A Poem For The Talkers – By Author Sandra Bellamy. With Thanks To Gary Vee.


Your job is one of the hardest.

Yet it’s one of the most taken for granted.

To keep a conversation going without uncomfortable silences,

is no easy task.

To have multiple text conversations going at once, making each individual feel they matter, is not easy.

To be able to speak fast to fit both your own life in and other people’s in it, and not waste a moment of your precious time, is a gift most people take for granted.

To be able to answer people when most wouldn’t bother because they are busy and have their own lives, and can’t speak so quickly or multitask their talking, is incredible. Sometimes they just don’t have the words to say, yet words never fail you. So it’s an incredible gift you have.

Yet talkers are often given a hard time.

That’s why I admire people like Gary Vee, who admits he interrupts people because he has so much energy. He often knows what people are going to say before they say it, and many a time I’m the same way as he. It’s not our fault if people talk too slowly, that we know what they are about to say, before they finish their sentence, but they want to finish it anyway.

But Gary Vee gets shit done, when others can’t. He lives as his true authentic self, when others can’t. He tries his best, and lives with zest. He doesn’t waste years of his life pretending to be someone he is not. He pumps out content faster than anyone I have ever seen, and he cuts his long talks up into smaller chunks, to impact the world and change so many thousands of lives at once. If he wasn’t a talker, who loves to talk, if he didn’t like the sound of his own voice, and he wasn’t gifted with the ability to use it every minute of every day, as much as possible, he wouldn’t be able to help people and prevent them from being lead astray. His success in helping others lies not in holding himself back, but in realising his talking is a gift to the world, for those who want to hear it.

So thanks to the talkers, the speakers, the long talk walkers.

Thanks for keeping conversations going.

Thanks for having so many wise words to say, and being ever knowing.

Thanks for all the groups and teams you hold together, through your text, videos, and audio talks.

Thanks for being there talkers, when others with less words fail to comfort those in their hour of need, because their words fail them, can’t you see.

Thanks for all you do, and the impact you create.

Thanks for being a great teacher because you repeat things over and over again, so I can remember them. Even if you do say them in a different way, it helps me to retain those memories, and important information and education. To improve my life and that of others.

Talkers prevent deathly silences

Talkers talk people out of suicide.

Talkers negotiate hostage situations to save lives. They even save their own life in this way too.

Talkers can make great writers because they never run out of words to say, there is no lack. They have yours and their own back.

Talkers are a walking book of wisdom throughout the years, one which you are benefitting from for free, often and usually.

Talkers have an abundance mindset because there is always more that can be said and to share.

Talkers are gifted in the art of talking, with the ability to strike up conversations with strangers, with ease.

Talkers can bring cultures together, and people together, that are oceans apart.

Talkers can flow in conversation with you.

Talkers can make you feel alive, because they get excited about a thing you are talking about, they may relate to it and do a talking interruption interaction, because it sparked off their creative talking ideas, and who knows where it will lead, but it’s an exciting adventure.. if only you would see it that way!

Yet talkers get given a hard time and are not appreciated for their aliveness and ability to think in the moment, and spontaneously interject.

If a talker hears what you say and gets excited in this way, it means they like talking to you, they value you, and they want to interrupt you to find out more, or explore more, dive deeper, than superficial idle chit chat. Go deeper than you may have done before.

Talkers have the ability to keep 3 conversations going at once, with the same person. So if your mind is all over the place, they will be able to go to each place with you, keeping up with that energy that others can’t.

Talking takes a lot of energy, it takes vibrancy and being ‘there’ with you.

Just because a person is a big talker, doesn’t make them a bad listener, this is a stereotype that is very damaging. In order for a talker to be able to talk a lot, they have to have been educated with a lot of words in the first place, which they had to learn and listen to.

Talkers will appreciate and love themselves so much, that they will want to tell their full story, they will want to finish what they are saying, and they will want to give the whole picture, to give context to foster understanding and meaning. They actually speak with purpose, intention, and meaning, not just for the sake of it, but because of a love for it and a zest for the life of words. To leave words unspoken that they feel needed to be said, is like containing them in a mental prison at times. This can lead to withdrawal and mental health difficulties. Some people need to be heard and talk, in order to be healthy.

Extroverts can get energised and buzzing off talking, it fills them up like a tank of petrol fills a car. They need talking, they like hearing what others have to say, and being around others. Sometimes they love active talking interactive interruptions, as well as active listening.

There is a difference between active talking interaction interrupts, because talkers get excited about what others are saying, and/or, it gets their creative mind juices flowing off on tangents, than people who are just interrupting for the sake of it, and trying to change the subject, because they don’t actually like what the other person is saying or they don’t want to hear it or listen to it

Tangents can lead to new revelations and make the conversation more exciting and interesting. So long as people also get to finish what they were saying in the first place, it’s all good.

But if someone is having a bad day, it can be a good thing to interrupt them anyway. To break their pattern, to get them to think of good and more positive things, so it can brighten their day. Talkers help in this way.

Talkers can also help people to talk more, to uncover within themselves, things they never knew before. This can lead to self discoveries, and help them to excel in their life and open up new possibilities.

Some people are uncomfortable with silences and talking is their preferred default.

Some people live on their own and the only person they have to talk to is themselves. If they are a natural talker or extrovert, this isn’t their most healthiest way of being for them. If you have a partner you regularly talk to, or someone you live with who is always there to talk to you, thank yourself lucky, you always have people to talk to whenever you want. Even if you don’t do this all the time, it’s an option.

Don’t expect a talker who doesn’t have much opportunity to actually talk to people, to waste that precious talking time. That’s like handing them a gift of life, and a lifeline, and then expecting them to put it under the Christmas tree to wait for the ‘right’ time to open that gift.

Talkers are often good at selling things; good at persuading people, good at acting, and anything that requires talking:

Texting and walking

Audio calls.

Video calls.

Writing books – the spoken word in words on a page.

Blogging.

Vlogging.

Public speaking.

Business seminars.

Workshops.

Online courses.

If you watch TV, movies, or any kind of videos with speech, you watch and listen to talkers. If you attend business seminars, you watch and listen to talkers. If you listen to podcasts or radios shows, you are listening to talkers. If you go to school, college, or universities, or do online courses, you watch and listen to talkers.

You get entertained by talkers.

You get educated by talkers.

You get informed by talkers.

You learn most of your stuff from talkers, whether that be audio, visual, or the written word.

Talkers have the power to heal, educate, and transform lives.

So think in your life if it weren’t for the talkers, you would have to keep conversations going yourself and reach for more water…or whatever you drink. You would have to make your own throat go rough, and your own voice go gruff. There would be no stories in your life, to teach you to thrive, and how to live wise. There would be no books in the world, education would be poor. There would be no one to negotiate situations and talk people out of death. We would all end up a self-talk in the head mess! Or a robotic cabbage if you prefer… so next time you meet a talker, maybe show some appreciation for a gift you don’t have yourself.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for… just being them.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for savings lives and preventing deaths.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for feeling so comfortable around you because they can talk around you. Instead of living with painful deathly silence.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for being so excited by what you are saying that they interact with you by way of interruption. And you know you didn’t passively bore them. But you can still finish your conversation.

If you want a talker to listen, say, “hey, I really want to talk about something now”. This will put them into active listening mode, if they are not in the middle of an intense story or conversation that they feel needs an ending for you to understand it’s meaning – sometimes context is everything, or misunderstandings can occur, and you don’t want to go there… Why not start your conversation by letting them know you need them to listen. They have gifts, but they can’t always read minds! Talkers like people to speak up and share what’s happening in their life!

A true talker likes the sound of their own voice but they like the sound of other’s too. They crave talking interaction, feedback, active listening, and pro-active resolution talking. Then are waiting to hear what you have to say. They don’t want to just talk to themselves. And they don’t feel heard unless other people are responding by talking too. They like the art of talking in a two way conversation, while having their say and being able to share and make a difference to your life and theirs too.

People pay to teach them how to speak in pubic, if you have this gift already, you are blessed. Talkers are usually change makers, if they talk with authenticity from their heart.

Maybe next time you meet a talker and they live alone and don’t get much chance to actually speak to people in real life, so would naturally have more words left in reserve to say, you can actually be there to support them in a – I’m happy to hear your words, talking way. And realise they may not have as many opportunities as you to talk, or enough opportunities to talk, that is a healthy amount of talking for what they personally need. If you don’t need as much talking, remember we aren’t all made the same and some are born for more.

Don’t expect talkers to get out everything they want to say in 3 sentences, although it doesn’t mean to say they can’t just talk like that if they have to or need to. And don’t expect them to get out everything they need to say in a 59 second audio message on Facebook Messenger, it may require a number of those, if they have something important to say, something that requires context and they have lots to say. Or they are busy doing something else at that moment, and you’ve interrupted their day.

How many times in your life have you paid to hear someone talk?

Think TV.

Think Movie.

Think business seminar.

Think online course or webinar.

Maybe next time you meet a talker, you can thank them for their time, because time is the most precious gift you can give to someone as you can never get it back, and while they are talking to you, they could have been saving more lives, or helping someone else with their words of wise.

If you don’t want to hear what a talker has to say, or you want to cut down their beauty in some way, allow them to be free to be with someone else, and don’t expect them to be there in your hour of need. Stop trying to make them something they are not, to make them play smaller, or not give them a shot. Even though this world is full of introverts and people who love silence, just think of all the talkers in your life, who helped you to become wiser.

Your difference is your beauty, never forget that, and if you are naturally a talker like me, don’t forget as well, Gary Vee, who makes no apology for being true, to himself, to being he. The entrepreneur millionaire who’s grown in popularity through talking more, he has shown us talkers the way forward, and opened up the door.

To all the talkers like me:

I’m sorry for all the hurt and pain people have caused you in your life, for not being able to see your beautiful gift, and to hear your silent cries.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you. Who want to make you like them and cage you like an animal.

I’m sorry that people want to treat you like a child that’s seen and not heard, that speaks when their spoken to, and punishes you with silence.

I’m sorry people want to contain you and stop your flow. They want to stop your river from flowing and put up a dam to contain you, to tell you how to flow, where to go, how to show up. It’s not their place to do that. You can’t live a life to please others, you are in life to have the courage to be you, no matter what. To be your true authentic self.

I’m sorry if people don’t understand you, and they don’t understand that you don’t want to waste a moment of your precious life by cutting down your precious words. You don’t want to be contained and not be who you are.

One day they won’t be able to talk to you as much, people will pay thousands of pounds to hear you speak, and hang on your every word, they will appreciate who you are, and you will be more loved for who you are, far more than you have ever known. This is your destiny.

Sandra… you were born to speak on stage, all of these people that don’t have the capacity or comfortability to accept you for who you are, to really appreciate you for who you are, don’t matter. The only thing that matters is they are pushing you towards your destiny. That’s why they have shown up in your life, to be a reminder to you of your past, one you let go of, and you need to let go of again. To live the life of your ultimate purposes and dreams.

I refuse to be someone I am not for the sake of pleasing others and lead a miserable life containing my talking abilities. Playing smaller than I need to.

If you are reading this now and you also have extraordinary talking abilities, know that’s your destiny and gift to the world. Do not change it, because the few people that can’t handle it or who are uncomfortable with it, don’t matter by comparison of all the lives you will continue to save, and change for the better, forever, and that’s the most important thing.

Go be yourself, because you can’t be someone you’re not. Go be the game changer and the change maker, you were born to be, and you wish to see in the world.

I love you for who you are, you are super special. You have greatness within you and never let anyone dull your sparkle. Hugs XxxxxxxX

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Right now, I am focusing on my passion and life purpose, which is writing books that change lives. This is the most consistent way I have found to make money online, and impact the world significantly. And I will continue to do so, one book at a time. So my current book I am aiming to get finished and ready for Kindle by the end of this month, is Asexual Guide To Sex. I have been working on this book since June 2019 – here is a sneaky peek of what’s to come…

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In October 2017, I was made redundant (laid-off you call it in the USA), from my full-time ‘day job’ after 5 years. I was working in a large retail store and was the one and only fitted bedroom specialist there. I wanted to leave. But not that soon. As I wasn’t in profit with my side businesses. In fact, far from it.

Since 2012, I had used my employed money, to invest hundreds and thousands of pounds in personal and professional development of me! I knew the smart thing was always to invest in yourself first. So you up your worth! Then you have more value to offer others. And consequently can charge more money for others to access your knowledge and skills. You are your best asset.

So I was given redundancy pay! As I was paid 5 years redundancy. It was a good payout in one lump sum, but I still had to go on benefits to keep a roof over my head and food in my belly long-term, and that money ran out fast!

My parents were horrified. Not because of my redundancy… well, they were surprised by that. But not so much, since I had predicted it the year before it happened! But… because I spent at least a third of my money on my businesses, that I will remind you, were not in profit! They honestly thought I had lost the plot… I bought lots of email marketing and chat bubble lifetime deals, with addons. I bought 15 licenses of Thrive Architect (with an extra lifetime deal at the time) – which I spent 3 years researching for use as an alternative funnel builder, and that sadly doesn’t work to this day! Yes, you heard right, it doesn’t work! And support didn’t sort it out for me within the first year. After that you lose support and have to pay for it! But paying for support you didn’t get in the first place, leaves a bad taste in my mouth! So I moved on. If I ever get it to work, I will let you know what I think! But right now, my opinion is nope! Don’t bother!

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Quirky Books Author Sandra Bellamy Hosts WORLD’S FIRST Ever ASEXUALITY Daily Live Stream Chat Show! Asexualise My Asexual Life


I thought I was heterosexual for years, but I just didn’t like sex, as I didn’t associate sex with love, but loved to kiss. But when I realised I could no longer have sex, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it ever again, and I nearly wet myself because I was fearful of dating sexuals because of the expectation of sex at the end of the date, I knew something had to be done about it, because I felt I was the only one in the entire world, planet and universe that felt this. So I went to see a counsellor. But… it didn’t go well at all. She said the worse thing in the world, that I really didn’t want to hear. And that was if I wanted a relationship, I must have sex in order to keep a good guy. Something seemed very flawed about this perspective. If the guy was a good guy, why would he want me to do things that were not good for me, as part of a relationship with me! To me that made no sense. It was like giving a license for rape to happen, disguised as what a ‘good guy’ would be allowed to do, in order for me to keep him! This defied all my reasonable ‘healthy-for-me’ logic! So I went home and Google “I love kissing and not sex” and that is when I came across Asexuality.org and realised there were others like me who didn’t like sex, and who didn’t need it in a romantic relationship to be happy. And that’s when I discovered I am indeed a heteroromantic asexual, not heterosexual.

That was in 2014, when I first discovered I am Asexual. Back then, I couldn’t talk about sex publicly or about my past sexual relationships publicly. I had almost given up completely on the idea of having a relationship and dating ever again. And my past relationships weren’t great, but the opposite.

In October 2015, for Asexual Awareness Week, I decided to get out of my comfort zone, open up about past sexual relationships, and announce to the world, that I am in fact, a heteroromantic asexual! On my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel. It took me awhile to get used to speaking openly on my channel, but when I received comments from viewers, that they found my videos helpful and they were glad they found my channel, it made me happy to continue to create and upload videos and I decided to not copy other asexuality channels, just to become popular, but to share my own asexual life journey in order to help others, to empower asexuals to be comfortable and confident with their own Asexuality, and to educate others! Little did I know back then, how this channel would grow into the unique Asexualise My Asexual Life, Asexuality late night chat show it is today!

In 2017, I published my first ever book for Asexuals, called Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories, Love, Life and Sex, ACElebration of Diversity, under my own publishing imprint of Quirky Books. Little did I know at the time, just how popular this book would be and continues to be, to this day. Helping asexuals, those who lack sexual attraction, and who are a recorded 1% of the population, to know there are others like them in the world, who don’t get the need, urge, or want, for partnered sexual intercourse, and to know it’s okay, you are not alone and that sex does not equal love, and it is possible to live, love, and be happy, without sex forever, in a loving, happy, and healthy relationship, be it romantic or platonic, or if you don’t ever want to be ‘in a relationship’ it’s okay! (I am currently working on my second book for asexuals which will be published in 2020, with 4 more books planned for asexuals. Each book focuses on different topics, within the asexual spectrum!) So if you are a writer who is struggling at the moment, know you won’t be rich overnight, you might not be rich in money terms, for a very long time, but you will be one of the wealthiest people in that world, because you can really change lives with your written words, and that is why you should be a writer and Author of books, because you love writing so much and you want too change lives for the better forever. I regularly get people private messaging me about how this book has literally change their life, for the better, forever. And also, how much my videos on www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife have really helped them, especially when they first discovered they are asexual. I get people who are not asexual watching my channel, but the respective fact I am, subscribing to it, and becoming one of my most loyal viewers. I know I can help those people too and you.

In July 2018, I wanted to do something special for Asexual Perspectives Awareness Month, so I started to live stream on my channel, every day, for 31 days. But when the 31 days was over! I got the bug for live streaming. I realised how many more asexuals I could help, rather than in private message one-on-one, if I just let anyone and everyone ask me questions directly in the live stream chat. I could offer something unique, that no other asexuality channel was offering. A way to get instant answers about asexuality, about my own life experiences, and to help other asexuals to overcome depression, like I had done in 2012; lower their anxiety, and get a better mindset and a better quality of life! Fast forward to today, and I am still live streaming daily, but now it’s evolved into being an online daily late night chat show which at its heart, is a Personal Development and Personal Growth channel for Asexuals, and the world’s first of its kind. Specialising in, Asexuality/Surviving and thriving as an asexual in this highly sexualised world, Dating/Relationships, Spirituality/Mindset, Personal Growth/Self-Love. I also do ‘no sex’ movie reviews. These days, it’s not uncommon for many (not all), of my streams to last over an hour, sometimes two, and the odd occasion has even been over 3 hours long. All of that time has been spent helping asexuals for free, and non-asexuals who also form part of my regular viewership. So on average 7-14 hours a week! My live streams most often start after 11pm UK time.

I have been learning about personal and professional development since 2012. I have also been heavily involved in the Asexual relationships and dating scene, with being on Asexual dating sites since 2014, running 3 Asexual dating Facebook groups, and learning a lot more about healthy dating and relationships dynamics since studying a pattern changing course in 2013, and subsequently learning much more in the last couple of years. I am keen to help as many asexuals as possible to develop long-lasting healthy friendships and relationships, with life, with love, with others, and with yourself. To help grow you as an individual and realise your true potential and beauty, in your own uniqueness.

I would love you to join my channel community, if you think this is something you could benefit from, please subscribe at www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife , and hit the bell icon so you get notified whenever I go live, which is usually each and every day, unless for some reason I am staying away from home and have no access to live streaming, such as over Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year’s.

If you are a writer, never, ever give up! Don’t wait for a publisher to publish you. Believe in your own work of genius enough to take that leap of faith and self-publish! My Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook is also changing lives. One of my best asexual friends is no longer depressed since reading that book, and has been depressed for years before I met them. They were trying to help themselves a lot and get better, and they were making some progress, but nothing seemed to actually stick enough to make a long-lasting change which they so badly needed, but since reading this book, their life has now completely changed, and they are doing things they never thought was possible before, and I am so very proud of them! A how-to, self-help book, is no good, without implementation! He doesn’t have fibromyalgia, but does have another pain condition, and understood that the techniques I explain in this book, about how to have less pain, more energy and be happier, and how to overcome depression and reduce anxiety, can easily be transferred and applied to any circumstances, regardless of it you have fibromyalgia or not! So yes, if you are reading this blog post now, and you want to be happier in your life, have less pain (especially mental pain), and more energy, I absolutely believe you can also benefit from this book too. The new year, 2020, is coming, so with this book, you can have the new upgraded version of you going into 2020, check it out here https://amzn.to/2MBZA1U and take that leap of faith! You won’t be disappointed! You’ll also get to read my own personal real life ACE Fibro Girl story! So if you enjoy reading autobiographical books, you will love this book also!

Here I am as ACE Fibro Girl! Keep writing and stay quirky always, Sandra xx

ACE Fibro Girl book

I Love The Song All I Want For Christmas Is You! But What About The Very Damaging And Dangerous Message It Gives Out?


All I Want For Christmas Is You, is one of my very favourite Christmas songs! If you take it for the airy fairytale romantic notion, and uber catchy tune it is, it’s a great catchy little number to bop along to, but if you take an in-depth look at the words, they send a very damaging and dangerous message! Watch this video below now from my www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel to find out why it’s so damaging, and what you need to do to survive and thrive in this world and make getting into abusive relationships a thing of the past! Make 2020, your best year yet and set the tone now, in 2019, for the best year yet to come!

And if you want a reminder of this song, here is the 2019 edition!

Here are the lyrics xx

Here is a wonderful Christmas song, which is very beautiful for your soul! When you have fun, you attract the one! It all starts with you, and you have fun and laughter regardless!

I wish you a very Happy Christmas Day and Christmas Time, and for all your dreams to come true in 2020!

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Summits Up! Business, Spirituality, Personal Growth! Don’t Miss Out!


FLY Summit
Do you like business, spirituality, personal growth? If yes, go register for the Freestyle Your Life Authenticity Summit. You will be so glad to learn from 78 experts in their field, exactly what it takes to live your dream as the authentic you, you were always born to be!

Today is the day! If you haven’t already got your FREE ticket to the Authenticity Summit, click here now https://academy.freestyle-your-life.com/Sandrabellamy/2

I am speaking today, on this summit, about Asexuality! Labelled as sharing my heroic life journey, along with other experts in their chosen fields, it’s sure to be a memorable interview.

Sign up and look for an email in your inbox, or check your spam box, click through the link for day 4 and watch!

It’s only are for 24 hours, so be sure not to miss out! (Or you can buy the recording from the event organiser! Erneste Carla Zimmermann)

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

Are You A Blogger, Author, Or Writer? Want More Exposure And Copy That Clicks? Don’t Miss This!


Are you a Blogger, Writer, Author? Do you write blog posts that are shared once and never shared again? Do you struggle to find the right words to spice up your post to create curiosity? Do you spend hours trying to share your posts multiple times over and trying to think up compelling copy to get those clicks? If the answer to any of those is yes, you need Missing Lettr, because is does all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to. Not only does it automate the sharing of your blog posts to multiple social media profiles, it automatically suggests the best hashtags to use and creates compelling post copy, that gets noticed, so you gain more exposure for each of your posts and many more click throughs, all at a fraction of the cost it would take you to hire an expensive social media manager, an expensive copywriter, or to buy expensive copywriting software – and then the time it takes to figure out how to use it. 

Why do all that hard work when you don’t have to? If you are a Blogger, Writer, Author, and you want more exposure, in less time, and get a well oiled machine that does all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to, and you can stop wasting your precious time and do more productive money making tasks, you need to buy this tool.

If you want to know more about how to use this fabulous tool, post that shows you how to do just that, here https://wp.me/p1bntR-42y with a behind-the-scenes look at my dashboard using screenshots, so you can see how valuable it is in action!

It’s incredibly good value for money. I know some other companies who charge much more for this type of thing. The amount of suggested copy you get, to gain more exposure and clicks, is just amazing! It would take you hours alone, just to think up this stuff, and that in itself, saves you so much time. I think this is what sets Missing Lettr apart from other social media automation tools, is that it creates compelling copy to go with your posts, so you don’t have to. Most companies would either not do both, or charge an extortionate amount, particularly for the automatic creation of copy; hundreds of pounds. Buy now here https://goo.gl/RNvo3L

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

What Good Is A Blog Post If It’s Only Seen Once? How To Share Your Message To Masses Using Missing Lettr


What good is a blog post if it’s only seen once by its intended audience? Why not use that one blog post, multiple times over and get the reach you want and truly deserve? I love blogging, I’ve always loved blogging and soon it will be my 9th year as a blogging expert! Well, maybe I can call myself that now I have reached that milestone? Don’t you think? In any case, I love it, for me blogging is both therapeutic, educational and entertaining, even for me to write it! I don’t blog because I have to, I blog because I really want to and love it. I love writing. I love blogging because I find it’s conversational, not boring or academic – although I can get technical at times and I love it because it feels like me. I do it as a labour of love and to document my journey into print. Whenever someone reads this blog, they can see, that they too, can become a successful writer. They can learn from my mistakes. They can smile in my own joy, realising that they too, can achieve what once seemed like the impossible and make it possible.

When I first started this blog, I did it for me. That might sound counterintuitive, but that is the truth. I had to learn to find my writer’s voice, however, I also wanted to help other writers because I knew I had the gift of writing by my side. Even though there were blogs that had been around far longer than me, I just knew I had to get started, and I intuitively knew I could help others with their writing, but not only that, with being their QUIRKY, true, authentic self. I knew back then that Quirky Books would one day be my own publishing imprint and that dream came true in 2017.

Back then I was also going through a period of insecurity, of feeling out of control, uneasy in myself and blogging was not only my escape, but also something I could feel in control of, in a time in my life when I felt out of control. My self-esteem was low back then, and my confidence. So for 8 months, I never had a follower, no one had probably ever heard of me. Or if they did, they kept quiet about it. Then one day, out of the blue, I got this one person following me, it never occurred to me at that time that if I wanted people to follow me, I would need to find and follow them first. I didn’t even know what the Reader was, let alone how to use it. I was self-taught, stubborn as a mule, as always, had to learn everything myself. I still like learning for myself, but this time I am willing and able to learn from others and to learn faster than ever before.

But what can be quite frustrating, like I said at the beginning of this post, what if my blog post, my piece of “quirky artwork” as I like to call it, what if it’s only seen once by a handful of people, then what? How can others learn from me and my posts, and more have that special “a-ha” moment, if all I am doing is sharing it once? How is that helping the most people possible? It’s not! Many people die with their message, knowledge, skills and experience inside them. They never get to pass their legacy onto others, and they just accept this, or are never even consciously aware of it, but what if there was a way to share your message to hundreds and even thousands of people, in a really unique and fun way? This is why I bought access to Missing Lettr, because Missing Lettr lets you share your message to the world, in a unique and colourful way. It enables you to create several pieces of unique content across social media and schedule and share these several times over throughout a whole year, set and forget it, on autopilot. So you create it once, select which variations of the posts you want to use, and on which days they suggest you post it and it’s shared multiple times over. Each of their ‘snippet posts’ which HOOK the reader, leads back to your original blog posts! It’s incredible. It’s quirky, it’s different, and it’s fun. And the team really do care about their customers and give excellent customer service after care. So once you have connected your blog/s, to Missing Lettr, it will then automatically, or automagically as I like to call it, transform your blog posts, into short ‘snippet posts’ for your Facebook pages, Facebook Groups and Twitter profiles, and other social media profiles too. It will even suggest the most appropriate and popular hashtags for your posts, (see screenshot below), so you don’t even have to think about this yourself. Which saves you a ton of time! And unless you automate your posts to share all over social media, you are exchanging your precious time for ‘potential’ money. Automating posts, instead of sharing them manually over and over again, gives you your life back and allows you to be more productive, writing another blog post, writing a book, or article, and allows you to do what ever else you want and still be seen to be all over social media.

This is a peek into my Missing Lettr Dashboard. This particular profile which I have connected, is my blog on my www.asexualise.com site. Each blog post I have already posted (published) once, automatically appears in my dashboard and then asks me to review the marketing posting campaign for the entire year that they have created for me, this is like having your own social media marketing team, permanently by your side, for a fraction of the cost it would take you to hire just one marketing person on your team to do all this for you, in fact you would likely have to hire more than one person if you have multiple social media profiles like me. Missing Lettr will automatically have suggested dates to post throughout the year, based on what are going to be the most popular times to post, to gain maximum exposure. All you have to do is approve (or reject) the campaign for each of the profiles you have selected to post to and ensure you have made a choice about which one of their variations you want to use for each of your social media profiles.

Missing Lettr are officially approved by Facebook, so if you use them, you won’t get any warnings from Facebook which threaten your continued use of your account. If you want to post to your Facebook Groups, all you do is authorise them as an App that is allowed to post on your behalf, in your settings for that particular group. Each Twitter account, Facebook Page or Facebook group you attach to Missing Lettr, have suggested variations for each single profile you have connected, so you select and copy the suggestion you want and hey presto, you have the most amazing copy for sharing your posts, without even writing a single word of copy yourself – unless you want to, as you can add your own words to personalise it more. Much better than having to hire an expensive copywriter or take an expensive copywriting course to learn that skill for yourself! In my experience, you can learn quickly what sorts of copy draw in people to your posts, when you see their suggestions and monitor your stats within your dashboard to see the outcome of sharing your posts!

So here I have a blog post in my Missing Lettr Dashboard about my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook: How To Manage Fibromyalgia, Have Less Pain, More Energy, Feel Happier, Like A Superhero Rockstar! Which is also suitable for anyone who has depression and anxiety and wants to change their life, and turn it around, for the better, forever. The profiles highlighted in red with an exclamation mark, are the ones I have not yet decided which copy to use, and the others in green (Facebook) and blue (Twitter), I have decided on and chosen from their suggestions.

 

This following screenshots, are 3 more variations they suggested for me in this particular instance.

If you want to put your blog posts on autopilot AND get 50% off (for 3 months) to try it out, I joined the Missing Lettr affiliate team because I love what they do and have used the platform myself for some time so I know they are sound. They gave me a special code to give to my followers so you can get 50% off for those first 3 months of joining. The best thing is there are absolutely no contracts, so you can cancel at any time. Here’s the link to get started https://goo.gl/bc3wLu You will be so glad you did. Once you start using Missing Lettr, you will wonder how you ever lived without it, as it takes care of all the hard work for you, so you don’t have to, and you can continue to enjoy doing what you love and blog to your heart’s content, knowing that your content will be shared with the masses and you can leave a lasting legacy and impression in their own hearts’ and minds’, long after you are gone. Change your blogging life and theirs’, click here to get started now https://goo.gl/bc3wLu.

If you have any questions, comments, or thoughts about this post, I would love to hear from you. Leave them down below and I will reply as soon as I can.

As always, stay quirky and write soon.

Sandra xx

P.S. If you didn’t know what it means to be an affiliate, it means that if you join a company’s affiliate programme, and you promote or recommend them to someone and they click through your affiliate link, then you may get paid some monetary compensation for it. This is no different to selling products in a physical store and getting a commission on them. It costs the customer no more, but the company you are working for or with, gives you some money for the referral if it’s within a certain time frame and meets their terms and conditions, as it’s money they would not usually have had unless you told that customer about them. I have clicked through another person’s affiliate links before, if it costs me no more money, then why wouldn’t I help someone like that and pay it forward, after all, they are helping me out by informing me about this thing I knew nothing about in the first place and I like helping people out! It makes me feel good, knowing I did this for someone. So if you do click through my special link that will get you 50% off for the first 3 months of using Missing Lettr and you can cancel at any time with no contracts, and I do receive some monetary compensation because of it, I would like to thank you very much and say I really appreciate it. xx

Why making time for you is a must!


Sometimes the noise of life gets in the way. Sometimes we take on too much. Or sometimes we are just too in demand. And maybe we love that for a time, but without a break, you can have a meltdown and reach burnout!

In this video I explain why making time for you is a must, not an option but a must!

Have you ever reached burnout? How did you deal with it? I love to read you, so please comment below!

Until next time, stay very quirky and write soon

Sandra xx