Your job is one of the hardest.
Yet it’s one of the most taken for granted.
To keep a conversation going without uncomfortable silences,
is no easy task.
To have multiple text conversations going at once, making each individual feel they matter, is not easy.
To be able to speak fast to fit both your own life in and other people’s in it, and not waste a moment of your precious time, is a gift most people take for granted.
To be able to answer people when most wouldn’t bother because they are busy and have their own lives, and can’t speak so quickly or multitask their talking, is incredible. Sometimes they just don’t have the words to say, yet words never fail you. So it’s an incredible gift you have.
Yet talkers are often given a hard time.
That’s why I admire people like Gary Vee, who admits he interrupts people because he has so much energy. He often knows what people are going to say before they say it, and many a time I’m the same way as he. It’s not our fault if people talk too slowly, that we know what they are about to say, before they finish their sentence, but they want to finish it anyway.
But Gary Vee gets shit done, when others can’t. He lives as his true authentic self, when others can’t. He tries his best, and lives with zest. He doesn’t waste years of his life pretending to be someone he is not. He pumps out content faster than anyone I have ever seen, and he cuts his long talks up into smaller chunks, to impact the world and change so many thousands of lives at once. If he wasn’t a talker, who loves to talk, if he didn’t like the sound of his own voice, and he wasn’t gifted with the ability to use it every minute of every day, as much as possible, he wouldn’t be able to help people and prevent them from being lead astray. His success in helping others lies not in holding himself back, but in realising his talking is a gift to the world, for those who want to hear it.
So thanks to the talkers, the speakers, the long talk walkers.
Thanks for keeping conversations going.
Thanks for having so many wise words to say, and being ever knowing.
Thanks for all the groups and teams you hold together, through your text, videos, and audio talks.
Thanks for being there talkers, when others with less words fail to comfort those in their hour of need, because their words fail them, can’t you see.
Thanks for all you do, and the impact you create.
Thanks for being a great teacher because you repeat things over and over again, so I can remember them. Even if you do say them in a different way, it helps me to retain those memories, and important information and education. To improve my life and that of others.
Talkers prevent deathly silences
Talkers talk people out of suicide.
Talkers negotiate hostage situations to save lives. They even save their own life in this way too.
Talkers can make great writers because they never run out of words to say, there is no lack. They have yours and their own back.
Talkers are a walking book of wisdom throughout the years, one which you are benefitting from for free, often and usually.
Talkers have an abundance mindset because there is always more that can be said and to share.
Talkers are gifted in the art of talking, with the ability to strike up conversations with strangers, with ease.
Talkers can bring cultures together, and people together, that are oceans apart.
Talkers can flow in conversation with you.
Talkers can make you feel alive, because they get excited about a thing you are talking about, they may relate to it and do a talking interruption interaction, because it sparked off their creative talking ideas, and who knows where it will lead, but it’s an exciting adventure.. if only you would see it that way!
Yet talkers get given a hard time and are not appreciated for their aliveness and ability to think in the moment, and spontaneously interject.
If a talker hears what you say and gets excited in this way, it means they like talking to you, they value you, and they want to interrupt you to find out more, or explore more, dive deeper, than superficial idle chit chat. Go deeper than you may have done before.
Talkers have the ability to keep 3 conversations going at once, with the same person. So if your mind is all over the place, they will be able to go to each place with you, keeping up with that energy that others can’t.
Talking takes a lot of energy, it takes vibrancy and being ‘there’ with you.
Just because a person is a big talker, doesn’t make them a bad listener, this is a stereotype that is very damaging. In order for a talker to be able to talk a lot, they have to have been educated with a lot of words in the first place, which they had to learn and listen to.
Talkers will appreciate and love themselves so much, that they will want to tell their full story, they will want to finish what they are saying, and they will want to give the whole picture, to give context to foster understanding and meaning. They actually speak with purpose, intention, and meaning, not just for the sake of it, but because of a love for it and a zest for the life of words. To leave words unspoken that they feel needed to be said, is like containing them in a mental prison at times. This can lead to withdrawal and mental health difficulties. Some people need to be heard and talk, in order to be healthy.
Extroverts can get energised and buzzing off talking, it fills them up like a tank of petrol fills a car. They need talking, they like hearing what others have to say, and being around others. Sometimes they love active talking interactive interruptions, as well as active listening.
There is a difference between active talking interaction interrupts, because talkers get excited about what others are saying, and/or, it gets their creative mind juices flowing off on tangents, than people who are just interrupting for the sake of it, and trying to change the subject, because they don’t actually like what the other person is saying or they don’t want to hear it or listen to it
Tangents can lead to new revelations and make the conversation more exciting and interesting. So long as people also get to finish what they were saying in the first place, it’s all good.
But if someone is having a bad day, it can be a good thing to interrupt them anyway. To break their pattern, to get them to think of good and more positive things, so it can brighten their day. Talkers help in this way.
Talkers can also help people to talk more, to uncover within themselves, things they never knew before. This can lead to self discoveries, and help them to excel in their life and open up new possibilities.
Some people are uncomfortable with silences and talking is their preferred default.
Some people live on their own and the only person they have to talk to is themselves. If they are a natural talker or extrovert, this isn’t their most healthiest way of being for them. If you have a partner you regularly talk to, or someone you live with who is always there to talk to you, thank yourself lucky, you always have people to talk to whenever you want. Even if you don’t do this all the time, it’s an option.
Don’t expect a talker who doesn’t have much opportunity to actually talk to people, to waste that precious talking time. That’s like handing them a gift of life, and a lifeline, and then expecting them to put it under the Christmas tree to wait for the ‘right’ time to open that gift.
Talkers are often good at selling things; good at persuading people, good at acting, and anything that requires talking:
Texting and walking
Writing books – the spoken word in words on a page.
If you watch TV, movies, or any kind of videos with speech, you watch and listen to talkers. If you attend business seminars, you watch and listen to talkers. If you listen to podcasts or radios shows, you are listening to talkers. If you go to school, college, or universities, or do online courses, you watch and listen to talkers.
You get entertained by talkers.
You get educated by talkers.
You get informed by talkers.
You learn most of your stuff from talkers, whether that be audio, visual, or the written word.
Talkers have the power to heal, educate, and transform lives.
So think in your life if it weren’t for the talkers, you would have to keep conversations going yourself and reach for more water…or whatever you drink. You would have to make your own throat go rough, and your own voice go gruff. There would be no stories in your life, to teach you to thrive, and how to live wise. There would be no books in the world, education would be poor. There would be no one to negotiate situations and talk people out of death. We would all end up a self-talk in the head mess! Or a robotic cabbage if you prefer… so next time you meet a talker, maybe show some appreciation for a gift you don’t have yourself.
Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for… just being them.
Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for savings lives and preventing deaths.
Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for feeling so comfortable around you because they can talk around you. Instead of living with painful deathly silence.
Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for being so excited by what you are saying that they interact with you by way of interruption. And you know you didn’t passively bore them. But you can still finish your conversation.
If you want a talker to listen, say, “hey, I really want to talk about something now”. This will put them into active listening mode, if they are not in the middle of an intense story or conversation that they feel needs an ending for you to understand it’s meaning – sometimes context is everything, or misunderstandings can occur, and you don’t want to go there… Why not start your conversation by letting them know you need them to listen. They have gifts, but they can’t always read minds! Talkers like people to speak up and share what’s happening in their life!
A true talker likes the sound of their own voice but they like the sound of other’s too. They crave talking interaction, feedback, active listening, and pro-active resolution talking. Then are waiting to hear what you have to say. They don’t want to just talk to themselves. And they don’t feel heard unless other people are responding by talking too. They like the art of talking in a two way conversation, while having their say and being able to share and make a difference to your life and theirs too.
People pay to teach them how to speak in pubic, if you have this gift already, you are blessed. Talkers are usually change makers, if they talk with authenticity from their heart.
Maybe next time you meet a talker and they live alone and don’t get much chance to actually speak to people in real life, so would naturally have more words left in reserve to say, you can actually be there to support them in a – I’m happy to hear your words, talking way. And realise they may not have as many opportunities as you to talk, or enough opportunities to talk, that is a healthy amount of talking for what they personally need. If you don’t need as much talking, remember we aren’t all made the same and some are born for more.
Don’t expect talkers to get out everything they want to say in 3 sentences, although it doesn’t mean to say they can’t just talk like that if they have to or need to. And don’t expect them to get out everything they need to say in a 59 second audio message on Facebook Messenger, it may require a number of those, if they have something important to say, something that requires context and they have lots to say. Or they are busy doing something else at that moment, and you’ve interrupted their day.
How many times in your life have you paid to hear someone talk?
Think business seminar.
Think online course or webinar.
Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for their time, because time is the most precious gift you can give to someone as you can never get it back, and while they are talking to you, they could have been saving more lives, or helping someone else with their words of wise.
If you don’t want to hear what a talker has to say, or you want to cut down their beauty in some way, allow them to be free to be with someone else, and don’t expect them to be there in your hour of need. Stop trying to make them something they are not, to make them play smaller, or not give them a shot. Even though this world is full of introverts and people who love silence, just think of all the talkers in your life, who helped you to become wiser.
Your difference is your beauty, never forget that, and if you are naturally a talker like me, don’t forget as well, Gary Vee, who makes no apology for being true, to himself, to being he. The entrepreneur millionaire who’s grown in popularity through talking more, he has shown us talkers the way forward, and opened up the door.
To all the talkers like me:
I’m sorry for all the hurt and pain people have caused you in your life, for not being able to see your beautiful gift, and to hear your silent cries.
I’m sorry if people don’t understand you. Who want to make you like them and cage you like an animal.
I’m sorry that people want to treat you like a child that’s seen and not heard, that speaks when their spoken to, and punishes you with silence.
I’m sorry people want to contain you and stop your flow. They want to stop your river from flowing and put up a dam to contain you, to tell you how to flow, where to go, how to show up. It’s not their place to do that. You can’t live a life to please others, you are in life to have the courage to be you, no matter what. To be your true authentic self.
I’m sorry if people don’t understand you, and they don’t understand that you don’t want to waste a moment of your precious life by cutting down your precious words. You don’t want to be contained and not be who you are.
One day they won’t be able to talk to you as much, people will pay thousands of pounds to hear you speak, and hang on your every word, they will appreciate who you are, and you will be more loved for who you are, far more than you have ever known. This is your destiny.
Sandra… you were born to speak on stage, all of these people that don’t have the capacity or comfortability to accept you for who you are, to really appreciate you for who you are, don’t matter. The only thing that matters is they are pushing you towards your destiny. That’s why they have shown up in your life, to be a reminder to you of your past, one you let go of, and you need to let go of again. To live the life of your ultimate purposes and dreams.
I refuse to be someone I am not for the sake of pleasing others and lead a miserable life containing my talking abilities. Playing smaller than I need to.
If you are reading this now and you also have extraordinary talking abilities, know that’s your destiny and gift to the world. Do not change it, because the few people that can’t handle it or who are uncomfortable with it, don’t matter by comparison of all the lives you will continue to save, and change for the better, forever, and that’s the most important thing.
Go be yourself, because you can’t be someone you’re not. Go be the game changer and the change maker, you were born to be, and you wish to see in the world.
I love you for who you are, you are super special. You have greatness within you and never let anyone dull your sparkle. Hugs XxxxxxxX