Sex Is Not What You Think! – Don’t Miss Tonight’s Live Show 7pm UK Time!


You may have thought I had disappeared off planet earth. The fact is, I was never on it in the first place, lol! I was on planet Quirky Books and that is pretty much where I have been and working a lot on my publication of my Fibromyalgia Self-Help Handbook, which is now out in both Kindle AND print, as well as writing and working with my asexual interviewees for my second book for Asexuals, which is called Asexual Guide To Sex and will literally be the best book on sex ever written and literally change your understanding of sex as you know it, it will be a MUST read book! I also haven’t been too well and had an infection that I was treated for, as well as low blood pressure. I had to have a blood test yesterday for further investigation of why I kept feeling dizzy, and I have a fear of needles and blood so that was difficult for me to do that.

This week is Asexual Awareness Week in case you didn’t already know, and on my www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife channel I have been doing a series of videos about asexuality to raise awareness and understanding of this sexual orientation that is the lack of sexual attraction. Tonight, at 7pm UK time GMT, I have a live interview with my Asexual best friend who identifies as Non-binary. So I will be talking to them about how they first discovered they are asexual and about gender identity, particularly what is means to be non-binary! Make sure you subscribe to my channel www.youtube.com/asexualisemyasexuallife and hit the bell icon so you get notified of every time I go live or post a new video on my Asexualise channel. I try to live stream every day usually after 11pm at night and you can catch up with it afterwards if you miss an episode. Tonight’s episode is at the much earlier time of 7pm. Even if you are not asexual, supporters and those taking a genuine interest in what asexuality is, are always welcome to join in the live chat.

If you are questioning as to whether you may be asexual or you want to know more about asexuality, please watch this video!

 

If you have any questions about asexuality after watching these videos, please comment below!

I am with my Asexual best friend from today for 5 days in total and doing lots of fun stuff, including going to the Disney on Ice show on Saturday and it’s their birthday on Monday, so we are having a pre-birthday asexual group meetup on Sunday and going to Plymouth Aquarium on Monday, to see the new Terminator movie and eating in Nandos. In effect it’s 5 days of birthday fun for them and me, because I feel like it’s my birthday too! They are one of the bestest friends I have ever had in my life! So pleased I met them, they make the world a more special and precious place, just by being in it!

If you want to read more about asexuality, you can get a copy of my first book for asexuals, ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES: 47 Asexual Stories: LOVE, LIFE and SEX, ACElebration of ASEXUAL DIVERSITY, here https://amzn.to/31OkTlA

Until next time, always stay quirky and write soon.

Lots of love

Sandra xx

Asexual Birthday Present Unboxing Videos And A Shocking New Erogenousity Brand!!!


If you didn’t know April 24th was my birthday. My 3rd 21st Mindset birthday. Yes, I totally believe in choosing what mindset age you want to live, and what lifestyle you want to live too. I live like a teenager and absolutely love it that way. I have high octane energy, and like a Duracell battery, I continue on and on. Which is great when living on your own, but not great if living with someone else, as I am wide awake when they want to sleep. That is why ideally I want an LAT, Living Apart Together Relationship. Luckily for me, I am single once again. Yes, I did briefly have a boyfriend, and he was in his early 20s so younger than me, which is what I like, but British, not foreign, so that was surprising for me, as I am usually only attracted to foreign guys, but it didn’t work out, so the single life is where I definitely want to be staying at right now. I love my unconventional lifestyle, and don’t want to change it and make me miserable in the process, it’s actually just a natural part of me to live like this, go to sleep in the early hours, between 2am-4am usually, and I love it. The night is my creative companion, and I am sure if you are a writer, creative, or entrepreneur, you will understand. You have to live your life for you, and do what makes you happy, not conform to what other expect of you!!! I don’t do normal, I just do me!

Yes, I have been a bit quiet on this blog, because of that, and also because I was trying to transfer web hosts due to my website being hacked again, (Google “Just Host Site Lock Scam” and you will see why), but that didn’t work out either, with many red flags from the new host and a bill I was not expecting. So after researching and finding no better host, I am sticking to the host I have been with for 10 years for now. Minus the 7 .co.uk domains I have, that have been transferred to the new host I got my money back with, and apparently cannot transfer back!!! So I will have my domains spread over two places, which sucks. Also, I have yet another new business idea and new brand, which I already bought the domain for, and it won’t be what you are expecting!!! I am currently working on the site so may be a bit quieter here for a while, especially as I am still finishing setting up a new digital asset business.

If you didn’t already know, I am asexual in sexual orientation, meaning I lack sexual attraction. And I am a heteroromantic – meaning I just get attracted to guys romantically, not sexually. So yes, I would like to have an asexual boyfriend who is romantic in the future, if I met the right asexual guy, but I haven’t met him yet and happy to be single again right now. I am very different to many other asexuals as I don’t like nudity, but I do like passionate kissing without sex. I mean really passionate. So my behaviour when kissing, can be very sexually passionate in nature, yet I have zero sexual attraction, and never like to have sex, or want to these days. And I also like to keep my clothes on when kissing. I have no problem kissing, sucking and licking a guy’s top half, but the bottom half he can keep for himself. With this is mind, I am creating a new website brand which is about how to discover erogenous zones that will entice and excite your partner to make them feel like they are in erogenous ecstasy and begging you for more. This is partly way out of my comfort zone, in the fact I don’t personally like sex for me these days, but I had good and bad sex in the past, so I know the difference. I was also in heterosexual relationships for 19 years of my life and have done most things you can imagine with kissing, sucking, and licking, a guy’s body, and I did that naked, so I know what works. I believe I can help others to be in erogenous ecstasy, without it necessarily leading to sex, unless you want it to. Erogenousity is my new brand and it’s all about giving erogenous generosity to your partner – hence the brand name being a combination of erogenous and generosity. So it comes from a very loving and sexually fulfilling place, in which you want to explore your partners erogenous zones and have a ton of fun and excitement together, where you badly want each other over and over again, with or without sex. I see so many guys have stick in her culture, and no woman wants a guy to just stick it in her, it’s boring and unfulfilling. So this brand will greatly improve your love life if you have been struggling to get and keep a relationship. It will open your ears and your senses, and make you feel weak at the knees!!! I will also be covering safety, mindset, attitude, how to have a good relationship, and dangerous people you need to avoid. As I have been helping asexuals since 2015 with dating and relationships, and still continue to do so, I figured it’s time I branched out and helped those struggling to get and keep a romantic relationship, regardless of sexuality, because you lack the skills, tools and techniques, to know just where your partner does want to be tickled pink!

This blog is where I tell you exclusives, and this is the most exclusive, exciting, and also scary brand of all, because I will be teaching things I never shared with anyone before! At least not until now!! I hope you will support me on my journey to make more people sexually satisfied, with or without the sex itself. No intercourse required! When there is no intercourse, and passion without sex is present, wanting your special person increases more, making for a far more interesting, physically exciting, and constantly enticing relationship, so you can’t wait to get out of the office and see what wonders await you! And if you do want sex, it will be far more sensual and explosive than you ever imagined, because you will be making love, not having mindless sex for the sake of it. It will draw you closer to your partner, and create a deeper level of trust and intimacy than you ever imagined possible!

Please let me know what you think of my new brand and how out will help you, by writing in the comments below 👉 👉 👉   Let me know what struggles you are facing to create passion and excitement in your love life so I know best how to help you.

Until next time, embrace your quirky and write soon
Sandra xx

Love Others As If You Would Love Yourself – Sexuality Quirky Love Video Three


Welcome to my third video in the series of Quirky Love videos, in the lead up to Valentine’s Day. Today’s video is titled on YouTube as Sex, Sexuality and being Asexual. It is about how we treat our own sexuality, compared to that of others, and we should Love others as if we would love ourselves. Enjoy, subscribe if you haven’t already, and tell me what you think.

Thanks for watching, and a gigantic Shout Out of thanks to those of you who have subscribed. I am covering some very controversial topics and feeling loved and supported by you, so THANK YOU!

Until next time, keep embracing your quirky and each others.

Write soon

Sandra

Who Else, is Young, Free and Asexy?


Hi everyone

It’s time to celebrate Asexual Awareness Week.

Asexual Awareness Week
Asexual Awareness Week – Image from Asexual Aces Community on Facebook

Being quirky and different, it will come as no surprise to you that I am asexual. A heteromaticgrey asexual cougar, to be precise. I only discovered this around March/April time this year and I have to say the Asexual communities are awesome. It’s great to be able to chat online with like-minded people, who have a similar sense of humour and share some of the same values and beliefs as me. Of course, being completely quirky, I am a grey asexual, meaning that I don’t quite fit any specific type and it’s almost impossible to find a suitable romantic match. So for now, I will continue to be, young, free and Asexy – Well, I will let you decide on the latter.

Asexual Awareness Week
Asexuality Awareness Week – Image from Asexual Groups page on Facebook

There are so many variables with the asexual spectrum and someone who says they are just asexual, means they don’t experience sexual attraction. A lot of asexuals won’t want or care for sex, or be bothered about it one way or the other. A lot won’t like much kissing, if any at all.

What does a heteromanticgrey asexual cougar mean for me? Well, being quirky should give it away.

I categorically don’t like sex. I experience romantic and sensual attraction, and usually to guys, and only guys, who younger than me. Often in their early to mid twenties. Mostly foreign guys actually. I get attracted to their face and can relate well to guys that age group, as most of my male friends are in their early to mid twenties. I love lots of kissing and affection, which is where the grey area comes into it. I also don’t want kids or marriage, which a lot of asexual people do.

Never be afraid to be who you are. I don’t fit into the social norms, I break conventions and it’s great. I love embracing my quirky. Otherwise, I would be living for others and not me. So be who you want to be and enjoy your life implicitly.

Who else is young, free and Asexy?

Who else thinks they may be asexual, but not sure?

If you think you may be asexual or want to know more about it here is a link to a helpful site: http://www.asexuality.org You can also search for asexual groups on Facebook.