Self-dating is a must for all single people, and here are 10 Reasons Why It’s Important To Self-Date!
It reconnects you with your soul!
You can get to know yourself even better.
It builds strength of character.
It boosts your confidence.
It improves your self-esteem.
It’s an act of self-love and compassion.
You can do what you want and see what you want and go where you want, without anyone saying anything negative, so you can fully enjoy the moment.
You can eat as much as you want without feeling bad or guilty. And you can buy yourself gifts to make you happy.
It emphasizes that you don’t need anyone else and empowers you to be more happy as a single person.
You know yourself better than anyone and you can create a feeling of joy, happiness and magic, all by yourself. That is super-empowering!
As you can see from these photos, I absolutely loved my self- date for International Celebrate Being Single Day and would totally recommend self-dating at each and every available opportunity! I went to Bristol Zoo, ate 3 meals out (was a bit full, full, full!!) and saw ‘Sing’ and the ‘Batman Lego Movie’ – which was awesome, both films are great!
International Celebrate Being Single Day is just around the corner (Feb 14th), and having founded this special day for singles to celebrate being single, you may be asking yourself, just what is so great about being single. For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my www.Twitter.com/quirkycoaching profile and thought, just what is #powerofone. Power Of One is a powerful online training and coaching programme that I am creating, to show you, just how to be single and be happy being single.
Since being predominantly single from November 5th, 2011, I began to challenge my mind about the way it thinks about being in a relationship and being single. I was in relationships with guys who were no good for me since 15 years of age – until 2011 – about 19 years of my life! With the largest period of being single in that time, just 6 months! 2 relationships I had were long term (not good for me) and lasted years. I wasn’t a happy person back then and had low self-esteem. I did not like being on my own because I felt alone and very lonely, I liked to be needed, wanted and loved, and felt I wanted someone there for me 24/7 as life would be boring on my own. I am also a very romantic person.
It is fine to want to be needed, wanted and loved – but what I have discovered is that you need to get these 3 things from yourself first and foremost; to be at one with your own soul – then you will you be happy and fulfilled as a single person and less likely to get into a relationship that is no good for you because you will not ‘need’ to be in a relationship. In fact, you may fill your own life with so much joy and happiness that being in a relationship no longer appeals to you. Either way, you will have unleashed your power of one and be on your way to being a super successful single sensation.
Step 1. You need to take stock of your life and realise that you have a problem being single and find out why that is.
Step 2. You need to be willing to have an open mind and accept you need to change in this respect.
Step 3. If you have been in relationships for most of your life, you need to give yourself some time to yourself and vow to do all you can to stay single for a set period of time – mine was a year; so I could have time to stop ‘needing’ someone. If on the other hand you have been single all your life and would like to be in a relationship but don’t know how to go about it, then you have some work to do on yourself to ensure you can be single and be happy – as well as work to do on your dating and relationship skills. You can still enjoy dating as a single person and it is good to see what is on offer from a variety of sources, rather than thinking one person is the only choice you have!
Step 4.You need to explore and find things to build your confidence and self-esteem, as well as discover ways to help you to be happy being single. This could include learning from books, articles, training courses, magazines, blogs, videos, audio books and podcasts, or through coaching and/or being mentored.
Step 5. You need to decide what ways you learn best – visual, auditory (listen), verbal, written, – so you can pick which learning method is best for you and implement it. If you don’t know which suits you best, try each out until you find which works best for you. Being happy to be single is a skill you need to master and maintain and you need to recognise this and accept it.
Step 6. Take massive action. You need to implement what you have learned, if you are not prepared to do this then you will stay stuck being single and unhappy – everyone has a choice regardless of their circumstances. If you have no money there is free to watch YouTube videos, blog posts and online articles to read. There is no excuse for not changing your life!
Step 7. Evaluate and monitor your progress via each learning method. If something doesn’t work, then try something else until you can honestly say you are happy being single.
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How are you celebrating being single on Feb 14th – International Celebrate Being Single Day?
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INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY DOCUMENTARY: BRISTOL ZOO. This video took me over 6 months of learning IMovie and editing to create it. In this video I take you on my journey of my self-date for International Celebrate Being Single Day. From the moment I get to the train station, to going to the zoo, for food, and the cinema. I did create a shorter version of this without the mouse house that has tons of sound editing, but unfortunately a lot of my files went missing from that version. This version could have been 40 minutes originally so I did well to get it down to almost 24 minutes.
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I saw Goosebumps and Deadpool. The first was hilarious, and a dream or nightmare come true for writers. The second, I didn’t like. Because I don’t like nudity and the violence was too graphic for me. I still loved my International Celebrate Being Single Day Celebration. It was amazing.
I like to take the bull by the horns and lead by example. I also naturally love celebrating being single.
I hadn’t bought myself flowers for years, but I decided this year was going to be different.
So I went into my local Aldi store, which is fortunately just across the road from where I live. I was on a tight budget for the day itself; but thought I would start my International Celebrate Being Single Day celebration, slightly early, so bought myself two ‘pre celebration’ bouquets of flowers. I wanted to show my love for myself to make myself happy, and make myself smile, before my self-date, on my big day.
To be honest I didn’t ‘need’ two; the first bouquet had 3 different coloured roses in it and roses are my favourite flowers. The second I bought because of the sparkly pink heart that is on a wooden stick and I can keep forever. I have a similar thing already, that is like a round bauble and a lighter shade of pink, and I love it so much. For a fleeting moment I thought about taking the heart out of another bouquet and placing it in my rose bouquet and thinking the cashier may not notice, but that would have been dishonest and I can’t do that. So I bought both and they made me smile so much. The white ones are still alive and well. The roses have schrivelled and almost died off, which is a little sad but I can always buy more if I want to.
I had a very fabulous and special International Celebrate Being Single Day, that I had been looking forward to, since October last year. I still haven’t edited the video clips together from that day – waiting for an iMovie lesson for that on the 7th of March. However, I took some photos, some of which I will share with you in my next post.
I had an amazing International Celebrate Being Single Day and will post about it soon. I have some exciting news, in the early hours of this morning, I finished creating and launched www.quirkytshirt.com. I am working in partnership with Amazon.com for this, but they ship the T Shirts all over – including the UK. I design all the Quirky T Shirts and have paid a professional designer to do artwork for all of them, but one. This is one of my designs that is the official Quirky T Shirt for International Celebrate Being Single Day.
I plan to create more Quirky T Shirts soon and in the future. For now, I am working on building asexualise.com and the printed version of my book, and my new Asexual Perspectives book.
Celebrate your quirky and let me know what you think of the site and what other designs you would like to see.
Everyone needs some me time doing things they love, enjoy, and are fun, but what happens when you don’t have time?
The only way you can get time; is by making it. But you can’t make time, I hear you say, it’s not something you can invent – extra time! True, but you can allocate a physical time slot in your diary to do it. In other words, you literally have to factor in time for fun. Whether that is for an hour or two; half day; or whole day, if you are running a tight schedule, it’s imperative you do this, otherwise your fun time will be stressful because you will be worried about all the other stuff you should be doing at that time. You can read more about this in F is for fun, in my Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work – An A-Z ‘How to’ Guide.
When I went to the Success 2016, Business Revolution event, the last day I was in London; I allocated for fun, and went to Thorpe Park – on a self-date of course, and thoroughly enjoyed myself. Which reminds me, if you are single, don’t forget International Celebrate Being Single Day on February 14th – how will you be celebrating?