A Poem For The Talkers – By Author Sandra Bellamy. With Thanks To Gary Vee.

Your job is one of the hardest.

Yet it’s one of the most taken for granted.

To keep a conversation going without uncomfortable silences,

is no easy task.

To have multiple text conversations going at once, making each individual feel they matter, is not easy.

To be able to speak fast to fit both your own life in and other people’s in it, and not waste a moment of your precious time, is a gift most people take for granted.

To be able to answer people when most wouldn’t bother because they are busy and have their own lives, and can’t speak so quickly or multitask their talking, is incredible. Sometimes they just don’t have the words to say, yet words never fail you. So it’s an incredible gift you have.

Yet talkers are often given a hard time.

That’s why I admire people like Gary Vee, who admits he interrupts people because he has so much energy. He often knows what people are going to say before they say it, and many a time I’m the same way as he. It’s not our fault if people talk too slowly, that we know what they are about to say, before they finish their sentence, but they want to finish it anyway.

But Gary Vee gets shit done, when others can’t. He lives as his true authentic self, when others can’t. He tries his best, and lives with zest. He doesn’t waste years of his life pretending to be someone he is not. He pumps out content faster than anyone I have ever seen, and he cuts his long talks up into smaller chunks, to impact the world and change so many thousands of lives at once. If he wasn’t a talker, who loves to talk, if he didn’t like the sound of his own voice, and he wasn’t gifted with the ability to use it every minute of every day, as much as possible, he wouldn’t be able to help people and prevent them from being lead astray. His success in helping others lies not in holding himself back, but in realising his talking is a gift to the world, for those who want to hear it.

So thanks to the talkers, the speakers, the long talk walkers.

Thanks for keeping conversations going.

Thanks for having so many wise words to say, and being ever knowing.

Thanks for all the groups and teams you hold together, through your text, videos, and audio talks.

Thanks for being there talkers, when others with less words fail to comfort those in their hour of need, because their words fail them, can’t you see.

Thanks for all you do, and the impact you create.

Thanks for being a great teacher because you repeat things over and over again, so I can remember them. Even if you do say them in a different way, it helps me to retain those memories, and important information and education. To improve my life and that of others.

Talkers prevent deathly silences

Talkers talk people out of suicide.

Talkers negotiate hostage situations to save lives. They even save their own life in this way too.

Talkers can make great writers because they never run out of words to say, there is no lack. They have yours and their own back.

Talkers are a walking book of wisdom throughout the years, one which you are benefitting from for free, often and usually.

Talkers have an abundance mindset because there is always more that can be said and to share.

Talkers are gifted in the art of talking, with the ability to strike up conversations with strangers, with ease.

Talkers can bring cultures together, and people together, that are oceans apart.

Talkers can flow in conversation with you.

Talkers can make you feel alive, because they get excited about a thing you are talking about, they may relate to it and do a talking interruption interaction, because it sparked off their creative talking ideas, and who knows where it will lead, but it’s an exciting adventure.. if only you would see it that way!

Yet talkers get given a hard time and are not appreciated for their aliveness and ability to think in the moment, and spontaneously interject.

If a talker hears what you say and gets excited in this way, it means they like talking to you, they value you, and they want to interrupt you to find out more, or explore more, dive deeper, than superficial idle chit chat. Go deeper than you may have done before.

Talkers have the ability to keep 3 conversations going at once, with the same person. So if your mind is all over the place, they will be able to go to each place with you, keeping up with that energy that others can’t.

Talking takes a lot of energy, it takes vibrancy and being ‘there’ with you.

Just because a person is a big talker, doesn’t make them a bad listener, this is a stereotype that is very damaging. In order for a talker to be able to talk a lot, they have to have been educated with a lot of words in the first place, which they had to learn and listen to.

Talkers will appreciate and love themselves so much, that they will want to tell their full story, they will want to finish what they are saying, and they will want to give the whole picture, to give context to foster understanding and meaning. They actually speak with purpose, intention, and meaning, not just for the sake of it, but because of a love for it and a zest for the life of words. To leave words unspoken that they feel needed to be said, is like containing them in a mental prison at times. This can lead to withdrawal and mental health difficulties. Some people need to be heard and talk, in order to be healthy.

Extroverts can get energised and buzzing off talking, it fills them up like a tank of petrol fills a car. They need talking, they like hearing what others have to say, and being around others. Sometimes they love active talking interactive interruptions, as well as active listening.

There is a difference between active talking interaction interrupts, because talkers get excited about what others are saying, and/or, it gets their creative mind juices flowing off on tangents, than people who are just interrupting for the sake of it, and trying to change the subject, because they don’t actually like what the other person is saying or they don’t want to hear it or listen to it

Tangents can lead to new revelations and make the conversation more exciting and interesting. So long as people also get to finish what they were saying in the first place, it’s all good.

But if someone is having a bad day, it can be a good thing to interrupt them anyway. To break their pattern, to get them to think of good and more positive things, so it can brighten their day. Talkers help in this way.

Talkers can also help people to talk more, to uncover within themselves, things they never knew before. This can lead to self discoveries, and help them to excel in their life and open up new possibilities.

Some people are uncomfortable with silences and talking is their preferred default.

Some people live on their own and the only person they have to talk to is themselves. If they are a natural talker or extrovert, this isn’t their most healthiest way of being for them. If you have a partner you regularly talk to, or someone you live with who is always there to talk to you, thank yourself lucky, you always have people to talk to whenever you want. Even if you don’t do this all the time, it’s an option.

Don’t expect a talker who doesn’t have much opportunity to actually talk to people, to waste that precious talking time. That’s like handing them a gift of life, and a lifeline, and then expecting them to put it under the Christmas tree to wait for the ‘right’ time to open that gift.

Talkers are often good at selling things; good at persuading people, good at acting, and anything that requires talking:

Texting and walking

Audio calls.

Video calls.

Writing books – the spoken word in words on a page.



Public speaking.

Business seminars.


Online courses.

If you watch TV, movies, or any kind of videos with speech, you watch and listen to talkers. If you attend business seminars, you watch and listen to talkers. If you listen to podcasts or radios shows, you are listening to talkers. If you go to school, college, or universities, or do online courses, you watch and listen to talkers.

You get entertained by talkers.

You get educated by talkers.

You get informed by talkers.

You learn most of your stuff from talkers, whether that be audio, visual, or the written word.

Talkers have the power to heal, educate, and transform lives.

So think in your life if it weren’t for the talkers, you would have to keep conversations going yourself and reach for more water…or whatever you drink. You would have to make your own throat go rough, and your own voice go gruff. There would be no stories in your life, to teach you to thrive, and how to live wise. There would be no books in the world, education would be poor. There would be no one to negotiate situations and talk people out of death. We would all end up a self-talk in the head mess! Or a robotic cabbage if you prefer… so next time you meet a talker, maybe show some appreciation for a gift you don’t have yourself.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for… just being them.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for savings lives and preventing deaths.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for feeling so comfortable around you because they can talk around you. Instead of living with painful deathly silence.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for being so excited by what you are saying that they interact with you by way of interruption. And you know you didn’t passively bore them. But you can still finish your conversation.

If you want a talker to listen, say, “hey, I really want to talk about something now”. This will put them into active listening mode, if they are not in the middle of an intense story or conversation that they feel needs an ending for you to understand it’s meaning – sometimes context is everything, or misunderstandings can occur, and you don’t want to go there… Why not start your conversation by letting them know you need them to listen. They have gifts, but they can’t always read minds! Talkers like people to speak up and share what’s happening in their life!

A true talker likes the sound of their own voice but they like the sound of other’s too. They crave talking interaction, feedback, active listening, and pro-active resolution talking. Then are waiting to hear what you have to say. They don’t want to just talk to themselves. And they don’t feel heard unless other people are responding by talking too. They like the art of talking in a two way conversation, while having their say and being able to share and make a difference to your life and theirs too.

People pay to teach them how to speak in pubic, if you have this gift already, you are blessed. Talkers are usually change makers, if they talk with authenticity from their heart.

Maybe next time you meet a talker and they live alone and don’t get much chance to actually speak to people in real life, so would naturally have more words left in reserve to say, you can actually be there to support them in a – I’m happy to hear your words, talking way. And realise they may not have as many opportunities as you to talk, or enough opportunities to talk, that is a healthy amount of talking for what they personally need. If you don’t need as much talking, remember we aren’t all made the same and some are born for more.

Don’t expect talkers to get out everything they want to say in 3 sentences, although it doesn’t mean to say they can’t just talk like that if they have to or need to. And don’t expect them to get out everything they need to say in a 59 second audio message on Facebook Messenger, it may require a number of those, if they have something important to say, something that requires context and they have lots to say. Or they are busy doing something else at that moment, and you’ve interrupted their day.

How many times in your life have you paid to hear someone talk?

Think TV.

Think Movie.

Think business seminar.

Think online course or webinar.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for their time, because time is the most precious gift you can give to someone as you can never get it back, and while they are talking to you, they could have been saving more lives, or helping someone else with their words of wise.

If you don’t want to hear what a talker has to say, or you want to cut down their beauty in some way, allow them to be free to be with someone else, and don’t expect them to be there in your hour of need. Stop trying to make them something they are not, to make them play smaller, or not give them a shot. Even though this world is full of introverts and people who love silence, just think of all the talkers in your life, who helped you to become wiser.

Your difference is your beauty, never forget that, and if you are naturally a talker like me, don’t forget as well, Gary Vee, who makes no apology for being true, to himself, to being he. The entrepreneur millionaire who’s grown in popularity through talking more, he has shown us talkers the way forward, and opened up the door.

To all the talkers like me:

I’m sorry for all the hurt and pain people have caused you in your life, for not being able to see your beautiful gift, and to hear your silent cries.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you. Who want to make you like them and cage you like an animal.

I’m sorry that people want to treat you like a child that’s seen and not heard, that speaks when their spoken to, and punishes you with silence.

I’m sorry people want to contain you and stop your flow. They want to stop your river from flowing and put up a dam to contain you, to tell you how to flow, where to go, how to show up. It’s not their place to do that. You can’t live a life to please others, you are in life to have the courage to be you, no matter what. To be your true authentic self.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you, and they don’t understand that you don’t want to waste a moment of your precious life by cutting down your precious words. You don’t want to be contained and not be who you are.

One day they won’t be able to talk to you as much, people will pay thousands of pounds to hear you speak, and hang on your every word, they will appreciate who you are, and you will be more loved for who you are, far more than you have ever known. This is your destiny.

Sandra… you were born to speak on stage, all of these people that don’t have the capacity or comfortability to accept you for who you are, to really appreciate you for who you are, don’t matter. The only thing that matters is they are pushing you towards your destiny. That’s why they have shown up in your life, to be a reminder to you of your past, one you let go of, and you need to let go of again. To live the life of your ultimate purposes and dreams.

I refuse to be someone I am not for the sake of pleasing others and lead a miserable life containing my talking abilities. Playing smaller than I need to.

If you are reading this now and you also have extraordinary talking abilities, know that’s your destiny and gift to the world. Do not change it, because the few people that can’t handle it or who are uncomfortable with it, don’t matter by comparison of all the lives you will continue to save, and change for the better, forever, and that’s the most important thing.

Go be yourself, because you can’t be someone you’re not. Go be the game changer and the change maker, you were born to be, and you wish to see in the world.

I love you for who you are, you are super special. You have greatness within you and never let anyone dull your sparkle. Hugs XxxxxxxX

Wake Me Up When Up When It’s Over! – Ever felt like this? – 7 Ways How To Stay Positive In Dark And Difficult Times!

With the current pandemic situation, it’s easy to feel like you just want to go to sleep, throw the bed covers over your head and tell the world to “wake me up when it’s over!” But when you realise it’s not going away any time soon, how do you stay positive in dark and difficult times?

Here are 7 ways how to stay positive in dark and difficult times. 

  1. Realise tomorrow is done, it’s already gone and in the past, you can’t change it, but you can have control over how you live your life daily, and you can start over each new day.
  2. Worrying won’t help. It won’t solve the problem, but may make it worse. Take control of your life and own your day. So it doesn’t own you. As my Grandma used to say, “You die if you worry, you die you don’t, so why worry?” She had, and still has, a point. Her wise words live on in my soul, even if she is no longer on planet Earth.
  3. Practice gratitude. Write down 5 things you are grateful each day, and/or, say them out loud, when you wake up each morning. It’s hard to feel down when you have so much to be grateful and thankful for.
  4. You have already been through shit in your life, and you know it. So, you can get through this.
  5. This time shall pass and won’t last forever, always remember that.
  6. Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t do. Do things that you are passionate about, they make you feel great and awesome. This will keep your spirits high.
  7. Change your state through, music, movement – dancing around your home, comedy. Find things in each and every single day to make you smile. It’s hard to feel sad if you are smiling.

Share this post with someone who needs to hear this right now.

As always

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

When You Love With All Your Heart – Your Journey Has Just Begun! | Quirky Poetry From The Heart With Quirky Books Author Sandra Bellamy

Quirky Books Author Sandra Bellamy

When you love with all your heart,
When you dream with all your soul,
When you find happiness in the smallest of things,
When you decide to let go,
And trust, that things will be okay,
That we will see sunshine,
And happier days.

That this time may be dark,
But it’s never dull,
So we must reach inside,
And refuse to sulk.

We must begin with the end in mind,
To live in the glory and the shine,
For when we look at everything we have achieved,
Normality might have once seemed normal and a breeze,
But we all know normal is a fallacy.

So maybe this is our new normal.
And maybe it’s not,
Life is what you make it,
But this truth you forgot.

So don’t buried your head,
For you are alive,
Wake up in awe,
That you are alive,
Sit back and enjoy,
The small dreams that come to life,
The here and the now,
For time is precious and waits for no one,
In the blink of an eye,
It can be gone,
So take joy to heart,
Let misery go,
For what you reap,
You shall sow.

Reach deep in your heart,
Let love light the way,
Because my dear friend,
If you are reading this,
You have been blessed with another day.

The day is long,
The night is too,
But please keep singing,
The happy song, of YOU!

For darkness may come,
But light will always prevail,
Where there is happiness and joy,
It never fails.

So use what ever tools you can,
Make a wish and seal the plan,
To get your life, heart and joy, back on track,
Believe in yourself,
And make a pact.

For the art of self love,
Of self belief,
Doesn’t come easy,
It’s not like some freebie.

Self love,
Self belief,
It takes work,
To live for you,
To live with joy,
To find your truth,
And not be coy,
It all takes an incredible amount of time,
But what if right here and now, you decide,
To leave the biggest crime,
The crime that tells you to quit, on yourself,
It doesn’t care about your, or your self health.

The person inside who jeopardises you,
Is this biggest enemy of all to you,
So refuse to quit,
Refuse to settle,
Say thank you for sharing,
But I can do better,
I can fight for joy,
For speaking my own truth,
I can fight for self love,
Self worth, and growth.

I can fight for the kid in me,
The parent, the mother, the daddy,
The zing, zing.
I can nourish my soul,
And bring it to life,
I can be my own kid,
My own husband and wife,
Or I can choose to live a life of quirky,
I can choose to be different and throw away the key,
For at the end of the day,
There is no other,
That this beautiful, unique being, I see in the mirror, daily.

I want to tell you to rise,
To lay you soul bare,
To strip back the garbage,
To become self-aware,
I want to tell you to reach inside,
To find the courage not to hide,
Because in the end,
The only price you pay,
Is your heart, soul, and mind, each day.

Self love is amazing,
Self love is kind,
It’s the key to leaving depression behind.
It’s the key to rising more and more,
For taking your dreams and making them soar,
For being your own light amoung the grey,
For living your life, the crazy way,
For being the light in the night,
For being the calm, in your own internal fight,
It’s the thing you need most now in this world,
Now is a time of reflection,
To become that light,
To listen to your inner intuition and let it take flight.

So here’s to the kid in you,
Here’s to the unique blend, that’s called YOU!
Here’s to your goals, ambitions and dreams,
Here’s to your own stars and moonbeams,
Here’s to the things the naysayers said can’t be done,
Here’s to shining your light, your journey has just begun!


I hope you enjoyed this poem, if you did, please comment and give it a like and be sure to come back for more.

As always, stay quirky you and write soon.

Sandra xx

What We Can Learn From An Angel!

Angel and Sandra
My baby daughter Angel guinea pig with me, Sandra Bellamy

This is my baby daughter guinea pig Angel, she is diabetic, blind, and the most incredible furry kid I have ever known in her ability to enjoy life despite living in the face of adversity.

She can often be seen popcorning (basically doing bunny hops even though she is a guinea pig), in her indoor cage. This means despite being blind, and diabetic, she is still enjoying and loving life. This is a shining example of how to ‘live in spite of’.

In life there are going to be obstacles, challenges, and things that could hold you back in life, the secret is to allow those things to fuel you, to motivate you, to give you a new lease of life, and to enable you to do new things, have new thoughts, and don’t let nothing hold you back.

She is a real hero. How many people do things because they are able to? And how many people do things that they aren’t meant to be able to do, because they have an illness, a disability, or something that should stop them, but it doesn’t!

One of my entrepreneur friends who mentors mentors and networks among some of the most famous people in music and show biz, he grew up in a bad neighbourbourhood and was selling 0.50 cent bread. Now he is wealthy beyond his wildest dreams, not just financially, but in his overall quality of life. His philosophy is ‘the days that break us are the days that make us’ and he is so right! We have to use our hardest times, to motivate us to achieve our goals, ambitions and dreams, and to change our life. The more we work for it, the more badly we want it, the more likely we are to get it. He has a book out, Work Like an Immigrant: 9 Keys to Unlock Your Potential, Attain True Fulfillment, and Build Your Legacy Todaywhich I bought, and it’s such an inspirational, autobiographical, personal growth, self-growth, and self-help book, which I would also encourage you to buy, as it could change your life too, here is the link if you are in the UK https://amzn.to/3c82IxE and if you are in the USA or elsewhere click here https://amzn.to/2T3hmii I feel so happy I know this person and to have watched their incredible journey, and how their life changed particularly since meeting Tony Robbins and training with him.

Oh and in regard to my Angel, she truly is Angel by name and Angel by nature, because the last time she went to the vets, he couldn’t believe that she went from having cataracts in both eyes and completely blind, to miraculously, one of the cataracts in one of her eyes, has completely disappeared. It’s meant to be impossible for that to happen! And it looks like she has a little peripheral vision back in it, because if you put your finger right in front of it, her head jumps a little back, whereas before she was completely oblivious to your finger being right in front of either of her eyeballs. This was a test they did when she first went blind, and within 10 days got diabetes and moved to live with my parents who can inject her. I have a fear of needles and blood and sadly can’t do this for her, but go and visit her, and this photo is from a very recent visit to see her, when I gave her a bit if a hair cut on the back of her. My mum looks after her incredibly well, and if it weren’t for my mum, she would almost certainly not be alive today, so I am incredibly grateful and thankful for the around the clock care she has, and for my mum treating her like the beautiful, cute, queen, that she is. She bangs her pot a lot for food, constantly all day, and eats a ton of food yet maintains a fairly consistent weight. My mum spends a lot of money on food and treats for her. I am still responsible for her vets bills, and for her to see the vet in my city if she ever needs a check up or operation, or anything else. She has also survived two operations. One was a large operation to remove ovarian cysts and the other to remove a lump from her back that was pressing on her spine. She is incredible and I love her to bits. She is an example of how to live your best life, inspite of and despite of, being sick in some ways, having a health condition and having physical limitations. She truly doesn’t let her limits limit her, and neither should you.

If you wondered why I haven’t blogged for so long and thought I might have fallen off planet earth, not a chance. I am here for the long-haul. I have been extremely busy and needed to take time out from blogging on here and two other blogs, to time block out my most pending and urgent work.

  • I was interviewed for a podcast about my asexuality – a sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction.
  • Last week I finished my Asexual Meetup Mastery premium course, which I had been working on since September 2019. It’s an online training course that is made up of about 70 videos, and the first person to take the course is currently going through all of it, before I official launch it on an early bird offer.
  • I was very sick with a respiratory infection and had to rest, but also used the second week of this time productively, to reflect with a pen and paper, on all major aspects of my life and work out exactly what I am doing with my life and write each out. This took me about 2.5 days, but was very therapeutic for my soul and helped me to get better quicker and this time I had no antibiotics but still managed to get myself better when I couldn’t breathe very well one night, and had no sleep.
  • I have also been working on my second book for asexuals called Asexual Guide To Sex, which will also be very relevant for sexuals too. And it set to be the best book ever written about sex, from a unique asexual point of view and is ideal for those asexuals or even sexuals, who are thinking about trying sex for the first time ever, and who want some help to decide whether it is right for them or not. With the information in this book and the real life asexual sexual stories in it, they can make an informed choice and decision whether they want to try it or not. This book tells the good, the bad, and the ugly truth about sex, not a glorified sensationalied version of it. This book will be published this year and is my main focus for getting finished as much as possible in March, so expect me to be quieter in March again.
  • I have also been planning my new business which is all about helping people to make money and cash online. This is something I will be launching a bit later this year and will take a ton of my time up, focus and energy, as I will be launching a new YouTube channel and website for it, and interviewing different entrepreneurs for it to help you. I will also have my own products for it, so I need to spend time creating those for you. It’s a huge thing for me to do, so I want to try to complete and publish my book before then, so I will be going offline a lot through March to get this completed.
  • I have done some online training for my new business and got more to do at Silly O Clock tonight – from 12.30am.
  • I decided to go on a relationship and dating detox at the end of January, and not actively pursue a relationship anymore, and focus on my career and businesses this year, but still had guys interested in me and messaging me.
  • I have been out clubbing and seen my best friends.

So yeah, a lot has happened, and I thank you for still being here with me.

Don’t forget to check out my friend’s book, Work Like an Immigrant: 9 Keys to Unlock Your Potential, Attain True Fulfillment, and Build Your Legacy Today here is the link if you are in the UK https://amzn.to/3c82IxE and if you are in the USA or elsewhere click here https://amzn.to/2T3hmii

Have you got an angel in your life? And if so, who are they, and how are they an angel to you?

As always stay quirky and write soon,

Sandra xx

Are You A Blogger, Author, Or Writer? Want More Exposure And Copy That Clicks? Don’t Miss This!

Are you a Blogger, Writer, Author? Do you write blog posts that are shared once and never shared again? Do you struggle to find the right words to spice up your post to create curiosity? Do you spend hours trying to share your posts multiple times over and trying to think up compelling copy to get those clicks? If the answer to any of those is yes, you need Missing Lettr, because is does all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to. Not only does it automate the sharing of your blog posts to multiple social media profiles, it automatically suggests the best hashtags to use and creates compelling post copy, that gets noticed, so you gain more exposure for each of your posts and many more click throughs, all at a fraction of the cost it would take you to hire an expensive social media manager, an expensive copywriter, or to buy expensive copywriting software – and then the time it takes to figure out how to use it. 

Why do all that hard work when you don’t have to? If you are a Blogger, Writer, Author, and you want more exposure, in less time, and get a well oiled machine that does all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to, and you can stop wasting your precious time and do more productive money making tasks, you need to buy this tool.

If you want to know more about how to use this fabulous tool, post that shows you how to do just that, here https://wp.me/p1bntR-42y with a behind-the-scenes look at my dashboard using screenshots, so you can see how valuable it is in action!

It’s incredibly good value for money. I know some other companies who charge much more for this type of thing. The amount of suggested copy you get, to gain more exposure and clicks, is just amazing! It would take you hours alone, just to think up this stuff, and that in itself, saves you so much time. I think this is what sets Missing Lettr apart from other social media automation tools, is that it creates compelling copy to go with your posts, so you don’t have to. Most companies would either not do both, or charge an extortionate amount, particularly for the automatic creation of copy; hundreds of pounds. Buy now here https://goo.gl/RNvo3L

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Free Your Books!

Free your books

I love this quote so much. Have you considered that your books may be imprisoned by you if you haven’t opened them for such a long time? Do you feel like your books are real, with a secret life of their own? And just like the film Toy Story, in which the toys come to life, your books come to life! If your books could talk to you, what do you think they would be saying to you right now? Please comment below!

Until next time, write soon and stay quirky

Sandra xx


The Most Amazing Person To Be Is Yourself – Inspirational Quote By Sandra Bellamy Quirky Academy

Best person to be is you

People look externally to get their life to be ‘better’; to have more money, to look a certain way; to get people to believe they are this and that. They often go along with the masses, and react like a chameleon, and lose their sense of self in the process! They end up trying to replicate so many others so often, that they barely recognise themselves and then look for external gratification and reassurance that it is okay to be them (which is actually a made up version of lots of other people) – so who is them? Do they even know? ‘Why are you trying to be someone you are not?’ I think to myself, because when your life has ended, will these superficial people you follow and try to be like even care? Stop wasting your life and start living your own! There is no better person to be than yourself, because nobody does a better job of being you, no one else knows what you like, need, and want, more than you do, so only you have the power to make yourself the happiest being alive, and you don’t need anyone else to do that for you. The best role you can possibly get in your life, is that of being your true authentic self, and all you need is you, to see your life through!

Stay your quirky self my friend, live your life for you and love yourself, every day, just as you are, your whole life through!

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx




Fabulous Quirky You

I just want to let you know how fabulous you are, just as beautiful quirky you. No one does you better. So be different, unconventional, strange and weird in a good way, and rise to the challenge of being your best quirky you! You were born to be on this earth as an individual and you were born to shine as you, so don’t let anyone dull your star! You are amazing! Stand out and be outstanding, just as you are!

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx



IT’S NOT SELFISH! Making You, Your Number one!

Not selfish quote -self love

It’s not selfish to put yourself first; to love yourself, and to make you your number one priority, it’s a necessity! People seem to have it in their heads that they have to be giving as that is part of loving others, and while they have a fair point, you need to have boundaries in place and not compromise yourself out of all recognition. In fact, you DON’T have to compromise yourself, as your needs should be your priority, so you must do what is overall best for you, as you are the one who has to live with yourself day in and day out! This means you need to  choose relationships and friendships that best compliment your personality, your life and lifestyle. Notice I said compliment, they don’t have to exactly match.

The thing is, if you end up giving, whilst not really living the life you want to lead, or doing anything you want to do, you will no longer feel connected to your own soul and this could have serious repercussions in your current and future relationships. You may feel resentful without meaning to be, you may feel confused about what you want, you may not know who you are!

This was me years ago, before my diagnosis of Fibro and now I come first. No more housework for a guy, if I get a boyfriend in the future. No more sex, as I now know I am asexual – not a sexual – and there are thousands of others like me around the globe! No more having to relationship compromise and put your partner first – no, I come first, if I had a partner, every single time. I live on my own, I am responsible for my bills and my rent and food in my belly, I still need to take care of me, he can look after himself, just like I can look after myself, I am a girl – not a mother and cleaner upper! This is not the conventional attitude, I know, but this is me! I don’t like cooking, cleaning and housework – and I also don’t like watching sport or TV – so I don’t! I live for me and that is fab. I also enjoy staying up until 2am or 4am in the morning. Of course I am caring, but that can be taken advantage of – so no more am I a doormat! No more do I have to think of others all the time. I have to focus on me more to be happy. And I can tell you from suffering with depression for most of my life prior to 2012, that this attitude is one that I should have adopted years ago as now I love jumping out of bed every day, even when life is tough. I love being alive, and I love life and living it my quirky and unconventional way! Do I feel a bit guilty sometimes – do I feel I will be judged as being bad and uncaring – yes, I do feel this sometimes, because I think it can sound cold and uncaring to be this way, (even though I am very kind and caring), as that is not what is traditionally expected – especially of a female! Will I change back – no, never. I am not saying I will never ever cook food for a guy, but I won’t make a habit of it, and I will set the record from the beginning my expectations. And yes, I want to remain living on my own, maybe forever. I love where I live, because I live on my own but in the middle of a house so have the best of both worlds!

So don’t ever feel selfish to self-date and take time out for you. The happier and healthier you are in your own right, the better off you will be for others. I am living proof of that. That is how I feel. I also know I can survive and thrive on life because of this. And don’t ever feel selfish living your life, your own quirky way! There is no way I would want to be at home watching TV and going to bed at a reasonable hour each day, and living a normal life – I would be so very bored, unmotivated, and feel older – I am young, quirky, 21st mindset me! The best way to be!

Always remember that I love you lots for being quirky you, and thanks always for your support and for stopping by my blog and touching my life, it means so very much xx

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx



Well now my all new Quirky Academy is officially launched at last, the moment I have been waiting for, for years of my life, has finally come to fruition! It is a new online training centre for Entrepreneurs, Start-ups, and Creatives, with courses for both personal and professional development! I am starting small and building big and will have other tutors, besides me on there, in their specialist fields. If you want more details on how to become a tutor and what would be involved, please email me at quirkyacademy@gmail.com And I would also like to know your ideas for what types of courses you would want to see on there, so please fill out the poll below, it would be very helpful to me! Thanks in advance xx