would have to make your own throat go rough, and your own voice go gruff. There would be no stories in your life, to teach you to thrive, and how to live wise. There would be no books in the world, education would be poor. There would be no one to negotiate situations and talk people out of death. We would all end up a self-talk in the head mess! Or a robotic cabbage if you prefer… so next time you meet a talker, maybe show some appreciation for a gift you don’t have yourself.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for… just being them.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for savings lives and preventing deaths.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for feeling so comfortable around you because they can talk around you. Instead of living with painful deathly silence.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for being so excited by what you are saying that they interact with you by way of interruption. And you know you didn’t passively bore them. But you can still finish your conversation.

If you want a talker to listen, say, “hey, I really want to talk about something now”. This will put them into active listening mode, if they are not in the middle of an intense story or conversation that they feel needs an ending for you to understand it’s meaning – sometimes context is everything, or misunderstandings can occur, and you don’t want to go there… Why not start your conversation by letting them know you need them to listen. They have gifts, but they can’t always read minds! Talkers like people to speak up and share what’s happening in their life!

A true talker likes the sound of their own voice but they like the sound of other’s too. They crave talking interaction, feedback, active listening, and pro-active resolution talking. Then are waiting to hear what you have to say. They don’t want to just talk to themselves. And they don’t feel heard unless other people are responding by talking too. They like the art of talking in a two way conversation, while having their say and being able to share and make a difference to your life and theirs too.

People pay to teach them how to speak in pubic, if you have this gift already, you are blessed. Talkers are usually change makers, if they talk with authenticity from their heart.

Maybe next time you meet a talker and they live alone and don’t get much chance to actually speak to people in real life, so would naturally have more words left in reserve to say, you can actually be there to support them in a – I’m happy to hear your words, talking way. And realise they may not have as many opportunities as you to talk, or enough opportunities to talk, that is a healthy amount of talking for what they personally need. If you don’t need as much talking, remember we aren’t all made the same and some are born for more.

Don’t expect talkers to get out everything they want to say in 3 sentences, although it doesn’t mean to say they can’t just talk like that if they have to or need to. And don’t expect them to get out everything they need to say in a 59 second audio message on Facebook Messenger, it may require a number of those, if they have something important to say, something that requires context and they have lots to say. Or they are busy doing something else at that moment, and you’ve interrupted their day.

How many times in your life have you paid to hear someone talk?

Think TV.

Think Movie.

Think business seminar.

Think online course or webinar.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for their time, because time is the most precious gift you can give to someone as you can never get it back, and while they are talking to you, they could have been saving more lives, or helping someone else with their words of wise.

If you don’t want to hear what a talker has to say, or you want to cut down their beauty in some way, allow them to be free to be with someone else, and don’t expect them to be there in your hour of need. Stop trying to make them something they are not, to make them play smaller, or not give them a shot. Even though this world is full of introverts and people who love silence, just think of all the talkers in your life, who helped you to become wiser.

Your difference is your beauty, never forget that, and if you are naturally a talker like me, don’t forget as well, Gary Vee, who makes no apology for being true, to himself, to being he. The entrepreneur millionaire who’s grown in popularity through talking more, he has shown us talkers the way forward, and opened up the door.

To all the talkers like me:

I’m sorry for all the hurt and pain people have caused you in your life, for not being able to see your beautiful gift, and to hear your silent cries.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you. Who want to make you like them and cage you like an animal.

I’m sorry that people want to treat you like a child that’s seen and not heard, that speaks when their spoken to, and punishes you with silence.

I’m sorry people want to contain you and stop your flow. They want to stop your river from flowing and put up a dam to contain you, to tell you how to flow, where to go, how to show up. It’s not their place to do that. You can’t live a life to please others, you are in life to have the courage to be you, no matter what. To be your true authentic self.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you, and they don’t understand that you don’t want to waste a moment of your precious life by cutting down your precious words. You don’t want to be contained and not be who you are.

One day they won’t be able to talk to you as much, people will pay thousands of pounds to hear you speak, and hang on your every word, they will appreciate who you are, and you will be more loved for who you are, far more than you have ever known. This is your destiny.

Sandra… you were born to speak on stage, all of these people that don’t have the capacity or comfortability to accept you for who you are, to really appreciate you for who you are, don’t matter. The only thing that matters is they are pushing you towards your destiny. That’s why they have shown up in your life, to be a reminder to you of your past, one you let go of, and you need to let go of again. To live the life of your ultimate purposes and dreams.

I refuse to be someone I am not for the sake of pleasing others and lead a miserable life containing my talking abilities. Playing smaller than I need to.

If you are reading this now and you also have extraordinary talking abilities, know that’s your destiny and gift to the world. Do not change it, because the few people that can’t handle it or who are uncomfortable with it, don’t matter by comparison of all the lives you will continue to save, and change for the better, forever, and that’s the most important thing.

Go be yourself, because you can’t be someone you’re not. Go be the game changer and the change maker, you were born to be, and you wish to see in the world.

I love you for who you are, you are super special. You have greatness within you and never let anyone dull your sparkle. Hugs XxxxxxxX

Free Product In Exchange For Review – Scam Or Legit? Can you really get free products in exchange for an honest review?


Can you really get free products in exchange for an honest review? Or are all ‘free’ product reviews scams, and people just want you to buy their products? How do you get to be a reviewer and get free products?

It sounds too good to be true… it sounds like a scam… get a product for free, just for leaving an honest review, how is this possible? I was dubious, I was cautious. Especially when I spent what seemed like a whole day setting up an account with Intellifluence.com after the guy who runs it reached out to me personally when he saw I was an influencer from my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel, and asked me to sign up, and the only 3 campaigns I initially applied for was with Intellifluence itself, and they still haven’t responded since the 9th of March! It’s so poor! The reason being, as far as I can tell, but they haven’t told me this outright, is the fact they don’t include blogs like this as a real ‘blog’ and having as much influence as you don’t own it, like you would if you had, for example, a WordPress.org blog, or an equivalent on your own website. So you can’t add WordPress.com blogs like this as a ‘blog’ you have to add them as ‘other’ which then doesn’t seem to count on your influencer figures. It’s disgusting to be honest. So many people tell you, you should move your blog over to your own hosted site by exporting it, and leave the WordPress.com platform for the WordPress.org one, but… years ago I didn’t take that advice. I knew, that because of how early I started this blog (over 10 years ago) it was for sure going to be great for SEO because of the longevity of it. You only have to look at how many followers I have collectively, and how many likes some of my posts have gotten in the last several months especially, that it’s a very popular and influential blog. I get daily likes and subs without even thinking about it anymore, with posts I haven’t touched for months! In fact I haven’t done a blog post for some time on here because I have been busy working on my Asexual Guide To Sex book (which is taking me longer to write than I first thought) and right now I am working on a new monthly membership site for Asexuals and fans of my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel, and allies, with exclusive content not seen on my channel, live streams, person development training and coaching about asexuality, dating/relationships, mindset and motivation, coping skills for anxiety, depression, stress, life hacks to live your best life, writing and marketing advice, how to make spare cash, productivity, Q&A, and a monthly online meetup. More details on that to follow if you want to be part of it, for an excellent value for money monthly fee to join my Asexualise Academy Club. I’m super exited about this! Although it’s an asexual channel (for those whose sexual orientation is asexuality and who lack sexual attraction, so many don’t like sex, the club will be open to asexuals, fans of my channel (some of whom aren’t asexual but have partners who are, or who are respectful and find my content useful, helpful, inspiring) and allies – so those who support asexuals. I digress!

So if I didn’t get any response from Intellifluence, how did I get a product to review for free? Oh yes, in case you were wondering where this Quirky Books blog post is going, I did in fact get given a product for free to review! Well, I haven’t received it yet. It arrives on Monday 29th of March 2021 – it’s Friday 26th March 2021, when I’m currently writing this. And I am so, so, excited. In case you haven’t guessed what that product is yet, because you scrolled past the image at the top of this post without thinking, it is in fact, the 2020 Upgraded BFULL A3 Laminator, 6-in-1 – which includes a paper trimmer. I was contacted by Ashley, the Manager of BFULL by email, who said they watch my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and like my videos, here is what they actually said:

I would highly recommend you check out this 6-in-1 Laminator on Amazon here https://amzn.to/3w346fa Because before I have even got it, I am really super excited by how it looks already and how many different functions it has. Touch screen too. It looks so futuristic and I can’t wait to get my hands on it and have a play around. It’s like wow! And especially as the manager is so nice too – that really helps and gives me confidence in the product.

So yes, other than signing up to product review sites and/or influencer sites such as Intellifluence (yes that is a referral link) if you want to get free products to review, then you need to become such an influencer in your industry, that people approach you to review products for them and offer them to you for free, to keep. Even though my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel has nothing to do with office products, (it’s to do with a sexual orientation and I do a lot of videos about asexuality, dating and relationships, as well as self-love and no sex movie reviews), that’s how they found me, because my email address is in the About section, so if you have a YouTube channel, be sure to include your email address in the “details” of the About section, so companies can potentially contact you. See screenshot below! (Check the view count!)

I found out through Intellifluence that the more influence you have, the more companies are likely to give you money to buy their product/s to review. Rather than you having to buy the product/s out of your own money first and potentially lose money if they don’t give you the money back, or they don’t give you the money back in full, or you have to pay PayPal fees or other fees, or you have to pay for shipping. So the fact this company offered me to have the product for free on my own terms, to keep, meant they see me as a high influencer. And with 178,404 views, as shown in the screenshot above, you can see why I’m an influencer and they approached me!

So what were my terms to ensure I was not out of pocket by even a penny, so you can duplicate my success should you have someone approach you to review a product for free, or should you want to approach someone else to review their product for them. Here they are:

  • Full payment to buy the BFULL laminator was to be paid to me via PayPal before I purchased the product.
  • All PayPal fees were to be paid to me in full along with the item cost, so I was not out of pocket by a penny.
  • Shipping must be free with no importation fees.
  • No other costs.

In exchange for this, I have agreed to their request, to leave a review on Amazon with a photo/or video. They have not asked me to leave any type of review or tried to influence that review whatsoever, and this is good, or it would break Amazon seller rules. You have to allow the person to leave an honest review and that’s what they are doing. By the looks of it, the quality of their product will speak for itself anyhow, so I can’t wait to test out the BFULL 6-in-1 laminator, super soon!

As you can see in this screenshot, they paid me the exact amount for their BFULL laminator (£45.99), to the penny, and also after paying the PayPal fees (£2.69), and that’s the money I used to buy their BFULL laminator from Amazon, which I can’t wait to to receive and try out.

So yes, you can really get products for free in exchange for an honest review! Truly, completely free, legit! But it’s even better when you develop such great influence in your niche, that companies approach you and are quite willing to give you free (high quality – by the look of the BFULL Laminator photos) products, on your own terms.

In order to be an influencer and have people reach out to you, start a blog (like this one), gain a good social media following, and in particular if you have a YouTube channel be sure you include your contact details in the About section so companies know how to find you. Always be your bold, brave, true, authentic self, and say what you really think and feel, don’t be a mouse, be a lion! If you are true, authentic, honest and real, and love to share your opinion, how do you think companies are going to view you? As someone who they can trust to give you their money upfront and get an honest review! Which is exactly what they want and are looking for! So be what they want, be what they are looking for, and you will stand out from the crowd as someone who they can trust to do a great job, and if they have other products, they are more likely to reach out to you again!

I hope you find this blog article useful, if you have please share it with a friend or someone you know who may benefit from reading it. Sharing is caring, after all. And if you have any questions, be sure to ask them in the comments below!

As always, until next time, write soon, and in case you didn’t already know, my publishing imprint is Quirky Books, and writing is my hugest passion of my life.

Write soon, stay quirky, always

Sanda xx

Think It’s Impossible For An Indie Author To Get Into Waterstones? Asexual Perspectives book is available to buy in Waterstones – A Quirky Books Dream Come True


Get Asexual Perspectives here https://www.waterstones.com/book/asexual-perspectives-47-asexual-stories/sandra-bellamy/9780995599338

In 2010, when I started this www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog, I knew one day I wanted Quirky Books to be my own publishing company, and in 2017, I achieved that dream, when I became a registered publisher is the UK under the name of Quirky Books.

In that same year, 2017, I published my first ever paperback book on Amazon; Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity. And now I have this book available to buy from major books stores, including Waterstones, here https://www.waterstones.com/book/asexual-perspectives-47-asexual-stories/sandra-bellamy/9780995599338

If you are a writer who struggles to get into major bookstores with your Indie book, then you know what a huge achievement this it. If you do a Google you will see extensive research for how to ‘try’ to get your books into major bookstores. For me, I did a ton of research of what to do to reach the maximum amount of readers and bookstores, before I even read those blog posts, and before I registered as a publisher in my own right. I wanted to set myself up for success from the start. That’s why a 35 year old publishing house said I ‘successfully’ published this book, and they owned up to being unlikely to meet my sales expectations, when they wanted to have the book for their own company, remove half of the stories in it, give them all my reviews, and said I would have to ask for their permission to quote from my own book! No thank you! That’s what I said. They told me my Asexual guide To Sex – the book I am currently working hard to finish, would sell, but they weren’t prepared to take it on because it’s too risky for them, as it’s uncensored, and basically it doesn’t just paint a pretty picture of sex. But tells the good, bad, and fugly (fuck ugly) truth about sex, that everyone wants to know but is afraid to ask. They want me to propose my next 2 asexual books to them, written in their style! Well I was considering it as my dream years ago, was to be a published Author by a major publishing house, but at 10%-12% net sales, when I can make more myself and have the freedom of not censoring my books and of growing my own publishing company and brand name, it seems like an unwise choice to now do that.

My vision for Quirky Books is to continue to write high quality, predominantly non-fiction books, that change people’s lives. And to be raw, real, fresh, uncensored – Quirky – different! If I have the opportunity to write other books – such as kids books – I have already written one of these and finished it years ago, and it’s something I was to do, then I will. I haven’t published it yet as I need to pay for an illustrator and I am not well known in the kid’s market. But I will likely test the popularity of this book out as an audio book later this year. As it’s a book that rhymes, for 3-5 years old, it will sound great as an audio book, and I already have a single image for the front cover from years ago. Whoop! Whoop!

I now have people coming to me asking me how I got my book into major book stores. And contemplating shall I tell them all my secrets or not! Maybe some, all! Or maybe I will write a book about it! After all, the proof is in the pudding! If this is something you would be interesting to learn more about and you want a step-by-step guide on how to do this – let me know in the comments below and if there is enough demand for it, I might write a book about how you can do this too.

I’m so proud this book is now available to buy from Waterstones. Especially as it’s very difficult for Indie Authors to get in this store. If you read their section about Indie Authors, you will know they only take on a small percentage of Indie Author’s published work. It’s a great achievement for me personally, as a Writer, Author and Publisher, and for asexuality, as it’s a minority sexual orientation that is still barely unheard of, and deeply misunderstood.

Buy a copy of this book now to discover the high quality your book has to be in order for it to be accepted at major bookstores, and be ready for an extremely fascinating insight into the world of sex as you haven’t see it before https://www.waterstones.com/book/asexual-perspectives-47-asexual-stories/sandra-bellamy/9780995599338

You can of course by this book on Amazon too here:

👉 ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES BOOK:

KINDLE http://amzn.to/2l8kppt PAPERBACK: http://amzn.to/2td7y8D

(If you live UK go here) http://amzn.to/2tMXhls 💜

As always, stay Quirky, write soon, and if nothing else, I hope this post has inspired you to achieve your dreams, even if it does take 7-10 years later to do it, never, ever, give up on our dreams.

5 Ways To Succeed in 2021


5 Ways To Succeed In 2021

I just learnt that 2021 is the year of reset. Here are 5 Ways to succeed in 2021: 

1) Let go of old energies by decluttering and removing things from your life that no longer help you, or feel good. Could be a job, a person, old items of clothing, and anything you no longer use.
2) Focus on creating change for yourself.
3) Be solution focused. To every problem, ask what is the solution. Rather than focusing on the problem.
4) Follow your heart’s desire and pursue what you’ve always wanted to do.
5) Keep your mind as clear as possible in this chaos. With clarity comes power to move forward in your life.

These are the things I just learnt from an expert in personal and professional development, who is also a spiritual master that I have been following for some time. He knows his stuff, so I thought I would pass this information onto you, in the hope it will help you too.

I am going to be working on these 5 things from now onwards. Start 2021 with intention to do these 5 things, and your life will be better, I truly believe that. Although I have heard of these things before at different times in my life, it’s good to be reminded of them, and now I have an action plan to move forward with my life and career for this year, 2021.

How many of these 5 ways to succeed in 2021, will you be putting into place, so you can have a happy 2021? I would love to read your plans in the comments below.

In the meantime, don’t forget to say positive things to yourself and about yourself, and write soon.

Sandra xx

How To Make Money With Twitter | 4 Keys To Crushing Make Money Make Cash Using Twitter | A Case Study


Do you struggle to know how to make money using social media? Do you want to know the secrets to making money using Twitter for FREE?

If so, then you need to watch this video, now!

If you have no ad budget and no money to spend on any sort of advertising, or you want to know how to make money with zero ad spend, then you need to watch this video. This woman is crushing it so much on Twitter, that she’s running out of stock!

In this video you will discover the 4 key ingredients you need to succeed at make money make cash on Twitter. With zero ad spend and from the comfort of your own home.

Subscribe here https://youtu.be/NN3vu2RY8s now, so you don’t miss out on more valuable videos, about how to make money make cash, for FREE!

Remember, true entrepreneurship is about the person you become in the process!

As always, write soon.

Sandra xx

10 Year Blogging Anniversary Quirky Books


Wow! 10 years today I started this Quirky Books blog. I just took this screenshot on my phone to celebrate.

It took me over 6.5 years for Quirky Books to be registered as my own Publishing Imprint, which was and still is, a dream come true. My first book I published in print under Quirky Books, was my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book, in June 2017. I am currently working hard to get my second book for asexuals finished. This one is called Asexual Guide To Sex.

Thank you for joining me on the journey into print. One heck of a ride of a writing ride it’s been so far, and many more writing thrills are to come. I love writing books that change lives. It’s my life purpose, a part of my soul, and who I am. Writing makes my soul at peace, when nothing else can touch it in that way. It’s quite profound.

This beautiful Angel I got to see for the first time this week, (Wed, the day before the 2nd UK Lockdown), in 7.5 months. My daughter furry kid guinea pig Angel guine pig, lives with my parents as she is diabetic and I can’t inject her, as I have a genuine fear of needles and blood, and I had a panic attack in the vets, trying to inject her, when she was first diagnosed.

I cannot tell you how happy I was to see my baby girl after all this time. My heart had been pounding for her and missing her so much. I felt a lot of pain. But my mum is high risk category in at least 3 ways, and has a low immune system, so she has had to self isolate for months and I can’t go over to my parents home to see her. So I got her a new day trip cage that she loves, and she came to visit me for 8 hours. The time just flew by.

Angel in her new day trip cage.

Angel loved to see me as much as I adored seeing her, and we had so much fun together. She is being taken by me and my dad next week, for a checkup at the vets. Dad will collect me. She hasn’t had her blood levels tested for a while and needs a few things checking, but otherwise she is a happy and healthy, beautiful girl.

I haven’t blogged here much lately, because I have been so busy with a new Store Sales Manager job I started on October 2nd. So after almost 3 years of working from home, I now have a day job again. It’s taken some time to get used to, but at least I am fortunate enough to have a day job, when thousands of people are redundant in the UK. I am currently furloughed from that job, for the 4 weeks of this UK lockdown.

So I am overjoyed at being a 10 year old blogger, it feels amazing. I want to thank you all for being here, watching my journey and supporting me. I love you all dearly. XxxxxxxX

As always, stay quirky and write soon. Much love Sandra xx

Asexuality Know Better _ Asexual Perspectives Asexual Author Interview


There is nothing more exciting and rewarding for a writer/published Author, than changing people’s lives through your own written words. But being interviewed about your non-fiction author journey and book, is just the icing on the cake.

I am so proud to be featured in Loud and Out magazine, about my Asexual Perspectives book, and Author/asexual journey. Check out the article here https://loudandout.com/asexuality/?fbclid=IwAR0cvSXnB5wfFMV_n4yTUdImJBYxizPC7hLvegR3wkMew5QYLNb_-jKPXu4

Stay quirky and write soon xx

Sandra xx