Quirky Books Author Sandra Bellamy Hosts WORLD’S FIRST Ever ASEXUALITY Daily Live Stream Chat Show! Asexualise My Asexual Life


I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual. Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexualise My Asexual Life, Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!) So if you are a writer who is struggling at the moment, know you won’t be rich overnight, you might not be rich in money terms, for a very long time, but you will be one of the wealthiest people in that world, because you can really change lives with your written words, and that is why you should be a writer and Author of books, because you love writing so much and you want too change lives for the better forever. I regularly get people private messaging me about how this book has literally change their life, for the better, forever. And also, how much my videos on www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife have really helped them, especially when they first discovered they are asexual. I get people who are not asexual watching my channel, but the respective fact I am, subscribing to it, and becoming one of my most loyal viewers. I know I can help those people too and you.

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind. Specialising in, Asexuality/Surviving and thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world, Dating/Relationships, Spirituality/Mindset, Personal Growth/Self-Love. I also do ‘no sex’ movie reviews. These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and non-asexuals who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife , and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

If you are a writer, never, ever give up! Don’t wait for a publisher to publish you. Believe in your own work of genius enough to take that leap of faith and self-publish! My Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook is also changing lives. One of my best asexual friends is no longer depressed since reading that book, and has been depressed for years before I met them. They were trying to help themselves a lot and get better, and they were making some progress, but nothing seemed to actually stick enough to make a long-lasting change which they so badly needed, but since reading this book, their life has now completely changed, and they are doing things they never thought was possible before, and I am so very proud of them! A how-to, self-help book, is no good, without implementation! He doesn’t have fibromyalgia, but does have another pain condition, and understood that the techniques I explain in this book, about how to have less pain, more energy and be happier, and how to overcome depression and reduce anxiety, can easily be transferred and applied to any circumstances, regardless of it you have fibromyalgia or not! So yes, if you are reading this blog post now, and you want to be happier in your life, have less pain (especially mental pain), and more energy, I absolutely believe you can also benefit from this book too. The new year, 2020, is coming, so with this book, you can have the new upgraded version of you going into 2020, check it out here https://amzn.to/2MBZA1U and take that leap of faith! You won’t be disappointed! You’ll also get to read my own personal real life ACE Fibro Girl story! So if you enjoy reading autobiographical books, you will love this book also!

Here I am as ACE Fibro Girl! Keep writing and stay quirky always, Sandra xx

ACE Fibro Girl book

I Love The Song All I Want For Christmas Is You! But What About The Very Damaging And Dangerous Message It Gives Out?


All I Want For Christmas Is You, is one of my very favourite Christmas songs! If you take it for the airy fairytale romantic notion, and uber catchy tune it is, it’s a great catchy little number to bop along to, but if you take an in-depth look at the words, they send a very damaging and dangerous message! Watch this video below now from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel to find out why it’s so damaging, and what you need to do to survive and thrive in this world and make getting into abusive relationships a thing of the past! Make 2020, your best year yet and set the tone now, in 2019, for the best year yet to come!

And if you want a reminder of this song, here is the 2019 edition!

Here are the lyrics xx

Here is a wonderful Christmas song, which is very beautiful for your soul! When you have fun, you attract the one! It all starts with you, and you have fun and laughter regardless!

I wish you a very Happy Christmas Day and Christmas Time, and for all your dreams to come true in 2020!

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Summits Up! Business, Spirituality, Personal Growth! Don’t Miss Out!


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Do you like business, spirituality, personal growth? If yes, go register for the Freestyle Your Life Authenticity Summit. You will be so glad to learn from 78 experts in their field, exactly what it takes to live your dream as the authentic you, you were always born to be!

Today is the day! If you haven’t already got your FREE ticket to the Authenticity Summit, click here now https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

I am speaking today, on this summit, about Asexuality! Labelled as sharing my heroic life journey, along with other experts in their chosen fields, it’s sure to be a memorable interview.

Sign up and look for an email in your inbox, or check your spam box, click through the link for day 4 and watch!

It’s only are for 24 hours, so be sure not to miss out! (Or you can buy the recording from the event organiser! Erneste Carla Zimmermann)

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

FREE EXPERT AUTHENTICITY SUMMIT – How To Recreate Your Life As Your True Authentic Balanced Self With Over 78 Experts! Join Now!


FLY Summit
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Are Your Thoughts….?

  • …I could have done better in life
  • …I have to be popular with everyone
  • …I have to meet the expectations of others
  • …I don’t live as I thought I was going to
  • …I still regret what happened in the past
  • …I’m worried about my future
  • …I feel I’m not enough

If you answered yes to any of these questions, the FLY – Freestyle Your Life Authenticity Week Online Summit 2019, from 9th-15th of Dec, is for you! The FLY Authenticity Week Online Summit 2019 ‘🎬 is revealing the best tips and strategies of the most amazing experts on authenticity and self-realisation and I am thrilled to be part of it – I am speaking on day 4, which is the 12th of December, make sure that date is in your diary! Nobody should be ruling your life, but YOU ❣ On the FLY – Summit, you’ll learn how to break free from limiting beliefs, past conditioning which no longer serves you, and to heal emotional wounds; and how to implement it all in your life & business! 🍀

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • ❣Learn how to break free from whatever sucks in your life
  • Learn how to discover your WHY and live your purpose
  • Learn to become conscious and find your authentic self
  • Learn how to liberate from the curse of being not enough
  • Learn how to stop living your past life over and over again
  • Learn how to turn sacrifice into self-LOVE
  • Learn how to stop self-sabotaging thoughts & behaviour once and for all!
  • Learn how to thrive vs. just survive, and live funny and prosper
  • ❣Learn how to reduce stress and heal your emotional wounds
  • ❣Learn how to restyle your life on your own authentic terms
  • ❣Learn how to transform and turn your dream into a reality
  • ❣Learn how to tap into your genius; to thrive personally and as an entrepreneur
  • ❣Learn how to find your voice and grow and monetise your business
  • ❣Learn how to put yourself into the driver’s seat and live your purpose

And so much more!

The event is free to attend, and each session is available for free, for 24 hours only, so don’t miss out! You can view the summit by signing up at https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2 to receive the email for each day’s event. You get a complete ‘Authenticity Training Blueprint‘ you can follow to break free from whatever sucks at the Status Quo, so you can finally evolve in your life & business. When you implement the wisdom shared by 78 amazingly authentic and highly inspirational experts & speakers, you can rise and show up as the authentic being & leader you were always born to be; owning who you truly are 🎬🔝. This is not just an interview series, but all interviews and days are built upon each other and are a summarised representation of pure wisdom and mentorship of 78 experts to transform you into the authentic self 🍀. Freestyle-Your-Life is a way of living life on your own authentic terms after pressing Reset and getting rid of all that sucks in your life, so you can truly be the quirky you, you were always born to be, with all your quirky individuality! 😎 You seriously don’t want to miss this! I am friends with the event organiser and host, and her own story of her battle with cancer and how she overcame it, by discovering how to be her true authentic self, and live life on her own terms, is truly inspirational and exceptional, she literally lives and breathes what she teaches. I know if anyone can help you to be your true authentic quirky self, she can.

This is the first international conference worldwide of its type, featuring 78 authentic and awesome experts and speakers, sharing their immense wisdom and best tips to guide you to becoming authentically quirky YOU. If you can’t make all the shows, no problem, you can purchase the recordings to the entire event, at a highly reduced price, before the summit even starts with the EarlyBird pricing offer (well worth it)!  78 experts, for a fraction of the cost it would be to buy their mentorship and coaching on an individual basis! Sign up here before this deal is gone for good https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2 Hurry now, kickoff is on Monday, December 9, 2019, so not long to go. Give yourself the gift this Christmas of truly being quirky authentic you, sign up here 🎁https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Are You A Blogger, Author, Or Writer? Want More Exposure And Copy That Clicks? Don’t Miss This!


Are you a Blogger, Writer, Author? Do you write blog posts that are shared once and never shared again? Do you struggle to find the right words to spice up your post to create curiosity? Do you spend hours trying to share your posts multiple times over and trying to think up compelling copy to get those clicks? If the answer to any of those is yes, you need Missing Lettr, because is does all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to. Not only does it automate the sharing of your blog posts to multiple social media profiles, it automatically suggests the best hashtags to use and creates compelling post copy, that gets noticed, so you gain more exposure for each of your posts and many more click throughs, all at a fraction of the cost it would take you to hire an expensive social media manager, an expensive copywriter, or to buy expensive copywriting software – and then the time it takes to figure out how to use it. 

Why do all that hard work when you don’t have to? If you are a Blogger, Writer, Author, and you want more exposure, in less time, and get a well oiled machine that does all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to, and you can stop wasting your precious time and do more productive money making tasks, you need to buy this tool.

If you want to know more about how to use this fabulous tool, post that shows you how to do just that, here https://wp.me/p1bntR-42y with a behind-the-scenes look at my dashboard using screenshots, so you can see how valuable it is in action!

It’s incredibly good value for money. I know some other companies who charge much more for this type of thing. The amount of suggested copy you get, to gain more exposure and clicks, is just amazing! It would take you hours alone, just to think up this stuff, and that in itself, saves you so much time. I think this is what sets Missing Lettr apart from other social media automation tools, is that it creates compelling copy to go with your posts, so you don’t have to. Most companies would either not do both, or charge an extortionate amount, particularly for the automatic creation of copy; hundreds of pounds. Buy now here https://goo.gl/RNvo3L

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Ace Fibro Girl Website Live And Launched!


 

ACE Fibro Girl

I just launched my www.acefibrogirl.com site so you can read more about my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, How To Have Less Pain, More Energy, Feel Happier, Like A Superhero Rockstar! Or go directly to amazon and buy it here https://amzn.to/2OZMFr1 Even if you don’t have fibromyalgia, this book will give you the formula for how to have a more positive and happier life, and show you how to increase your energy. It helps you to overcome depression and decrease anxiety, and is an autobiographical book too, so it’s helpful, and gives valuable insight and guidance on how to live your best life, and thrive and flourish, not just survive, but to truly come alive!

You may have been wondering lately, where have I been? I have busy with course creation and getting well, as I had two back-to-back infections and lost my voice and had to have lots of rest. Still playing catch up! I have lots of exciting projects I am working on, including one which will help others to make money online and to cut their time and learning curve short, to make money fast! Yep, finally found out what works, and it’s likely not what you think! So watch this space for more details about that!

This year, I am working flat out to finish off as many of my outstanding projects as possible, before the new year arrives. Next year I will be launching 3 new brands, on top of everything else I do. In fact, 2 of them would be launched before the new year, if I could get the others finished sooner, rather than later. Right now, it’s one step at a time. So that is why I have not blogged on here as much and as often as I usually do, and it’s likely to be that way for some time to come, as I have to block out time and turn off distractions and focus hard on narrowing down exactly what I need to do to succeed in my businesses. I have let go of 7 domains this year and gained 5 new ones. But, the good news is, the upcoming brands will help you a lot, especially the ones involving making money. I am also working on my second book for asexuals, which is ironically called Asexual Guide To Sex, and will be like no other book you have ever read on the topic of sex, in your life before, and is more like an immersive experience than just a book. It’s insightful, helpful, and gives the real truth about what it’s like to have sex when you are asexual, with sex help, sex advice and sex guidance, from asexuals who have had sex before, I am super excited for this book!

Until next time, write soon and stay quirky

Sandra (AKA ACE Fibro Girl) xx

Happy 9 Year Blogging Anniversary To Quirky Books And Published Author Sandra Bellamy At Quirky Books!


9 Year Blogging anniversary

Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader in life and say congratulations to yourself. Because if you don’t recognise your own achievements and think they are amazing, why should anyone else? Yes, I have been blogging for over 9 years on this Quirky Books blog and in 2017 I finally registered Quirky Books as my own publishing imprint. It was a very proud moment! To have my own publishing company is a dream come true. I used to always want to be traditionally published, but once I realised I can make more money and have more flexibility over the content of my books, as a self-published Author, and that my books truly change peoples’ lives and stop some people from killing themselves, I realised my life purpose is being fulfilled and I am leaving a true lasting legacy for generations to come!

Recently I had a respiratory infection and lost voice (I could only whisper), and could not do any live streaming on either of my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV or my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. The doctor told me I must rest to get well, she was concerned that my heartbeat was faster than normal and my temperature was higher than normal. So I rested for 7 days straight. I did try to do a bit of writing on day 4 of my 7 days of antibiotics, but started to feel dizzy again, so had to stop it. My first stream was only a few hours ago on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel, since getting my voice back. The one thing I am very grateful and thankful for, if I ever lost my voice completely for good, which I would never wish to ever do, as I love talking, educating others, and have a gift for YouTube live streaming, then at least I would still be able to do my main passion and life purpose of writing, which is a huge relief!

So yeah, always live with passion and purpose in your heart and write what you want, like and love, and just be quirky you, as no one does you better xx

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Sex Is Not What You Think! – Don’t Miss Tonight’s Live Show 7pm UK Time!


You may have thought I had disappeared off planet earth. The fact is, I was never on it in the first place, lol! I was on planet Quirky Books and that is pretty much where I have been and working a lot on my publication of my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, which is now out in both Kindle AND print, as well as writing and working with my asexual interviewees for my second book for Asexuals, which is called Asexual Guide To Sex and will literally be the best book on sex ever written and literally change your understanding of sex as you know it, it will be a MUST read book! I also haven’t been too well and had an infection that I was treated for, as well as low blood pressure. I had to have a blood test yesterday for further investigation of why I kept feeling dizzy, and I have a fear of needles and blood so that was difficult for me to do that.

This week is Asexual Awareness Week in case you didn’t already know, and on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel I have been doing a series of videos about asexuality to raise awareness and understanding of this sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. Tonight, at 7pm UK time GMT, I have a live interview with my Asexual best friend who identifies as Non-binary. So I will be talking to them about how they first discovered they are asexual and about gender identity, particularly what is means to be non-binary! Make sure you subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video on my Asexualise channel. I try to live stream every day usually after 11pm at night and you can catch up with it afterwards if you miss an episode. Tonight’s episode is at the much earlier time of 7pm. Even if you are not asexual, supporters and those taking a genuine interest in what asexuality is, are always welcome to join in the live chat.

If you are questioning as to whether you may be asexual or you want to know more about asexuality, please watch this video!

 

If you have any questions about asexuality after watching these videos, please comment below!

I am with my Asexual best friend from today for 5 days in total and doing lots of fun stuff, including going to the Disney on Ice show on Saturday and it’s their birthday on Monday, so we are having a pre-birthday asexual group meetup on Sunday and going to Plymouth Aquarium on Monday, to see the new Terminator movie and eating in Nandos. In effect it’s 5 days of birthday fun for them and me, because I feel like it’s my birthday too! They are one of the bestest friends I have ever had in my life! So pleased I met them, they make the world a more special and precious place, just by being in it!

If you want to read more about asexuality, you can get a copy of my first book for asexuals, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY, here https://amzn.to/31OkTlA

Until next time, always stay quirky and write soon.

Lots of love

Sandra xx