Without Darkness There Would Be No Light! How to go from the darkness and into the light!


I used to think why is there so much hatred, darkness, and pain in life, and that there is no way I would wish anyone to be brought into this world, as it was horrible. I don’t think that way anymore as I am no longer depressed. What you focus on expands and I was focused back then on negativity, on the fact I didn’t like myself or my life. I watched TV and the news, which is full of rape, death, murder, violence and betrayal. News focuses on the bad and negative stuff, in order to grip you emotionally and scare you into coming back for more! To make you think, if you don’t watch it, something bad will happen to you, as you don’t know what is going on in the world. But the reality is, you create your own reality, and by focusing on that bad news each day, it makes you more fearful and scared of the world at large, and therefore you have to keep watching it, like a drug, in order to avoid the pain, when in reality, it is injecting pain into you, into your mind, into your body, until you become a fearful, sick, and nervous wreck. This is often subconscious, rather than conscious.

So what can you do?

  • You need to free yourself from the negativity and embrace the positive.
  • Stop watching TV and in particularly the news. Don’t read newspapers daily.
  • If you do watch TV, keep it to comedy, and things that make you feel love, laughter, and joy. Go into the light and cut out the dark on TV. Both the light and dark are there, but you have a choice! Don’t make excuses, make positive choices and positive changes in your life.
  • Be far more disciplined to get good thoughts, words, actions, and images, into your life, and put them into action constantly. Pay attention to the music you listen to, as well and the films you watch, and what you read. Ask yourself, if it is positive or negative. Then get rid of the negative.
  • Listen to positive affirmations daily to help get your mind into a positive state.
  • Know happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy! It’s your life.
  • Practise gratitude daily. Be grateful and thankful for what you have right now in your life, and every single day.
  • You are responsible for yourself, and your life, no one else.
  • Have courage to face your fears head on.
  • Trust your intuition.
  • Learn, develop, and grow yourself, and never stop learning.
  • Realise all the special qualities, skills, and abilities you have, and keep implementing them and recognising them.
  • Find your life purpose and live it.
  • Help others and it will help you to live a purposeful life
  • Realise that all the dark moments in your life, needed to happen, in order for you to learn, develop, and grow yourself, into the person you are today.
  • Be thankful for everything that happens in your life, good or bad, and know that everything happens for a reason, good or bad.
  • Know that when experiencing bad times, it means good times are just around the corner. The more bad and unhappy, the more fortunate and happy times are ahead. Because where there is darkness, there is always light around the corner

I now understand that without darkness there would be no light! But by focusing on the light, it helps to keep the darkness away, and to draw happiness, love, and light, to me always. Like a boomerang, light will ways come back to me, and I will never reside and stay in a pit of darkness and despair, ever again. I will always go back into light. I freed myself of depression in 2012, and even if things are not going the way I want them to, I know that time will pass and I will be happy and joyful again.

Right now, in this moment. My life is awesome. I won’t lie. I am nervous about the future, but also optimistic about it! I love my life and I am very thankful for living in my beautiful flat, for having a roof over my head and food in my belly. For having wonderful friends in my life and people who love me implicitly. A new guy has come into my life who I am very thankful and grateful for. He’s a cutie! And it’s my 3rd 21st mindset birthday next week! On 24th of April! Rock on!

Happy Good Friday and Happy Easter Weekend! What helps you go towards the light and keep out the darkness? Please write in the comments below, as I love to read you.

As always, keep being quirky you and write soon.

Sandra xx


What is a success jar and why do you need one? #lifehack #liveyourbestlife

You’ve mostly likely heard that to stay motivated and productive, it’s super important to write your successes down in a diary or journal. If you have never heard of this before it’s a great technique for building momentum, positivity, and productivity. An alternative to this is a Success Jar, this is a jar which you fill with your successes instead of putting then into a diary – or you can do both if you so wish.

Not everyone has the time to sit down and write in a diary or journal, and not everyone wants to. But writing on a notelet or tearing off a piece of paper, and writing your successes on it, then sticking it in your Success Jar, is a powerful way of acknowledging your successes and make you feel great – without formally sitting down to write, and without stressing yourself out over taking time out of your day when it is so mega busy.

In this video – which I recorded as a Live Stream so the sound is not perfect in it, I explain in detail what a Success Jar is, and show you two of mine from last year.

I hope this helps you? I would love to know your thoughts about it? Please comment below!

Are you use anything similar, and if so, how is that working out for you? Please let me know in the comments section below, as I love to read you!

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Are You Afraid Of Writing? How Can Writing Bring You Closer To Yourself?

Are you scared of writing? Can the simple act of writing makes us look deeper and that scares us? Or are we afraid of something else?

I love this interesting TedX Talk, I have never been scared of writing, I have always loved writing and need to do more of it! But this is an extremely thought-provoking TedX Talk, I can definitely relate to the monkey mind! What about you?

Watch this TedX Talk with Nicoletta Demetriou to find out how writing can bring you closer to yourself!

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Bookstore Quote For Book Lovers – How does it make you feel?

I hope you like this bookstore quote for book lovers, by Reese Witherspoon? Would you agree or disagree?

How do you feel when you walk into a book store? Or do you prefer to buy all of your books online? I would love to read you, so please leave your comments below!

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

An Empty Room Is A Story Waiting To Happen – What Will You Write? #writingprompts

Empty room story quote

An empty room is a story waiting to happen and you ARE the Author of that story!

If you were to walk into that empty room right now, how would your story begin?

Write in the comments below and let’s get those creatives juices flowing and those writing prompts aplenty!

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Novelist Ryan Gattis Reveals How A Gang Lord Change His Writing Career!

In this TedX Talk Ryan Gattis speaks about how a Gang Lord changed his writing career!

From the TedX description on the channel:

“When a gang lord told novelist Ryan Gattis to cut to the chase, he did. Surprising to the Chapman University professor was that the command was also a gift that released his creativity and helped guide him to the completion of his acclaimed novel about the Los Angeles riots of 1992, All Involved: A Novel of the 1992 L.A. Riots.”

Hope this helps you?

Until next time, write soon

Sandra xx


When Doing What the “Experts” Tell You To Do, Makes You Sick, Do This!

For the last 4 months of last year I was going through very difficult times with what seemed like constantly being sick, I felt worn out, burnt out, overwhelmed, and like my mind needed a rest! This year I am super pumped! More productive than ever before, with tons of goals I am working through one-by-one. This is the year I will, and am, achieve many dreams, because I am doing things my way, not how society and every other ‘expert’ keeps telling me I should do them. For example, when they say to get up at 4am and do work, I am working through the night and going to bed at that time or later! When they say to put everything on a planner in advance and mark everything on your calendar so it’s full, instead I am putting stuff on my calendar such as appointments, interviews, time with my family and friends, and things I have scheduled in advance, but the rest I am setting goals every day in my diary and ticking them off as I go along and this has catapulted my productivity levels to a whole new level entirely. I feel really motivated when I see myself getting my tasks for that day done. Last year, when I put everything on my calendar before, and planned way in advance, I was getting left behind with my own schedule, and two weeks later I felt deflated, unproductive, down about myself and my life, and last year I had no clear direction with goals, I just kept doing the same thing. This year I have clearly defined goals and am hell-bent on achieving all of them to the best of my ability as soon as I can. I am excited about what is coming up and the amount of new opportunities and challenges coming my way, so if you are going through hell or shit right now, just remember, this …

And don’t listen to the experts, do this instead!

Until next time, keep embracing your quirky, keep being you, and write soon.

Lots of love

Sandra xx

How To Free Yourself From Overwhelm And Get Your Life Back On track!

Well the first month of the new year is over, you have set those new year’s resolutions, written a ton of goals, and looked at EVERYTHING you need to do over the next 90 days and for the rest of the year! But are you feeling super pumped with a spring in your step? Or are you feeling like a deflated whoopee cushion, and started to burn yourself out? Last year, in September, I was feeling overwhelm and burnt out! It was a time when my brain just wanted to shut down and this quirky method helped me to get back on track and feel better! (This video was recorded live – hence why the camera is moving), watch it now to discover how to free yourself from overwhelm and get your life back on track!

When I finally started to feel better, I then had the task of catching up with all the stuff I couldn’t do while not feeling good! But… I had to do things differently, or I knew I would end up burnt out again – and once I discovered this “focus on one” method, it helped me move forward with my life and get back on track like a choo choo train! If you want to get back on your train track, do this! Watch this video, that was recorded in October 2018, now!

I hope you have found these videos, useful, helpful, and insightful in some way? If you have, please like them and share them with a friend, and don’t forget to subscribe to my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel to get more #lifehacks, to live your best life, be your best self, and live your purpose!

If you have any tips of your own for how to combat overwhelm and get your life back on track, however quirky and far out they may be, please share in the comments below and they may get featured on a future episode!

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx