How To Overcome Setbacks: My 12 Simple Step Formula How To Overcome Setbacks! Happy New Year 2018!


How To Deal With Setbacks!

My 12 Simple Step Formula How To Overcome Setbacks!

Happy New Year 2018!

So last year I had a number of setbacks in succession. First I was made redundant from my day job of 5 years that I enjoyed, 2 days later, 10 of my websites got hacked and my account was suspended by my web host for all of my sites. It took me about 7 weeks to finally get them all back online virus free, databases mended, security learned to a high degree and installed on each with backup, and to redesign some and put coming soon notifications on the others – as I am changing some of them anyway this year (blessing in disguise?). The guy I was with turned out not to be so nice so I split with him and my printer did not work for 3 weeks – I fixed it and now it has stopped working again! My fibro book is yet to be finished, I have written the meat but need to rearrange some of the chapters!

My simple 12 step formula for how to overcome setbacks:

  1. Believe everything happens for a reason good or bad – this stops the ‘why me syndrome’, and know that life is forcing you to change paths somehow for your own good, you aren’t living up to your full life potential and you need to be on another path.
  2. Know that things often come in a succession but it is better to get all the s..t out and got rid of in one long go than keep getting lots of ups and downs (preferably short go) but accept that life is full of ups and downs anyway.
  3. Always remember when there are a ton of downs, law of averages means there is going to be a lot of ups coming your way.
  4. Remain positive! Have a positive attitude to life and use positive self-talk!
  5. Say, bring it on, I am stronger than you think and I can deal with anything life throws my way.
  6. Know that life will be struggle and expect it, so when it comes it is not as shocking.
  7. Believe in yourself and your ability to work things out.
  8. See all obstacles as challenges that you will gladly overcome.
  9. Know there are no failures, just lessons to learn from – therefore you can never truly fail.
  10. Believe it is better to have struggles, challenges, and be stretched, to develop and grow yourself into a stronger version of you than to stagnate in life and never change.
  11. See change as a good thing.
  12. Always count your blessings and be thankful and grateful for what you do have and that you are alive.

I hope that helps you.

As always, stay quirky and write soon.

Happy New Year 2018.

Lots of love and hugs xx

Sandra xx

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Famous At Last! – Well Sort Of! Why? Good Question!!!!


So why am I famous at last?? Good question!! Because I am in Corey Poirier’s new book – The Book of Why and How! – Secrets to Success and Abundance! If you haven’t got yourself a copy yet, and I strongly urge you to do so, you can visit www.thebookofwhy.com Corey is a multiple-time TEDX Speaker, Award Winning Speaker, Thought-Leader and Best-Selling Author, and all round good guy!! A book changed his life, and he has interviewed tons of thought-leaders and experts for this book, to help you to change your own life!! He just loves to give back. What are you waiting for, go grab yourself a copy of The Book Of Why, and change life for the better, forever!! Remember, it only takes one new piece of information, to lead to a new way of thinking, and a new way of life!!

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As always, stay quirky! Oh and www.sandrabellamy.com got a complete redesign – check it out if you dare!!!! And let me know what you think?

Lots of love and hugs

Sandra xxxx

 

How To Write A Book The Easy Way!!!!


A book starts with one word
Writing a book is easy

1. Big Picture – Start with a one-line summary of your novel
2. Three Acts – Write a synopsis including the 3 acts of your book
3. Spotlight – Write one-page descriptions on each character (very important)
4. Location, Location, Location – Build the setting(s) and determine their significance
5. I or You – Decide on the P.O.V. – it can make or break your novel!
6. It’s About Time – Create a pace between scenes and be consistent
7. Pen to Paper – Write your first draft (and then your 2nd, 3rd…)
8. Edit Out – Self-edit and then send out to a Editor
9. Edit In – Revise and Rewrite
10. Off to the Presses – Publish your book. Just do it!
11. Go out and celebrate, because you deserve it!

 

I am currently working on my latest non-fiction Quirky Book, “How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar”, there is a subtitle too. I started to write some of it in draft form about 6-8 weeks ago, and as Lady Gaga recently came out about having Fibromyalgia, I thought it’s time to type it up and finish writing it. This is challenging for me, as now I have finished typing up most of draft, I am having to type up the book straight from my head to the Mac screen. It is really hard doing his, but good to stretch and challenge me at the same time. It is something I have not tried to do much of. As I am writing the majority of the book like this and still having to make it impactful and logical in order, I think this is a writing skill that is on another level entirely. It requires a humongous degree of focus and determination, and of thinking on my brain feet. I am still making little notes and prompts to help me, as the book is unfolding, and still have  a few notes and points to add, that I already made. I am slower than I would like to be, but this is a quality short book, so I don’t want to rush it and not make it as good as it can be, without it going on forever. I have learnt that perfectionism can kill the writer, just as much as procrastination, and one can lead to the other anyway. So I am going to do my best, then hit that publish button and believe it is good enough. But I still have much work to do on it, as it is a deep book that not many will have thought about the content for, as I am presenting it. You know that every book I write is different and a Quirky Book, and as usual, I will be crossing over genres. This book is an autobiographical, How-To, self-help book. And will be a fabulous read. You can pick up some skills from it, even if you don’t have Fibro. I have also got a Fab outfit for the AD … All will be revealed in the future xxxx

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx

CHANGE – INSPIRATIONAL/MOTIVATIONAL POEM BY SANDRA BELLAMY


I am currently going through a huge change in my life because on the 21st of September, I am being made redundant from my day job, after 5 years. My full-time hours are being cut and instead, a part-time weekend only person will be employed. I have the option do just the weekends, or to take the weekend hours for a trial for 4 weekends until 15th of October, then take redundancy, if I don’t find anything else to make up the hours to full-time, as I can’t live on those hours, or take redundancy on the 21st. I am going to go with the middle option of the trial, if I have not got another job by the 21st.

At first I was very fearful, but now I am trying to think positive and look forward to starting a new work life and that new opportunities that will come my way.

I am also going to be focusing more on my Quirky Academy and getting that up and running as my online training centre for entrepreneurs, start-ups and creatives, with specialists teaching in their field – What courses would benefit you right now in your personal and professional development?

Stay quirky

Write soon

Sandra xx

How to Unleash the Kid in You! And Be More Powerful Beyond belief!


What if I were to tell you, that unleashing your inner kid is one of the best tools you can use in your life or business? That it can set you free from the things that are holding you back and that unleashing it could give you that new lease of life and freedom that you so richly deserve?

You are likely to have been conditioned from a young age to believe you need to be an ‘adult’, and you should always inspire to be an adult – but why? Some would argue because you become more responsible and make better decisions, but do you?

What I have discovered is that without unleashing your inner kid, you become less flexible; more stuck in ideas; more rigid, and more fearful of trying new things, or of criticism. This can cause mental torment and be extremely unhealthy in not allowing you to live your life – as your true, authentic self, and achieve your full potential so you can be very happy.

Kids try new things out; they explore; they ask lots of questions; they are curious about the world around them and not afraid to speak their mind. Think about how useful these skills are to your life and business? They will stop you stagnating. They will allow you the freedom to try a variety of things, including jobs, and maybe start your own business. They allow you to think for yourself, so you can stimulate your mind and come up with your own solutions to problems, so you can make more decisions, and learn from the challenges of those decisions – kids don’t worry about making mistakes, they just get on and do stuff!

These are the strategies I want you to take on-board, I want you to be that kid that never says never, that always believes in fairy tales and magic – that the impossible can become possible. But where you will benefit the most, is the action taking, the further knowledge, resources and experiences, that are available to you as an adult – combined with the relentless, no fear attitude, and an abundance of energy from the Kid within you, that always wants to inspire and try new things and is not worried about making mistakes but who wants to explore life and make their own mark in the world!

Are you up for the challenge? How do you embrace your inner kid?

Write soon and stay quirky.

Sandra xx