International Bestseller #1 Hot New Releases – Diary Confessions of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life

#1 Hot New Releases And International Bestseller

Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual: 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life (Special Limited Time Offer in Kindle, only 99c / 99p) Get Your Copy Here – https://amzn.to/3We9uLE

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A writer’s and publisher’s dream come true, is when you see your Quirky Books book at the #1 slot both on Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk in Hot New Releases and a bestseller in multiple categories on both Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk, so I’m now an International Bestseller with this Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life book.

#1 New Release in Counseling & Psychology eBooks on Human Sexuality

Have you ever had a vision that came true but not in the way you thought it would? Well, that’s what happened to me…

If this were fiction, it would be unbelievable, but as it’s non-fiction, it’s truly unmissable!

Sandra Bellamy, a self-confessed hyper-romantic asexual, believes she has psychic abilities. Frustrated by her own belief in past lives and convinced she has an Indian soulmate from a past life who she’s been trying to find in this one since 2014, Sandra prays to God for him to show her, her soulmate… But all, is not as it seems… He loves tragic love stories and unhappy endings, to go with his bad boy persona. She just wanted the guy of her dreams. Little did she know the horror of her vision becoming a reality, when a chance encounter changes the trajectory of her life forever. However far their worlds seem apart, fate has drawn them together, but why?

Join Sandra, for some incredible real-life asexual adventures, with many twists and turns of fate, where asexy attraction becomes climatic kissing passion, sensuality turns into personal power, and self-love takes on a whole new meaning, as she embarks on a journey of self-discovery, uncovering some deep truths, in the form of life lessons that will ACE your life and set you free, to be your authentic self in all your naked soul glory. Where your personal pain is transformed into your personal power, as you shed societal conditioning and literally stop giving a fuck about what people think of you! If you’ve ever wanted to make your own dreams and fantasies a reality, and get your asexual needs met, Sandra shows you the way, giving a whole new meaning to love, affection, and human connection.

♥️ “This book dives deep into my mind – THE mind – of a hyper-romantic asexual, unlocking the secrets of what truly goes on in my life behind the scenes. Sharing my raw thoughts, feelings, and emotions, during some super tough moments, sad moments, funny moments, OMG moments, but never any dull moments. And all of the fantastic 78 life lessons I learn along the way, I share with you in this book, to help you in your own asexual life. My life is so far out sometimes, that even I think it sounds like fiction – when it’s actual non-fiction fact, with all the drama, the emotional ups and downs, the pains of living a hyper-romantic life, and the joys of being daring enough to make my own dreams a reality, and do things in my life that others could only dream of doing, but never have the courage to try.“ ♥️

Delve into this personal diary book, to be inspired, feel empowered, educated and entertained, in how to overcome asexual struggles, challenges and adversities, and develop a new found resilience and confidence you never knew you’re capable of, to truly ACE your life!

By the time you’ve finished reading my personal diary book, you’ll be equipped with the knowledge and know-how to:

1. Transform your pain into personal power and insights which you can learn from.

2. Overcome difficult and painful situations a lot quicker.

3. Recognise heterosexual and dating red flags.

4. Understand what heterosexual guys say, but actually mean, when what they really want is sex.

5. Understand the effects of childhood trauma, and how to recognise patterns and trauma abuse cycles, so you can stop them.

6. Have sexual pleasure in an asexual way.

7. Recognise, when it’s sensual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction, vs sexual attraction.

8. Be confident in your own body and get your own intimacy and pleasure needs met, in a way that’s right for you.

9. Get your asexual needs met without caring what others think.

10. Help you to see dating, communication, and romance blind spots. So you can sharpen your bullshit detector.

11. Dissect text messages to expose lies.

12. Change your mindset and perceptions to live your best asexual life.

Get #1 Hot New Release And International Best Seller Asexuality Book – Diary Confessions of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life before the price goes up.

Shop now – and get your copy on Kindle for a Limited Time at just 99p https://amzn.to/49Nh1E or 99c here https://amzn.to/3We9uLE

Wherever you live, it’s currently at a special low launch price from your nearest Amazon.

Amazon.com best seller in 3 categories – Means I’m and International Bestselling Author and Publisher as I publish books under my own book publishing imprint called Quirky Books.

Amazon.co.uk bestseller in 3 categories.

With 5 Star Rating.

Shop now – and get your copy on Kindle for a Limited Time at just 99p https://amzn.to/49Nh1E or 99c here https://amzn.to/3We9uLE

Wherever you live, it’s currently at a special low launch price from your nearest Amazon.

As always, stay quirky and write soon,

Sandra xx

P.S. If you like this book, please leave an honest written review on Amazon and share some words about what you thought of the book in order for others to make an informed purchasing decision.

From Self-Loathing To Empowering A Global Community – Humans Of Fuzia Interview With Sandra Bellamy

Thrilled to be featured on Humans of Fuzia, who approached me for an interview, sharing my very personal life story from self-loathing to empowering a global (asexual) community. Check out the article here https://www.humansoffuzia.com/asexuality-unveiled-a-journey-from-self-loathing-to-empowering-a-global-community/

Humans of Fuzia are on a mission with a particular focus of inspiring and empowering their community of over 5 Million+ Women.

Fuzia began with a dream of empowering women and valuing art which goes unvalued. Striving for a better world and hopes of empowering creativity since November 2015, it today is a global and independent online space for every individual who believes in the idea of equal opportunities, women’s rights and women’s empowerment.

What makes Fuzia unique is its belief in the ability of women who are yet to be successful and the idea that the staircase to their success is their happiness in what they like to do. We have over the years, built a solid global community that nurtures the creative abilities of young women- leaders of tomorrow, through the Fu-zion of culture and ideas.

The ‘Superpower’ of Fuzia is the unshakable vow to achieve empowered representations of women, with the possible innovation of providing them with a platform to evolve from wherever they are, whatever their talent is and how ever they wish to pursue it.

I’m so proud to be featured in an article on Humans Of Fuzia website: Asexuality Unveiled: From self-loathing to empowering a global community, and to be able to inspire millions of women, that they can triumph over personal hardships and regain control over their lives to be a leader, and pave the way for a better future, not just for themselves but for others too.

In this article interview, I had to answer questions that were both personal and professional.

Which included:

What was my life like growing up?

What is my initiative and how is it helpful for people?

What was my experience of the Covid-19 pandemic?

What has been the response to my venture?

How has my life changed since I started my venture?

Who is my support system.

And what change I would like to see in the world, this was my answer:

“I would like the world to accept asexuality and that there are some people who genuinely don’t like, want, or need sex. So we can help prevent sexual abuse situations and make dating and relationships a better experience for all.“

And my motivational message:
“Always remember, that both personally and professionally, you can achieve great things, be determined, never give up, and always know that your current circumstances don’t dictate your future.“

Please give this article a 5 minute read, here https://www.humansoffuzia.com/asexuality-unveiled-a-journey-from-self-loathing-to-empowering-a-global-community/

Stay quirky and write soon,

Sandra xx

Asexuality Unveiled: A Journey from Self-Loathing to Empowering a Global Community

How #1 International Bestselling Author Sandra Bellamy Made A CRAZY Amount Of Global Impacts In 2023

There is a saying, “The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.” — Steve Jobs

Call me CRAZY, but I might just have made a CRAZY amount of global impacts in 2023, especially for someone who has 2 hidden disabilities – one being GAD – Generalised Anxiety Disorder – so it’s quite a mental workout to be able to push through my own fears and personal boundaries, to be able to accomplish all the things I did last year – especially to help fulfil my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

Last year I said yes to me:

Yes, to investing in myself with bLU Talks speaker training programs – one has author training too.

Yes, to being more productive and procrastinating less.

Yes, to taking more bold and courageous action – in spite of what others may think.

Yes, to being more of my true authentic self.

Yes, to sticking up for myself

Yes, to believing in myself more.

Yes, to being way out of my comfort zone.

Yes, to new opportunities.

Yes, to doing things I had never tried before.

And how my life has changed as a result, has been phenomenal.

So now I want to share with you those ultra big achievements I’ve made, that created a global impact in 2023.

Biggest achievement in 2023 – I was on James Miller Lifeology Radio show with over 3 million listeners per episode – That’s 3 million people hearing about my life as an asexual person!

I didn’t pay to be on James’s show, I won the opportunity to pitch to him in front of a live virtual audience at one of bLU Talks Expert’s Bootcamps, and I took advantage of that opportunity and got on his show after going through an official longer-than-expected application process. It was well worth all of the time and effort I spent doing that.

The Life of an Asexual Person | Sandra Bellamy By James Miller Lifeology Interview ORIGINAL VERSION watch here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=hfNPbWNu-bzW51ahc

Listen to it on Apple Podcasts here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/james-miller-lifeology-radio/id1190946242?i=1000627920736

James Miller, is the CEO of James Miller | LIFEOLOGY®, LLC and The Executive Producer and Host of LIFEOLOGY® Radio Nationally Broadcast and Syndicated Radio Show www.JamesMillerLifeology.com

(See my show page on James’s site here https://www.jamesmillerlifeology.com/the-life-of-an-asexual-person/)

This was broadcast on/across:

National Radio Stations

18 AM/FM terrestrial radio stations: Tuesday at 1:30 pm, Friday at 9:30 am, and Saturday at 12:30 pm
- Washington, DC: FM – 96.7
- Tampa, FL: AM – 1630, FM – 92.1
- Las Vegas, NV: AM – 1520, FM – 99.5
- Macon, GA: AM – 810, FM – 87.9
- Lancaster, PA: AM – 1640, FM – 102.1
- Boulder, CO: FM – 96.3
- Milwaukee, WI: FM – 90.3
- Pittsburgh, PA: FM – 94.7
- Long Beach, CA: FM – 101.5
- New Port Richey, FL: FM – 88.3
- The Villages, FL: FM – 97.7
- Colorado Springs, CO: FM – 87.9
- Jacksonville, FL: FM – 90.3
- Rocky Hill, NC: FM – 89.5

Streaming Radio

RadioPublic
PodParadise.com
Player.FM
Overcast FM
Radio Vybe
AM/FM247
Amazon Alexa/Echo

Archived on Podcasting Platforms

Digitally (Under AMFM247 Channel)

Roku
WorldTV
Dish TV
Youtube
Google TV
Other Network Stations Inclusion

Check it out on my own channel here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=KjA4tdA-wNKxvpuH and be sure to give it a thumbs up if you like it.

You can also see my reaction video here https://www.youtube.com/live/0GP791VeTeA?si=smftPk6kZ_ly9w5m or by watching the video below:

The Life And Perspectives Of An Asexual

Listen to it on my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel here https://youtu.be/5XMtAwHT4aI?si=8JRkVr0XJ4jPOfSL

Sandre Bellamy with Shanna Vavra Sense Of Soul Podcast

I was so happy to be featured on Shanna Vavra’s Sense of Soul Podcast, which is a spirituality podcast, talking about asexuality and my spiritual life mission regarding that. She’s had over a million downloads of her show episodes, so it’s in the top % of listened to podcasts – which is great coverage for asexuality.

Shanna Vavra is a very attentive and inclusive interviewer, interviewing me about The Life and Perspectives of an Asexual – on ITunes here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sense-of-soul/id1468725665?i=1000630467751

It’s also on Shanna’s own Sense of Soul Podcast YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/s1X6oN-q2J4?si=AEe1Vr2PRfFv6GkR

I spoke about asexuality and self-reinvention at Oxford University for bLU Talks

Sandra-Bellamy Speaker At Oxford University

ASEXUAL SANDRA BELLAMY QUIRKY BOOKS BESTSELLING AUTHOR AND PUBLISHER SPEAKS AT OXFORD UNIVERSITY FOR BLU TALKS – BEHIND THE SCENES HIGHLIGHTS

Watch the playlist of clips from my talk in the video below – or click this link https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6sdIToxIi4eaCyEfXpEj-s0dBqcJ4aaA&si=ojSONXiI7sqYBRMg

My self-reinvention talk included my personal transformational life journey:

From being a shy, lonely, deeply unhappy, introverted girl,

Who was a suicidal depressed mess,

With no purpose…

Averse to touch by strangers…

With huge social anxiety,

And I could only see people on a one-to-one basis…

To being extroverted, loud, bubbly, talkative –

Discovering my life purpose… (and living it.)

Being all over social media…

….organising and hosting asexual meetups…

Being able to hug strangers…

Being able to talk about sex and masturbation, as easily as drinking water… to help asexuals.

Want to know how I achieved all of these transformations and more?

.. And learn the 9 steps to reinventing yourself, to whatever best future version of yourself you want to become?

#1 International Bestselling Author Sandra Bellamy

My talk was based on my chapter in the new bLU Talks book, of Business Life and The Universe, Vol 11, with James Redfield – Bestselling Author of The Celestine Prophecy, and Ken Honda – from MindValley, who is also the Author of Happy Money, as well as Corey Poirier is That Speaker Guy, Multiple-Time TEDx Speaker, bLU Talks Founder, Co-Author of the Wall Street Journal / USA Today Bestseller, Quitless, Featured in and/or seen on: NBC, ABC, Fox, TEDx, Entrepreneur on Fire, Entrepreneur Magazine, Forbes, Second City, The CW and CBS…

Which became a number 1 international bestseller. See screenshots below:

Number 1 hot new release best selling books

See my name, Sandra Bellamy, in the list below of co-authors:

So now I can say I’m a #1 International Best Selling Author. Get the blueprint to changing your self and your life and become who you truly want to be by buying this book here https://amzn.to/4aO9OWk

Best-Selling Asexual Perspectives Book – Best-Selling Publisher Quirky Books – Speciality Asexuality

Before that, on 08/08/2023, I also became a bestselling author with Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Asexual Diversity book. And because I publish my own books under my own book publishing imprint of Quirky Books, I became a bestselling publisher too – double WOW! Get your copy here https://amzn.to/48nOe9w

And I wrote Diary Confessions Of A Hyper-romantic Asexual – 78 Life Lessons To ACE Your Life – book, which I am currently proofreading again along with my best friend, who fortunately for me, works in editorial as a job, so he is highly skilled and knowledgable to help me. Although with a diary-style book, it’s meant to have minimal editing done to it, be a casual conversational tone and use colloquial language, so I have to be careful not to overdo the editing, and to keep it very conversational, but I still want to make some final corrections.

This book is very different to any other book I’ve written before as it’s a diary-style book of my inner most thoughts, feelings and emotions, during a difficult hyper-romantic time and all the life lessons I learnt along the way. It’s written very informally. It’s like a behind-the-scenes of my Asexualise My Asexual Life channel – which is also a behind-the-scenes of my life, where I share my own asexual life journey, in order to help you in yours. Talking about things such as dating, relationships, self-love and self-care – which this book also focuses on helping you with. So it’s like an extension of my channel content to help you in your own asexual life – more details on this to follow and it will be at a low launch price when it’s first released, so keep your eyes on my next blog posts for updates about that, so you don’t miss out.

I was also interviewed by bLU Talks about asexuality on an episode of bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show which was recorded live – and co-hosted that show once too.

Watch Asexuality Interview with Sandra Bellamy ON Blu Talks Amplify your message show, by watching the video below or click this link https://youtu.be/KCdM9jLUbhU?si=I7q_ARrb8ija1U5v

If you want to see the episode I co-hosted, you can see it here https://www.youtube.com/live/yI-PKfV0Rw8?si=GYpmgczR6MI_G_QL

And I was the first keynote speaker at the Be And Become Summit on 14th Of December.

Sandra Bellamy Asexuality Speaker At Be And Become Summit

Here is my full talk in case you missed it:

And here is the full playlist with some of the highlights of that talk:

on 31st of December 2023, I was notified that I’ve been recognised among the 2023 – Iconic 100 Impact Ignitors Worldwide ICONS for making a difference. (Thanks to all you who voted for me into this 100 list of icons.)

Join me in celebrating positive change asexualiseofficial with International Icon Inc. ( @YouAreTheIconOrg ) and the Iconic Speakers Network ( @IconicSpeakersNetwork), led by the founder Antoinette Logan ( @AskMsLogan ).

See the full list of IMPACT IGNITORS here: https://bit.ly/Iconic100ImpactIgnitorOf2023List (I’m included in the special mentions – People who have made special contributions to positive change.)

Sandra Bellamy Special Mention Iconic 100 List

Sandra Bellamy Special Mentions Iconic 100 List

In the video below, I show you my name as a special mention on this list.

And this list has just been featured in The Chicago Journal, here https://thechicagojournal.com/iconic-100-impact-igniters-of-2023-cheers-to-global-changemakers/

And last year I was interviewed by Shilpi Gupta Shah, PR & Digital Marketing Associate at Fuzia | Fuzia Talent, and she gave me a mention in one of her recent new year 2024 LinkedIn posts, as one of the remarkable women leaders she interviewed, which felt fabulous.

And the article from that interview has now just gone live on Humans Of Fuzia website, here https://www.humansoffuzia.com/asexuality-unveiled-a-journey-from-self-loathing-to-empowering-a-global-community/ notice that Fuzia have a community of over 5 Million women worldwide – so my global impact continues in 2024.

So please, do yourself a favour, never, ever, give up on your dreams and keep taking action to achieve each one of those. Your future self will thank you for it.

And make sure 2024, is the year you say, “I do” to you:

With much love

As always, stay quirky and write soon.

Sandra xx

I Wasn’t Who I Thought I Was – Lifeology Radio Asexual Life Interview With Sandra Bellamy

“Have you ever woke up thinking you’re a certain thing, only to realise you’re not? That’s what happened to today’s guest Sandra Bellamy. In 2014, Sandra discovered she wasn’t heterosexual, she’s asexual, and that societal conditioning had sold her a lie. During her transformational journey, Sandra’s overcome a lot of fears to face the world as her fearless asexual self and now she offers help and hope to thousands of asexuals around the globe.”

On Tuesday 12th Sept 2023, James Miller Interviewed me on his Lifeology Radio show. This is a dream come true for me, to reach such a huge global audience.

Listen to The Life of an Asexual Person on YouTube in this video below:

Listen to it on Apple Podcasts here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/james-miller-lifeology-radio/id1190946242?i=1000627920736

James Miller, is the CEO of James Miller | LIFEOLOGY®, LLC and The Executive Producer and Host of LIFEOLOGY® Radio Nationally Broadcast and Syndicated Radio Show www.JamesMillerLifeology.com

(See my show page on James’s site here https://www.jamesmillerlifeology.com/the-life-of-an-asexual-person/)

Which is broadcast on/across:

National Radio Stations

18 AM/FM terrestrial radio stations: Tuesday at 1:30 pm, Friday at 9:30 am, and Saturday at 12:30 pm
- Washington, DC: FM – 96.7
- Tampa, FL: AM – 1630, FM – 92.1
- Las Vegas, NV: AM – 1520, FM – 99.5
- Macon, GA: AM – 810, FM – 87.9
- Lancaster, PA: AM – 1640, FM – 102.1
- Boulder, CO: FM – 96.3
- Milwaukee, WI: FM – 90.3
- Pittsburgh, PA: FM – 94.7
- Long Beach, CA: FM – 101.5
- New Port Richey, FL: FM – 88.3
- The Villages, FL: FM – 97.7
- Colorado Springs, CO: FM – 87.9
- Jacksonville, FL: FM – 90.3
- Rocky Hill, NC: FM – 89.5

Streaming Radio

RadioPublic
PodParadise.com
Player.FM
Overcast FM
Radio Vybe
AM/FM247
Amazon Alexa/Echo

Archived on Podcasting Platforms

Digitally (Under AMFM247 Channel)

Roku
WorldTV
Dish TV
Youtube
Google TV
Other Network Stations Inclusion

So far James estimates that the day my interview episode aired, it had an average of 3 million people who heard it on the radio, 200k streaming listeners and podcast/video about 20k – Final numbers will be available at the end of the month. This really helps me to fulfil my life mission of getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe, so no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again.

Check it out on my own channel here https://youtu.be/1_3kkGbHRcE?si=KjA4tdA-wNKxvpuH and be sure to give it a thumbs up if you like it.

You can also see my reaction video here https://www.youtube.com/live/0GP791VeTeA?si=smftPk6kZ_ly9w5m or by watching the video below:

As always, write soon, and keep going for your dreams.

Sandra xx

Amplify Your Message bLU Talks Co-host Quirky Books Author Sandra Bellamy

On August 10th 2023, I was honoured to be a co-presenter on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show, with Laura Lake and some amazing guests, including:

Ilona Seddik
Katherine Loranger
Debora Hollick

IIona is an Instagram marketing specialist, whose training I have attended before – so if you’re stuck on what to do with Instagram to amplify your message, be sure to watch the video below or here https://lnkd.in/eW5dNKTA

I got to speak a bit about asexuality when Laura introduced me as a co-host at the start of our live streamed interviews.

Watch the video below to hear what I had to say to amplify what it means to be asexual in this highly sexualised world.

On Friday 23rd June 2023, I had the pleasure of being a guest on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message, talking about asexuality, what it is, and dispelling the myth that asexuality is a choice – it’s not.

I explain how asexuality has literally transformed my life for the better, forever. This video is on the bLU Talks channel.

Please give it a watch below or here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?feature=share My talk starts at 2:14:32.

As always, write soon

Sandra xx

bLU Talks Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy Guest Interview About Asexuality

Listen to my talk about asexuality on bLU Talks by clicking through the link below, My talk starts at 2:14:32.

bLU Talks is an inspiring and educational channel and brand, focused on helping people to get ahead in their business and life and connecting souls from all over the universe to share their message to the world and amplify it, in order to spread awareness about a range of topics that matter and make a difference to people’s lives. b = business L = Life U = Universe. (And yes, they use a lower case b.)

In fact, in February 2023, I attended their Experts Bootcamp and I joined the Founder Corey Poirier’s 3 public speaking programmes: Authorpreneurship and Speakerpreneurship Masterclass, The Speaking Program 2023 and the TedX Masterclass 2023. Corey Poirier is a multiple-time TEDx, and sought-after Keynote, Speaker. As well as a multiple-time number 1 best selling Author. I’m going to be a speaker for bLU Talks on 23rd October 2023 at Oxford University and I’m going to be in one of their soon to be published compilation bLU Talks books featuring Ken Honda from Mind Valley. Investing in myself with these programmes was not cheap, in fact if my parents knew how much it was – even though I’m an adult, they would probably be horrified, but it is worth every penny for all the ongoing networking and training we get each month.

Quirky Books is my own book publishing imprint and I’m known to specialise in asexuality, which is a sexual orientation that is the lack of asexual attraction.

On Friday 23rd June 2023, I had the pleasure of being a guest on bLU Talks Amplify Your Message show, talking about asexuality, what it is, and dispelling the myth that asexuality is a choice – it’s not.

I share my own asexual life journey and about my specific asexuality mission; I explain how some asexuals actually feel left out of the LGBT+ community because others there who aren’t asexual, still experience sexual attraction, whereas asexuality is base on a lack of sexual attraction, and so it’s important to get it recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right globally too.

I explain how asexuality has literally transformed my life for the better, forever.

This video is on the bLU Talks channel. Please give it a watch here https://www.youtube.com/live/P0WYUCcWQTc?feature=share and let me know what you think. My talk starts at 2:14:32.

Write soon

Sandra xx

I Love Kissing But Not Sex – How Asexuality Transformed My Life – With Asexual Author Sandra Bellamy

I was interviewed by Catana @TransformationalArtWithCatana about how Asexuality completely transformed my life! “I love kissing but not sex.”

It all started in 2014, when I went to see a counsellor, because I was worried that I wanted a relationship and liked kissing and romance, but I didn’t like sex, and she told me, “I’m worried about you, because if you want a good guy, you will need to have sex to keep him.”

I was absolutely horrified!

This was the worst thing I could have been told…

I thought to myself, how can any guy be good for me, if they want me to do something to me, that I don’t want to do?

To me, that’s like giving a guy a license to rape me – and that’s not happening.

It meant she was telling me I can’t get love without sex, and that my only value and worth of being in a relationship with a “good” guy, is based on if I have sex with him or not!

Not only is this sending a very dangerous message to me and anyone who is counselled by her…

… it’s the equivalent of saying that anyone who doesn’t have sex, cannot get a “good” guy, so they can’t have a “good” relationship, and aren’t worthy of love.

So what happens to all the people who are not asexual, but who can’t have sex because their disability or special needs, makes it impossible to do that and too painful???

What happens to all the impotent people in the world who can’t have sex???

Do these people also, not deserved to be loved without sex?

Do the they just end up with “bad” guys, because having sex, somehow changes a bad guy into a good guy???

I don’t think so. If they are a bad guy, having sex with them is not going to make them good.

What a load of bullshit.

And if people measure how much they are loved in a relationship by the amount of sex they are or are not having, they are valuing their own worth on how much contact they have with another person’s genitals, which they can’t control, – so there’s no wonder there are high divorced rates, broken relationships, and people feeling unloved and worthless.

So I went back home and Googled “I love kissing but not sex” and this is what happened next…

I love kissing but not sex podcast interview.

Becoming An Asexual Entrepreneur On Dreams ARE Real Podcast Interview

As asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.

Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.

People tend to discard what they don’t understand.

They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.

And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology.

But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice.

Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously.

Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal.

It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever.

Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not.

There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay.

The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be.

I am here to show you, you can.

That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.

That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.

Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-182-becoming-an-asexual-entrepreneur-with/id1480067188?i=1000558237426

Happy International Asexuality Day

In broad terms, asexuality is a sexual orientation that is based on the lack of sexual attraction. This means we don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse.

Sexual attraction = being sexually attracted towards a specific person/people.

Sexual desire = desiring the sex itself.

Arousal = a feeling in your genitalia.

Asexuality is also a spectrum, ranging from those who experience zero sexual attraction, known as a “pure” asexual, to those do experience sexual attraction, only under limited, rare, or specific circumstances, or who experience it, but not enough to want to act on it – known as a “grey” asexual.

Some asexuals are sex repulsed and will never have sex and hate it, others are sex neutral and don’t care whether they have sex or not. Others are sex positive and will/do have sex.

Some asexuals hate porn and will never watch it.

Other asexuals do watch porn.

Some asexuals masturbate.

Others asexuals feel sick at the idea of masturbation and it makes them want to throw up – just like some sex repulsed asexuals want to throw up when they hear the word sex.

Some asexuals are into BDSM – even without sex.

Other asexuals can’t stand BDSM and they want to run mile even hearing those words.

Some asexuals experience arousal – others don’t.

Every asexual is valid.

Always STAY ACE.

Sandra xx

Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)

So, my friend Sandra, as well as writing Asexual Perspectives and other books, also has a YouTube channel, where she discusses, among other things, asexuality, relationships, self development and personal improvement. She often has livestreams on the channel. These can vary in duration from around 20-25 minutes up to a couple of hours, dependent on […]
Asexualise YouTube Channel (Sandra Bellamy)