Be Quirky FABULOUS YOU!


Fabulous Quirky You

I just want to let you know how fabulous you are, just as beautiful quirky you. No one does you better. So be different, unconventional, strange and weird in a good way, and rise to the challenge of being your best quirky you! You were born to be on this earth as an individual and you were born to shine as you, so don’t let anyone dull your star! You are amazing! Stand out and be outstanding, just as you are!

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx

 

 

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IT’S NOT SELFISH! Making You, Your Number one!


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It’s not selfish to put yourself first; to love yourself, and to make you your number one priority, it’s a necessity! People seem to have it in their heads that they have to be giving as that is part of loving others, and while they have a fair point, you need to have boundaries in place and not compromise yourself out of all recognition. In fact, you DON’T have to compromise yourself, as your needs should be your priority, so you must do what is overall best for you, as you are the one who has to live with yourself day in and day out! This means you need to  choose relationships and friendships that best compliment your personality, your life and lifestyle. Notice I said compliment, they don’t have to exactly match.

The thing is, if you end up giving, whilst not really living the life you want to lead, or doing anything you want to do, you will no longer feel connected to your own soul and this could have serious repercussions in your current and future relationships. You may feel resentful without meaning to be, you may feel confused about what you want, you may not know who you are!

This was me years ago, before my diagnosis of Fibro and now I come first. No more housework for a guy, if I get a boyfriend in the future. No more sex, as I now know I am asexual – not a sexual – and there are thousands of others like me around the globe! No more having to relationship compromise and put your partner first – no, I come first, if I had a partner, every single time. I live on my own, I am responsible for my bills and my rent and food in my belly, I still need to take care of me, he can look after himself, just like I can look after myself, I am a girl – not a mother and cleaner upper! This is not the conventional attitude, I know, but this is me! I don’t like cooking, cleaning and housework – and I also don’t like watching sport or TV – so I don’t! I live for me and that is fab. I also enjoy staying up until 2am or 4am in the morning. Of course I am caring, but that can be taken advantage of – so no more am I a doormat! No more do I have to think of others all the time. I have to focus on me more to be happy. And I can tell you from suffering with depression for most of my life prior to 2012, that this attitude is one that I should have adopted years ago as now I love jumping out of bed every day, even when life is tough. I love being alive, and I love life and living it my quirky and unconventional way! Do I feel a bit guilty sometimes – do I feel I will be judged as being bad and uncaring – yes, I do feel this sometimes, because I think it can sound cold and uncaring to be this way, (even though I am very kind and caring), as that is not what is traditionally expected – especially of a female! Will I change back – no, never. I am not saying I will never ever cook food for a guy, but I won’t make a habit of it, and I will set the record from the beginning my expectations. And yes, I want to remain living on my own, maybe forever. I love where I live, because I live on my own but in the middle of a house so have the best of both worlds!

So don’t ever feel selfish to self-date and take time out for you. The happier and healthier you are in your own right, the better off you will be for others. I am living proof of that. That is how I feel. I also know I can survive and thrive on life because of this. And don’t ever feel selfish living your life, your own quirky way! There is no way I would want to be at home watching TV and going to bed at a reasonable hour each day, and living a normal life – I would be so very bored, unmotivated, and feel older – I am young, quirky, 21st mindset me! The best way to be!

Always remember that I love you lots for being quirky you, and thanks always for your support and for stopping by my blog and touching my life, it means so very much xx

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx

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BE THE FLOWER IN YOUR OWN LIFE THAT IS ALWAYS IN BLOOM! Quote By Chief Quirky At Quirky Academy!


Well now my all new Quirky Academy is officially launched at last, the moment I have been waiting for, for years of my life, has finally come to fruition! It is a new online training centre for Entrepreneurs, Start-ups, and Creatives, with courses for both personal and professional development! I am starting small and building big and will have other tutors, besides me on there, in their specialist fields. If you want more details on how to become a tutor and what would be involved, please email me at quirkyacademy@gmail.com And I would also like to know your ideas for what types of courses you would want to see on there, so please fill out the poll below, it would be very helpful to me! Thanks in advance xx

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What Does Your Book Genre Say About You?


What your Book Genre says about YOU:

Literary Fiction – Deep thinker. Problem solver. Open minded – Easily relatable to everyone around you.

Fantasy/Sci-Fi – Imaginative. Escapist. Thrill Seeker. Witty. Daydreamer. Somewhat of a loner but has a good group of Friends.

Mystery/Thriller – Inquisitive. Mostly Reserved – prefer to Lay Low. Always up for new Plot Twists in Real Life.

Romance – Passionate. Idealist. High expectations on dates. Will go the extra mile for the love of your life.

Non-Fiction – Grounded. Pragmatic. Good listener. Love BIG Gestures. Secretly hope that someone will write about YOU.

Classics – Book nerd. Enjoy the simplicities of life. Intelligent. Not a fan of the spotlight even though you are highly opinionated.

All Genres – Overall well-rounded. Easy going. Open to new foods, new adventures, new people. For the most part, you are positive and fun to be around.


Even though I don’t read romance or write it (I mostly write non-fiction), I am hugely romantic in my personality, so I relate to that genre personality really well – how about you? Do you think these are accurate or not?

As always, until next time, stay quirky and write soon.

Sandra xx

Hello April! Stay Warm In Your Heart!


Welcome April

The UK weather was very cold in March, and particularly in my city of Exeter. It snowed twice in a couple of weeks and lasted a few days. The snow looked pretty, but particularly the 1st time, a lot of places were closed and there were tons of people at the supermarket afterwards, flocking to stock up on food again. This was the second bout of snow. Like the first bout, it stopped public transport so I could not see my dad for his birthday, 19th of March – so he had to have a second birthday 3 days later. I was worried about my girls, (guinea pigs), so was rushing around like a headless chicken both times to stock up on hay and food for them in case no shops were open.

Whatever the weather, I hope you stay warm in your heart.

Love of love, write soon and stay quirky

Sandra xx

Book Quotes For Writers And Book Lovers! Why The Books I Write Are My Best Friends!


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As a Writer and Author, I often feel like some of the books I write are my bestest friends, because just like a best friendship, I spend so long working on them and with them. My books know my secrets, and sometimes they even pass some of those onto others, but there are many secrets and parts of my life that they never share, because of the difficult experiences I went through when I wrote them that are personal to me. My books helped me to get through those difficult times, without revealing to the public what happened. They listen to me and raise me up when I am at my worst and they educate me when they speak of their own free will of expression. My Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy book took me two and a half years to write and it really got me through some difficult times in my life and I will always be very thankful and grateful to it for that.

I sometimes think that books are the magic of life and I still think that, but I believe you can create your own magic in life and you can make dreams come true! I know I have made a lot of my own dreams come true in life, and I still strive to do that every single day of my life! If you want to be in a horse drawn carriage, you can hire one! If you want to have your own castle, you can build one. If you want to be a princess or prince, you can be the prince or princess of your own life, you can buy the outfit, learn out how act like one or be a quirky prince or princess, and even change your name to include prince or princess! (You’re tempted, I know). I have a dress that I call my princess dress, because I feel like it is one, and I feel like a Disney Princess in it!

Have you ever felt that the books you write or read are your best friends?

How do you create magic in your own life?

Which quote do you resonate with the most?

Please comment below – I love to know what you think?

As always, stay quirky.

Love Sandra xx

Quirky Quotes For Beautifully Quirky People – Quirky Books!


Quirky Quote From Sandra Bellamy

Some people believe that being different is not good, as they don’t fit in. They can be seen by society as an oddball, weird, strange, eccentric, and far out. But what you have to remember, is being different is very beautiful and that if you are different, it is because you are born for the purpose of standing out from a crowd, and this means there is an underlying reason why you are alive and you have a specific purpose and reason why you are on this earth. If you were meant to be on this earth, and go about your daily life like everyone else, you would not be blessed with the ability to survive as an individualist, in fact, if you dig deep, you will find that you are not just born for surviving, you are born for far more than the average person, because you are not average, you are unique, and different, and that means you are a special, chosen one. But chosen for what? Is what you must always seek the answer to throughout your life. Even when you think you have achieved that or got that, you will know there are other life missions just around the corner to stretch and grow you as a person and your magnificent brain.

Yes, everyone is different, but not everyone knows it, feels it, or acts like it. Not everyone is being true to themselves or living their true authentic life. But you know, if you are consciously aware of your difference, that you cannot help but be different, it’s because you are, and your mission must always be to find out your why in life, and your bigger why, and the bigger picture. Make this your mission to always seek answers and allow your intuition to guide you and find them!!

Until next time, always stay your beautiful quirky self and write soon, Sandra xx

P.S. If you are looking for a Quirky Book, you can check out my www.quirky-books.com or www.quirkybooks.net site or check out my shop page on Amazon http://amzn.to/2Evf30M

P.P.S. To find out more about me, check out www.sandrabellamy.com and www.sandrabellamy.co.uk

4 Awesome Ways To Celebrate Being Single On Valentine’s Day/International Celebrate Being Single Day!


4 Awesome Ways To Celebrate Being Single On Valentine’s Day/International Celebrate Being Single Day!

On this day in 2015, I founded International Celebrate Being Day – on this Quirky Books blog! So that no single person has to feel alone on Valentine’s Day ever again! Instead, they can celebrate it as their special day, such as with a self-date! So today I am out on a self-date to celebrate being single on #ICBSDAY or #ICBSD! (International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!) I am going to the cinema and for a meal! And I will be even more loved up with myself than usual!

I have to admit, I have always been happier being single than in a relationship! That doesn’t mean to say it will always be the case, but if it is, that’s fine! I get attracted to younger foreign asexual guys in their 20s, (I am an asexual younger cougar – so I like to kiss a younger guy, not have sex with them), so I am limited in finding someone suitable, especially as I don’t want (sex – as an asexual), marriage, or kids, and I love living on my own and still want 100% commitment but to live separate from someone special, and have them living just around the corner from my home would be nice – I don’t want to cook or clean for a guy, or share household bills with a guy, and if no guy likes that, fine, right now I really appreciate my single life and want it to stay like that for a while anyway!

How are you going to celebrate being single today?

Or if you are in a relationship, how are you going to go out of your way to make that someone feel extra special today? Yes, you may take them out at other times of year, yes, they may know you love them all year round, yes, you may buy them gifts all year around, but there is no harm in doing it today – what have you got to lose?

I never want to be with a cynical guy where Valentine’s Day is concerned or any other special day – and there are quite a lot of cynical guys or guys who have left their dating years behind – remember, if you are in a relationship, it is healthy to date once a week and to remember to not take these days for granted, as they won’t last forever! I believe any reason to celebrate life and love should be taken! I think life should be one big party from beginning to end! And quite frankly if a guy is not going to do anything in these respects, then I really don’t need him, as I make myself happy on every special occasion, yes, I never stay in on my birthday either, I go out, even if that means by myself! And I make myself happy all year round, so any guy who is interested in a relationship with me has a lot to live up to!!

Here are 3 awesome celebrate being single tunes to get you feeling that amazing – HAPPY TO BE SINGLE VIBE!

Whatever happens, however you spend February 14th, know that I love you, that I care, and I am here! And always celebrate being quirky you. Happy Valentine’s Day and Happy International Celebrate Being Single Day from me, lots of love, Sandra xxxxxxxx

P.S. Write soon – you know you want to!!