How To Shift Your Mindset From Writer And Author To Your Own Book Publishing Business

Ever wanted to own your own Book Publishing Business but you keep doubting yourself that you can? Or maybe you have never considered it, because you always thought traditional publishing was the way to go … no, and in this post I reveal why, and how you can stop doubting yourself for good. If that sounds like something you want to know more about, read on…

From 2nd October 2020, I went through hell, with mental, physical, and emotional trauma. It took me a year to leave a day job (October 10th 2021 was the day I officially left), that made me really poorly because of things that went on which I wasn’t expecting and didn’t deserve, and I was off sick from for a long time (so been able to self-isolate a lot more than those who work and keep myself safer). I can’t currently discuss more about this publicly for legal reasons and might never be able to, but I think you get my point.

I went back to therapy for the first time since 2014, and was unofficially diagnosed with PTSD – I got an assessment score of 49. A score of 32 and above means you have the condition. Furthermore I was diagnosed with complex PTSD (CPTSD) as I have had uncontrollable emotions, and was crying almost every day I woke up, until 16th of December – when everything changed for the better, for good.

In November last year (2021), I went out clubbing for the first time ever since March 2020, for 5.5 hours, this was the first time since I broke my ankle back on 17th of April 2021 and I’ve done extensive physio to walk again and regain strength in that ankle enough to go clubbing. It was the longest I had clubbed for, since I went to Ministry Of Sound in London, in 2014. 2 days later I got sick with a respiratory/chest infection and lost my voice. I had to have 3 lots of antibiotics in 6 weeks and was still coughing on Christmas Day and on New Year’s Day I was battling with severe rib and chest pain – like someone had stabbed me with a knife in-between my ribs and left the knife in (even though they hadn’t), to the point where the next day it hurt me every time I breathed in (and felt like I was being cut with glass, on top of the feeling I had a knife in my ribs), and later I went to A&E on the advice of my local NHS Walk In Centre and Devon Doctors on call, who suggested a rib and chest XRay respectively. But instead of having an XRay I ended up in a Covid hot room, about to have a bed made up for me, a monitor hooked up to me, and blood tests taken, when I didn’t have Covid and all my tests for that had been negative. I was horrified! It was like something out of a surreal horror movie. They put my life at risk unnecessarily, because I had purposefully been keeping myself safe from getting it as I have a low immune system (which I take good liquid bacteria for) and too many allergies to have the vaccine. And there was a patient who was in the same room as me that I heard them diagnose with Covid right before the Doctor saw me, and I told them all my tests were negative for that – including the one I had done at 8am New Year’s Day, before visiting my parents and my guinea pig daughter Angel who lives with them. Their reasoning being I was in the hot room they said before the Doctor saw me, was because I had had a cough – I already told them I don’t think I coughed once that day, and the Doctor I saw before Christmas who said I had a chest infection, with some infection still in my lungs, said I would still be coughing after I finished the antibiotics she gave me and I had some rib pain then, just not as severe. They also said it was because many people have Covid and I am not vaccinated, which I felt were ridiculous reasons, just because lots of people have it and I am unvaccinated, doesn’t mean to say I would have it.

During the time I got sick (I got my first lot of antibiotics on 16th of November), I was forced to rest during that month as much as possible – although I did do some work on my Asexual Guide To Sex book, and take stock of my life, reflect on it, and what I really want to do with me life and make some drastic changes to it. For years I have had a voice in my head being a coach to myself that said, if you only just focused on writing books for the next 1-2 years and nothing else, what do you think your life would be like? And how much better it would be. But I was always crying, upset, and in pain from this, because I hadn’t made the decision to go all in before, I kept going off on tangents because people kept telling me I am not making enough money from my writing and I kept telling myself that. They told me I can’t make enough money from writing books, that basically it’s an add on to a business, not the business, and that I need to do something else to make money, because otherwise I will fail. And some of the people have years of business experience and made hundreds of thousands of pounds, one has even made billions, and published his own book. But… these people do not specialise in a book publishing business, they don’t focus on book publishing, they just use it as one asset in their tool box. For me, writing is my life and soul purpose, and my destiny given to me by God is to have lots of books out and publish by the time I die, so I can continue to save lives long after I am gone. I see that in my destiny and soul purpose (along with helping asexuals and getting asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in it’s own right, so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. – That’s why I loooove writing books for asexuals. As it’s both my life and soul purpose in one).

As the beginning of December, I started working my way through the first 2 module of Ray Edwards – How To Set Up A Copywriting Business, video training course, that I bought on a late Black Friday deal. This course teaches you how to start a copywriting business and get clients. But… I only finished the first two modules, which apply to any writing business. That’s when it hit me twofold in the most profound way, and I love Ray for helping me figure this out.

  1. He said to, never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can. (This is because he was talking about copywriting is all about influencing others, but first you must be able to influence yourself – that’s it! The thing that changed the way I think.)
  2. Writing is a business and you can make thousands of pounds from it.

I didn’t need any more of that course, because that was enough to know I don’t want to work for someone else and write copy for others. I want to write more and more non-fiction books that change lives and leave a lasting legacy. And the 2 things I needed to do to accomplish that, is to influence myself enough to know I can make thousands of pounds and a full-time living as a writer. And to focus on book writing as a business.

I had a wobble…

Self-doubt crept back in…

But on 16th of December 2021 my best friend Andy took me for a meal in Nandos as an early Christmas present. (He also bought me some pressies too for Christmas Day.) Before we went out, we discussed my self-doubt and I was trying to understand why I didn’t fully believe in my intention, when I did the previous week. But then it hit me as I came out of the toilet in Nandos, what made the difference, so I was able to go all in… It was a mindset shift, from I am a Writer and Author, with my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books, which is fantastic, to I am the Writer, Author, Manager, Promoter, And Marketer, of my Book Publishing Business. But the most important thing to remember is Writer, Author, Owner, Manager, Promoter – (which involves far more self-promotion as part of a marketing strategy to sell more books), of my own Book Publishing Business of Quirky Books. And that’s when I decided to go all in and commit 100% to creating a successful book publishing business, rather just seeing myself as an Author and Writer.

I don’t think it’s the books that’s the problem – why I have lower sales than I would like, I think it’s me and my mindset that needs to change. I think I need to ensure that I promote myself and my books far more and get a lot more publicity going forward. Such as get on more podcasts, be in more online magazine articles, get more radio interviews, and so much more. Which I will be doing with my Asexual Guide To Sex book – so watch this space for that. I’m so excited! I think mindset is so overlooked when it comes to book sales, or lack thereof.

Last year I studied an expert in mindset shifting. He said instead of affirmations, you need to look for confirmations. Which is proof you can do it or have done it before. Which I am able to do with writing non-fiction books. I am a successful Author and writer who can make money from writing and publishing books, because I have consistent monthly income from once book since 2017, and another since 2019, even though I would like a much higher income from those, it’s still proof I can make consistent sales for years, when some people don’t make any sales at all. Also, a couple of years ago, a traditional publisher that had been in business for 35 years, found my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book in an LGBT shop in London and approached me on Twitter to tell me they were interested in publishing my book under their publishing imprint, but…:

  • They wanted to remove half the stories (because the ones including any mention of sexual abuse, would not be suitable for their publishing style and image, and it would make the book cheaper to sell, and they had a maximum price they would sell the book for.) Bear in mind the book is called “Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories“, it would mean changing the title also, and my audience getting less valuable stories.
  • They also wanted all of my reviews I had built up myself over the years. (Now I am not sure if that would have been possible anyway, because if they removed some of the stories and the title changed, it would have in essence made it a different book, and I don’t think KDP would have allowed that.)
  • I would have to ask their permission to quote from my own book (no thank you). I sell a lot of my books by quoting from them – so if you haven’t already tried to do this, I highly recommend it.
  • They wanted me to read another book to replicate that person’s style (no thank you, I want to keep my own style).
  • I would have got a maximum of 12% commission on book sales, even after the representative from their company had just told me on the phone I would have got 15%, he then reduced that figure in the follow up email. (Which immediately made me trust them less.) I get up to 70% through publishing my books myself using KDP.
  • In the end they agreed with me not take that book on themselves as they spoke to their marketing team and said because I have so successfully published that book, they doubt they could meet my marketing expectations.
  • They refused to take on my Asexual Sex Guide To Sex book, which they wanted to consider, and I had to apply to them to consider, because again, it has some stories which include sexual abuse and they thought the content would be too risky, but told me their marketing team said there is a market for it, and it will definitely sell. I was very happy and grateful I had this positive feedback from a company with 35 experience.
  • They were interested in publishing my next 2 books, after Asexual Guide To Sex, and years ago it would be my Author/Writer dream to have a traditional company publisher my book, but now I want to build my own book publishing business and get my Quirky Books imprint portfolio increased. I have no desire to work for someone else, when I am so super successful at publishing my own style of books, in my own voice. Raw, real, authentic.

I just need to write more books and focus on having an actual book publishing business and stop going off on tangents with things that have nothing to do with writing, publishing, promoting and selling, more books, because people keep telling me you can’t earn a full-time living from writing books alone – which simply isn’t true, because others are doing it, so why can’t I? Remember what Ray Edwards said, he said to: never be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

So after all of the heartache and pain, and everything I have been through over the last year and more, I am so happy to now be focusing on Quirky Books as a book publishing business and accelerating my Author journey to another level entirely, and feeling much happier now I have clarity and focus on exactly what I want to do for the rest of my life and beyond. God has given me the precious gift of writing and made it my mission to write books that change lives, from pain to gain, so I am going to fulfil my destiny. He also gave me the mission to help asexuals, so by doing both it’s my ultimate bliss and happy place. I am also on my way to creating my Children’s Book publishing dream too, with immense help from the Children’s Book Creator course and the support group which comes with it. I would highly recommend it, if you want to write, illustrate, and publish your own Children’s books yourself. Although I have been working my way through the video training course, I am focused on finished my Asexual Guide To Sex book as a priority. Read more about the Children’s Book Creator course here: Calling All Would-Be Children’s Book Writer’s, Authors and Publishers – How To Write And Publish Your Own Children’s Books And Save Yourself Hundreds Of Pounds and remember, don’t let yourself be influenced by those who say you can’t do something, influence yourself enough to know you can.

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

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I didn’t want to end up homeless, starving, and on the streets! 

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This is important…”

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“I realised 4 major things…”

  1. Self-doubt: It was majorly debilitating, like constant chronic pain. I didn’t realise I had it so bad.
  2. Fear: I had allowed this to take over me and become irrational in the process.
  3. Attachment: To a job that no longer served me. 
  4. State: I would wake up almost every morning back to square one. I call this the seesaw effect. So I managed to tap into all of my learnings and put myself in a positive state by the end of each day, but the next day I was worried sick and crying again whenever I woke up.

As I searched for answers, it hit me like a ton of bricks and I had a revelation…”

Something a mindset coach said. He talked about state and how many people attend personal development courses, training, workshops and seminars, but the changes they make at these events, rarely stick. This is because they are put in a change of state at that time. But when the event is over, they get out of that change of state and go back to their old state and way of being.

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The super-conscious. 

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Andy Harrington and Sandra Bellamy at his Stand and Deliver Speaker Training, getting Andy’s Passion Into Profit book signed.

That was the spark / the kick in the tail I needed.

I was scared but optimistic.

I knew I was on the right path. 

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Unless you get your mindset to work in your favour, no amount of skills, life experience and work experience, will stop you from self-sabotaging and becoming your own work enemy in pursuit of your dreams. If you want to become your best self to achieve your dreams, you have to work on your mind, because that’s the key to your success. 

Your mindset affects your self-worth, your business, your income, your relationships, and your day-to-day activities and life. I’m on a mission to help people consciously create the life of their dreams by working on their mindset. This starts with rewiring your brain for success, by getting rid of bad habits and negative thought patterns and behaviours, and replacing them with some new, positive, and healthy ones. 

This revolutionary life-changing ©MindSelf E-Journal, is a tool designed to rewire your brain for success and happiness, in multiple aspects of your life and business. It will help you gain clarity, be more organised, increase your positivity and productivity, so you can feel more happier and successful, within your mind and self. MindSelf.

Through daily repetition of new and better habits; where you focus on an abundance of things you do have to be grateful for; positive affirmations to boost your self-worth, self-esteem, and ultimately your joy, happiness, and increase your productivity, and ultimately your bank balance, and to help you to have healthier and happier relationships with the ones you love.

Each day has a different inspirational quote and question for your soul, to enable you to self-love more, to self-reflect, to become more self-aware, and to grow your self. The more you become self-aware, the more you can consciously create the life of your dreams by becoming more an observer of your, thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and why you do the things you do. You can’t fix what you don’t know or understand.

This MindSelf Journal has 31 days of content, but the pages have purposefully got space for you to add your own day and date to each one, where applicable, in case you start using your journal part way though the month, so as not to waste any pages. This is especially true for your daily inspirational quotes and questions for your soul and your Daily Planner. Also, your Weekly Planner, which is available for days 1, 8, 15, 22, and 29, purposefully has space for you to write the name of the days in, so you can start your week at whatever day is convenient to you. Your planners help plan and utilise your day, without wasting any time.

There are also 70 extra pages where you can add additional answers to the inspirational quotes and questions, which vary every day from month-to-month; you can create your own happy list and positive affirmations, you can share whatever is on your mind to free it up, and write more creative ideas that spring to mind, and plan your day out in even more detail.

Each day of the week has:


List 7 things you are grateful for as soon as you wake up. To get you into the habit of having an abundance mindset, and to foster positivity as soon as you wake up. 

This helps rewire your brain from negative to positive.


Positive affirmations for eliminating self-doubt, and fostering trust within yourself. If you doubt yourself, you will procrastinate, not take enough action, and second-guess everything you do, leading to self-sabotage, which holds you back from making any real progress in your life and business, leading you to longing for something more, but not knowing how to obtain it. 

Use these specific Law Of Attraction affirmations to rewire your brain for self–belief, self-trust, and to help you to make decisions more confidently and decisively, so you can move forward faster and make more progress quicker in your life and business.


Positive affirmations to boost your self-image and bask in your sexy power and awesomeness of the individual contours of your body, that make up unique you. 

You may have found it hard to look at yourself naked in the mirror, but right now, that’s all about to change for the better, forever. 

If you feel more confident in your own body and skin, that will naturally radiant throughout your whole being and more and more people will be attracted to you like a magnet. When you start finding yourself more and more attractive, you instantly become more attractive to others. Because your value goes up in your own mind, so too, does it in other’s minds.


Positive affirmations to boost your productivity. 

The power of the Law Of Action. 

It’s great to have a dream, but without taking any action, that dream is unlikely to become a reality. 

Fears and procrastination can hold you back from what you truly want in your life. 

So it’s essential you get into the right mindset for productivity. The more you take action, the more momentum builds and the more confident you become, so the more action you will take. 

These specific Law Of Action affirmations are designed to rewire your brain to think and feel more positively about getting things done, so they become more of a pleasure than a chore. 

This increases your productivity, so you can move forward more confidently in your life and make more progress to get s*it done faster, more efficiently, more effectively and more effortlessly. 

(I call these the 3 E’s.)


Wealth affirmations. You might have been taught negative connotations in regard to making money, such as money is the root of all evil, money doesn’t grow on trees, or it’s greedy to want too much money. These negative connotations when reiterated over and over again, stop you from forming a healthy relationship with money and hold you back from charging your worth, and often prevent you from getting the money you truly desire and seek.

These affirmations, some of which are taken from T. Harv Eker’s Millionaire Mind Intensive live event training for rewiring and mastering your mind in regard to money, which I have been to – will rewire your brain for thinking more positively about money, for increasing your own value in regard to your worthiness in obtaining it, and increasing the value you give to others in your own eyes. 

If you are able to consistently believe and feel, that the value you give to others is always worth far more than what you charge, because the transformation you enable them to have is priceless, it will give you increased confidence to value your own worth more highly and take ownership of your financial success.


These Law Of Attraction self-love affirmations are essential for increasing your own value and self-worth, and for attracting and receiving loving relationships into your life. 

If you’re feeling good about yourself and that people are loving you and wanting to talk to you and be in your company, this will not only help you in your personal relationships with loved ones, family and friends, but also in attracting the right people for your business and to help make you wealthy. 

Say these affirmations with your hand on your heart in front of a mirror and feel the power of an abundance of love flowing deep within your soul, and throughout every cell in your body. Now close your eyes. It’s like bathing in a sea of love. Extremely powerful.


Every day you will list 12 things you love about yourself. This will increase your self-value and self-worth. 

The more you love yourself, the more you will feel better in your own company, the more you will be happy and at peace with who you are; stable, strong, and secure within your own soul. 

The more you find things to love about yourself, the more attractive you will feel and the more confidence you will create within you. The more attractive and confident you feel in your inner world, the more you become attractive to others, because you attract what you are. That’s the power of Law Of Attraction.


Trusting your own intuition is essential for living your own life purpose and designing a life that you adore. 

It’s easy to get caught up in the noise of other’s lives and what they deem is the best and right thing for you to do with yours. 

But once you start tapping into your own intuition and allow yourself to trust it and for it to lead your life, instead of having other’s push their own agenda’s on your life and try to lead your life for you, you can see the magic and wonder unfold, as you develop a strong sense of inner knowing and guidance, that everything is always working out for you in divine timing, and begin to say no to others, to get the happiness you truly deserve, love, and crave.


One way of hearing your intuition more and more and tapping into your personal power, is to ask yourself; what is your intuition telling you right now? 

This page is designed to ask you this question on a daily basis so you can tap into your soul energy and ask it what to do next. 

This will develop a greater sense of true self-worth and self-reliance within you, so you make better decisions on how to live your best life, which is in keeping with your soul values and what matter most to you. 

Tapping into your intuition will enable you to get out of your comfort zone, push through your fears and boundaries, and achieve things before, which you never thought possible. It will help you to believe in your own abilities to work things out and to rise to unforeseen challenges along the way to living the life of your dreams.


Happiness is an internal job.

It’s important you create your own happiness in your life and don’t rely on other people for it; otherwise you give away your personal power. 

Every day this page is designed to get you to focus on what makes you happy. 

Being happy and staying happy is like a muscle you need to exercise daily, by incorporating as many things as possible that make you happy into each and every day of your life, it will help you to feel good and better for longer and help you to increase your value and self-worth. It will give you the energy and willpower to do more and live life to the fullest. So you will procrastinate less and get more s*it done as a result, which will make you feel better about yourself as you increase your life satisfaction and fulfilment.


If you’ve read World Leading High Performance Coach Brendon Burchard’s High Performance Habits book on how to create an extraordinary life, you will know that without clarity, you will be directionless, procrastinate, and feel stuck and unfilled in life.

Brendon says:

“Clarity on who you are is associated with overall self-esteem. This means that how positive you feel about yourself, is tied to how well you know yourself. On the flip side a lack of clarity is strongly associated with neuroticism and negative emotions. That’s why self-awareness is so key to initial success. You have to know who you are, what you value… and where you want to go. This kind of knowledge makes you feel better about yourself and life… Studies show that having a specific plan attached to your goals – knowing when and where you will do something – can more than double the likelihood of achieving a challenging goal.”

This is what page K is for, so you can get crystal clear on what your intention is for each and every day, and what you want to achieve. Having intention, creates purpose and direction, which gives meaning to your day, and creates drive and ambition to see a project or task through to completion.


Keeps you on track and crystal clear on what you want to do for the next day, so you are already prepared for it, and have offloaded any pending to-dos, so you can sleep more soundly at night, by having a greater sense of direction, control over your life and business, and inner peace knowing this.

Both the weekly and daily planners double the likelihood of achieving your goals faster, with clarity of intention, and a specific plan attached to your goals.


Is where you reflect on your day and get chance to celebrate your own successes, however big or small. 

Self-recognition of your achievements is vital for your health and wellbeing. 

By taking notice of your accomplishments, you value your own worth more, by making yourself seen and heard more by your self. Which increases self-appreciation and self-satisfaction. It helps you to self-love more, by realising all of the skills, experiences, and special qualities you have, that enable you to achieve all that you do. 

When you celebrate how far you have come and what you have achieved, this creates a work and reward set up in your brain, so when you have achieved something and taken notice of that, it empowers you to keep moving forward in your life and have greater successes.

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Each day for 31 days, (or however many days there are in that month) you have an inspirational quote and question for your soul. 

This inspirational quote and question changes every month, and is designed to:

  • Bring greater self-awareness, to give you more personal power.
  • Help make your life happier, brighter, and feel good!
  • Help you reflect on yourself and your life, to understand yourself better.
  • Give you personal insights.
  • Help you become a better version of yourself.
  • Help you to feel inspired, motivated, and enlightened each and every day, without having to waste time scrolling through Facebook or other social media, to get your daily does of inspiration, then going off on tangents so you get nothing done.
  • Foster positive emotions on a daily basis.
  • Activate a more positive mindset, daily.
  • Encourage new and better habits, so you can live the life of your dreams.


Why is it so inexpensive? 

  • I’m doing this $25 deal, so I can help as many people like you as possible. 
  • Because I don’t want what happened to me, to happened to you. 
  • Just when I thought I had my shit together, my life fell apart. Don’t take the same mistake I did.
  • If this is your first time shopping with me, then I want to make it as easy as possible for you to say yes, because I know how life-changing this will be for you. 

It would be great to get some case studies too, so after you have done the work in the ©MindSelf Journal, if you want your case study and business to featured on the sales page for the MindSelf Journal, just shoot me a message, titled “I want my MindSelf case study to be featured” to I reserve the right to choose whether to feature yours or not, subject to space limit and content.

Got any questions? Email me at with the subject line “MindSelf Journal questions.”

“40 Day money back guarantee…”

And I am currently throwing in a 40 day money back guarantee. 

So if you have followed all of the instructions in the ©MindSelf Journal, done everything every day for 31 days straight, and if for some reason you are not entirely satisfied and you don’t feel more productive and happier as a result. Then just shoot me a message to with the title “MindSelf Journal I want my money back” with photographic or video proof of you having done the work, then I will refund your money back in full. You will lose access to your private members area on our ©MindSelf Journal Club membership site, and you won’t be able to download any more copies of the journal or bonus. But you still get to keep this life-changing MindSelf Journal you already downloaded, and the bonus that comes with it, as my way of saying thanks for trying it. 

Don’t delay, hit the button below now, and change your life today, so you can:

  • Stop self-sabotaging and stop self-doubting.
  • Stop procrastinating.
  • Boost your productivity.
  • Be open to new and better opportunities.
  • Feel better about yourself and your life.
  • Boost your confidence.
  • Increase your self-esteem.
  • Feel better about your body.
  • Have more clarity, to make more informed and better decisions.
  • Stop that constant, nagging seesaw of emotions, that’s like a rope around your neck and constantly weighing you down.
  • Permanently, make these changes stick.

If you’re fed up with being on a hamster wheel of unstable emotions, insecurity, self-doubt, under-confidence and instability, and you’re ready to move your life forward and get out of this rut for good, invest in yourself and lock in your special monthly MindSelf Journal membership now, so you can stop feeling bad and start feeling good. I know you can do this, I’m rooting for you! And I’m with you! You got this! Click the button below to get your ©Mindset Journal right now. Remember, you can get your money back, as you are backed by my 40 day money back guarantee. So you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Click the button below to get your ©Mindset Journal right now. 

How to Unleash the Kid in You! And Be More Powerful Beyond belief!

What if I were to tell you, that unleashing your inner kid is one of the best tools you can use in your life or business? That it can set you free from the things that are holding you back and that unleashing it could give you that new lease of life and freedom that you so richly deserve?

You are likely to have been conditioned from a young age to believe you need to be an ‘adult’, and you should always inspire to be an adult – but why? Some would argue because you become more responsible and make better decisions, but do you?

What I have discovered is that without unleashing your inner kid, you become less flexible; more stuck in ideas; more rigid, and more fearful of trying new things, or of criticism. This can cause mental torment and be extremely unhealthy in not allowing you to live your life – as your true, authentic self, and achieve your full potential so you can be very happy.

Kids try new things out; they explore; they ask lots of questions; they are curious about the world around them and not afraid to speak their mind. Think about how useful these skills are to your life and business? They will stop you stagnating. They will allow you the freedom to try a variety of things, including jobs, and maybe start your own business. They allow you to think for yourself, so you can stimulate your mind and come up with your own solutions to problems, so you can make more decisions, and learn from the challenges of those decisions – kids don’t worry about making mistakes, they just get on and do stuff!

These are the strategies I want you to take on-board, I want you to be that kid that never says never, that always believes in fairy tales and magic – that the impossible can become possible. But where you will benefit the most, is the action taking, the further knowledge, resources and experiences, that are available to you as an adult – combined with the relentless, no fear attitude, and an abundance of energy from the Kid within you, that always wants to inspire and try new things and is not worried about making mistakes but who wants to explore life and make their own mark in the world!

Are you up for the challenge? How do you embrace your inner kid?

Write soon and stay quirky.

Sandra xx

Generation Cherry Book Review By Sandra Bellamy Quirky Books

Generation Cherry Book Review

Generation Cherry is a cracking book for the 50+ generation. Being an avid reader and Author of self-help, how-to and Personal And professional development books, I can see how much time, effort, knowledge and skill, the writer has put into creating this book.

Essentially, this book is a well-written and crafted system for how to cope with your life after retirement, redundancy, or a change in circumstance, using the 4 autonomies to get your life in balance, keep it that way, and get a second bite of the cherry of life!

What is good about this book is it also covers how to deal with life when you have less money, in a productive and positive way, using Enlightened Thrift. So you have that feel good factor in your life, whatever the circumstances.

The use of quotes and references throughout the book adds to its helpfulness and I particularly enjoyed reading the play on Stephen Covey’s words “Seven Insidious Excuses Forcibly Rejected By Highly Effective people”.

If you are into NLP, A Coach, Entrepreneur, or New Lifer, this book is for you!

I would have given this book 5 Stars because I admire the Author’s work and have respect for him because of it. However, I am not the intended target audience, I am under 40 and did not like the remarks made about young people throughout the first half of the book. I felt they are stereotyped and as not knowing what they want and that they aren’t as successful in business as older people are. The Author managed to redeem himself in the latter half of the book, where he reveals having a young mindset is key to living a long and happy life, and that in his 70s, he adopts a young mindset and is still learning and looking forward to new adventures, while being a second biter of Generation Cherry!

Sandra Bellamy/Quirky Books

Author Of Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work – An A-Z ‘How To’ Guide and How To Get Started With Twitter, Get Going And Get Growing, A Step-By-Step Guide.

Generation Cherry, is out on Amazon on 17th of January – 2017! And available for pre-order now!!

Generation Cherry
Generation Cherry

Positive Self Talk: Give Yourself A Hug – Quirky Love Video Five

Positive Self-Talk is about what you say to yourself verbally and in your mind. Love yourself enough to talk wonderfully to yourself. Write positive messages around your home; tell yourself you are beautiful and amazing. Learn to love yourself no matter what and give yourself a hug.

This is the fifth video in my Quirky Love series in the run up to Valentine’s Day. The next one will be published on Valentine’s Day. I am so looking forward to having a date with myself in Bristol on Valentine’s Day, to celebrate being single. I am going to the zoo, for a Thai meal and the cinema. I haven’t been to the cinema in months, so it should be awesome.

What have you decided to do for Valentine’s Day?

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Write soon and keep embracing your quirky