How To Shift Your Mindset From Writer And Author To Your Own Book Publishing Business


Ever wanted to own your own Book Publishing Business but you keep doubting yourself that you can? Or maybe you have never considered it, because you always thought traditional publishing was the way to go … no, and in this post I reveal why, and how you can stop doubting yourself for good. If that sounds like something you want to know more about, read on…

From 2nd October 2020, I went through hell, with mental, physical, and emotional trauma. It took me a year to leave a day job (October 10th 2021 was the day I officially left), that made me really poorly because of things that went on which I wasn’t expecting and didn’t deserve, and I was off sick from for a long time (so been able to self-isolate a lot more than those who work and keep myself safer). I can’t currently discuss more about this publicly for legal reasons and might never be able to, but I think you get my point.

I went back to therapy for the first time since 2014, and was unofficially diagnosed with PTSD – I got an assessment score of 49. A score of 32 and above means you have the condition. Furthermore I was diagnosed with complex PTSD (CPTSD) as I have had uncontrollable emotions, and was crying almost every day I woke up, until 16th of December – when everything changed for the better, for good.

In November last year (2021), I went out clubbing for the first time ever since March 2020, for 5.5 hours, this was the first time since I broke my ankle back on 17th of April 2021 and I’ve done extensive physio to walk again and regain strength in that ankle enough to go clubbing. It was the longest I had clubbed for, since I went to Ministry Of Sound in London, in 2014. 2 days later I got sick with a respiratory/chest infection and lost my voice. I had to have 3 lots of antibiotics in 6 weeks and was still coughing on Christmas Day and on New Year’s Day I was battling with severe rib and chest pain – like someone had stabbed me with a knife in-between my ribs and left the knife in (even though they hadn’t), to the point where the next day it hurt me every time I breathed in (and felt like I was being cut with glass, on top of the feeling I had a knife in my ribs), and later I went to A&E on the advice of my local NHS Walk In Centre and Devon Doctors on call, who suggested a rib and chest XRay respectively. But instead of having an XRay I ended up in a Covid hot room, about to have a bed made up for me, a monitor hooked up to me, and blood tests taken, when I didn’t have Covid and all my tests for that had been negative. I was horrified! It was like something out of a surreal horror movie. They put my life at risk unnecessarily, because I had purposefully been keeping myself safe from getting it as I have a low immune system (which I take good liquid bacteria for) and too many allergies to have the vaccine. And there was a patient who was in the same room as me that I heard them diagnose with Covid right before the Doctor saw me, and I told them all my tests were negative for that – including the one I had done at 8am New Year’s Day, before visiting my parents and my guinea pig daughter Angel who lives with them. Their reasoning being I was in the hot room they said before the Doctor saw me, was because I had had a cough – I already told them I don’t think I coughed once that day, and the Doctor I saw before Christmas who said I had a chest infection, with some infection still in my lungs, said I would still be coughing after I finished the antibiotics she gave me and I had some rib pain then, just not as severe. They also said it was because many people have Covid and I am not vaccinated, which I felt were ridiculous reasons, just because lots of people have it and I am unvaccinated, doesn’t mean to say I would have it.

During the time I got sick (I got my first lot of antibiotics on 16th of November), I was forced to rest during that month as much as possible – although I did do some work on my Asexual Guide To Sex book, and take stock of my life, reflect on it, and what I really want to do with me life and make some drastic changes to it. For years I have had a voice in my head being a coach to myself that said, if you only just focused on writing books for the next 1-2 years and nothing else, what do you think your life would be like? And how much better it would be. But I was always crying, upset, and in pain from this, because I hadn’t made the decision to go all in before, I kept going off on tangents because people kept telling me I am not making enough money from my writing and I kept telling myself that. They told me I can’t make enough money from writing books, that basically it’s an add on to a business, not the business, and that I need to do something else to make money, because otherwise I will fail. And some of the people have years of business experience and made hundreds of thousands of pounds, one has even made billions, and published his own book. But… these people do not specialise in a book publishing business, they don’t focus on book publishing, they just use it as one asset in their tool box. For me, writing is my life and soul purpose, and my destiny given to me by God is to have lots of books out and publish by the time I die, so I can continue to save lives long after I am gone. I see that in my destiny and soul purpose (along with helping asexuals and getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. – That’s why I loooove writing books for asexuals. As it’s both my life and soul purpose in one).

As the beginning of December, I started working my way through the first 2 module of Ray Edwards – How To Set Up A Copywriting Business, video training course, that I bought on a late Black Friday deal. This course teaches you how to start a copywriting business and get clients. But… I only finished the first two modules, which apply to any writing business. That’s when it hit me twofold in the most profound way, and I love Ray for helping me figure this out.

  1. He said to, never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can. (This is because he was talking about copywriting is all about influencing others, but first you must be able to influence yourself – that’s it! The thing that changed the way I think.)
  2. Writing is a business and you can make thousands of pounds from it.

I didn’t need any more of that course, because that was enough to know I don’t want to work for someone else and write copy for others. I want to write more and more non-fiction books that change lives and leave a lasting legacy. And the 2 things I needed to do to accomplish that, is to influence myself enough to know I can make thousands of pounds and a full-time living as a writer. And to focus on book writing as a business.

I had a wobble…

Self-doubt crept back in…

But on 16th of December 2021 my best friend Andy took me for a meal in Nandos as an early Christmas present. (He also bought me some pressies too for Christmas Day.) Before we went out, we discussed my self-doubt and I was trying to understand why I didn’t fully believe in my intention, when I did the previous week. But then it hit me as I came out of the toilet in Nandos, what made the difference, so I was able to go all in… It was a mindset shift, from I am a Writer and Author, with my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books, which is fantastic, to I am the Writer, Author, Manager, Promoter, And Marketer, of my Book Publishing Business. But the most important thing to remember is Writer, Author, Owner, Manager, Promoter – (which involves far more self-promotion as part of a marketing strategy to sell more books), of my own Book Publishing Business of Quirky Books. And that’s when I decided to go all in and commit 100% to creating a successful book publishing business, rather just seeing myself as an Author and Writer.

I don’t think it’s the books that’s the problem – why I have lower sales than I would like, I think it’s me and my mindset that needs to change. I think I need to ensure that I promote myself and my books far more and get a lot more publicity going forward. Such as get on more podcasts, be in more online magazine articles, get more radio interviews, and so much more. Which I will be doing with my Asexual Guide To Sex book – so watch this space for that. I’m so excited! I think mindset is so overlooked when it comes to book sales, or lack thereof.

Last year I studied an expert in mindset shifting. He said instead of affirmations, you need to look for confirmations. Which is proof you can do it or have done it before. Which I am able to do with writing non-fiction books. I am a successful Author and writer who can make money from writing and publishing books, because I have consistent monthly income from once book since 2017, and another since 2019, even though I would like a much higher income from those, it’s still proof I can make consistent sales for years, when some people don’t make any sales at all. Also, a couple of years ago, a traditional publisher that had been in business for 35 years, found my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book in an LGBT shop in London and approached me on Twitter to tell me they were interested in publishing my book under their publishing imprint, but…:

  • They wanted to remove half the stories (because the ones including any mention of sexual abuse, would not be suitable for their publishing style and image, and it would make the book cheaper to sell, and they had a maximum price they would sell the book for.) Bear in mind the book is called “Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories“, it would mean changing the title also, and my audience getting less valuable stories.
  • They also wanted all of my reviews I had built up myself over the years. (Now I am not sure if that would have been possible anyway, because if they removed some of the stories and the title changed, it would have in essence made it a different book, and I don’t think KDP would have allowed that.)
  • I would have to ask their permission to quote from my own book (no thank you). I sell a lot of my books by quoting from them – so if you haven’t already tried to do this, I highly recommend it.
  • They wanted me to read another book to replicate that person’s style (no thank you, I want to keep my own style).
  • I would have got a maximum of 12% commission on book sales, even after the representative from their company had just told me on the phone I would have got 15%, he then reduced that figure in the follow up email. (Which immediately made me trust them less.) I get up to 70% through publishing my books myself using KDP.
  • In the end they agreed with me not take that book on themselves as they spoke to their marketing team and said because I have so successfully published that book, they doubt they could meet my marketing expectations.
  • They refused to take on my Asexual Sex Guide To Sex book, which they wanted to consider, and I had to apply to them to consider, because again, it has some stories which include sexual abuse and they thought the content would be too risky, but told me their marketing team said there is a market for it, and it will definitely sell. I was very happy and grateful I had this positive feedback from a company with 35 experience.
  • They were interested in publishing my next 2 books, after Asexual Guide To Sex, and years ago it would be my Author/Writer dream to have a traditional company publisher my book, but now I want to build my own book publishing business and get my Quirky Books imprint portfolio increased. I have no desire to work for someone else, when I am so super successful at publishing my own style of books, in my own voice. Raw, real, authentic.

I just need to write more books and focus on having an actual book publishing business and stop going off on tangents with things that have nothing to do with writing, publishing, promoting and selling, more books, because people keep telling me you can’t earn a full-time living from writing books alone – which simply isn’t true, because others are doing it, so why can’t I? Remember what Ray Edwards said, he said to: never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

So after all of the heartache and pain, and everything I have been through over the last year and more, I am so happy to now be focusing on Quirky Books as a book publishing business and accelerating my Author journey to another level entirely, and feeling much happier now I have clarity and focus on exactly what I want to do for the rest of my life and beyond. God has given me the precious gift of writing and made it my mission to write books that change lives, from pain to gain, so I am going to fulfil my destiny. He also gave me the mission to help asexuals, so by doing both it’s my ultimate bliss and happy place. I am also on my way to creating my Children’s Book publishing dream too, with immense help from the Children’s Book Creator course and the support group which comes with it. I would highly recommend it, if you want to write, illustrate, and publish your own Children’s books yourself. Although I have been working my way through the video training course, I am focused on finished my Asexual Guide To Sex book as a priority. Read more about the Children’s Book Creator course here: Calling All Would-Be Children’s Book Writer’s, Authors and Publishers – How To Write And Publish Your Own Children’s Books And Save Yourself Hundreds Of Pounds and remember, don’t let yourself be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Calling All Would-Be Children’s Book Writer’s, Authors and Publishers – How To Write And Publish Your Own Children’s Books And Save Yourself Hundreds Of Pounds


Ever thought of writing and publishing your own children’s books, but you don’t know where to start? (I found something that can help you with that!)

Are you stuck for ideas for your children’s books? (No problem, I got you covered, or rather they have! No pun intended!)

Have you written a children’s picture book story but NOT been able to:

Get it “professionally” published because the “professional” publisher says it will be hard to get the foreign translation rights as it’s in rhyme! Especially if you are not an established Author; not famous, or at least not in the genre of writing kid’s books. (If you have had this problem, I have been there too, many times, and it’s like bashing your head against a brick wall, because you need to publish a children’s picture book, to gain the credibility to write and publish more, but no one is willing to give you a break. Meanwhile your beautiful story is kept hidden from the world and all those children are suffering from not being able to read your beautiful book and be inspired by the illustrations.)

Which brings me onto another point…you have NOT been able to:

Get the book illustrated. And although you’re great at writing, you suck at drawing and haven’t been able to afford to pay someone to illustrate your book. (I was personally given an estimate years ago that it would cost me at least £370 for a 32 page picture book to be illustrated, which when you haven’t made a single penny from a picture book yet and you may not even have an audience for, is pretty frightening. What if it doesn’t sell? What if you don’t like the illustrations? What if the illustrator let’s you down and doesn’t finish the job, or does it in such a way that it’s unpublishable? £370 down the toilet and your heart dropping to the floor with all that upset and pain…)

Which brings me onto my next point..

What if you do a collaboration with an illustrator, where they get to use your story for free to contribute to their university degree, in exchange for them doing the illustrations for you for free. Great idea right? If you are starting out with NO money at all, and you don’t want to spend any money out to begin with. What could go wrong with that? You are both getting something for free in monetary terms, but that is a huge investment of time, energy, and effort on both your parts, and can take hours, days, weeks, months of meetings, emails, communications, delays. I have been there, done that, and although perhaps I didn’t spend that much time on it, the process did go on for the years of his degree and I was let down badly after he graduated!!! You see, he got my story! He finished his degree! And it was because of my story, that enabled him (I shall not mention his name) to succeed so much in his degree, that he passed with flying honourary colours. But… he never finished the illustrations. He stopped replying to my messages about the illustrations, and I had to stop wasting my time on a person that clearly was not going to deliver what he verbally promised me he should deliver – all the illustrations for my book, which presumably he had to do for his degree anyway, I did see one of them in a meeting with him, but that was about it. It was after that I looked into the cost of paying someone else to do them and I felt it just wasn’t worth it, because of all the what ifs I mentioned. And after I had my trust broken so badly and been let down, it made me scared to trust anyone else again, and I also had another problem…)

Not knowing how to get the illustrations from drawings into the book itself.

Or how to create graphic illustrations suitable for this type of book in software.

How to format a children’s picture book to upload to Amazon Createspace at the time – which is now KDP publishing.

It was an absolute frigging nightmare. That didn’t stop…

So all the beauty, time, energy, effort, peace and happiness, and difficult re-writes of the book manuscript after “traditional professional publisher feedback” and feedback from my Freelance Writer’s membership FREE appraisal service at that time went nowhere, so it remained as a manuscript in an envelope sent to myself to copyright it. And a longing to get it into print one day… A longing I still have to this day, as it’s such an awesome book that I know kids will love and adore… Even though I’m now known for writing non-fiction books that change lives from pain to gain, for adults, and specialise in asexuality and still working hard to finish my Asexual Guide To Sex book which I started to write in June 2019 and still adding fresh content to.. life and ill health got in the way, but I am determined to get it finished and published.

I also wrote a second children’s picture book with a similar theme that I got feedback on from the FREE appraisal service with my Freelance Writer’s membership and then I started on my 3rd with the same theme as the first – I was building a series – but sadly they stopped the appraisal service and then I realised I am born to write non-fiction and turned my focus, time and attention onto that, and built an audience for my non-fiction books that change lives, and I would like to say, impacted the world in a huge way – with more still to come. BUT… I still want to publish my children’s picture books because I believe in sharing your stories with the world, rather than take them to the grave. I love to go to the cinema to kid’s club on self-dates. (I did that on Sunday.) I love watching kids movies. I love Disney and Pixar, and similar animated movies. The last film I watched Adams Family 2, and I loved the message at the end about we are supposed to be different and not like everyone else, so we should celebrate our differences within ourselves and know it’s okay to not fit in because we are different and that’s our beauty.

I am very different. I am like a business guy (even though I am female) and a quirky kid Disney Princess – you can even see me in my Ace Fibro Girl outfit at www.facebook.com/acefibrogirl And even though I don’t want children of my own, I get on well with kids and treat them as little beings in their own right, as equals and not less than me. You could say I treat them as young adults, who have their own mind and are intelligent. We have fun talking about movies together, if I get the chance to take to kids. Or just get on well in general, as they often like to talk and have fun in life and so do I. One of my new housemates has kids. I live in a self-contained flat in a house. So I live on my own and have housemates— how quirky is that!!! I also live like a teenager and my bedroom is full of cuddly toys and sparkly things. I love it that way. I reprogrammed my mind to be like 21 years old using NLP (neuro-linguistic programming some years ago. And went to Disneyland Paris in 2017 for my 21st Mindset birthday.

Even after all these years. I still have the strongest desire to publish my children’s picture books. That feeling has never left me. It’s on my bucket list to do before I die… which I am not planning on doing at all at… But you never know when your last day will be, especially with Covid around. So that’s why I leapt at the chance to get the Children’s Book Creator course here https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z, at only $147 it’s an absolute steal, (especially if your currency is ££££), with all of the video trainings you receive, all the support you get in the Facebook group, all the money it saves you by teaching you how to illustrate your books yourself, and all the time it saves you trying to figure out how to do this stuff on your own, why not get the new year off to a flying start by clicking here https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z to get your own copy of the course right now.

This course will solve all of these problems for you:

  • Save you hundreds of pounds you would usually pay for similar courses, which might not even come close to the quality of this one.
  • It will show you how to write, illustrate, and publish, your very own Children’s Picture book. Saving you time, money, and wasted energy trying to figure all this stuff out on your own.
  • Nuria really knows her stuff and takes the headache out of illustrating your book yourself using free and mostly low cost software and graphics. Saving you hundreds of pounds you would pay an illustrator to illustrate your books for you. And once you have these skills, you have them for life.
  • The Facebook group you get with this course, is worth the cost of the course alone. Even before you start the course itself, the expert advice, help, and support, by other Authors/Writers, is priceless. With ongoing support and feedback by Nuria and other writing and publishing experts in the group, as well as those just starting out with you.
  • You get to live your dream as a Children’s Book Author, Illustrator, and publisher, and be able to have the opportunity to put a smile on a kid’s face and brighten their day. That’s priceless.

So if you have ever wanted to write, illustrate, and publish your own Children’s book, but don’t know where to start, get this course now, here https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z don’t hesitate, we only live once and it’s a small investment for potentially huge returns. And you get to learn so much more about book publishing in general, including from the Facebook group alone, even before you start Nuria’s course – because this group is the one that comes with this course, not her free group, so these people in the group take writing seriously and are not just would-be writers. There are writers/authors in the group who make a full-time living from writing and who are experienced in publishing multiple types of books, such as journals and colouring books, not just picture books. They say your network is your net worth – so by expanding your online network with people who are successful at making money from publishing books and some who make a full-time living from it, it helps to shift your mindset to one of abundance and provides much more motivation to do the work and increases your chances of success at making a full-time living from writing and publishing books.

After all of the heartache and pain I’ve been through with not being able to publish my own picture books for years, and all the wasted time, energy, and effort I spent on that, and the yearning to still do that, coupled with everything I have been through over the last year with ill health (not Covid thankfully) and trauma resulting in CPTSD – more about this in the next post, I’m now at the stage where I’m focusing on my book publishing business and expanding my book offering to the world… but first finishing my Asexual Guide To Sex and promoting that for 3 months… and still got another book to write and publish for asexuals too this year. I wanted to let you know about the offer I came across, as it was too good to resist (Children’s Book Creator course), remember all the heartache and pain I told you about at the beginning of this post….

  • Not knowing where to start.
  • Not being able to get a traditional publisher to publish my book/s.
  • Illustrator letting me down and not delivering the illustrations.
  • £370 just for illustrating one picture book.
  • Not knowing how to get the illustrations from the drawings into the book itself.
  • Or how to create graphic illustrations suitable for this type of book.
  • Not knowing how to specifically upload a Children’s picture book to KDP and successfully publish it.
  • Potentially dying with my picture books inside me and taking them to the grave with me, and denying kids the opportunity to have their day brightened by me, and putting a smile on my face.

This course solves all of those problems and more, see screenshot below about – What You Will Accomplish At The End of this course, taken from my course dashboard inside my own private members area, so I highly recommend it, here is the link https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z

From Nuria herself: “So many of us have always wanted to write a children’s book. It’s an incredible feeling when you are holding your printed book in your hands and read through the pages. And an even better feeling is knowing that, someone somewhere, is reading your book to a child! If you have ever thought about writing a children’s book but don’t know where to start, or if you already produce low content books on Amazon KDP, like planners, journals or activity books, then this is one step further for you to take your book publishing to a higher level. But this is not a course teaching you about the traditional way of publishing a book. This is an unconventional way of producing and self-publishing your book and may not be what you expect. This course is for anyone who wants to publish a book but hasn’t got a clear story in mind and who is very flexible about what kind of children’s book they are going to create. I will teach you how to choose your topic so that you have the best chances of selling your book. And we will use pre-made images and graphics, so you don’t have to use an illustrator. So book will be completely self-made and self-published, from start to finish.” So if you have ever wanted to know how to write, illustrate, and publish your own children’s books, get your copy of the Children’s Book Creator course now https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z and save yourself hundreds of pounds it would cost you to pay an illustrator

On 16th of December 2021, and in the month leading up to it, I had a huge mindset shift (post to follow about that) and I’m determined not to let 2022 be like 2021. The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again, expecting to get a different result, and I realised I have to change what I’m doing and go all in with my writing as a book publishing business, focusing solely on that and continuing to build my audiences for those books. Especially since quitting my full-time day job that made me severely poorly on October 10th 2021. Buying the Children’s Book Creator course, I believe, will take my writing and book publishing business to another level entirely.

So if you are fed up with where you at right now, and you don’t want a repeat of 2021, you need to do something different, or you will end up being on the hamster wheel of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again in 2021. And experiencing all of the pain that went with it.

You know one year from today, you will certainly arrive somewhere, the question is where?

If you want that to be a different destination than in the past, you are going to have to take a different path. If you want to get different results, you’re going to need to take different actions and learn new skills.

I believe everything happens for a reason, and it’s not an accident you’re here at this page, and this is the different path, the different action you need to take. Let’s get your Children’s book publishing business started, let’s get you writing and illustrating your own Children’s books, uploading them to KDP, and help you create true, passive, set and forget income, for life. I can’t wait to become part of your success journey and see you in the Children’s Book Creator course Facebook group. Click this (affiliate) link https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z to get you copy of the Children’s Book Creator course, now! (I only recommend products I believe in and usually use myself – such as this one.) I can say with certainty, this is one of the best investments I ever made. I see other student’s, in real time, who have created their books and getting advice of other students on their masterpieces, by sharing some of their beautifully illustrated book pages they have created, their results are amazing! I am so happy I bought the course. I would encourage you not to hesitate in getting the course yourself. The accompanying Facebook group is very active and supportive and is worth the price of the course alone. Not to mention all the time and money this course is going to save you, especially in the long-term. Get your copy now, here https://thehomeboss.podia.com/childrensbookcreator/6041z

How To Make Money Fast Selling On Vinted – FREE Vinted Bootcamp


How To Get Started Selling On Vinted – 10 Steps How To Make Money Make Cash With Vinted

Step 1

Sign up for a Vinted account here https://www.vinted.co.uk/invite/djsandyb

Step 2

Start selling right away by taking photos of the items you want to sell and then uploading those to the site.

Step 3

Add a title, which is one sentence about what your item is and state what colour it is.

Step 4

Be sure to add a description using as many words as possible that people would search for if they were looking for that particular item you are selling.

Be sure to add what size it is.

Add what colour it is, if you haven’t already added the colour to the title.

Select what category the item is for:

Women

Step 5

Men

Kids

Home

Step 6

You can add the brand if you know it, otherwise put it as “unknown”.

Step 7

State what condition it’s in.

Step 8

Add your preloved price.

Explore postage options and what you want to charge the customer based on the size and weight of the item/s you are selling. It’s handy to have a tape measure and some scales to ensure you get these correct, otherwise it could end up costing you money if you haven’t calculated it properly.

I predominantly use Hermes as it’s easy. Once the customer makes a purchase, they would usually buy the postage label too. You then download the postage label and print it off and attach it to your parcel, making sure not to cover up the barcode, otherwise it might not get to the customer or end up elsewhere, and drop it off at your nearest Hermes parcel shop, which is usually a local convenience store they got an agreement with. It’s that easy!

Step 9

But one more thing, make sure you have added your bank account details before you sell your first item, so you are good to go to receive your money. Money is transferred to your Vinted account once the buyer has received your item and confirms they have done so. You can then request that money to be transferred to your bank account whenever you want.

Step 9

Remember to say thanks to the buyer for their purchase, and inform the buyer when you are posting their item/s to them.

Step 10

Review the buyer and hope they then give you a review too.

You just made your first sale – Congratulations.

If you prefer to learn how to do this from watching videos, or you want additional insights on how to make money make cash with Vinted, check out my How To Make Money Fast Selling On Vinted – FREE Vinted Bootcamp here https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLTf1nqOracj8I8T4T5ACP8amYlEza7y1T or watch the video below and don’t forget to subscribe and hit that bell icon so you never miss out on how to make money make cash with Vinted and other ways to make money online.

DISCLAIMER:

Just to let you know, I cannot guarantee you will make money fast selling on Vinted. Some items may be quick to sell. Others might take months to sell. Some might not sell at all. But if you don’t try, you will never know, and my How To Make Money Fast Selling On Vinted – FREE Vinted Bootcamp, will help you to sell as much as possible, providing the price is what the customer wants to pay. Many of the items I have sold have only been for a few pounds each, but they all add up, declutter my home, and get me some cash in the bank. Now it’s your turn to do the same.

What Is Asexuality? Asexuality Q&A #aceweek


What is asexuality? What does it mean to be asexual? What is grey asexual? What’s a pure asexual? What is the asexual spectrum?

Watch the What Is Asexuality – YouTube #shorts video above and read the asexual flags below, to find out…

What is asexuality?
A lack of sexual attraction
You don't get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse
Asexuals form an asexuality spectrum of nuanced identities
From those who experience no sexual attraction, to those who experience it only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances.
Asexuality spectrum from pure asexuals to grey asexuals

If you are new to asexuality, or you want more help understanding the asexual spectrum, and how to navigate dating, relationships, and life, as an asexual, in a highly sexualised world, I have been helping asexual for over 6 years now on my Asexualise channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife that you can subscribe to, which will help you with many aspects about asexuality, and especially dating and relationships. I usual live stream daily and you can ask me anything you want in chat there.

If you are still discovering about asexuality and more about the asexual spectrum, I have a Free Asexuality Basics For Beginners course that you can sign up to here that also shows you what the asexual spectrum is www.asexualiseacademy.com

I also wrote a book and interviewed 46 asexuals around the globe and across the asexual spectrum for it, https://amzn.to/2Lk5en3 What is good about this book, is it does not just give text book definitions of orientations across the asexual spectrum, it shows you them, through their answers and the personal details they share. It answers most questions you could think of about love, life, and sex, from an asexual point of view, including those you feel afraid to ask!!

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I thought I had my shit together, but my life fell apart…

“Let me tell you a quick story…”

I’d been on benefits and out of employed work for 3 years after being made redundant. I felt trapped in a benefits system that was financially unsustainable. I was about to start my dream employed job, or so I thought…I was nervous, scared, and apprehensive, about leaving a benefits system that had been my life support for 3 years. I thought this new dream ’employed’ job would be my ticket to financial freedom, as the pay was great and I would never have to worry about money ever again. I was set for life, or so I thought…

“Up until that point…”

She needed insulin or she would die!
“Then something happened that changed my life forever…”

I gave up what they call ‘legacy’ benefits in the UK, which I could never get again, to start my new employed dream job. Which scared the shit out of me because I had nothing to fall back onto if the job didn’t work out.Although these benefits weren’t sustainable, as my savings to make up the shortfall were rapidly decreasing, I felt a degree of security and comfort of this safety blanket that had been my lifeline for the last 3 years. But I was confident that I could do this job, as I had worked in a similar role before. So was looking forward to getting started.

“At the time, I had no idea the impact this would have. The problem was…”

On my first day of work I met my new employee. But as soon as we were alone she said she wouldn’t abide by any rules she didn’t like. Alarm bells were ringing throughout my entire body.This was a HUGE red flag.Something wasn’t right… there was an eerie feeling to this and I didn’t like it one bit.I raised the point with my manager but he backed up her point by saying there are no rules! And later reiterated this to me in front of her.Something strange was going on… but I had already left legacy benefits and felt compelled to stay in my new role, even though I knew something was off and wasn’t right.It wasn’t easy finding a job I could do with my disability, and if the job centre classed me as gainfully self-employed, despite my part-time income going out in expenses, so I couldn’t take a wage, I wouldn’t be able to get any benefits for food or rent.Going back to live with my parents wasn’t option, so I could end up homeless, starving, and on the streets!

I didn’t want to end up homeless, starving, and on the streets! 

“Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse…”

But it didn’t stop there… I was in shock and disbelief!

“I was on a downward slide because…”

“Needless to say, I felt like…”

“Lockdown happened. I raised a grievance, but what happened next was devastating...”

“That’s when I truly hit rock bottom…”

 

This is important…”

“This meant…”

“That’s when I decided…”

“Then, something happened that changed everything…”

 

“I realised 4 major things…”

  1. Self-doubt: It was majorly debilitating, like constant chronic pain. I didn’t realise I had it so bad.
  2. Fear: I had allowed this to take over me and become irrational in the process.
  3. Attachment: To a job that no longer served me. 
  4. State: I would wake up almost every morning back to square one. I call this the seesaw effect. So I managed to tap into all of my learnings and put myself in a positive state by the end of each day, but the next day I was worried sick and crying again whenever I woke up.

As I searched for answers, it hit me like a ton of bricks and I had a revelation…”

Something a mindset coach said. He talked about state and how many people attend personal development courses, training, workshops and seminars, but the changes they make at these events, rarely stick. This is because they are put in a change of state at that time. But when the event is over, they get out of that change of state and go back to their old state and way of being.

He went onto explaining how we have 3 parts to our brain:

The conscious. 

The subconscious.

The super-conscious. 

It’s the super-conscious part of our brain that we need to change. This is where patterns of behaviour from childhood and conditioning from the ages of 0-7 years usually takes place, and if we want to rewire our brain for success and happiness, we need to rewire this part of our brain, and this is done through repetition of the right things – which is why I created my revolutionary ©MindSelf E-Journal, to do just that.

“When I made this discovery, it was my biggest aha moment, and everything just fell into place…”

I thought back to all the past life-changing events that I ever went to. When I saw people live on stage, such as Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard and Andy Harrington. They all put the audience into a peak emotional state, but when the event was over, many of those people got out of that state, they stopped doing the things they learnt, and went back to their ‘normal’ lives, and their old brain habits and patterns which no longer served them. It wasn’t enough to consume their content at the time, in order to make these new changes to their lives stick, they would need to be in a permanently new state of being. Where the new habits and patterns of behaviour, would thrive and flourish.

Andy Harrington and Sandra Bellamy at his Stand and Deliver Speaker Training, getting Andy’s Passion Into Profit book signed.

That was the spark / the kick in the tail I needed.

I was scared but optimistic.

I knew I was on the right path. 

“Here’s what happened next…”

“Then one day I looked up and realised I could now…”

“I was forever changed by the fact that…”

And now I can help others do the same.

“I now felt like a new person…”

My revolutionary ©MindSelf Journal can do the same for you.

“And that’s why I knew I couldn’t stop there. I realised…”

I needed to make this journal available to as many people as possible and not keep this to myself a moment longer, so you can discover how to do what I have done and make it even easier for you to follow in my footsteps and rewire your brain for success and happiness, and make it stick.

This revolutionary ©MindSelf Journal is a premium E-TOOL that will enable you to:

  • Stop procrastinating, enables you to boost your productivity and get more shit done faster, so you can achieve quicker results. 
  • Stop that constant seesaw of emotions, that’s like a rope around your neck and constantly weighing you down. So you can be more stable and self-assured and move forward faster. 
  • Permanently rewire your brain for success and happiness on a deeper super-conscious level through a variety of written, physical, and mental exercises, affirmations, and planners. So you stop wasting your time and money, over and over again, going to training courses, seminars, and workshops, that you pay hundreds or thousands of pounds for, but fail to leave you with lasting change. 

Just imagine how that will feel?

“Now I am…”

Focusing on creating TOOLS people can use to do what was previously “impossible”. 

“This makes me feel…”

I have a new lease of life, there’s so much more for me to do… I’m just getting started!

“Now I’m able to help…”

Entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, affiliate marketers, coaches, mentors, speakers, authors, trainers, creatives; people just like you, go from dead stuck, with negative emotions spiralling out of control and ruining your life, to raising your vibration in multiple aspects of your life, and making those vibrations stick, so that success becomes inevitable.

Right now, I am offering you the best tool I have created to date, the ©MindSelf Journal.

  • At a fraction of the cost of what I should be charging and will be charging for this in the future, at a crazy no-brainer, super-special, initial early bird promotional launch price of just $25, yes you did read right, for just $25 this ©MindSelf Journal will change your life, or your money back. It’s a *549 page premium E-Journal that you can download instantly from your own private members area on Asexualise Academy Club, print off, and start using it right away.
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“What I’d like you to take away from all this is…”

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Unless you get your mindset to work in your favour, no amount of skills, life experience and work experience, will stop you from self-sabotaging and becoming your own work enemy in pursuit of your dreams. If you want to become your best self to achieve your dreams, you have to work on your mind, because that’s the key to your success. 

Your mindset affects your self-worth, your business, your income, your relationships, and your day-to-day activities and life. I’m on a mission to help people consciously create the life of their dreams by working on their mindset. This starts with rewiring your brain for success, by getting rid of bad habits and negative thought patterns and behaviours, and replacing them with some new, positive, and healthy ones. 

This revolutionary life-changing ©MindSelf E-Journal, is a tool designed to rewire your brain for success and happiness, in multiple aspects of your life and business. It will help you gain clarity, be more organised, increase your positivity and productivity, so you can feel more happier and successful, within your mind and self. MindSelf.


Through daily repetition of new and better habits; where you focus on an abundance of things you do have to be grateful for; positive affirmations to boost your self-worth, self-esteem, and ultimately your joy, happiness, and increase your productivity, and ultimately your bank balance, and to help you to have healthier and happier relationships with the ones you love.

Each day has a different inspirational quote and question for your soul, to enable you to self-love more, to self-reflect, to become more self-aware, and to grow your self. The more you become self-aware, the more you can consciously create the life of your dreams by becoming more an observer of your, thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and why you do the things you do. You can’t fix what you don’t know or understand.

This MindSelf Journal has 31 days of content, but the pages have purposefully got space for you to add your own day and date to each one, where applicable, in case you start using your journal part way though the month, so as not to waste any pages. This is especially true for your daily inspirational quotes and questions for your soul and your Daily Planner. Also, your Weekly Planner, which is available for days 1, 8, 15, 22, and 29, purposefully has space for you to write the name of the days in, so you can start your week at whatever day is convenient to you. Your planners help plan and utilise your day, without wasting any time.

There are also 70 extra pages where you can add additional answers to the inspirational quotes and questions, which vary every day from month-to-month; you can create your own happy list and positive affirmations, you can share whatever is on your mind to free it up, and write more creative ideas that spring to mind, and plan your day out in even more detail.

Each day of the week has:

PAGE A

List 7 things you are grateful for as soon as you wake up. To get you into the habit of having an abundance mindset, and to foster positivity as soon as you wake up. 

This helps rewire your brain from negative to positive.

PAGE B

Positive affirmations for eliminating self-doubt, and fostering trust within yourself. If you doubt yourself, you will procrastinate, not take enough action, and second-guess everything you do, leading to self-sabotage, which holds you back from making any real progress in your life and business, leading you to longing for something more, but not knowing how to obtain it. 

Use these specific Law Of Attraction affirmations to rewire your brain for self–belief, self-trust, and to help you to make decisions more confidently and decisively, so you can move forward faster and make more progress quicker in your life and business.

PAGE C

Positive affirmations to boost your self-image and bask in your sexy power and awesomeness of the individual contours of your body, that make up unique you. 

You may have found it hard to look at yourself naked in the mirror, but right now, that’s all about to change for the better, forever. 

If you feel more confident in your own body and skin, that will naturally radiant throughout your whole being and more and more people will be attracted to you like a magnet. When you start finding yourself more and more attractive, you instantly become more attractive to others. Because your value goes up in your own mind, so too, does it in other’s minds.

PAGE D

Positive affirmations to boost your productivity. 

The power of the Law Of Action. 

It’s great to have a dream, but without taking any action, that dream is unlikely to become a reality. 

Fears and procrastination can hold you back from what you truly want in your life. 

So it’s essential you get into the right mindset for productivity. The more you take action, the more momentum builds and the more confident you become, so the more action you will take. 

These specific Law Of Action affirmations are designed to rewire your brain to think and feel more positively about getting things done, so they become more of a pleasure than a chore. 

This increases your productivity, so you can move forward more confidently in your life and make more progress to get s*it done faster, more efficiently, more effectively and more effortlessly. 

(I call these the 3 E’s.)

PAGE E

Wealth affirmations. You might have been taught negative connotations in regard to making money, such as money is the root of all evil, money doesn’t grow on trees, or it’s greedy to want too much money. These negative connotations when reiterated over and over again, stop you from forming a healthy relationship with money and hold you back from charging your worth, and often prevent you from getting the money you truly desire and seek.

These affirmations, some of which are taken from T. Harv Eker’s Millionaire Mind Intensive live event training for rewiring and mastering your mind in regard to money, which I have been to – will rewire your brain for thinking more positively about money, for increasing your own value in regard to your worthiness in obtaining it, and increasing the value you give to others in your own eyes. 

If you are able to consistently believe and feel, that the value you give to others is always worth far more than what you charge, because the transformation you enable them to have is priceless, it will give you increased confidence to value your own worth more highly and take ownership of your financial success.

PAGE F

These Law Of Attraction self-love affirmations are essential for increasing your own value and self-worth, and for attracting and receiving loving relationships into your life. 

If you’re feeling good about yourself and that people are loving you and wanting to talk to you and be in your company, this will not only help you in your personal relationships with loved ones, family and friends, but also in attracting the right people for your business and to help make you wealthy. 

Say these affirmations with your hand on your heart in front of a mirror and feel the power of an abundance of love flowing deep within your soul, and throughout every cell in your body. Now close your eyes. It’s like bathing in a sea of love. Extremely powerful.

PAGE G

Every day you will list 12 things you love about yourself. This will increase your self-value and self-worth. 

The more you love yourself, the more you will feel better in your own company, the more you will be happy and at peace with who you are; stable, strong, and secure within your own soul. 

The more you find things to love about yourself, the more attractive you will feel and the more confidence you will create within you. The more attractive and confident you feel in your inner world, the more you become attractive to others, because you attract what you are. That’s the power of Law Of Attraction.

PAGE H

Trusting your own intuition is essential for living your own life purpose and designing a life that you adore. 

It’s easy to get caught up in the noise of other’s lives and what they deem is the best and right thing for you to do with yours. 

But once you start tapping into your own intuition and allow yourself to trust it and for it to lead your life, instead of having other’s push their own agenda’s on your life and try to lead your life for you, you can see the magic and wonder unfold, as you develop a strong sense of inner knowing and guidance, that everything is always working out for you in divine timing, and begin to say no to others, to get the happiness you truly deserve, love, and crave.

PAGE I

One way of hearing your intuition more and more and tapping into your personal power, is to ask yourself; what is your intuition telling you right now? 

This page is designed to ask you this question on a daily basis so you can tap into your soul energy and ask it what to do next. 

This will develop a greater sense of true self-worth and self-reliance within you, so you make better decisions on how to live your best life, which is in keeping with your soul values and what matter most to you. 

Tapping into your intuition will enable you to get out of your comfort zone, push through your fears and boundaries, and achieve things before, which you never thought possible. It will help you to believe in your own abilities to work things out and to rise to unforeseen challenges along the way to living the life of your dreams.

PAGE J

Happiness is an internal job.

It’s important you create your own happiness in your life and don’t rely on other people for it; otherwise you give away your personal power. 

Every day this page is designed to get you to focus on what makes you happy. 

Being happy and staying happy is like a muscle you need to exercise daily, by incorporating as many things as possible that make you happy into each and every day of your life, it will help you to feel good and better for longer and help you to increase your value and self-worth. It will give you the energy and willpower to do more and live life to the fullest. So you will procrastinate less and get more s*it done as a result, which will make you feel better about yourself as you increase your life satisfaction and fulfilment.

PAGE K

If you’ve read World Leading High Performance Coach Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Habits book on how to create an extraordinary life, you will know that without clarity, you will be directionless, procrastinate, and feel stuck and unfilled in life.

Brendon says:

“Clarity on who you are is associated with overall self-esteem. This means that how positive you feel about yourself, is tied to how well you know yourself. On the flip side a lack of clarity is strongly associated with neuroticism and negative emotions. That’s why self-awareness is so key to initial success. You have to know who you are, what you value… and where you want to go. This kind of knowledge makes you feel better about yourself and life… Studies show that having a specific plan attached to your goals – knowing when and where you will do something – can more than double the likelihood of achieving a challenging goal.”

This is what page K is for, so you can get crystal clear on what your intention is for each and every day, and what you want to achieve. Having intention, creates purpose and direction, which gives meaning to your day, and creates drive and ambition to see a project or task through to completion.

PAGE M

Keeps you on track and crystal clear on what you want to do for the next day, so you are already prepared for it, and have offloaded any pending to-dos, so you can sleep more soundly at night, by having a greater sense of direction, control over your life and business, and inner peace knowing this.

Both the weekly and daily planners double the likelihood of achieving your goals faster, with clarity of intention, and a specific plan attached to your goals.

PAGE L

Is where you reflect on your day and get chance to celebrate your own successes, however big or small. 

Self-recognition of your achievements is vital for your health and wellbeing. 

By taking notice of your accomplishments, you value your own worth more, by making yourself seen and heard more by your self. Which increases self-appreciation and self-satisfaction. It helps you to self-love more, by realising all of the skills, experiences, and special qualities you have, that enable you to achieve all that you do. 

When you celebrate how far you have come and what you have achieved, this creates a work and reward set up in your brain, so when you have achieved something and taken notice of that, it empowers you to keep moving forward in your life and have greater successes.

PAGES 1-31

Each day for 31 days, (or however many days there are in that month) you have an inspirational quote and question for your soul. 

This inspirational quote and question changes every month, and is designed to:

  • Bring greater self-awareness, to give you more personal power.
  • Help make your life happier, brighter, and feel good!
  • Help you reflect on yourself and your life, to understand yourself better.
  • Give you personal insights.
  • Help you become a better version of yourself.
  • Help you to feel inspired, motivated, and enlightened each and every day, without having to waste time scrolling through Facebook or other social media, to get your daily does of inspiration, then going off on tangents so you get nothing done.
  • Foster positive emotions on a daily basis.
  • Activate a more positive mindset, daily.
  • Encourage new and better habits, so you can live the life of your dreams.

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Why is it so inexpensive? 

  • I’m doing this $25 deal, so I can help as many people like you as possible. 
  • Because I don’t want what happened to me, to happened to you. 
  • Just when I thought I had my shit together, my life fell apart. Don’t take the same mistake I did.
  • If this is your first time shopping with me, then I want to make it as easy as possible for you to say yes, because I know how life-changing this will be for you. 

It would be great to get some case studies too, so after you have done the work in the ©MindSelf Journal, if you want your case study and business to featured on the sales page for the MindSelf Journal, just shoot me a message, titled “I want my MindSelf case study to be featured” to sandrabellamygroup@gmail.com I reserve the right to choose whether to feature yours or not, subject to space limit and content.

Got any questions? Email me at sandrabellamygroup@gmail.com with the subject line “MindSelf Journal questions.”

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And I am currently throwing in a 40 day money back guarantee. 

So if you have followed all of the instructions in the ©MindSelf Journal, done everything every day for 31 days straight, and if for some reason you are not entirely satisfied and you don’t feel more productive and happier as a result. Then just shoot me a message to sandrabellamygroup@gmail.com with the title “MindSelf Journal I want my money back” with photographic or video proof of you having done the work, then I will refund your money back in full. You will lose access to your private members area on our ©MindSelf Journal Club membership site, and you won’t be able to download any more copies of the journal or bonus. But you still get to keep this life-changing MindSelf Journal you already downloaded, and the bonus that comes with it, as my way of saying thanks for trying it. 

Don’t delay, hit the button below now, and change your life today, so you can:

  • Stop self-sabotaging and stop self-doubting.
  • Stop procrastinating.
  • Boost your productivity.
  • Be open to new and better opportunities.
  • Feel better about yourself and your life.
  • Boost your confidence.
  • Increase your self-esteem.
  • Feel better about your body.
  • Have more clarity, to make more informed and better decisions.
  • Stop that constant, nagging seesaw of emotions, that’s like a rope around your neck and constantly weighing you down.
  • Permanently, make these changes stick.

If you’re fed up with being on a hamster wheel of unstable emotions, insecurity, self-doubt, under-confidence and instability, and you’re ready to move your life forward and get out of this rut for good, invest in yourself and lock in your special monthly MindSelf Journal membership now, so you can stop feeling bad and start feeling good. I know you can do this, I’m rooting for you! And I’m with you! You got this! Click the button below to get your ©Mindset Journal right now. Remember, you can get your money back, as you are backed by my 40 day money back guarantee. So you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Click the button below to get your ©Mindset Journal right now. 

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If you’ve ever wanted to master your mind and yourself, to stop procrastinating and take control of your day, instead of your day controlling you, this is for you.

If you’ve ever been to a Tony Robbins event, or other event, where you felt you made immense progress and changed your mind, only for it to go back to bad habits a short time after you returned home, this is for you.

If you dont think you’ll ever stop letting negative emotions from ruling your life and you feel powerless that things will never change, your mind is constantly in a negative spiral and you can’t seem to get s*it done, and you feel life is more s*itty than good, this is definitely for you.

If you’ve hit rock bottom, I understand you. No one tells you when you start running your own business of all the anxeity, stress, worry, and strain, that can induce, but it’s your dream, so you carry on regardless, not realising that your mind was not conditioned for this life, so you came unprepared.

I Never Expected This To Happen…

I have a confession to make, on December 22nd, I was sat in my bedroom, planning how to hang myself to end my life. It’s something I never thought would ever happen, because I freed myself of depression in 2012, and thought I would never go back to my suicidal mindset ever again. But that couldn’t have been further from the truth. Because before I never planned it in such great detail for it to actually be easy to make it happen. All that was stopping me was my mind. I know that if I am determined enough to do something eventually I will do it no matter what, and this is what is the most scariest part of all. The fact that in a flash I could end everything, the pain, the shock, the downward spiral and then it would all be over and I could rest in peace. I wouldn’t have to fight life any more, I could just go and no one would even notice, in my flat alone. All that would be required is a piece of rope and for me to kick the stool out from underneath me, then it would be done and the suffering would be gone. The feeling and temptation was instense. The only thing I could do, was to journal my way out of it. So that’s what I did. A journal saved my life. 

I couldn’t believe that after 8 years of being depression free, in October, something shocking happened which I didn’t see coming and lead me to becoming stuck and going backwards from all the good work I had done, with my mind and my life. I was confused and didn’t undertand how this could be. I became once again like the former version of me. and I didn’t what was going on or what happened to me, but I felt trapped and backed into a corner with no way out. I knew I had to be solution focused instead of problem focused, but that was easier said than done when I couldn’t see any immedietely solution but my basic needs under threat. Things continued to get worse, until well, you know…

That Was The A-ha moment Which Changed Everything!

So I was searching for months for answers to how this could be, and it seemed I hadn’t reprogrammed my brain on the super-conscious level, and that the events I had previously attended had put me in a state at the time, which once home, you get out of, and meant it was possible to slip back into bad patterns of negative thinking and habits that no longer serve you. I discovered about how to reprogram the super-conscious mind and change your identity to the upgraded version of you, where you feel more positive, get s*hit done faster, make better choices and decisions, gain more clarity, stop procrastinating and super charge your best self. (I am still learning more about this.) But in order to make what I learned stick I needed to create a tool, that would encompass all of the necessities for maintaining and sustaining this new found identity, including keeping me in a positive state, and so I could cement it through repetition. Which is how new habits are formed and stick, through consitent repetition. And so ©MindSelf E-Journal was born, and I have an exclusive early bird offer for you.

Your mindset affects your self-worth, your business, your income, your relationships, and your day-to-day activities and life. I’m on a mission to help people consciously create the life of their dreams by working on their mindset. This starts with rewiring your brain for success, by getting rid of bad habits and negative thought patterns and behaviours, and replacing them with some new, positive, and healthy ones.

Through daily repetition of new and better habits; where you focus on an abundance of things you do have to be grateful for; positive affirmations to boost your self-worth, self-esteem, and ultimately your joy, happiness, and increase your productivity, and ultimately your bank balance, and to help you to have healthier and happier relationships with the ones you love.

Unless you get your mindset to work in your favour, no amount of skills, life experience and work experience, will stop you from self-sabotaging and becoming your own work enemy in pursuit of your dreams. If you want to become your best self to achieve your dreams, you have to work on your mind, because that’s the key to your success.

Each day has a different inspirational quote and question for your soul, to enable you to self-love more, to self-reflect, to become more self-aware, and to grow your self. The more you become self-aware, the more you can consciously create the life of your dreams by becoming more an observer of your, thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and why you do the things you do. You can’t fix what you don’t know or understand.

Weekly and daily planners to help you to get sh*t done faster and more efficiently, increasing your productivity.

This journal will enable you to have your best mind and be your best self. MindSelf.

Revolutionary, Life-Changing, ©MindSelf Journal.

Mental health is mental wealth. This revolutionary life-changing ©MindSelf E-Journal, is a tool designed to rewire your brain for success and happiness, in multiple aspects of your life and business. It will help you gain clarity, be more organised, increase your positivity and productivity, so you can feel more happier and successful, within your mind and self. MindSelf.

This ©MindSelf Journal has 31 days of content, but the pages have purposefully got space for you to add your own day and date to each one, where applicable, in case you start using your journal part way though the month, so as not to waste any pages. This is especially true for your daily inspirational quotes and questions for your soul and your Daily Planner. Also, your Weekly Planner, which is available for days 1, 8, 15, 22, and 29, purposefully has space for you to write the name of the days in, so you can start your week at whatever day is convenient to you. Your planners help plan and utilise your day, without wasting any time.

There are also 70 extra pages where you can add additional answers to the inspirational quotes and questions, which vary every day from month-to-month; you can create your own happy list and positive affirmations, and write more creative ideas that spring to mind and plan your day out in more detail.

With your monthly ©MindSelf Journal Membership you will receive a new journal for every month of the year that you stay a paying member, by the 1st of the month. Any updates to the journal you will receive as well.

Each day of the week has:

Page A: List 7 things you are grateful for as soon as you wake up. To get you into the habit of having an abundance mindset, and to foster positivity as soon as you wake up. 

  • This helps rewire your brain from negative to positive.

Page B: Positive affirmations for eliminating self-doubt, and fostering trust within yourself. 

  • If you doubt yourself, you will procrastinate, not take enough action, and second-guess everything you do, leading to self-sabotage, which holds you back from making any real progress in your life and business, leading you to longing for something more, but not knowing how to obtain it.
  • Use these specific Law Of Attraction affirmations to rewire your brain for self–belief, self-trust, and to help you to make decisions more confidently and decisively, so you can move forward faster and make more progress quicker in your life and business.

Page C: Positive affirmations to boost your self-image and bask in your sexy power and awesomeness of the individual contours of your body, that make up unique you. 

  • You may have found it hard to look at yourself naked in the mirror, but right now, that’s all about to change for the better, forever.
  • If you feel more confident in your own body and skin, that will naturally radiant throughout your whole being and more and more people will be attracted to you like a magnet.
  • When you start finding yourself more and more attractive, you instantly become more attractive to others. Because your value goes up in your own mind, so too, does it in other’s minds.

Page D: Positive affirmations to boost your productivity. 

  • The power of the Law Of Action.
  • It’s great to have a dream, but without taking any action, that dream is unlikely to become a reality.
  • Fears and procrastination can hold you back from what you truly want in your life. So it’s essential you get into the right mindset for productivity.
  • The more you take action, the more momentum builds and the more confident you become, so the more action you will take.
  • These specific Law Of Action affirmations are designed to rewire your brain to think and feel more positively about getting things done, so they become more of a pleasure than a chore.
  • This increases your productivity, so you can move forward more confidently in your life and make more progress to get s*it done faster, more efficiently, more effectively and more effortlessly.
  • (I call these the 3 E’s.)

Page E: Wealth affirmations. 

  • You might have been taught negative connotations in regard to making money, such as money is the root of all evil, money doesn’t grow on trees, or it’s greedy to want too much money.
  • These negative connotations when reiterated over and over again, stop you from forming a healthy relationship with money and hold you back from charging your worth, and often prevent you from getting the money you truly desire and seek.
  • These affirmations, some of which are taken from T. Harv Eker’s Millionaire Mind Intensive live event training for rewiring and mastering your mind in regard to money, which I have been to – will rewire your brain for thinking more positively about money, for increasing your own value in regard to your worthiness in obtaining it, and increasing the value you give to others in your own eyes.
  • If you are able to consistently believe and feel, that the value you give to others is always worth far more than what you charge, because the transformation you enable them to have is priceless, it will give you increased confidence to value your own worth more highly and take ownership of your financial success.

Page F: These Law Of Attraction self-love affirmations are essential for increasing your own value and self-worth, and for attracting and receiving loving relationships into your life. 

  • If you’re feeling good about yourself and that people are loving you and wanting to talk to you and be in your company, this will not only help you in your personal relationships with loved ones, family and friends, but also in attracting the right people for your business and to help make you wealthy.

Page G: Every day you will list 12 things you love about yourself. 

  • This will increase your self-value and self-worth.
  • The more you love yourself, the more you will feel better in your own company, the more you will be happy and at peace with who you are; stable, strong, and secure within your own soul.
  • The more you find things to love about yourself, the more attractive you will feel and the more confidence you will create within you.
  • The more attractive and confident you feel in your inner world, the more you become attractive to others, because you attract what you are.
  • That’s the power of Law Of Attraction.

Page H: Trusting your own intuition is essential for living your own life purpose and designing a life that you adore. 

It’s easy to get caught up in the noise of other’s lives and what they deem is the best and right thing for you to do with yours. 

  • But once you start tapping into your own intuition and allow yourself to trust it and for it to lead your life, instead of having other’s push their own agenda’s on your life and try to lead your life for you, you can see the magic and wonder unfold, as you develop a strong sense of inner knowing and guidance, that everything is always working out for you in divine timing, and begin to say no to others, to get the happiness you truly deserve, love, and crave.

Page I: One way of hearing your intuition more and more and tapping into your personal power, is to ask yourself; what is your intuition telling you right now? 

  • This page is designed to ask you this question on a daily basis so you can tap into your soul energy and ask it what to do next.
  • This will develop a greater sense of true self-worth and self-reliance within you, so you make better decisions on how to live your best life, which is in keeping with your soul values and what matter most to you.
  • Tapping into your intuition will enable you to get out of your comfort zone, push through your fears and boundaries, and achieve things before, which you never thought possible.
  • It will help you to believe in your own abilities to work things out and to rise to unforeseen challenges along the way to living the life of your dreams.

Page J: Happiness is an internal job. 

It’s important you create your own happiness in your life and don’t rely on other people for it; otherwise you give away your personal power. 

  • Every day this page is designed to get you to focus on what makes you happy.
  • Being happy and staying happy is like a muscle you need to exercise daily, by incorporating as many things as possible that make you happy into each and every day of your life, it will help you to feel good and better for longer and help you to increase your value and self-worth.
  • It will give you the energy and willpower to do more and live life to the fullest.
  • So you will procrastinate less and get more s*it done as a result, which will make you feel better about yourself as you increase your life satisfaction and fulfilment.

Page K: If you’ve read World Leading High Performance Coach Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Habits book on how to crate an extraordinary life, you will know that without clarity, you will be directionless, procrastinate, and feel stuck and unfilled in life.

Brendon says:

“Clarity on who you are is associated with overall self-esteem. This means that how positive you feel about yourself, is tied to how well you know yourself. On the flip side a lack of clarity is strongly associated with neuroticism and negative emotions. That’s why self-awareness is so key to initial success. You have to know who you are, what you value… and where you want to go. This kind of knowledge makes you feel better about yourself and life… Studies show that having a specific plan attached to your goals – knowing when and where you will do something – can more than double the likelihood of achieving a challenging goal.”

  • This is what page K is for, so you can get crystal clear on what your intention is for each and every day, and what you want to achieve.
  • Having intention, creates purpose and direction, which gives meaning to your day, and creates drive and ambition to see a project or task through to completion.

Page M: Keeps you on track and crystal clear on what you want to do for the next day, so you are already prepared for it, and have offloaded any pending to-dos, so you can sleep more soundly at night, by having a greater sense of direction, control over your life and business, and inner peace knowing this.

  • Both the weekly and daily planners double the likelihood of achieving your goals faster, with clarity of intention, and a specific plan attached to your goals.

Page L: Is where you reflect on your day and get chance to celebrate your own successes, however big or small. Self-recognition of your achievements is vital for your health and wellbeing. 

  • By taking notice of your accomplishments, you value your own worth more, by making yourself seen and heard more by your self.
  • Which increases self-appreciation and self-satisfaction.
  • It helps you to self-love more, by realising all of the skills, experiences, and special qualities you have, that enable you to achieve all that you do.
  • When you celebrate how far you have come and what you have achieved, this creates a work and reward set up in your brain, so when you have achieved something and taken notice of that, it empowers you to keep moving forward in your life and have greater successes.

Pages 1-31. Each day for 31 days, (or however many days there are in that month) you have an inspirational quote and question for your soul. This inspirational quote and question changes every month, and is designed to: 

  • Bring greater self-awareness, to give you more personal power.
  • Help make your life happier, brighter, and feel good!
  • Help you reflect on yourself and your life, to understand yourself better.
  • Give you personal insights.
  • Help you become a better version of yourself.
  • Help you to feel inspired, motivated, and enlightened each and every day, without having to waste time scrolling through Facebook or other social media, to get your daily does of inspiration, then going off on tangents so you get nothing done.
  • Foster positive emotions on a daily basis.
  • Activate a more positive mindset, daily.
  • Encourage new and better habits, so you can live the life of your dreams.

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FAQ:

What else will I need besides this journal?

You will need a printer with a good supply of ink and paper as this is a 549 page journal (Including 70 extra pages) and an A4 lever arch file to put it in, with a hole punch. (But you can buy those later, just don’t miss out on this earlybird price!) You will need to take daily action and do everything on every page, for each day, in order to instil new and positive habits and get rid of the old thinking for life. 

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A Poem For The Talkers – By Author Sandra Bellamy. With Thanks To Gary Vee.


Your job is one of the hardest.

Yet it’s one of the most taken for granted.

To keep a conversation going without uncomfortable silences,

is no easy task.

To have multiple text conversations going at once, making each individual feel they matter, is not easy.

To be able to speak fast to fit both your own life in and other people’s in it, and not waste a moment of your precious time, is a gift most people take for granted.

To be able to answer people when most wouldn’t bother because they are busy and have their own lives, and can’t speak so quickly or multitask their talking, is incredible. Sometimes they just don’t have the words to say, yet words never fail you. So it’s an incredible gift you have.

Yet talkers are often given a hard time.

That’s why I admire people like Gary Vee, who admits he interrupts people because he has so much energy. He often knows what people are going to say before they say it, and many a time I’m the same way as he. It’s not our fault if people talk too slowly, that we know what they are about to say, before they finish their sentence, but they want to finish it anyway.

But Gary Vee gets shit done, when others can’t. He lives as his true authentic self, when others can’t. He tries his best, and lives with zest. He doesn’t waste years of his life pretending to be someone he is not. He pumps out content faster than anyone I have ever seen, and he cuts his long talks up into smaller chunks, to impact the world and change so many thousands of lives at once. If he wasn’t a talker, who loves to talk, if he didn’t like the sound of his own voice, and he wasn’t gifted with the ability to use it every minute of every day, as much as possible, he wouldn’t be able to help people and prevent them from being lead astray. His success in helping others lies not in holding himself back, but in realising his talking is a gift to the world, for those who want to hear it.

So thanks to the talkers, the speakers, the long talk walkers.

Thanks for keeping conversations going.

Thanks for having so many wise words to say, and being ever knowing.

Thanks for all the groups and teams you hold together, through your text, videos, and audio talks.

Thanks for being there talkers, when others with less words fail to comfort those in their hour of need, because their words fail them, can’t you see.

Thanks for all you do, and the impact you create.

Thanks for being a great teacher because you repeat things over and over again, so I can remember them. Even if you do say them in a different way, it helps me to retain those memories, and important information and education. To improve my life and that of others.

Talkers prevent deathly silences

Talkers talk people out of suicide.

Talkers negotiate hostage situations to save lives. They even save their own life in this way too.

Talkers can make great writers because they never run out of words to say, there is no lack. They have yours and their own back.

Talkers are a walking book of wisdom throughout the years, one which you are benefitting from for free, often and usually.

Talkers have an abundance mindset because there is always more that can be said and to share.

Talkers are gifted in the art of talking, with the ability to strike up conversations with strangers, with ease.

Talkers can bring cultures together, and people together, that are oceans apart.

Talkers can flow in conversation with you.

Talkers can make you feel alive, because they get excited about a thing you are talking about, they may relate to it and do a talking interruption interaction, because it sparked off their creative talking ideas, and who knows where it will lead, but it’s an exciting adventure.. if only you would see it that way!

Yet talkers get given a hard time and are not appreciated for their aliveness and ability to think in the moment, and spontaneously interject.

If a talker hears what you say and gets excited in this way, it means they like talking to you, they value you, and they want to interrupt you to find out more, or explore more, dive deeper, than superficial idle chit chat. Go deeper than you may have done before.

Talkers have the ability to keep 3 conversations going at once, with the same person. So if your mind is all over the place, they will be able to go to each place with you, keeping up with that energy that others can’t.

Talking takes a lot of energy, it takes vibrancy and being ‘there’ with you.

Just because a person is a big talker, doesn’t make them a bad listener, this is a stereotype that is very damaging. In order for a talker to be able to talk a lot, they have to have been educated with a lot of words in the first place, which they had to learn and listen to.

Talkers will appreciate and love themselves so much, that they will want to tell their full story, they will want to finish what they are saying, and they will want to give the whole picture, to give context to foster understanding and meaning. They actually speak with purpose, intention, and meaning, not just for the sake of it, but because of a love for it and a zest for the life of words. To leave words unspoken that they feel needed to be said, is like containing them in a mental prison at times. This can lead to withdrawal and mental health difficulties. Some people need to be heard and talk, in order to be healthy.

Extroverts can get energised and buzzing off talking, it fills them up like a tank of petrol fills a car. They need talking, they like hearing what others have to say, and being around others. Sometimes they love active talking interactive interruptions, as well as active listening.

There is a difference between active talking interaction interrupts, because talkers get excited about what others are saying, and/or, it gets their creative mind juices flowing off on tangents, than people who are just interrupting for the sake of it, and trying to change the subject, because they don’t actually like what the other person is saying or they don’t want to hear it or listen to it

Tangents can lead to new revelations and make the conversation more exciting and interesting. So long as people also get to finish what they were saying in the first place, it’s all good.

But if someone is having a bad day, it can be a good thing to interrupt them anyway. To break their pattern, to get them to think of good and more positive things, so it can brighten their day. Talkers help in this way.

Talkers can also help people to talk more, to uncover within themselves, things they never knew before. This can lead to self discoveries, and help them to excel in their life and open up new possibilities.

Some people are uncomfortable with silences and talking is their preferred default.

Some people live on their own and the only person they have to talk to is themselves. If they are a natural talker or extrovert, this isn’t their most healthiest way of being for them. If you have a partner you regularly talk to, or someone you live with who is always there to talk to you, thank yourself lucky, you always have people to talk to whenever you want. Even if you don’t do this all the time, it’s an option.

Don’t expect a talker who doesn’t have much opportunity to actually talk to people, to waste that precious talking time. That’s like handing them a gift of life, and a lifeline, and then expecting them to put it under the Christmas tree to wait for the ‘right’ time to open that gift.

Talkers are often good at selling things; good at persuading people, good at acting, and anything that requires talking:

Texting and walking

Audio calls.

Video calls.

Writing books – the spoken word in words on a page.

Blogging.

Vlogging.

Public speaking.

Business seminars.

Workshops.

Online courses.

If you watch TV, movies, or any kind of videos with speech, you watch and listen to talkers. If you attend business seminars, you watch and listen to talkers. If you listen to podcasts or radios shows, you are listening to talkers. If you go to school, college, or universities, or do online courses, you watch and listen to talkers.

You get entertained by talkers.

You get educated by talkers.

You get informed by talkers.

You learn most of your stuff from talkers, whether that be audio, visual, or the written word.

Talkers have the power to heal, educate, and transform lives.

So think in your life if it weren’t for the talkers, you would have to keep conversations going yourself and reach for more water…or whatever you drink. You would have to make your own throat go rough, and your own voice go gruff. There would be no stories in your life, to teach you to thrive, and how to live wise. There would be no books in the world, education would be poor. There would be no one to negotiate situations and talk people out of death. We would all end up a self-talk in the head mess! Or a robotic cabbage if you prefer… so next time you meet a talker, maybe show some appreciation for a gift you don’t have yourself.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for… just being them.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for savings lives and preventing deaths.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for feeling so comfortable around you because they can talk around you. Instead of living with painful deathly silence.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for being so excited by what you are saying that they interact with you by way of interruption. And you know you didn’t passively bore them. But you can still finish your conversation.

If you want a talker to listen, say, “hey, I really want to talk about something now”. This will put them into active listening mode, if they are not in the middle of an intense story or conversation that they feel needs an ending for you to understand it’s meaning – sometimes context is everything, or misunderstandings can occur, and you don’t want to go there… Why not start your conversation by letting them know you need them to listen. They have gifts, but they can’t always read minds! Talkers like people to speak up and share what’s happening in their life!

A true talker likes the sound of their own voice but they like the sound of other’s too. They crave talking interaction, feedback, active listening, and pro-active resolution talking. Then are waiting to hear what you have to say. They don’t want to just talk to themselves. And they don’t feel heard unless other people are responding by talking too. They like the art of talking in a two way conversation, while having their say and being able to share and make a difference to your life and theirs too.

People pay to teach them how to speak in pubic, if you have this gift already, you are blessed. Talkers are usually change makers, if they talk with authenticity from their heart.

Maybe next time you meet a talker and they live alone and don’t get much chance to actually speak to people in real life, so would naturally have more words left in reserve to say, you can actually be there to support them in a – I’m happy to hear your words, talking way. And realise they may not have as many opportunities as you to talk, or enough opportunities to talk, that is a healthy amount of talking for what they personally need. If you don’t need as much talking, remember we aren’t all made the same and some are born for more.

Don’t expect talkers to get out everything they want to say in 3 sentences, although it doesn’t mean to say they can’t just talk like that if they have to or need to. And don’t expect them to get out everything they need to say in a 59 second audio message on Facebook Messenger, it may require a number of those, if they have something important to say, something that requires context and they have lots to say. Or they are busy doing something else at that moment, and you’ve interrupted their day.

How many times in your life have you paid to hear someone talk?

Think TV.

Think Movie.

Think business seminar.

Think online course or webinar.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for their time, because time is the most precious gift you can give to someone as you can never get it back, and while they are talking to you, they could have been saving more lives, or helping someone else with their words of wise.

If you don’t want to hear what a talker has to say, or you want to cut down their beauty in some way, allow them to be free to be with someone else, and don’t expect them to be there in your hour of need. Stop trying to make them something they are not, to make them play smaller, or not give them a shot. Even though this world is full of introverts and people who love silence, just think of all the talkers in your life, who helped you to become wiser.

Your difference is your beauty, never forget that, and if you are naturally a talker like me, don’t forget as well, Gary Vee, who makes no apology for being true, to himself, to being he. The entrepreneur millionaire who’s grown in popularity through talking more, he has shown us talkers the way forward, and opened up the door.

To all the talkers like me:

I’m sorry for all the hurt and pain people have caused you in your life, for not being able to see your beautiful gift, and to hear your silent cries.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you. Who want to make you like them and cage you like an animal.

I’m sorry that people want to treat you like a child that’s seen and not heard, that speaks when their spoken to, and punishes you with silence.

I’m sorry people want to contain you and stop your flow. They want to stop your river from flowing and put up a dam to contain you, to tell you how to flow, where to go, how to show up. It’s not their place to do that. You can’t live a life to please others, you are in life to have the courage to be you, no matter what. To be your true authentic self.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you, and they don’t understand that you don’t want to waste a moment of your precious life by cutting down your precious words. You don’t want to be contained and not be who you are.

One day they won’t be able to talk to you as much, people will pay thousands of pounds to hear you speak, and hang on your every word, they will appreciate who you are, and you will be more loved for who you are, far more than you have ever known. This is your destiny.

Sandra… you were born to speak on stage, all of these people that don’t have the capacity or comfortability to accept you for who you are, to really appreciate you for who you are, don’t matter. The only thing that matters is they are pushing you towards your destiny. That’s why they have shown up in your life, to be a reminder to you of your past, one you let go of, and you need to let go of again. To live the life of your ultimate purposes and dreams.

I refuse to be someone I am not for the sake of pleasing others and lead a miserable life containing my talking abilities. Playing smaller than I need to.

If you are reading this now and you also have extraordinary talking abilities, know that’s your destiny and gift to the world. Do not change it, because the few people that can’t handle it or who are uncomfortable with it, don’t matter by comparison of all the lives you will continue to save, and change for the better, forever, and that’s the most important thing.

Go be yourself, because you can’t be someone you’re not. Go be the game changer and the change maker, you were born to be, and you wish to see in the world.

I love you for who you are, you are super special. You have greatness within you and never let anyone dull your sparkle. Hugs XxxxxxxX

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What you will learn when you join Asexualise Academy Club

Mental health (Coping techniques/strategies) for anxiety, depression, stress)

In 2012, I freed myself of long-term depression and learned how to self-love. Over the years I have learned a lot about how to manage my anxiety better, so I can pass this knowledge onto you. Within the Asexualise Academy Club, you will learn how to develop new habits that make you feel good and are likely to stick, as we work on our Inspirational Quotes and Questions Journal together, to foster positive emotions, develop a feel good mindset, and grow your self-awareness, so you become a happier, more vibrant and energetic version of YOU, with less emotional pain in your life, which will reduce anxiety and stress, and help alleviate depression. Get extra group coaching, training, and insights, not in the journal, to help you to be more mentally healthy.

Mindset and Motivation (How to maintain a positive mindset, stay motivated)

Most people go along in life, with no real direction. They get up, do the same routines, and wonder why nothing changes to make their life better. Change starts from within. So in order to develop a positive mindset you need to develop more self-awareness. Each of the inspirational quotes and questions in your journal, is designed to inspire you and get you to think more deeply about yourself, your life, and reflect on what changes need to be made, to have a more positive mindset and be motivated to start each new day with renewed hope, confidence, and aliveness. Change can be difficult but with the right support, which you will get in the club, you won’t have to go it alone and you have support there whenever you need it most. Together we can make a change, and be the change others want to see, we can turn our life around and be more happy.

Advice, help, and guidance, about asexuality and related asexual life topics

Feeling lost, alone, or misunderstood, in this highly sexualised world? Trying to make sense of it as your asexual self, can be really tough, but with this kind of club, it will be like we are one big family and there to support each other, rather than living with aliens speaking another language. Worry no more. With my help and your participation, you can feel relieved that I am here to help you to live your best asexual life. Ask me anything you like about asexuality and asexual life related topics in live Q and A sessions within the group. You can post your questions beforehand and I will discuss them in live streams exclusive to group members only, and you can post questions at any time.

Dating and relationship advice (Including healthy friendships and relationships)

Everyone wants sex! At least that’s the way it feels if you’re asexual! Get more personalised help with exclusive members only group coaching on how to grow, develop, maintain and sustain, healthy relationships and friendships, including with yourself – so you stop self-sabotaging. Discover how to spot narcissists and abusers, before they worm their way into your heart, and steal your soul. Learn how to have open, honest, healthy discussions, with those you care about, like and love, so you can be more of your authentic self and lead a happier life. Learn how to put boundaries in places with sexuals and how to understand sexual language more, so you don’t get pulled into things you wish you never had! Learn how to keep yourself safe and happy.

A regular monthly online asexual/ally/channel fan meetup

Are you fed up with not having enough in person support around you? Do you feel like a fish out of water and you are wiggling around clinging to dear life and gasping for air? Do you feel suffocated and repressed among people who don’t understand you, who think you are making it up, or who completely invalidate your asexual identity and feelings? If so, I know how you feel. For years I didn’t know I was asexual, but I have always known I’m different. The relief of discovering I’m asexual in March 2014, and finding an online community of people like me, with similar mindset, beliefs and thinking, was just incredible. But… I was so desperate to meet other asexuals in person, offline, rather than just through forum comments or the occasional PM, to cement my asexual identity and be around people who understood me, and I could develop and strengthen those message only relationships into something real and tangible. So in 2015, I started successfully holding in person asexual meetups and when the pandemic hit in 2020, I did a few online asexual meetups, by Skype, these were popular and asexual people from all around the world came together, but I couldn’t devote enough time to do them regularly. For club members only, we will be having an online meetup, at least once a month, around the first Sunday of the month, scheduled for an hour, using the chat room and video feature, in our exclusive members only Facebook group. This means you don’t have to log out of Facebook and into somewhere else, it’s a lot more convenient, and if we need to get together for a special occasion or just to have extra support, we can do it! This is the next best thing to an in person meetup and it will help your mental health to have regular face-to-face contact with others like you!

Time management and productivity hacks and tips, so get the most out of life

We only have one life, but if we don’t feel we are making any progress in it, we stagnate, procrastinate, and feel down in the dumps. Can you relate? So our life takes a turn for the worse and we feel like giving up. I know, I have been there, and I’m still a work in progress where procrastination is concerned. I don’t pretend to be perfect, but over the years I have learnt many things to help me manage my time better and be productive, so I will be teaching these to you. Once you can manage your time more effectively, you will automatically become more productive, feel like you are making progress, and have greater satisfaction in life by achieving more, making yourself happier in the process.

Life hacks on how to live your best life, tailored to group needs

From where to get tasty allergy free foods, to how to market your own book, make spare cash online, or how to make new friends, it’s your group, so you tell me what knowledge and information you need, and I will do my best to provide you with it. I have been studying personal and professional development since 2012, so I am a walking brain of knowledge and experience that you can utilise to help you live your best life, to love yourself more, to fulfil your goals, ambitions and dreams, and to make your difference in the world, to make it a brighter and more happier place, because you’re in it. You matter, your needs matter, so make this group your own, tell me what you need to know and I will throw in some surprise life hacks along the way, to make your asexual personal life journey, the best one ever.

 
 
 
 
When you click through the link you will be taken to PayPal to subscribe to Asexualise Academy Club monthly subscription service, for a nominal fee of just £25 a month, (that’s less than 84p day) which you can cancel at any time. Don’t have PayPal – click “Check out as guest” (see screenshot below).
 
 
 
Don’t have PayPal – click “Check out as guest”.
After you have subscribed, email me asexualise@gmail.com with your Facebook profile details, so I can invite you to join the members only club group, where all the training will take place and your FREE monthly journal with be delivered with your FREE unicorn art posters. It’s that simple! Just download your journal and join in the live streams to get extra insights and coaching/training – or watch on replay. Your email will also be added to an exclusive monthly membership newsletter, so I can send you highlights about the groups events, what’s happening, and any special offers, which you can opt out of at any time. So by giving your email you consent to that.
 

Are you asexual and struggling to cope with:

Life – Negative thoughts consume you!

Dating and relationships – everyone wants sex!

A lack of understanding and social support – with only your cat or cuddly toy for comfort?

If you answered yes to any of the above, you’re in the right place! Besides all of the benefits listed at the top of this page, which includes a monthly meetup and dating and relationship advice, included in your monthly membership programme you will also receive, EACH AND EVERY MONTH, for FREE, a new INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES AND QUESTIONS FOR THE SOUL JOURNAL, – pictured at the top of the photo, and a second non-branded/no ace references copy, (shown below it) in case you’re not out as being asexual, or in case you’re an Asexualise channel fan or ally.

 
 
This PREMIUM E-BOOK, took me over 10 hours to create and is also sold separately as a stand alone monthly subscription (more details on that below). WE WILL WORK THROUGH THIS PREMIUM E-BOOK JOURNAL TOGETHER THROUGHOUT EACH DAY OF THE MONTH, to foster positive emotions, get into feel good habits, with additional coaching and training from me on the various topics, TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE your life, in a members only private Facebook social learning group, which is where all content and freebies, will be delivered. This Inspirational Quotes And Questions For The Soul Journal, for every day of the month, has it’s own individual page and space for you to write, with an inspirational quote on it, and a question related to that quote (in some instances you’ll have more than one question) for you to think about, and carefully write your answer/s to underneath. Many pages also have cute thumbnail illustrations, and there’s a bonus 5 extra pages at the back, that you can use to expand more on some of your answers, share what’s on your mind, or just have a general doodle.

This Inspirational Journal will:

  • Help you to feel inspired and enlightened each and every day.
  • Help you to feel motivated each and every day.
  • Foster positive emotions on a daily basis.
  • Activate a more positive mindset, daily.
  • Encourage new and better habits.
  • Help make your life happier, brighter, and feel good!
  • Help you reflect on yourself and your life, to understand yourself better.
  • Give you personal insights.
  • Bring greater self-awareness to give you more personal power.
  • Help you become a better version of yourself.

 

When You Join Asexualise Academy Club Today You Get These Asexual And ACE FREE Gifts

Join Asexualise Academy Club right now, for just £25 a month, (that’s less than 84p a day), or if you prefer to pay weekly, you can do so now for just £6.75 a week, by clicking the link here Asexualise Academy Club Pay Weekly, and get the 4 FREEBIES pictured. So 2 versions of the journal (ACE and Non-ACE branded) and 2 versions of the Digital Art Posters (unframed) – pictured right, for FREE as a bonus gift! The blue I’m A Unicorn Digital Art Poster (unframed) is in case you’re not out as asexual, so is the journal with the blue wording, or in case you are an ally or Asexualise channel fan, but you may use all of them. All FREE!

Journals are in PDF format and the 2 Unicorn Digital Art Posters are 300DPI Print Quality, JPEG digital download, for you to print off yourself and frame yourself.

Click the link below to subscribe via PayPal, then email me asexualise@gmail.com (or contact me in the chat bubble on this site) with your Facebook profile URL – so copy and paste the details from your browser bar of your Facebook profile and email me with it, so I can add you to the Facebook group, where your freebies wait and you start your asexual personal growth and personal development journey and transform into a happier, more acesome version of you.

 
 

What Asexualise Channel Fans Have To Say

I’m so glad you created the Asexual Academy Club. Marissa Clifford

Why Learn From Me?

Sandra Bellamy (Aka Asexualise)

  • Over 5.5 years, helping, educating, and coaching asexuals, on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel.
  • I was a speaker at the UK Asexuality Conference, in London, in 2018.
  • Published my first non-fiction book, Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, in 2017, and now working hard to finish writing and publishing my second, soon.
  • Over 8 years of personal and professional development experience; training with, and learning from, some of the best coaches in the world.
  • Worked as a Peer Trainer for the NHS, for the recovery of mental ill health, for over 4 years.
  • Done a basic counselling skills course.
  • Done a weekend life coaching course with The Coaching Academy. (Learned some NLP.)
  • Got a Level 4, Higher National Diploma in Information, Advice and Guidance. (IAG) Equivalent to foundation degree level.
  • Got a PTTLS Level 4 Teacher Trainer qualification.
  • Got a Level 4, Higher National Diploma in Administrative Procedures/Personal Assistant qualification. (HDAP) Equivalent to foundation degree level.
  • Done a 14 week SAFE (Stop Abuse For Everyone) course.

When you click through the link you will be taken to PayPal To subscribe to Asexualise Academy Club monthly subscription service, for a nominal fee of just £25 a month (that’s less than 84p a day), which you can cancel at any time. After you have subscribed, email me asexualise@gmail.com with your Facebook profile details, so I can invite you to join the members only club group, where all the training will take place and your monthly journal with be delivered with your FREE unicorn art posters. It’s that simple! Just download your journal and join in with the live streams, to get extra insights, coaching/training, or watch them on replay. Your email will also be added to an exclusive monthly membership newsletter, so I can send you highlights about the groups events, what’s happening, and any special offers, which you can opt out of at any time. So by giving your email you consent to that.

 

IF YOU LOVE JOURNALLING ON YOUR OWN AND YOU ONLY WANT TO RECEIVE A NEW INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES AND QUESTIONS FOR THE SOUL JOURNAL PREMIUM E-BOOK EACH MONTH FOR JUST £5, YOU CAN DO THAT

 

By Subscribing To The Asexualise Academy Inspired Journal Monthly Membership Club

Each month you will receive a new Inspirational Quotes And Questions For The Soul Journal Premium E-Book in 2 versions, the asexual branded one (with purple text on the cover) and the non-asexual branded one, (with the blue text on the cover) in case you are not out as asexual, or you or an ally or channel fan. You can choose which one to use, or both. The contents are the same inside apart from the 5 bonus blank pages at the back, which are either Asexualise Academy branded for the asexual version, or that have small thumbnail illustrations on them for the non-asexual branded version.

These will be delivered to your inbox once each month, with the email address you used to subscribe, within a monthly newsletter explaining how to get the best out of your journal, with insider secrets and help, for how to get the most amazing transformations using the journal, so an email address will be required. And the new version of the journal each month, will be with you by the 28th of each month, after you sign up. (If you sign up on the 28th or later, you will receive the latest journal so you can start journaling right away.)

If you want to use a different email for delivery of your journal, then you will need to contact me either via my chat bubble on www.asexualise.com or by email asexualise@gmail.com If you have any questions about this Asexualise Academy Inspired Journal Membership Club or Asexualise Academy club, also use those.

But Wait… There’s More… If You Want To Have A Regular Monthly ACE-Happy Chat Session Or Monthly Coaching Session, You Get Asexualise Academy Club Subscription Included In The Price – How ACETASTIC Is That?

Choose Your Favourite Subscription Plan Below, Now, To Suit Your Needs, Click Through The Link Now, To Be Taken To PayPal Secure Checkout: Don’t Have PayPal “Checkout as guest”

Plans start here:

Asexualise Academy Inspired Journal Monthly Membership

Think of this journal like your bestest friend, one you can share all your thoughts, feelings, and emotions with, without being judged, and that will comfort you in your hour of need, and make you feel better and good.

Receive a new Inspirational Quotes And Questions For The Soul Journal, Premium E-Book, for just £5 a month, in 2 versions, both the asexual branded one, and the non-asexual branded one, in case you’re not out as asexual, you’re an ally, or channel fan, every month of the year, to help keep your mind motivated, inspired, and focusing on something good. Heck, we ALL need this, with the way the world’s been lately.



Asexualise Academy Club Monthly Membership:

Everthing you get with the Inspired Journal Monthly Membership as the Inspirational Quotes And Questions Journal comes with your Asexualise Academy Club membership. Live group training/coaching in a private Facebook Group, covering all of the topics in the “what you will learn section”, with a strong focused on improving your mindset, motivation, and overall mental health and wellbeing, as we go through the Inspirational Quotes And Questions Journal For The Soul premium E-Book, together each day, with additional coaching and training from me on the various topics, Q&A, and a monthly online meetup. To help you live your best life, and be happy.


Asexualise Academy ACE-happy Monthly Membership.

Includes Asexualise Academy Club monthly membership for however long you stay subscribed. (So excellent value for money)

Each month you will receive a 1 hour one-to-one therapeutic audio or video chat session, via Skype or Facebook Messenger with someone who will listen and understand you. This is not a counselling session, but rather having someone regular to talk to, who has lived experience of mental health, so understands what you are going through, including depression in the past, and anxiety. Who will be that constant in your life, and who you can share your thoughts, feelings, and emotions with, without being judged. So whether you are a person who experiences high levels of anxiety, or you are a secret crossdresser with no one to talk to about it, I am here for you.

Sessions will be billed every 30 days and need to booked at least 2 weeks in advance to secure your time and date within those 30 days, sessions are not rolled over, so if you don’t book your session and use it within those 30 days, you lose it. You will still retain your membership to the Asexualise Academy Club though, and get all of the benefits that go with that, and access, for however long you keep up your subscription, so you will still get the group coaching from me.

As this is one-to-one, I can only take on a limited amount of ACE-happy members, once the membership hits a certain number of members, this plan will not be available any more, and an individual ACE-Happy chat session is currently £45 without the Asexualise Academy Club, or Inspirational Journal that comes with membership, Premium E-Book. So you save £15 a month by getting this plan.


Asexualise Academy Coaching Monthly Membership

Includes Asexualise Academy Club monthly membership for however long you stay subscribed. (So excellent value for money)

Each month you will receive a 1 hour one-to-one coaching session, via Skype or Facebook Messenger, this is not a counselling session, and it’s not the same as a therapeutic ACE-happy chat session, which is more about me being a friendly ear to listen to you, to understand you, and for you to experience the acceptance and validity of your identity, as you are.

A coaching session is where we work on a specific problem you are facing in your life, and we work together to help you overcome that problem so you can move forward in your life. This involves your active participation in wanting to change yourself and your life in some way. So it requires you to actively want to make a change, and admit that not everything is alright and you want to work hard to change it, because the pain you are experiencing is just too much to bear. It requires me to ask you appropriate coaching questions for you to reflect on your life to date and current circumstances in relation to problem, and this will give you new insights that will help to remedy the situation. At least 3 coaching sessions is usually always required to help you with any problem you are facing, as we explore the problem and your current situation in the first session (or more), this is known as the exploring stage, we then dive deep into what’s really going on for you, which is the discovery and insights stage in the second session (or more), and the third session is focuses on creating a plan of action, tailored to you and your specific circumstances, to move forward in your life, which is usually the 3rd session (or more). I say more because in order to really dive deep, we could easily spend a number of sessions on each of the stages, and there may be a number of smaller stages in-between, depending on how self-aware you are and how complex the problem is that you are facing. Some people have coaching for 6 months, or a year, or on-going, to hold themselves accountable for their progress and stop them from getting into bad habits again and going off track from their plan, so that change never happens. There may be homework involved and you may want to book more that one session a month for it. But with the monthly membership, you are guaranteed at least one session a month, to keep you on track.

Sessions will be billed every 30 days and need to booked at least 2 weeks in advance to secure your time and date within those 30 days, sessions are not rolled over, so if you don’t book your session and use it within those 30 days, you lose it. You will still retain your membership to the Asexualise Academy Club though, and get all of the benefits that go with that, and access, for however long you keep up your subscription, so you will still get the group coaching from me.

As this is one-to-one, I can only take on a limited amount of coaching members, once the membership hits a certain number of members, this plan will not be available any more, and an individual coaching session is currently £80 without the Asexualise Academy Club or Inspirational Journal, Premium E-Book. So you save £25 a month by getting this plan.


Unique Unicorn Art Posters

But… I only want the 2 Inspirational Unicorn Art Posters, so can I get those pleassssssseee, pretty please, with unicorn magic on top! As you asked me so nicely, for £7 you can.

Posters are 300DPI A4 Print quality. So you will just need to open the 2 Jpeg files, print them out, and frame them. They look especially acetastic printed on glossy photo paper. Click the button to the right, and have your unicorn posters flown to your inbox as a digital download for you to print off yourself, within 48 hours – the carrier pigeon is in full flight right now, and the unicorn is welcoming all of the new Asexualise Academy Club members! But will be with you soon xx