Becoming An Asexual Entrepreneur On Dreams ARE Real Podcast Interview


As asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.

Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.

People tend to discard what they don’t understand.

They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.

And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology. 

But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice. 😍

Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously. 😍

Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal. 

It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever. 😍

Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not. 

There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay. 😍

The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be. 

I am here to show you, you can. 

That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.

That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.

Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-182-becoming-an-asexual-entrepreneur-with/id1480067188?i=1000558237426

How To Create And Sell Inspirational Quote Posters On eBay – Step By Step Guide


Ever wanted to learn how to design and sell something on eBay to make some extra cash, or start your own online business? But you don’t know where to start and you want to some ideas? Well, in this article, I am going to be sharing with you, how you can do just that.

You are going to learn step by step, how you can create inspirational quote posters to sell on eBay – or elsewhere, so be sure to pay attention and subscribe to this blog and my Make Money Make Cash channel here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClqfa3MRuPE28r6zu3M84OA if you find this content helpful, informative, or valuable in some way, and you want to discover more ways to make money online. And don’t forget to hit the bell icon under my YouTube subscribe button, to make sure you never miss an episode.

Watch the video above for the full step by step tutorial on how to create and sell your own inspirational quote posters to sell on eBay or Amazon. And don’t forget to subscribe to learn how to make more money and make more cash.
Step 1 – Research what “inspirational quote posters” are selling on Amazon and eBay. Try to find designs that sell well but with low competition and read the reviews to see what people liked about them and what people didn’t like.
Step 2 – Use a software like Stencil here https://getstencil.com?tap_a=9103-1801f8&tap_s=97718-f161af to create a similar design, but not the same, as the designs you noticed from your research sell well but have low competition. But make improvements to the design, based on the review feedback you read.
Step 3 – Buy a suitable printer that allows you to print on thick paper/card and gloss/photo paper, such at the Epsom ET-4750 here https://amzn.to/3upiEqB This printer is the one I have myself to print quotes, and it’s very economical, because it uses inexpensive bottles of ink rather than cartridges, and you usually get a set of these ink bottles with the printer. You can buy more ink bottles here https://amzn.to/3KtxQs6
Step 4 – Choose suitable paper to print on. Make sure it’s the right GSM thickness and type, such as 160 or 180 GSM or higher photo paper. Here https://amzn.to/3jkqUSv
Step 5 – You will need to buy hard backed envelopes to post your quote posters in, to your customers. Here https://amzn.to/3rfVnoZ
Step 6 – Create an eBay store and upload photos/file of your poster design to it.
Step 7 – Taking into account all of your eBay fees and your expenses, adverting your poster on there could get extra sales.
Step 8 – Promote your inspirational quote poster/s to your friends, family, and across your social media, with the features and benefits of why they should buy it. And voila – you are ready to sell and make money make cash.

Things you will need to start your own Inspirational Poster Quotes business, mentioned in the video and this post:

1) Stencil software – Get it here https://getstencil.com?tap_a=9103-1801f8&tap_s=97718-f161af

2) Epsom Eco Tank Printer ET-4750 – https://amzn.to/3xf76rH

OR ORDER EPSOM ECO TANK FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3upiEqB

  • Up to 2 years of ink in the box. 
  • Print up to 14,000 pgs bk/11,200 clr. 
  • Equivalent to about 30 cartridge sets . 
  • Save up to 80% on ink with replacement bottles. 
  • Uniquely keyed auto-stop ink bottles. 
  • 250-sheet paper tray. 
  • 2.4″ color touchscreen. 
  • 30-sheet Auto Doc Feeder.

Comes with printer ink bottles – please note you need number 102 Epsom Ink bottles for the model I have ET-4750 which I recommend, if you buy from UK, but 502 if you buy from the .com store. (The 104 bottles showed in this video seems to be for a different Eco Tank Model, but you can check with the seller to be sure.)

3) Here is the 102 ink bottles multipack of 4 bottles – https://amzn.to/3Kso3mk

HERE IS THE 502 INK BOTTLES IF YOU BUY FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3KtxQs6 and here for the black https://amzn.to/3JowHB2

4) Epsom Glossy Paper – https://amzn.to/3jnnRsI OR alternative paper – https://amzn.to/35ZcNPm

OR GET SUITABLE PAPER FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3jkqUSv

5) Hard Backed Envelopes – https://amzn.to/3DYZPgR

OR GET HARD BACKED (DO NOT BEND) ENVELOPES FROM AMAZON. COM HERE https://amzn.to/3rfVnoZ

Entrepreneurship isn’t easy, so do it for the journey – because it’s the journey that truly changes your life! 😍 #forthejourney

(Please note these are affiliate links, so I may get some pennies if you click through them and make a purchase, which I will greatly appreciate, thank you.)

As always, stay quirky – and write your inspirational quote posters soon!

Sandra xx

Happy International Asexuality Day


Happy International Asexuality Day

In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on the lack of sexual attraction. This means we don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse.

Sexual attraction = being sexually attracted towards a specific person/people.

Sexual desire = desiring the sex itself.

Arousal = a feeling in your genitalia.

Asexuality is also a spectrum, ranging from those who experience zero sexual attraction, known as a “pure” asexual, to those do experience sexual attraction, only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experience it, but not enough to want to act on it – known as a “grey” asexual.

Some asexuals are sex repulsed and will never have sex and hate it, others are sex neutral and don’t care whether they have sex or not. Others are sex positive and will/do have sex.

Some asexuals hate porn and will never watch it.

Other asexuals do watch porn.

Some asexuals masturbate.

Others asexuals feel sick at the idea of masturbation and it makes them want to throw up – just like some sex repulsed asexuals want to throw up when they hear the word sex.

Some asexuals are into BDSM – even without sex.

Other asexuals can’t stand BDSM and they want to run mile even hearing those words.

Some asexuals experience arousal – others don’t.

Every asexual is valid.

Always STAY ACE.

Sandra xx

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)


So, my friend Sandra, as well as writing Asexual Perspectives and other books, also has a YouTube channel, where she discusses, among other things, asexuality, relationships, self development and personal improvement. She often has livestreams on the channel. These can vary in duration from around 20-25 minutes up to a couple of hours, dependent on […]

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

Top 3 Most Profitable Niches In KDP Publishing If You Want To Make Money With KDP


What to do and where to start with KDP if you’re a beginner? And how to make money with Amazon KDP publishing?

These are usually the 2 most frequently asked questions when it comes to publishing your books on Amazon KDP.

KDP stands for Kindle Direct Publishing. It’s the part of Amazon where you upload your formatted book manuscript to turn it into an EBook for Kindle or the Kindle APP, and you can turn it into a paperback, in some case a hardback and audio book too.

Each different type of book requires different formatting. The Audio book requires narration.

But many people who start, or who want to start, don’t know which niches are going to be profitable.

When I stumbled across an Amazon expert and he revealed the top 3 niches that were the most profitable, I was amazed he actually did that, and felt such a relief, that finally I had something to work towards, rather than stumbling around in the dark for years, chasing my tail and going off on wild goose chases. And since then, to this day, from my research of other Amazon experts, I would say he is spot on.

So in the video below, I reveal to you in 15 secs, the top 3 most profitable niches in KDP publishing. Yes that’s right, in just 15 seconds, you are going to learn what most people search their whole lifetime for, when it comes to what are the most profitable KDP niches to publish in. So these 15 seconds will be some of the most valuable 15 seconds of your life and they will save you a whole lifetime of heartache and pain.

So there is no excuse for not watching this 15 second Top 3 Most Profitable Niches In KDP Publishing If You Want to Make Money video, and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and hit the bell icon for more #shorts videos about how to make money online with KDP, EBay, Vinted, Facebook Marketplace and so much more.

Once you have discovered those top 3 niches, you can then niche down further, to find more specific audiences for your books.

I started my own Amazon KDP journey in 2015, and love it. Writing is my life and soul purpose and I’m so happy now that I have a channel where I can share that happiness with you and help you on the road to your self-publishing dreams.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel to get more help like this.

Stay quirky and as always, write soon.

Sandra xx

Asexual Perspectives by Sandra Bellamy (Book Review)


Ever heard of asexuality? Or thought you might be asexual, because you just don’t feel the same way about sex as others do?

“The book was a revelation for me. It showed me, not just through Sandra’s view, but through the perspective of 46 other people, that asexuality wasn’t something that made me broken, and that many other people shared at least some of my experiences. And also that maybe I wasn’t destined to be alone forever.”

Check out this full review of my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book. And don’t forget to go to Amazon and grab your copy now! Here https://amzn.to/3LpCiJC

A Voice in the Void

I thought that I would do a review of a book written by Sandra Bellamy regarding asexuality. She has written a few books (I’ll likely review others) and is currently writing another as I write this, which should hopefully be available soon.

The book I shall discuss today is “Asexual Perspectives, 47 Asexual Stories” with the extended title “LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACEelebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY”.

Asexual Perspectives was released in 2017 by Sandra Bellamy, who has her own publishing imprint.

Before I discovered asexuality, in 2014, I thought that I was alone and broken. Even once I had discovered asexuality, for the first few years it was still difficult to come to terms with. Most people weren’t asexual, and most of my relationships/dating experiences were failures because they were all with sexual people, and I simply had no interest in sexual activity. I had tried to do some sexual…

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Your TEDx Talk Is Waiting… You’re Only One Step Away From Impacting Thousands Of Lives


https://www.thepassioncure.com/a/2147503090/L9uQFcCX

Your TEDx Talk Is Waiting…

Someone right now is waiting to hear your TEDx Talk.

That person is waiting to have their life changed by your message, your story…

Your TEDx Talk is waiting for you to bring it to life, to secure, deliver, and leverage it.

The challenge is securing, delivering, and leveraging it, isn’t easy – which is why so many people struggle for years to land their own talk. Some NEVER achieve it, and they die with their message inside them…

Enter Corey Poirier (aka. That Speaker Guy).

Corey is not only a dear friend of mine, he is a multiple-time TEDx Speaker, bLU Talks Founder and Co-Author of the Wall Street Journal / USA Today Bestseller, Quitless. He has been featured in and/or seen on: NBC, ABC, Fox, TEDx, Entrepreneur on Fire, Entrepreneur Magazine, Second City, The CW and CBS.

And the best part, Corey is revealing some of his top secrets, that will show you how to land your own TEDx Talk in 2022, during his upcoming 3-Day Speaking Bootcamp here https://www.thepassioncure.com/a/2147503090/L9uQFcCX

To demonstrate how big of a deal this is, in 2019, every week, a student of his landed their branded talk and every three weeks a student landed their TEDx Talk. Now that’s results worth talking about.

If you’d like to learn how having your own TEDx Talk could change your life forever and the steps you need to take to secure your own TEDx Talk, check out the website for Corey’s bootcamp right now https://www.thepassioncure.com/a/2147503090/L9uQFcCX

I can say with confidence that Corey is not only a fantastic natural speaker, he is also a great guy. Super approachable, and the REAL deal. He walks his talk.

So if you’re tired of chasing speaking gigs, sales, clients, and opportunities, the right TEDx Talk has the ability to change this for you.

Oh, and during this bootcamp you’ll also learn how to create a signature talk from Dave Carroll (over 100 million people have heard his United Breaks Guitars Story), how to land a Wall Street Journal / USA Today Bestseller List with Alinka Rutkowska (Leaders Press), how attract your ideal client with Rosalyn Fung, how to create a bestselling Amazon launch with Kelly Falardeau, how to craft your talk using the Spider’s Method and the DIP method, and much more.

If you are an Author like me, do not miss this… I bought this Speaking Bootcamp myself, because I definitely want to know how to become a Wall Street Journal best seller and how to leverage my books to get more speaking gigs, and I am confident I will learn how to do this, with this 3 day event, and at only $97.00 Canadian, it’s an absolute steal, a no-brainer, to attend ALL 3 days of this game-changing virtual bootcamp.

Yes, that’s right, it’s virtual, so there are no accommodation costs and you can take part in the break out networking sessions in-between the main talks from the comfort of your own home. So if you want to increase your net worth, by increasing your network, this is an ideal opportunity for you do just that. The possibilities are endless…

This one is not to be missed and you can grab your spot right now at https://www.thepassioncure.com/a/2147503090/L9uQFcCX

How To Shift Your Mindset From Writer And Author To Your Own Book Publishing Business


Ever wanted to own your own Book Publishing Business but you keep doubting yourself that you can? Or maybe you have never considered it, because you always thought traditional publishing was the way to go … no, and in this post I reveal why, and how you can stop doubting yourself for good. If that sounds like something you want to know more about, read on…

From 2nd October 2020, I went through hell, with mental, physical, and emotional trauma. It took me a year to leave a day job (October 10th 2021 was the day I officially left), that made me really poorly because of things that went on which I wasn’t expecting and didn’t deserve, and I was off sick from for a long time (so been able to self-isolate a lot more than those who work and keep myself safer). I can’t currently discuss more about this publicly for legal reasons and might never be able to, but I think you get my point.

I went back to therapy for the first time since 2014, and was unofficially diagnosed with PTSD – I got an assessment score of 49. A score of 32 and above means you have the condition. Furthermore I was diagnosed with complex PTSD (CPTSD) as I have had uncontrollable emotions, and was crying almost every day I woke up, until 16th of December – when everything changed for the better, for good.

In November last year (2021), I went out clubbing for the first time ever since March 2020, for 5.5 hours, this was the first time since I broke my ankle back on 17th of April 2021 and I’ve done extensive physio to walk again and regain strength in that ankle enough to go clubbing. It was the longest I had clubbed for, since I went to Ministry Of Sound in London, in 2014. 2 days later I got sick with a respiratory/chest infection and lost my voice. I had to have 3 lots of antibiotics in 6 weeks and was still coughing on Christmas Day and on New Year’s Day I was battling with severe rib and chest pain – like someone had stabbed me with a knife in-between my ribs and left the knife in (even though they hadn’t), to the point where the next day it hurt me every time I breathed in (and felt like I was being cut with glass, on top of the feeling I had a knife in my ribs), and later I went to A&E on the advice of my local NHS Walk In Centre and Devon Doctors on call, who suggested a rib and chest XRay respectively. But instead of having an XRay I ended up in a Covid hot room, about to have a bed made up for me, a monitor hooked up to me, and blood tests taken, when I didn’t have Covid and all my tests for that had been negative. I was horrified! It was like something out of a surreal horror movie. They put my life at risk unnecessarily, because I had purposefully been keeping myself safe from getting it as I have a low immune system (which I take good liquid bacteria for) and too many allergies to have the vaccine. And there was a patient who was in the same room as me that I heard them diagnose with Covid right before the Doctor saw me, and I told them all my tests were negative for that – including the one I had done at 8am New Year’s Day, before visiting my parents and my guinea pig daughter Angel who lives with them. Their reasoning being I was in the hot room they said before the Doctor saw me, was because I had had a cough – I already told them I don’t think I coughed once that day, and the Doctor I saw before Christmas who said I had a chest infection, with some infection still in my lungs, said I would still be coughing after I finished the antibiotics she gave me and I had some rib pain then, just not as severe. They also said it was because many people have Covid and I am not vaccinated, which I felt were ridiculous reasons, just because lots of people have it and I am unvaccinated, doesn’t mean to say I would have it.

During the time I got sick (I got my first lot of antibiotics on 16th of November), I was forced to rest during that month as much as possible – although I did do some work on my Asexual Guide To Sex book, and take stock of my life, reflect on it, and what I really want to do with me life and make some drastic changes to it. For years I have had a voice in my head being a coach to myself that said, if you only just focused on writing books for the next 1-2 years and nothing else, what do you think your life would be like? And how much better it would be. But I was always crying, upset, and in pain from this, because I hadn’t made the decision to go all in before, I kept going off on tangents because people kept telling me I am not making enough money from my writing and I kept telling myself that. They told me I can’t make enough money from writing books, that basically it’s an add on to a business, not the business, and that I need to do something else to make money, because otherwise I will fail. And some of the people have years of business experience and made hundreds of thousands of pounds, one has even made billions, and published his own book. But… these people do not specialise in a book publishing business, they don’t focus on book publishing, they just use it as one asset in their tool box. For me, writing is my life and soul purpose, and my destiny given to me by God is to have lots of books out and publish by the time I die, so I can continue to save lives long after I am gone. I see that in my destiny and soul purpose (along with helping asexuals and getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. – That’s why I loooove writing books for asexuals. As it’s both my life and soul purpose in one).

As the beginning of December, I started working my way through the first 2 module of Ray Edwards – How To Set Up A Copywriting Business, video training course, that I bought on a late Black Friday deal. This course teaches you how to start a copywriting business and get clients. But… I only finished the first two modules, which apply to any writing business. That’s when it hit me twofold in the most profound way, and I love Ray for helping me figure this out.

  1. He said to, never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can. (This is because he was talking about copywriting is all about influencing others, but first you must be able to influence yourself – that’s it! The thing that changed the way I think.)
  2. Writing is a business and you can make thousands of pounds from it.

I didn’t need any more of that course, because that was enough to know I don’t want to work for someone else and write copy for others. I want to write more and more non-fiction books that change lives and leave a lasting legacy. And the 2 things I needed to do to accomplish that, is to influence myself enough to know I can make thousands of pounds and a full-time living as a writer. And to focus on book writing as a business.

I had a wobble…

Self-doubt crept back in…

But on 16th of December 2021 my best friend Andy took me for a meal in Nandos as an early Christmas present. (He also bought me some pressies too for Christmas Day.) Before we went out, we discussed my self-doubt and I was trying to understand why I didn’t fully believe in my intention, when I did the previous week. But then it hit me as I came out of the toilet in Nandos, what made the difference, so I was able to go all in… It was a mindset shift, from I am a Writer and Author, with my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books, which is fantastic, to I am the Writer, Author, Manager, Promoter, And Marketer, of my Book Publishing Business. But the most important thing to remember is Writer, Author, Owner, Manager, Promoter – (which involves far more self-promotion as part of a marketing strategy to sell more books), of my own Book Publishing Business of Quirky Books. And that’s when I decided to go all in and commit 100% to creating a successful book publishing business, rather just seeing myself as an Author and Writer.

I don’t think it’s the books that’s the problem – why I have lower sales than I would like, I think it’s me and my mindset that needs to change. I think I need to ensure that I promote myself and my books far more and get a lot more publicity going forward. Such as get on more podcasts, be in more online magazine articles, get more radio interviews, and so much more. Which I will be doing with my Asexual Guide To Sex book – so watch this space for that. I’m so excited! I think mindset is so overlooked when it comes to book sales, or lack thereof.

Last year I studied an expert in mindset shifting. He said instead of affirmations, you need to look for confirmations. Which is proof you can do it or have done it before. Which I am able to do with writing non-fiction books. I am a successful Author and writer who can make money from writing and publishing books, because I have consistent monthly income from once book since 2017, and another since 2019, even though I would like a much higher income from those, it’s still proof I can make consistent sales for years, when some people don’t make any sales at all. Also, a couple of years ago, a traditional publisher that had been in business for 35 years, found my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book in an LGBT shop in London and approached me on Twitter to tell me they were interested in publishing my book under their publishing imprint, but…:

  • They wanted to remove half the stories (because the ones including any mention of sexual abuse, would not be suitable for their publishing style and image, and it would make the book cheaper to sell, and they had a maximum price they would sell the book for.) Bear in mind the book is called “Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories“, it would mean changing the title also, and my audience getting less valuable stories.
  • They also wanted all of my reviews I had built up myself over the years. (Now I am not sure if that would have been possible anyway, because if they removed some of the stories and the title changed, it would have in essence made it a different book, and I don’t think KDP would have allowed that.)
  • I would have to ask their permission to quote from my own book (no thank you). I sell a lot of my books by quoting from them – so if you haven’t already tried to do this, I highly recommend it.
  • They wanted me to read another book to replicate that person’s style (no thank you, I want to keep my own style).
  • I would have got a maximum of 12% commission on book sales, even after the representative from their company had just told me on the phone I would have got 15%, he then reduced that figure in the follow up email. (Which immediately made me trust them less.) I get up to 70% through publishing my books myself using KDP.
  • In the end they agreed with me not take that book on themselves as they spoke to their marketing team and said because I have so successfully published that book, they doubt they could meet my marketing expectations.
  • They refused to take on my Asexual Sex Guide To Sex book, which they wanted to consider, and I had to apply to them to consider, because again, it has some stories which include sexual abuse and they thought the content would be too risky, but told me their marketing team said there is a market for it, and it will definitely sell. I was very happy and grateful I had this positive feedback from a company with 35 experience.
  • They were interested in publishing my next 2 books, after Asexual Guide To Sex, and years ago it would be my Author/Writer dream to have a traditional company publisher my book, but now I want to build my own book publishing business and get my Quirky Books imprint portfolio increased. I have no desire to work for someone else, when I am so super successful at publishing my own style of books, in my own voice. Raw, real, authentic.

I just need to write more books and focus on having an actual book publishing business and stop going off on tangents with things that have nothing to do with writing, publishing, promoting and selling, more books, because people keep telling me you can’t earn a full-time living from writing books alone – which simply isn’t true, because others are doing it, so why can’t I? Remember what Ray Edwards said, he said to: never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

So after all of the heartache and pain, and everything I have been through over the last year and more, I am so happy to now be focusing on Quirky Books as a book publishing business and accelerating my Author journey to another level entirely, and feeling much happier now I have clarity and focus on exactly what I want to do for the rest of my life and beyond. God has given me the precious gift of writing and made it my mission to write books that change lives, from pain to gain, so I am going to fulfil my destiny. He also gave me the mission to help asexuals, so by doing both it’s my ultimate bliss and happy place. I am also on my way to creating my Children’s Book publishing dream too, with immense help from the Children’s Book Creator course and the support group which comes with it. I would highly recommend it, if you want to write, illustrate, and publish your own Children’s books yourself. Although I have been working my way through the video training course, I am focused on finished my Asexual Guide To Sex book as a priority. Read more about the Children’s Book Creator course here: Calling All Would-Be Children’s Book Writer’s, Authors and Publishers – How To Write And Publish Your Own Children’s Books And Save Yourself Hundreds Of Pounds and remember, don’t let yourself be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon

Sandra xx