What is self-dating and why should you make self-dating a must do!!! #lifehacks #liveyourbestlife


In this video I explain why it’s essential to self-date and the benefits of self-dating. If you could do with more self-love in your life, please watch this video and subscribe for more life hacks videos on how to live your best life, be your best self, and live your purpose, at www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV Don’t forget to hit that bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video. As always with any live stream, the sound may not be the best, but I hope the content will be so valuable to you, that you will enjoy learning more about self-dating and take a lot of self love from it.

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Lots of love

Sandra xx

 

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What is the number one most powerful word to increase productivity? Productivity Hack!


In the face-paced world we live in, it can be all too easy to get caught up in social media scrolling and other people’s conversations and lives, so much so, that we can end up becoming a slave to other people’s agendas, which is never a good thing.

In the video above, which is from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel, I explain to you in a recorded live stream, what the number one most powerful word is to increase your productivity, so you know how to increase your productivity super quickly. Watch the video now and don’t forget to subscribe for life hacks, on how to live your best life, be your best self, and live your purpose! As it was recorded live the sound may not be the best, but the beauty of a live stream is anyone can come on the stream at any point and ask me any questions they like in chat, on how to live your best life, be your best self, and live your purpose. If you click that bell icon after you have subscribed, you will get notified of every time I post a new video or go live, so you can chat to me in real time. If you are already subscribed, go to my channel and make sure the bell icon is pressed.

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Here’s How To Love Yourself No Matter What!


This video is one which I published years ago on my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel, which compliments this blog, and I think you will find extremely helpful in loving yourself. It explains how to love yourself no matter what. You can subscribe to this channel www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV for life hacks, about how to live your best life, be your best self, and live your purpose!

My Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book that I mention at the end of this video, is published now, and  has a ton of life skills in it. Here is the link https://amzn.to/2WnntBv if you want to grab a copy of it, it should help improve your confidence, your self-esteem, and increase your self love and feel good factor!

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

21 Reasons Why I Love Being A Writer!


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Writing quote by Sandra Bellamy

Let me know how many of these 21 reasons why I love being a writer, you can relate to, in the comments below!

  1. Your imagination is brought to life!
  2. When writing a fiction book, the characters speak to you and tell you how to write their story! (True or true?)
  3. It’s exciting to see your ideas come to life.
  4. When momentum builds and you can’t stop writing, it’s so euphoric!
  5. I just love the act of writing, it feels like I am in ecstasy when I do it.
  6. Writing feels like a part of my soul I never want to be without, it’s central to my core being.
  7. It stops and prevents boredom.
  8. I feel like my books are my best friends, they know all my secrets, my personal thoughts and feelings, and they don’t judge me; they just let me flow and be me, as I am, in the moment.
  9. My books are my companions on a dark and gloomy day, and also a spark of light, that lightens the way.
  10. Writing is a gift that I am proud to say I have, and it makes me feel amazing!
  11. Writing is my life purpose 100%, it’s the number 1 thing in my life that gives me 100% satisfaction.
  12. Writing changes people’s lives.
  13. Writing a book leaves a lasting legacy, long after you have gone from this earth in the human form you are at present. (Seeing your book in a future life could be a hugely surreal experience if you believe in reincarnation, and a great story in and of itself. I have thought about writing that one myself but as I specialise in mostly non-fiction, I prefer to stick to what I enjoy writing the most, but if you are looking for a writing prompt, then you can grab this one with my compliments!)
  14. I love owning my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books – it was a dream since I started writing this blog over 8 years ago. This means any books published under my own imprint can be ordered in shops and found in some UK libraries, including the British Library, as I have my own ISBN  numbers.
  15. My ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY book, is in the British Library, and will go down as part of British Heritage to be used for research for generations to come, I am really proud of this. Especially as everyone thinks they need to have sex in order to have a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, which for asexuals, (those who lack sexual attraction), is simply not true.
  16. Writing makes me feel good, about myself; about my life; and in general I am so much happier when I am writing than when I am not. When I don’t write, it feels like something is missing from my life and my soul is not fulfilled.
  17. Writing feels so good and puts me in a good mood, it makes me feel more like my life is worth living.
  18. Writing is extremely therapeutic, it purges the soul and allows you to get all of your feelings and emotions out in a constructive manner.
  19. Being a writer allows you to be an observer of life like no other. You see the world completely differently to anyone else.
  20. There is no limit to how many books you can write and how many lives you can change as a result.
  21. Writing it the most powerful communication tool you can use to change the world. Even if you learn something on a YouTube video; other video; or from listening to a person speak, it’s the act of writing that learning out, that instills the learning into the subconscious mind. It’s only through changing patterns in the subconscious mind, that we can begin to free ourselves of the social and parental conditioning that we have grown accustom to.

How many of these 21 reasons why I love being a writer can you relate to? Please write in the comments below, I would love to read you xx

Until next time, as always, stay quirky and write really soon

Sandra xx

Captain Jack Sparrow! Is it really him?


 

Sandra Bellamy at my friend's Pirate Themed 50th Birthday Party.
Sandra Bellamy at my friend’s Pirate Themed 50th Birthday Party. This is what I call my Princess Dress.

Jack Sparrow and Sandra Bellamy

Last month was my best female friend’s 50th Birthday party, on April 12th, 2019. My friend looks far younger than she is, and I am significantly  younger than her. I enjoyed the party very much as Captain Jack Sparrow was there too – well a look-a-like. This guy has appeared in one of the original movies as Johnny Depp’s double in Pirates of the Caribbean, the 4th one. He has also appeared as his double in the second Fantastic Beasts movie, The Crimes Of Grindelwald. I loved having my photo taken with mr charming, he was a very good looking lookalike.

What do you think? Hottie, or not?

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Asexual Birthday Present Unboxing Videos And A Shocking New Erogenousity Brand!!!


If you didn’t know April 24th was my birthday. My 3rd 21st Mindset birthday. Yes, I totally believe in choosing what mindset age you want to live, and what lifestyle you want to live too. I live like a teenager and absolutely love it that way. I have high octane energy, and like a Duracell battery, I continue on and on. Which is great when living on your own, but not great if living with someone else, as I am wide awake when they want to sleep. That is why ideally I want an LAT, Living Apart Together Relationship. Luckily for me, I am single once again. Yes, I did briefly have a boyfriend, and he was in his early 20s so younger than me, which is what I like, but British, not foreign, so that was surprising for me, as I am usually only attracted to foreign guys, but it didn’t work out, so the single life is where I definitely want to be staying at right now. I love my unconventional lifestyle, and don’t want to change it and make me miserable in the process, it’s actually just a natural part of me to live like this, go to sleep in the early hours, between 2am-4am usually, and I love it. The night is my creative companion, and I am sure if you are a writer, creative, or entrepreneur, you will understand. You have to live your life for you, and do what makes you happy, not conform to what other expect of you!!! I don’t do normal, I just do me!

Yes, I have been a bit quiet on this blog, because of that, and also because I was trying to transfer web hosts due to my website being hacked again, (Google “Just Host Site Lock Scam” and you will see why), but that didn’t work out either, with many red flags from the new host and a bill I was not expecting. So after researching and finding no better host, I am sticking to the host I have been with for 10 years for now. Minus the 7 .co.uk domains I have, that have been transferred to the new host I got my money back with, and apparently cannot transfer back!!! So I will have my domains spread over two places, which sucks. Also, I have yet another new business idea and new brand, which I already bought the domain for, and it won’t be what you are expecting!!! I am currently working on the site so may be a bit quieter here for a while, especially as I am still finishing setting up a new digital asset business.

If you didn’t already know, I am asexual in sexual orientation, meaning I lack sexual attraction. And I am a heteroromantic – meaning I just get attracted to guys romantically, not sexually. So yes, I would like to have an asexual boyfriend who is romantic in the future, if I met the right asexual guy, but I haven’t met him yet and happy to be single again right now. I am very different to many other asexuals as I don’t like nudity, but I do like passionate kissing without sex. I mean really passionate. So my behaviour when kissing, can be very sexually passionate in nature, yet I have zero sexual attraction, and never like to have sex, or want to these days. And I also like to keep my clothes on when kissing. I have no problem kissing, sucking and licking a guy’s top half, but the bottom half he can keep for himself. With this is mind, I am creating a new website brand which is about how to discover erogenous zones that will entice and excite your partner to make them feel like they are in erogenous ecstasy and begging you for more. This is partly way out of my comfort zone, in the fact I don’t personally like sex for me these days, but I had good and bad sex in the past, so I know the difference. I was also in heterosexual relationships for 19 years of my life and have done most things you can imagine with kissing, sucking, and licking, a guy’s body, and I did that naked, so I know what works. I believe I can help others to be in erogenous ecstasy, without it necessarily leading to sex, unless you want it to. Erogenousity is my new brand and it’s all about giving erogenous generosity to your partner – hence the brand name being a combination of erogenous and generosity. So it comes from a very loving and sexually fulfilling place, in which you want to explore your partners erogenous zones and have a ton of fun and excitement together, where you badly want each other over and over again, with or without sex. I see so many guys have stick in her culture, and no woman wants a guy to just stick it in her, it’s boring and unfulfilling. So this brand will greatly improve your love life if you have been struggling to get and keep a relationship. It will open your ears and your senses, and make you feel weak at the knees!!! I will also be covering safety, mindset, attitude, how to have a good relationship, and dangerous people you need to avoid. As I have been helping asexuals since 2015 with dating and relationships, and still continue to do so, I figured it’s time I branched out and helped those struggling to get and keep a romantic relationship, regardless of sexuality, because you lack the skills, tools and techniques, to know just where your partner does want to be tickled pink!

This blog is where I tell you exclusives, and this is the most exclusive, exciting, and also scary brand of all, because I will be teaching things I never shared with anyone before! At least not until now!! I hope you will support me on my journey to make more people sexually satisfied, with or without the sex itself. No intercourse required! When there is no intercourse, and passion without sex is present, wanting your special person increases more, making for a far more interesting, physically exciting, and constantly enticing relationship, so you can’t wait to get out of the office and see what wonders await you! And if you do want sex, it will be far more sensual and explosive than you ever imagined, because you will be making love, not having mindless sex for the sake of it. It will draw you closer to your partner, and create a deeper level of trust and intimacy than you ever imagined possible!

Please let me know what you think of my new brand and how out will help you, by writing in the comments below 👉 👉 👉   Let me know what struggles you are facing to create passion and excitement in your love life so I know best how to help you.

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon
Sandra xx

Without Darkness There Would Be No Light! How to go from the darkness and into the light!


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I used to think why is there so much hatred, darkness, and pain in life, and that there is no way I would wish anyone to be brought into this world, as it was horrible. I don’t think that way anymore as I am no longer depressed. What you focus on expands and I was focused back then on negativity, on the fact I didn’t like myself or my life. I watched TV and the news, which is full of rape, death, murder, violence and betrayal. News focuses on the bad and negative stuff, in order to grip you emotionally and scare you into coming back for more! To make you think, if you don’t watch it, something bad will happen to you, as you don’t know what is going on in the world. But the reality is, you create your own reality, and by focusing on that bad news each day, it makes you more fearful and scared of the world at large, and therefore you have to keep watching it, like a drug, in order to avoid the pain, when in reality, it is injecting pain into you, into your mind, into your body, until you become a fearful, sick, and nervous wreck. This is often subconscious, rather than conscious.

So what can you do?

  • You need to free yourself from the negativity and embrace the positive.
  • Stop watching TV and in particularly the news. Don’t read newspapers daily.
  • If you do watch TV, keep it to comedy, and things that make you feel love, laughter, and joy. Go into the light and cut out the dark on TV. Both the light and dark are there, but you have a choice! Don’t make excuses, make positive choices and positive changes in your life.
  • Be far more disciplined to get good thoughts, words, actions, and images, into your life, and put them into action constantly. Pay attention to the music you listen to, as well and the films you watch, and what you read. Ask yourself, if it is positive or negative. Then get rid of the negative.
  • Listen to positive affirmations daily to help get your mind into a positive state.
  • Know happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy! It’s your life.
  • Practise gratitude daily. Be grateful and thankful for what you have right now in your life, and every single day.
  • You are responsible for yourself, and your life, no one else.
  • Have courage to face your fears head on.
  • Trust your intuition.
  • Learn, develop, and grow yourself, and never stop learning.
  • Realise all the special qualities, skills, and abilities you have, and keep implementing them and recognising them.
  • Find your life purpose and live it.
  • Help others and it will help you to live a purposeful life
  • Realise that all the dark moments in your life, needed to happen, in order for you to learn, develop, and grow yourself, into the person you are today.
  • Be thankful for everything that happens in your life, good or bad, and know that everything happens for a reason, good or bad.
  • Know that when experiencing bad times, it means good times are just around the corner. The more bad and unhappy, the more fortunate and happy times are ahead. Because where there is darkness, there is always light around the corner

I now understand that without darkness there would be no light! But by focusing on the light, it helps to keep the darkness away, and to draw happiness, love, and light, to me always. Like a boomerang, light will ways come back to me, and I will never reside and stay in a pit of darkness and despair, ever again. I will always go back into light. I freed myself of depression in 2012, and even if things are not going the way I want them to, I know that time will pass and I will be happy and joyful again.

Right now, in this moment. My life is awesome. I won’t lie. I am nervous about the future, but also optimistic about it! I love my life and I am very thankful for living in my beautiful flat, for having a roof over my head and food in my belly. For having wonderful friends in my life and people who love me implicitly. A new guy has come into my life who I am very thankful and grateful for. He’s a cutie! And it’s my 3rd 21st mindset birthday next week! On 24th of April! Rock on!

Happy Good Friday and Happy Easter Weekend! What helps you go towards the light and keep out the darkness? Please write in the comments below, as I love to read you.

As always, keep being quirky you and write soon.

Sandra xx

What is a success jar and why do you need one? #lifehack #liveyourbestlife


You’ve mostly likely heard that to stay motivated and productive, it’s super important to write your successes down in a diary or journal. If you have never heard of this before it’s a great technique for building momentum, positivity, and productivity. An alternative to this is a Success Jar, this is a jar which you fill with your successes instead of putting then into a diary – or you can do both if you so wish.

Not everyone has the time to sit down and write in a diary or journal, and not everyone wants to. But writing on a notelet or tearing off a piece of paper, and writing your successes on it, then sticking it in your Success Jar, is a powerful way of acknowledging your successes and make you feel great – without formally sitting down to write, and without stressing yourself out over taking time out of your day when it is so mega busy.

In this video – which I recorded as a Live Stream so the sound is not perfect in it, I explain in detail what a Success Jar is, and show you two of mine from last year.

I hope this helps you? I would love to know your thoughts about it? Please comment below!

Are you use anything similar, and if so, how is that working out for you? Please let me know in the comments section below, as I love to read you!

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon

Sandra xx