As asexuality is a sexual orientation largely based on a lack of sexual attraction, it can be hard to make our own voice heard.
Especially as sexual stereotypes and societal conditioning tell everyone that it’s natural to like, want, and need sex, and that anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have something wrong with them.
People tend to discard what they don’t understand.
They tend to disregard what is considered as “not” normal.
And they tend to feel extremely uncomfortable when something doesn’t fit in with their ideology.
But I encourage you to always stand proud of who you are, and to stop listening to what other people say, that drowns out the sound of your own voice.
Asexuals have as much right to speak out about how they think and feel, including if they don’t like, want, or need sex, and have the right to be taken seriously.
Just because asexuality is a minority sexuality, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong and not normal.
It’s normal for SOME people to not like, want, need, or get the urge for, partnered sexual intercourse, ever.
Don’t let anyone blind you into believing we are all the same – because we are not.
There ARE people who never want sex, and that’s okay.
The only reason most people don’t speak out, is because other’s ridicule them and tell you, you can’t be who you are born to be.
I am here to show you, you can.
That your life is your own and that speaking up, in your own voice, is essential to live your own life dreams and no one else’s. Regardless of your sexuality.
That’s why I’m thrilled to be able to give a voice to the voiceless, and share my own asexual life journey of how I became known as The Asexual Entrepreneur and explain what it feels like to be asexual in this highly sexualised world, and how to live your asexual dreams and be your true authentic self, no matter what, on the Dreams ARE Real podcast.
Don’t miss this ACE episode by listening through either of the links below, now, and tell me what you think…
There is nothing more exciting and rewarding for a writer/published Author, than changing people’s lives through your own written words. But being interviewed about your non-fiction author journey and book, is just the icing on the cake.
On Monday 31st of July, I had an Asexual Author interview with Graham Torrington. I got told my interview was “outstanding”, please check it out http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p057whh1. It is only on iPlayer for 30 days. 22 days to go!!!
Write soon and stay quirky.
P.S. What do you think of my new Quirky Books blog header?
Author Interview With Tim Drake – Generation Cherry!
Today I am so excited to bring to you an exclusive interview with successful Author Tim Drake, whose next book, Generation Cherry, is now out on Amazon on 17th of January – 2017! And available for pre-order!!
In a nutshell, what is Generation Cherry and why give it that name?
I’m in my early seventies, and I became increasingly aware that my generation has been extremely lucky. We had free education – student loans were unheard of, a good health service, we could buy our own property which became more and more valuable as time went by. Jobs were plentiful – we could pick and choose. We had a cherry on life. In fact, we were Generation Cherry.
How did you come up with the idea for this book?
Things have become bleaker for all the generations – including Generation Cherry. Organisations have restructured, causing widespread redundancies – and good and valuable workers were rationalised out of jobs. Pension schemes were wound up – skinny, or no, pensions have become the order of the day. Our cherry had shriveled, and we like a lot of other people seemed to have lost control of our situations, and needed not only more income, but more self- belief, and self-confidence.
Who is the book for?
People of all ages who have insufficient income and are struggling to find a sense of purpose and a sense of pride
What problem does your book solve?
It addresses a sense of lack of control of your life, and importantly a lack of a plan to find a sense of meaning, fulfillment and enjoyment in life.
It states in your book that your journey began more than 20 years ago, so why choose now to write this book?
It took twenty years to learn how to cope effectively with the challenges of recovering from the loss of the company I had built with a partner, and having to create my own income, and my own sense of achievement and respect, outside the conventional job system.
How long did it take you to write this book? And what was your strategy for allocating time to do so?
Over a year. I got up early and did at least an hour before starting my normal work
For someone who is under 40 years old and not your target market, like me, why should they read your book and how will it help them?
Ironically, the book started out as a book for the young as well as the more mature in years. Many young people don’t have highly paid jobs, but they do find worthwhile and satisfying work, and this was the inspiration for the book. My daughters and their friends were cases in point (and, interestingly, have responded very positively to the book).
In your book you mention the 4 Autonomies, what prompted you to call them that?
The Four Autonomies are Earning, Learning, Giving and Recharging. They are the act of taking control (gaining autonomy) in your life. Earning, to give you income, and to keep you in touch with the real world; Learning to keep you plugged in, and growing, as a human being; Giving back, socially and financially, as it’s a win/win thing to do; and recharging, to make sure you are relaxed, stimulated, and full of energy. And the extra Autonomy is Enlightened Thrift, to ensure we value what we have, and are prepared, if necessary, to have less.
Practising Enlightened Thrift makes positive the challenges that go with a skinny pension, or little income. Enlightened Thrift gives us insight into the wealth we have beyond the financial – friends, family, sense of humour, positive mindset, enthusiasm, and gratitude for what we have etc . It also helps us to cut out the inessentials and to develop a profound appreciation of the riches we have.
From a writer’s perspective, what advice would you give to wannabe writer of non-fiction on how to get started writing a non-fiction book?
Find something you are passionate about, make sure you can add some new value or insight, from a fresh perspective, and then give it a go!
How should a wannabe writer of non-fiction go about structuring a non-fiction book to get it to sell? Is there a formula and would you share it with us?
I wish I knew. Serendipity, as in all things, plays a large role in the success or otherwise of non-fiction books.
What makes a good non-fiction book and how do you make it become a best seller?
It contains insight and wisdom. When you read it, it seems fresh, and then, within seconds you knew it all along! The truth contained is timeless, and just needs to be revealed for it to be apparent and obvious!
What was your biggest challenge in writing this book, both from a business and personal perspective?
The biggest challenge was to hold to the centre of the message. There were so many cul-de-sacs – on demography, social and business trends etc, I would love to have explored, but had to keep coming back and deleting them.
What one piece of valuable advice would you give to any writer?
Keep strong the belief that someone, somewhere will discover you, and find real value and inspiration in what you have written.
One takeaway from the book
Redundancy and retirement may be challenging, but they give a chance to get a second bite of the cherry of life. Embracing the Four Autonomies, we can take back control of our lives.We are once more involved in life in a positive, relevant way. We know who we are, and we can live a life that is worthwhile, satisfying, contributes to society, and means we can feel good about ourselves.
The Four Autonomies give us our pride back.
Why should people buy the book?
It gives powerful strategies to survive and thrive, no matter how skinny your pension
Tim Drake is a consultant and mentor to leading companies and executives. Tim speaks and writes regularly about human motivation and change and is the Author of three successful books on personal development.
Generation Cherry is out on September 22nd 2016!! The publication date has now changed to January 19th 2017, due to an issue with the publishing schedule – but you can still pre-order now!! I thought the book was a great read – read my review on the 18th September!!
I hope you took some valuable insights from this interview, both about Generation Cherry and the Author, but also about how to become a better writer? Look out for my review of Tim’s book, this Sunday 18th of September – do not miss it!!
I had my first ever Author radio interview yesterday on Radio Tircoed. It’s a community radio station based in Swansea in the UK. It covers Swansea and South Wales locally, and is broadcast around the world on the internet. The presenter; was a good interviewer. He was great at asking me the right questions, to enthuse my audience about my Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work – An A-Z ‘How To’ guide. It well very well, especially considering the presenter’s phone line was quiet, and at one point I couldn’t hear what he was asking me.
I had two more book sales in a couple of days. One from the UK, by a person I hadn’t heard from in about 8 months; until connecting back through a forum update on my status, the day before. The other from someone in France; and I still don’t know who that was who bought it. All the other buyers of my book; have told me they bought it. So thank you to that person, whoever you are, I appreciate it.
I spent a couple of days this week working on my book trailer. Even thought last time we met, we thought that filming was over; me and my director/producer/editor, filmed two more scenes that are essential to the storyline. We chose music for the trailer – I chose beforehand and he agreed, which was great. It’s mighty powerful music that I bought the license to use. We also changed the movie clips around and I rewrote some of my script for the voiceover and re-recorded it. I cannot stress enough, that this is a book trailer like no other. Crossing two/three genres of subject matter – Redundancy Motivation/Inspiration. I like to quirk it up and help people as much as I can.
Have I mentioned I don’t do normal?
Thanks for continuing to support my journey into print. I am about to upload the contents of my book; for the printed version. The book cover still needs to be resized; and custom ISBNs need to be bought, to be published under my own imprint of Quirky Books. My Kindle edition is published by Quirky Books.
Last month I went to the Success 2014 Seminar in London. Whilst I was in London, I went to the Barbican to see the Digital Revolution Exhibition. It blew my mind and you are going to be blown away too.
I have something special for you; in the next posts that follow, you will get to take a look behind the scenes, at the breathtaking special effects of today’s technology and sample some old classics. I have been watching some of the video footage and it feels like I am back there, immersed in the wonder and pleasure of fantasy meets reality. If you love magic and fairytales, and dreams coming true, you won’t want to miss these videos.
Take a sneaky peak now, with these two incredibly short introduction videos:
For those of you who prefer photos; here are some for you.
The Digital Revolution Exhibition is on until the 14th of September 2014.
My long anticipated Author interview with Ian Kane is finally here.
Ian was an absolute pleasure to interview and I hope you enjoy reading about him, as much as I enjoyed learning about him as a person and Author.
Enjoy his short book trailer first.
Ian Kane is a published author, freelance writer, and filmmaker. After high school, he joined the military and received numerous awards and commendations for his exceptional service. After serving his country honorably, he worked as a writer for online and print publications, as a journalist and as a health & fitness expert, culminating in owning his own successful business. Ian has also worked as a military consultant for film productions.
Travelling to many places in the world, in both his civilian and military lives, has given him unique insights, and he infuses this international perspective into both his writing and filmmaking.
A storyteller at heart, Ian has recently made the transition to do what he loves most: Creating stories of people whom others can identify with, and hopefully be entertained by along the way as well. He recently signed with Assent Publishing, and is launching his debut novel— Rising Storm: Fading Empires Volume I:—in May 2014. This is the first of twelve epic novels.
Ian writes a regular column called Kane’s Corner for multi-national newspaper The Epoch Times, which is available in print and online, spanning 35 countries and 21 language editions. He is also currently working on a horror short film, Beneath, which will be released Summer 2014. His next film will be an action thriller based on the beginning of Kilbane’s escape from the training island in Rising Storm.
Tell us a bit about yourself and how you got into writing?
My parents are both brilliant storytellers, so I think that had a lot to do with me becoming interested in telling stories (as opposed to tall-tales…mostly). I was also into role-playing games and would make up my own unique, highly detailed worlds for players to adventure in. Movies and comic books were also big parts of my life growing up, and ones with compelling stories were those which I gravitated to the most.
After a while I thought to myself: “I can do this writing thing,” and just started doing it. Although I’d taken Creative Writing courses here and there, and was always good in English, I pretty much taught myself how to write screenplays as well as novels. I’m also an artist, so that helped me out as well. Since I’d had so many story ideas bottled up for so long, I was never at a loss for creating original material.
What genre is your new book, Rising Storm?
Apocalyptic/Survival Horror, and in a broader sense it’s also epic science fiction, since it will comprise twelve novels in all.
How would you sum up your new book, Rising Storm?
If one is interested in what’s going on around the world today, and wants to peer into a possible future world that might just happen, Fading Empires draws many parallels from today’s tumultuous events. Blatant corruption, an encroaching police state, environmental neglect and destruction, the suppression of basic human rights and dignities, a huge divide between the haves and the have-nots.
Rising Storm is an opportunity to escape this new universe and live vicariously through one or more of the characters whom you identify with. All wrapped into an engrossing universe. Rising Storm serves as an introduction to many of the characters, and the storyline of the Fading Empires series.
What inspired you to write your Rising Storm book?
Ideas that I’d had stored up about the state of affairs today, and a possible future.
You told me you were up to some pretty quirky stuff, what more can you tell us about this?
I can wear brown corduroy pants with matching vest and look good in them for starters.
If you could have one writing wish, what would it be?
Simply to write compelling stories which I hope people can enjoy, and universes to escape into.
In one sentence, why should people buy your book?
If you have even a little bit of underdog in you and wonder what it would be like to go up against seemingly insurmountable odds in a nightmarish near-future, come join the resistance with Rising Storm.
What is the one message that people will take away from reading Rising Storm?
Reviewers have pointed out, after reading Rising Storm, that in spite of the harsh and bleak environments and situations in my book, the characters still maintain a sense of humor, and humanity. I think that’s a good message to impart to everyone. Never give up, and always look out for others.