I have to admit this is embarrassing to write, because I am sharing something so personal with you, which I never thought I would ever talk about publicly. But if it helps just one person, like you, it’s worth sharing!
When you are sick, it sucks. There is no doubt about that. Extra pain on top of pain, can hurt like hell!
(If you didn’t know I have been having a lot of pelvic pain due to an infection, I had to have antibiotics for this, which ended yesterday. I also went to the Doctor’s yesterday and have two creams, 1 for inflammation and another for ringworm on my arm!!!)
But… when you are right about something and something is working, you shouldn’t try to fix something that isn’t broken.
However, sometimes you want to test the waters, and you break things, in order to improve other things, in theory!
But… sometimes the reality is, you were succeeding and doing so well. You changed something and then you see a decline in your health in more ways than 1.
I recently removed 2 food items, one that I eat almost daily and one that I eat at least 3 times a week, but haven’t done so for the last week. Result is poor skin, poor bowel movements… to add to my infection problem. I instantly added 1 back when I thought about what I changed, result, literally back to normal bowel movement, instead of straining on the toilet for 20 minutes, feeling like you are about to give birth! Only what pops out, or doesn’t and you have to help it, is pretty yucky to the eye!
The other 1 key ingredient to not just get healthier skin, but to decrease inflammation in multiple areas of your body, and providing less pain and more body flexibility, I go back to eating this tonight… If you have read my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, you will know what this key ingredients is. Here is the link. If you haven’t got your copy yet, get it now, before it’s too late and you end up in pain like I was last night https://amzn.to/2DuR9nn
And yes, I recommend to eat this every day, or at least every other day, 4th day without this, and your health is a goner! This hasn’t happened before as far as I can remember, unless I am on holiday and can’t get this ingredient! I have never actively chosen to not eat this, since 2014. It wasn’t that I intended to not ever eat it again, I just wanted to have a change! Sometimes change can be a good thing, in this case, not… it’s what can happen if you don’t take this…
I admit I give great advice in my books, which sometimes even I don’t always take every bit of, for myself, consistently. My friends who buy my books end up quoting my own wise words back to me. I need to re-read them to give myself a refresher! Which I do! I am not perfect and I cock-up every now and then. This has been a major cock-up for my health, but I have learned so much from this experience… and a good lesson to learn. Remove one variable at a time and you get shit, or not – as was the case with the first food, before I added it back.
I never planned to do a health experiment. But what I have learned once again, is to always, always, trust your own judgement, and when something is right, even though it may not be doing what the majority do, keep it! And if others want to be helped too by it, then that’s great! At least you know that you are 100% right, and it works crazily well and can help others if they want it to.
By now I guess you are wondering what luscious food I eat to maintain regular bowel movement and stop yourself from blocking up. So the big reveal… Hazelnut+Cacao Paleo Bars, which you can get here https://amzn.to/3erQksx They are made of fruits and nuts only, cold pressed, no crap, just good food to feed your body! And better than eating chocolate. Also suitable for vegetarians and gluten free.
If you want to know the other food ingredient, to not just get healthier skin, but to decrease inflammation in multiple areas of your body, and provide less pain and more body flexibility, get a copy of my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook. Why get the book? Because it also has a whole holistic plan, for managing Fibromyalgia, so if you have a chronic pain condition although you need this essential food, you also need it as part of a holistic health regime I go through in each chapter of the book, to have less pain, more energy, feel happier, and not just eat this and do nothing else. If you haven’t got your copy yet, get it now, before it’s too late and you end up in pain with no remedy to get your life back on track. Here is the link https://amzn.to/2DuR9nn
Even if you don’t have Fibro, it can still help to reduce your pain and give you more energy, so you feel happier, https://amzn.to/2DuR9nn
Until next time, stay quirky and write soon.
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With the current pandemic situation, it’s easy to feel like you just want to go to sleep, throw the bed covers over your head and tell the world to “wake me up when it’s over!” But when you realise it’s not going away any time soon, how do you stay positive in dark and difficult times?
Here are 7 ways how to stay positive in dark and difficult times.
- Realise tomorrow is done, it’s already gone and in the past, you can’t change it, but you can have control over how you live your life daily, and you can start over each new day.
- Worrying won’t help. It won’t solve the problem, but may make it worse. Take control of your life and own your day. So it doesn’t own you. As my Grandma used to say, “You die if you worry, you die you don’t, so why worry?” She had, and still has, a point. Her wise words live on in my soul, even if she is no longer on planet Earth.
- Practice gratitude. Write down 5 things you are grateful each day, and/or, say them out loud, when you wake up each morning. It’s hard to feel down when you have so much to be grateful and thankful for.
- You have already been through shit in your life, and you know it. So, you can get through this.
- This time shall pass and won’t last forever, always remember that.
- Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t do. Do things that you are passionate about, they make you feel great and awesome. This will keep your spirits high.
- Change your state through, music, movement – dancing around your home, comedy. Find things in each and every single day to make you smile. It’s hard to feel sad if you are smiling.
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Stay quirky and write soon
When you love with all your heart,
When you dream with all your soul,
When you find happiness in the smallest of things,
When you decide to let go,
And trust, that things will be okay,
That we will see sunshine,
And happier days.
That this time may be dark,
But it’s never dull,
So we must reach inside,
And refuse to sulk.
We must begin with the end in mind,
To live in the glory and the shine,
For when we look at everything we have achieved,
Normality might have once seemed normal and a breeze,
But we all know normal is a fallacy.
So maybe this is our new normal.
And maybe it’s not,
Life is what you make it,
But this truth you forgot.
So don’t buried your head,
For you are alive,
Wake up in awe,
That you are alive,
Sit back and enjoy,
The small dreams that come to life,
The here and the now,
For time is precious and waits for no one,
In the blink of an eye,
It can be gone,
So take joy to heart,
Let misery go,
For what you reap,
You shall sow.
Reach deep in your heart,
Let love light the way,
Because my dear friend,
If you are reading this,
You have been blessed with another day.
The day is long,
The night is too,
But please keep singing,
The happy song, of YOU!
For darkness may come,
But light will always prevail,
Where there is happiness and joy,
It never fails.
So use what ever tools you can,
Make a wish and seal the plan,
To get your life, heart and joy, back on track,
Believe in yourself,
And make a pact.
For the art of self love,
Of self belief,
Doesn’t come easy,
It’s not like some freebie.
It takes work,
To live for you,
To live with joy,
To find your truth,
And not be coy,
It all takes an incredible amount of time,
But what if right here and now, you decide,
To leave the biggest crime,
The crime that tells you to quit, on yourself,
It doesn’t care about your, or your self health.
The person inside who jeopardises you,
Is this biggest enemy of all to you,
So refuse to quit,
Refuse to settle,
Say thank you for sharing,
But I can do better,
I can fight for joy,
For speaking my own truth,
I can fight for self love,
Self worth, and growth.
I can fight for the kid in me,
The parent, the mother, the daddy,
The zing, zing.
I can nourish my soul,
And bring it to life,
I can be my own kid,
My own husband and wife,
Or I can choose to live a life of quirky,
I can choose to be different and throw away the key,
For at the end of the day,
There is no other,
That this beautiful, unique being, I see in the mirror, daily.
I want to tell you to rise,
To lay you soul bare,
To strip back the garbage,
To become self-aware,
I want to tell you to reach inside,
To find the courage not to hide,
Because in the end,
The only price you pay,
Is your heart, soul, and mind, each day.
Self love is amazing,
Self love is kind,
It’s the key to leaving depression behind.
It’s the key to rising more and more,
For taking your dreams and making them soar,
For being your own light amoung the grey,
For living your life, the crazy way,
For being the light in the night,
For being the calm, in your own internal fight,
It’s the thing you need most now in this world,
Now is a time of reflection,
To become that light,
To listen to your inner intuition and let it take flight.
So here’s to the kid in you,
Here’s to the unique blend, that’s called YOU!
Here’s to your goals, ambitions and dreams,
Here’s to your own stars and moonbeams,
Here’s to the things the naysayers said can’t be done,
Here’s to shining your light, your journey has just begun!
I hope you enjoyed this poem, if you did, please comment and give it a like and be sure to come back for more.
As always, stay quirky you and write soon.
Happy to say that I have an extra Asexual Sex Story for my Asexual Guide To Sex book and all next month my main focus is finishing writing this book. Which will be my second for asexuals.
Writing will always, always, always be the love of my life. I want to write a letter here to my love of my life.
Dear writing I’ve missed you.
I’ve missed you so much, I want to kiss you.
Without you in my life, I feel like I am dying,
And right now I am crying.
I am trying to do the ‘right thing’,
I am trying to do what should bring,
Well you know, the big M thing,
But dear writing you are the only thing,
That makes me come alive,
You are the one thing,
That never tires,
And the one thing I never, ever despise.
Writing is like setting your soul free,
It’s the ONLY way in my opinion,
You can ever leave a true, lasting legacy,
It’s the only way you can truly change the world,
You can light up another’s life,
And make them see,
That all the truth and power,
Lies within thee.
Dear writing I have missed you,
I truly want to kiss you,
You are my heart and soul,
And without you I am dying inside,
If truth be told.
So what happens when we are not doing what we are suppose to be,
Is our body reacts, involuntary,
It shakes us up and makes us see,
We aren’t fulfilling our true destiny,
God, the universe, the powers that be,
Show you the dangers of not living your destiny,
They give you pain, they induce the worst,
To say what the heck do you think you are doing, Why are you not giving your body what it wants and needs,
And denying it’s thirst.
See you may think writing is just that,
But when you truly listen to your soul,
You know it’s far more than that,
When you deny yourself to use the gift you were born with,
Or you denying it, in favour of another it,
It’s like losing a best friend over and over again,
It’s like agony and then some again.
Your body will go crazy,
Your spirit will feel more lazy,
You heart will pine for something you are denying it,
And all for what?
To conform and fit in?
Maybe this was never your intention,
But maybe subconsciously, that’s what you forgot to mention,
Maybe you need to stop denying your body, heart and mind the truth,
And that is, your writing is living proof,
Of exactly why you were put on this earth,
So please go back to it, and live your full worth.
Go back to the joy that you once new,
And connect with that disconnect,
Your soul and body will thank you.
See you never really left it and me and you know this,
But when you think about it, you body is in a mess,
But it’s nothing you can’t fix.
Because within your body, soul, and mind,
You need to have the courage to know this is my time,
Other things can wait,
But this can’t.
Because you need help,
Others need your help,
And the only way to fix this,
Isn’t by doing what others do,
It’s to look after precious you.
It’s about standing up for what you truly believe in,
For taking a stand and not trying to fit in,
It’s about working hard at what you truly love to do,
It’s about reaching for the stars, the light and the moon,
It’s about getting your best friend back and healing you,
It’s about reaching out to your writing and taking it by the hand and singing Grease Lightening,
It’s about remembering the heart and soul of you,
And that writing is you and at the heart of what you do.
It’s about living your life, fulfilling your own purpose and destiny,
It’s about taking charge of your life and living your truth with passion and vigour,
It’s about being you, Sandra Bellamy the writer,
And loving what you do.
It’s about knowing no other occupation will do,
Because writing is your life, it’s your heart, its about you.
When I say it’s about you, you know it’s designed to help others too.
You went through shit,
And you got through it,
You needed that to happen,
To write about it.
You needed to have lived life,
The rough with the smooth,
Now go ahead again,
And prove them wrong.
Be who you are truly born to be,
Don’t hold back,
Don’t come from a place of want and need,
Don’t come from a place of lack.
For when I think about writing,
There is a joy within my heart,
Like nothing I ever feel again,
Nothing ever comes close to this piece of me,
That’s why I have to fulfil my writing destiny.
I want to thank you God and the powers that be,
For manifesting chaos and pain within me,
Because I know you want me to see the truth,
No one and nothing can heal me, but my own self.
So I am going back to writing more,
And opening up my writing door,
And if I have to leave other plans behind I will,
But I think that maybe, just maybe, it’s been about writing all along,
Because I don’t do a business in which I can’t sell books,
I don’t just do a business and this I overlook,
It’s always in the back of my mind,
How can I help more people, using my writing shine!
But right now more than ever, I need to help me,
Because by helping myself, I will always help others you see,
They will always go hand-in-hand for me,
And that’s why I need to fulfil my writing destiny.
I noticed I just used the word need,
But when I use that word in the context of writing,
It’s a need within my soul,
It’s a thirst within my heart,
And I have been denying it more of late,
To focus on other things and make this wait.
No more will writing wait for me, it’s fighting back in my mind,
And telling me to fulfil my destiny,
It’s longing and it’s missing me,
When all is lost and gone,
Writing will still be with me.
So close the doors and shut your eyes,
Getting back to what you love and come fully back alive.
Go back to living and being beautiful you. Loving truly what you love to do.
Get your writing best friend back,
No longer have this lack,
Go grab it now and end it’s sorrow,
Dance with it in the moonlight,
And no longer will you need to borrow,
Short term happiness,
But you will get that writing friend back and put an end to this madness.
For one perfect month, I want you to focus at least,
On your writing joy,
And having a writing feast,
On getting back to the true love of your life,
Who has always been by your side.
Instead of leaving your writing best friend,
To fend for itself,
And be behind you,
Waiting from afar,
I want you to join hands once again, and live in writing bliss and harmony,
Focusing on your destiny.
Because when all is said and done,
And you look back at your life, and you are almost gone,
You will go with a happiness inside of you,
That you lived your true authentic life,
You did what YOU do,
And your legacy will live on.
It’s great to be back with you. Missed blogging and writing so much xx
Stay quirky and write soon
Today is my birthday and I am having a solo birthday party. To celebrate, I wanted to share with you this recommendation of my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook from someone who is my bestest asexual friend and has been virtually looking after me super well from afar. They recently bought me some very expensive health products and I am very thankful and grateful to them for doing so. This person has one of the most beautiful souls and hearts I have ever met in my life, it’s just a bonus that they love my books too, and get so impacted in a good way by them. They often say to me about their Sandra Bellamy Bookshelf on Kindle, on their computer, is waiting for the next book, and they always like to buy each of my books in both electronic Kindle format and physical form too. I was so happy to see they wrote, “I highly recommend this book”. Here is the UK link https://amzn.to/3b03ThB and elsewhere https://amzn.to/3eLBrT5 so you can buy your copy now!
I have a full day planned for my birthday today. Including watching 3 new movies I bought myself on disc, two of which I have never seen before, so it’s going to be like going to the cinema to see two new films. I have Birthday Girl Balloons and more Balloons, currently all over my bed; Happy Birthday Confetti, in every room – including the toilet, 3 presents to open from my best female friend later on this morning. I am taking myself with a tuna salad lunch, live streaming my present opening on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel and hopefully Facebook at the same time. I also have a Birthday Banner which I haven’t done much with yet, and popcorn to go with the films. My dad is dropping my presents off at 2pm – mum is self isolating until at least June 16th, (maybe until Christmas now) as she is high risk category and had a letter from her Doctor to tell her to do so. I will be talking to another best asexual friend on the phone and Sam I will Skype with later, no doubt through until the early hours of Saturday. Our last Skype session was over 15 hours!
I recently completed two online courses, that took me just over a month to do. One was about how to make money online, and the other was primary about one of the systems I will be using to do that, for my new online businesses. I am planning to launch a total of 3 new businesses this year and currently learning so much, which is one of the reasons I haven’t been around often. I have also been creating digital products to sell too. I still have to finish writing my Asexual Guide To Sex book and get that published this year, which is my top priority for next month, now I have finished my two online courses. So yeah, no rest for the good!!! But I am excited for the year ahead and to see what actually happens. Which businesses work best, which I enjoy the most. But, after all these 10 years of blogging – later this year it will be my 10 year blogging anniversary. Writing is still, and always will be, my number one passion in life, because I get messages from people who’s life has been changed or saved by one or more of my books, and that is priceless and my lasting legacy. I sell books each month, but I can’t currently live off that money, as it’s not enough, but one day I believe that will be very different, and I will also be doing other things too.
As always, keep being quirky and write soon
I wish more people to know how beautiful they are…
I wish more people would see the beauty in the smallest of things…
I wish for everyone on planet earth to think of at least one thing they are grateful and thankful for right now…
I wish more people felt loved…
I wish for you more strength than you have ever experienced in your life, more courage than you have ever known, and more self protection for your mind, body, soul.
I wish you happiness always.