When Doing What the “Experts” Tell You To Do, Makes You Sick, Do This!


For the last 4 months of last year I was going through very difficult times with what seemed like constantly being sick, I felt worn out, burnt out, overwhelmed, and like my mind needed a rest! This year I am super pumped! More productive than ever before, with tons of goals I am working through one-by-one. This is the year I will, and am, achieve many dreams, because I am doing things my way, not how society and every other ‘expert’ keeps telling me I should do them. For example, when they say to get up at 4am and do work, I am working through the night and going to bed at that time or later! When they say to put everything on a planner in advance and mark everything on your calendar so it’s full, instead I am putting stuff on my calendar such as appointments, interviews, time with my family and friends, and things I have scheduled in advance, but the rest I am setting goals every day in my diary and ticking them off as I go along and this has catapulted my productivity levels to a whole new level entirely. I feel really motivated when I see myself getting my tasks for that day done. Last year, when I put everything on my calendar before, and planned way in advance, I was getting left behind with my own schedule, and two weeks later I felt deflated, unproductive, down about myself and my life, and last year I had no clear direction with goals, I just kept doing the same thing. This year I have clearly defined goals and am hell-bent on achieving all of them to the best of my ability as soon as I can. I am excited about what is coming up and the amount of new opportunities and challenges coming my way, so if you are going through hell or shit right now, just remember, this …

And don’t listen to the experts, do this instead!

Until next time, keep embracing your quirky, keep being you, and write soon.

Lots of love

Sandra xx

Why making time for you is a must!


Sometimes the noise of life gets in the way. Sometimes we take on too much. Or sometimes we are just too in demand. And maybe we love that for a time, but without a break, you can have a meltdown and reach burnout!

In this video I explain why making time for you is a must, not an option but a must!

Have you ever reached burnout? How did you deal with it? I love to read you, so please comment below!

Until next time, stay very quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

 

IT’S NOT SELFISH! Making You, Your Number one!


Not selfish quote -self love

It’s not selfish to put yourself first; to love yourself, and to make you your number one priority, it’s a necessity! People seem to have it in their heads that they have to be giving as that is part of loving others, and while they have a fair point, you need to have boundaries in place and not compromise yourself out of all recognition. In fact, you DON’T have to compromise yourself, as your needs should be your priority, so you must do what is overall best for you, as you are the one who has to live with yourself day in and day out! This means you need to  choose relationships and friendships that best compliment your personality, your life and lifestyle. Notice I said compliment, they don’t have to exactly match.

The thing is, if you end up giving, whilst not really living the life you want to lead, or doing anything you want to do, you will no longer feel connected to your own soul and this could have serious repercussions in your current and future relationships. You may feel resentful without meaning to be, you may feel confused about what you want, you may not know who you are!

This was me years ago, before my diagnosis of Fibro and now I come first. No more housework for a guy, if I get a boyfriend in the future. No more sex, as I now know I am asexual – not a sexual – and there are thousands of others like me around the globe! No more having to relationship compromise and put your partner first – no, I come first, if I had a partner, every single time. I live on my own, I am responsible for my bills and my rent and food in my belly, I still need to take care of me, he can look after himself, just like I can look after myself, I am a girl – not a mother and cleaner upper! This is not the conventional attitude, I know, but this is me! I don’t like cooking, cleaning and housework – and I also don’t like watching sport or TV – so I don’t! I live for me and that is fab. I also enjoy staying up until 2am or 4am in the morning. Of course I am caring, but that can be taken advantage of – so no more am I a doormat! No more do I have to think of others all the time. I have to focus on me more to be happy. And I can tell you from suffering with depression for most of my life prior to 2012, that this attitude is one that I should have adopted years ago as now I love jumping out of bed every day, even when life is tough. I love being alive, and I love life and living it my quirky and unconventional way! Do I feel a bit guilty sometimes – do I feel I will be judged as being bad and uncaring – yes, I do feel this sometimes, because I think it can sound cold and uncaring to be this way, (even though I am very kind and caring), as that is not what is traditionally expected – especially of a female! Will I change back – no, never. I am not saying I will never ever cook food for a guy, but I won’t make a habit of it, and I will set the record from the beginning my expectations. And yes, I want to remain living on my own, maybe forever. I love where I live, because I live on my own but in the middle of a house so have the best of both worlds!

So don’t ever feel selfish to self-date and take time out for you. The happier and healthier you are in your own right, the better off you will be for others. I am living proof of that. That is how I feel. I also know I can survive and thrive on life because of this. And don’t ever feel selfish living your life, your own quirky way! There is no way I would want to be at home watching TV and going to bed at a reasonable hour each day, and living a normal life – I would be so very bored, unmotivated, and feel older – I am young, quirky, 21st mindset me! The best way to be!

Always remember that I love you lots for being quirky you, and thanks always for your support and for stopping by my blog and touching my life, it means so very much xx

As always, stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xxxxxxxx

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