From one writer to another, any inspirational writing tips I like to pass on! I thought these top 5 novel writing tips from successful authors, are equally applicable to many forms of writing, not just novels!

Have you got any tips of your own that you would like to share?

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon.







Writing Advice Quotes To Help Writers Write

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FINALLY – I get to continuing writing my How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar book! Yeeessss!!

Fibromyalgia book

FINALLY – I get to continuing writing my How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar book! Yeeessss!! After a succession of rather frustrating challenges, one may have easily given up on the uphill fight to get back on track, but not me! I was made officially redundant from my full-time day job on September 21st, but stayed on part-time to trial my replacement part-time position for 4 weekends, then on the 15th of October, it was the end!! Of that life anyway. 2 days later, 10 of my websites were hacked and you can read the rest of my challenges in my last post Finally, after creating another asexual Facebook group to help those on the Grey Asexual/Demisexual end of the asexual spectrum to date others like them, after blogging to 3 blogs, vlogging, answering messages, publishing a newsletter, making sure content is prepared for my posts and pages – I can at last get back to the true love of my life (other than my guinea pigs), of writing, and boy is my soul feeling so much better and energised because of it! I really want to make my dream come true of writing full-time – but I also think the lord/destiny/creative intuition has even bigger plans for me in 2018! Testing me to my limits – bring it on!!

So this week I get to give my Christmas gift to myself, in the lead up to Christmas day, I get to finish writing my Fibromyalgia book called: “How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar – Fibro Girl To The Rescue.” “How to increase your energy and decrease your Fibromyalgia pain.” And it feels fantastic. It is great to have left a book since October and be able to re-read the whole thing with fresh eyes and add more relevant content to it! I have to say, reading the beginning part I was completely swept up in the fast pace of it, I thought, ‘this is a good book and I wrote this – wow!’ I impress myself sometimes by what I come out with in my Quirky Books, I think, ‘how do I know such stuff, how do I know what to write?’ It just comes naturally from knowledge and experience, and this book has been predominantly written from my mind to my Mac, which is a very difficult skill to learn and master, as the number one problem with writer’s block is staring at a blank screen – you shouldn’t do it! But, this is how I have been able to push myself this time around! I love challenging my beliefs and limits! I started on paper – which was key to getting on with it! So I did not just stare at a blank screen for the first pages of the book! But often I will flesh out the whole book on paper first – I will usually write something for every chapter heading, but this time I didn’t, I created some of the headings as I went along! So now you know what you should do, and what you shouldn’t do, in the rule of writing a non-fiction book to give you the best chance of completing it! With that in mind, I am going to get on with my book, time is of the essence and momentum is high right now, so I need to act on it fast, and with care about my writing!

What gift are you giving yourself this Christmas??

Happy Christmas! Love you, stay quirky and write soon xx


Finally Found My Asexual Love: Love Poem By Sandra Bellamy – Soulmates Do Exist, So NEVER Give Up!

In love this love poem, I think it is one of my favourites that I have spoken. What do you think?

Soulmates do exist, so never give up! I knew I had a soulmate since 10, I did not know he is asexual until 2014, and since then I have been searching on Asexual Dating sites and in Asexual Facebook groups to find him, and then I found him in my own Asexualise Dating group, for those who are asexual (lack sexual attraction), and looking to have a serious relationship with another asexual, with no sex ever.

Some people believe in soulmates and some do not. I have believed I have a soulmate since 10, and finally we have found each other. He believed he had one too. In order to achieve something, you have to believe in it 100%, and I did and do, and it is like a dream come true for me. As I knew the types of things he would say, and there he is saying them naturally. We are already like best friends and it is amazing. Thank goodness love exists without sex and so do soulmates too – you just have to believe!!

I have now been made redundant form my day job and I thought this is a great opportunity to work on my own businesses more, then yesterday 5 of my websites got hacked and currently all of them are offline until I get the problem fixed, which requires extensive time or a fair amount of money. This is a temporary set-back and I believe 100% in my Quirky Academy, but may have to go back into a day job for a bit, as I wasn’t planning on leaving my day job until the end of next year when my own businesses are in a better financial shape.

I am still working on my “How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar” book, and have people wanting to buy it and waiting for it to be published.

Lots of love to all of you for your continued support and for being quirky you of course xx

Write soon and stay quirky

Sandra xx

Writing Challenge! Spice It Up!!


Instead of: Nice Use: Gracious
Instead of: Hard Use: Challenging
Instead of: Good Use: Splendid
Instead of: Bad Use: Dreadful
Instead of: Sad Use: Somber
Instead of: Happy Use: Content
Instead of: Like Use: Treasure
Instead of: Mean Use: Malicious
Instead of: See Use: Glimpse
Instead of: Think Use: Deem
Instead of: Big Use: Colossal
Instead of: Little Use: Petite
Instead of: Walked Use: Shuffled
Instead of: Ran Use: Sprinted
Instead of: Laughed Use: Snickered
Instead of: Yelled Use: Wailed

What words do you substitute for others, to spice up your writing?

I am currently about three quarters of the way through writing my short book, “How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar”, as always with my Quirky Books, I with be giving you a different and unconventional approach to this illness for life and telling you some of my very quirky and unconventional ways of managing it; to lead a happy, vibrant and energetic life.

As always, stay quirky and write soon.

Sandra xxxx

How To Write A Book The Easy Way!!!!

A book starts with one word
Writing a book is easy

1. Big Picture – Start with a one-line summary of your novel
2. Three Acts – Write a synopsis including the 3 acts of your book
3. Spotlight – Write one-page descriptions on each character (very important)
4. Location, Location, Location – Build the setting(s) and determine their significance
5. I or You – Decide on the P.O.V. – it can make or break your novel!
6. It’s About Time – Create a pace between scenes and be consistent
7. Pen to Paper – Write your first draft (and then your 2nd, 3rd…)
8. Edit Out – Self-edit and then send out to a Editor
9. Edit In – Revise and Rewrite
10. Off to the Presses – Publish your book. Just do it!
11. Go out and celebrate, because you deserve it!


I am currently working on my latest non-fiction Quirky Book, “How To Manage Fibromyalgia Like A Superhero Rockstar”, there is a subtitle too. I started to write some of it in draft form about 6-8 weeks ago, and as Lady Gaga recently came out about having Fibromyalgia, I thought it’s time to type it up and finish writing it. This is challenging for me, as now I have finished typing up most of draft, I am having to type up the book straight from my head to the Mac screen. It is really hard doing his, but good to stretch and challenge me at the same time. It is something I have not tried to do much of. As I am writing the majority of the book like this and still having to make it impactful and logical in order, I think this is a writing skill that is on another level entirely. It requires a humongous degree of focus and determination, and of thinking on my brain feet. I am still making little notes and prompts to help me, as the book is unfolding, and still have  a few notes and points to add, that I already made. I am slower than I would like to be, but this is a quality short book, so I don’t want to rush it and not make it as good as it can be, without it going on forever. I have learnt that perfectionism can kill the writer, just as much as procrastination, and one can lead to the other anyway. So I am going to do my best, then hit that publish button and believe it is good enough. But I still have much work to do on it, as it is a deep book that not many will have thought about the content for, as I am presenting it. You know that every book I write is different and a Quirky Book, and as usual, I will be crossing over genres. This book is an autobiographical, How-To, self-help book. And will be a fabulous read. You can pick up some skills from it, even if you don’t have Fibro. I have also got a Fab outfit for the AD … All will be revealed in the future xxxx

Until next time, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx



Writing literally does quench my soul that nothing else can reach. I love it so much. To be a full-time writer is my dream. I have started my next Kindle Quirky Book that should be coming out in print format too, but this one is different again, on subject matter, to the ones that are already out.

Lady Gaga recently came out as having Fibromyalgia, see her post here on Yahoo News

Something I don’t talk about often, especially on this blog, is the fact I also have this. In a nutshell, it is a chronic pain condition that affects the nerves and muscles of the body. You feel super sensitive to pain and constantly have pain in your body. I don’t like to dwell on it as what we focus on expands, but I have had it since 2012. I manage it well, and use the power of my mind to block out a lot of the pain. It makes my current job search a little more difficult (I am being made redundant for a 3rd time). That is why it is even more important I fulfil my writing dreams.

To cut a long story short, I have felt for some time that I need to write a book about how I unconventionally manage this condition, in the hope to help someone. The only problem is, it causes me more conscious pain to write the book, however, it is something I must do in order to help others. So about 6 or 8 weeks ago, I started to write my book in draft form, and left it for a bit. Then BOOM! On 13th of September, I saw that Lady Gaga article and thought NOW, I must type it up and get that book out, so that is what I started to do on Saturday 16th of September. I am super charging my typing speed. Watch this space – you know it is not going to be a normal, boring book, but a far out, Quirky Book that will pack a quirky punch!! I am really excited about this one!!

Do you know anyone else with this condition? How do they manage it???

Stay quirky and write soon –



P.S. If you are also facing redundancy, you will love my Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy Book – I am using my own book and getting 100% response to my job applications, so it is definitely worth a read.


Asexual Author: Asexuality And My Personal Asexual Story On Straight Up Gay Podcast!

Listen to my interview about Asexuality and my personal Asexual story on the Straight Up Gay Podcast – and no, I am not gay, I am a heteroromatic asexual – attracted to guys (hetero), I don’t want sex, love kissing and romance, but asexuality is tagged onto the LGBT+ QIA Acronym. Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual. Although Asexuality is about who you are not sexually attracted to – no one, whereas the other identities are based on who they are sexually attracted to.

Here is the link to iTunes

If you haven’t yet checked out my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book on Amazon, it is an insightful read, even if you are not asexual, so be sure to check it out now!!

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.