Asexual Coming Out Very Personal Story

Today I posted this LinkedIn Blog article below, on LinkedIn. I wanted to share it with you to give you a better understanding of why I am committed to helping other asexuals. On Tuesday, I braved telling the world, my very personal asexual coming out story. It was hard to do, but I really want to help others. I ummed and arrrr -ed about whether to put it on this blog, because you have never seen this side of my life, or known some of these details about my past, but I share everything else with you, so here I am in this video, stripped bare in the asexual sense.

For far too long many Asexuals have been living in fear of coming out about their sexuality, due to society’s pressures to conform to a majority sexual population. That’s all about to change!

This week is Asexual Awareness Week; and the official launch of my brand new Asexualise My Asexual Life YouTube channel; to Empower and Enhance Your Asexual Life – with a brand new Asexualise.com website in the pipeline. Once created, Asexualise.com will have products, services and resources for Asexuals. The main product line will be Asexual T-Shirts, that will be exclusive Asexual designs created by me and sold on Amazon, with links directly from Asexualise.com to my Amazon store. My designer has already got to work on the first two designs, so I am super excited about that.

I run the Asexual Business, Gurus and Entrepreneurs group on Facebook; putting Asexuality and business firmly together on the map together. As a Heteroromantic  Asexual myself, I know the difficulties Asexuals face in a world where sex seems like everything, and they feel like they don’t fit in. But they don’t need to fit in, they were born to stand out for all the right reasons, and I am here to give them a voice in the world.

If you are Asexual and interested in finding out more, check out my new YouTube channel to find out why I created this channel, and hear my very personal story.

And sign up to my Asexualise My Asexual Life – What’s happening monthly newsletter by clicking this link and entering your name and email – http://eepurl.com/bC7su5

What you will get; a combination of any or all:

• Inspiration to Asexualise Your Life
• Resources to Asexualise Your Life.

Information about:

• Asexual products
• Any special announcements
• Any special events

Click the link below, and enter your name and email to sign-up : http://eepurl.com/bC7su5

This is an excerpt from the back matter of my Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work – An A-Z ‘How To’ guide; talking about my Quirky Coaching service:

Being a confident heteroromantic asexual, Sandra has found that others who are asexual sometimes prefer to be mentored and coached by someone who understands their orientation and how it impacts their life or business. She is part of many online asexual groups and runs the Asexual Business, Gurus and Entrepreneurs group on Facebook. This group gives those who are asexual and have an interest in business, creativity and the arts; a place to express themselves, to make new friends, share like-minded ideas, share their work and interests, get feedback and support, and help each other’s businesses to grow.

I line with my Break Through Barriers attitude and Embrace Your Quirky philosophy; my aim is to have asexuals and sexuals live along side each other in harmony. Even though I am asexual, personally don’t like sex, and have asexual friends, there will always be place in my life and business for sexual people and I have many sexual and highly sexual friends. I have organised local asexual meet-ups and plan to meet more asexuals in the future.

If you are asexual, check out my Asexual Business, Gurus and Entrepreneurs group on Facebook, and tell me how do you asexualise your life? If you are not asexual, thank you for taking the time to read this article, I look forward to working with you in one of my other World Of Quirky Capacities …. and before you go, there will be inspirational T-Shirts exclusively designed by me, to purchase on Amazon soon, so don’t feel left out, there is something for everyone at world Of Quirky.

I would love to read your comments. Until next time, write soon, and embrace your quirky.

Sandra

beatredundancyblues.co.uk Coming Soon

Hi Everyone

I am mega busy at the moment creating my beatredundancyblues.co.uk website, it will be very similar to beatredundancyblues.com with all of your favourite information pages but with a blog added for much more interaction with you. This way you can let me know what you like and what you don’t and what other help and support you need in your quest to find employment.

I realise not all of you will have been made redundant but when it’s officially launched and no longer under construction, I would still appreciate your feedback on the content.

Watch this space for the official launch of beatredundancyblues.co.uk

My web host who hosts beatredundancyblues.com has decided to stop people from using RVSiteBuilder  to build any new website by removing it from their system. As my site is built using this, I now have to get access to my site admin panel through a link. I was informed that eventually the RVSiteBuilder will be dis-continued completely. beatredundancyblues.co.uk was due to be launched at the end of this year but in light of this new challenge, I am creating it now and transferring it’s valuable information over to beatredundancyblues.co.uk. I have to do this manually and re-format it before adding it to the new WordPress.Org site for beatredundancyblues.co.uk

For those of you who are not familiar with beatredundancyblues.com and what is is about, here is an except from it:

This website is designed to give you easy access to a wealth of knowledge, experience and skills needed to survive redundancy and get back into work. No longer do you have to trawl through website after website trying to find the information you want, you can get it all here at the click of a button. Make your job search easier by getting instant access to these sites at the click of a button. Find an area that interests you and get right to it. Click for instant access to Job Sites Click for instant access to Recruitment Sites Click for instant access to Courses Sites

This website is essential for anyone who is: Redundant Unemployed Changing Career Job Hunting Lacking In Direction Wanting Motivation Needing Help Looking For Support

I have to say that using WordPress.org compared to the .com version has been far more challenging than I thought it would be. What experience have you had with the .org version compared to the .com? Have you got any advice or hints and tips on how to get the best out of using the .org version?

To those of you who have given me blog awards recently, I will officially acknowledge them in the future but it will be at a later date that I had originally planned. Thanks in advance, I very much appreciate your support.

On thursday this week, I am going to an awards ceremony by the police to be awarded a Good Citizens Award. I feel honoured and humbled to be getting the award and thought I would let you know.

Write soon

Sandra

 

What’s Holding You Back? – Skills and Experience – Beat Redundancy Blues

Hi Everyone

As you may know, I am currently working on my first e-Book about redundancy and helping people to get back into work and I have another WordPress blog to support this mission at http://www.beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com

I wanted to share with you my latest post from that blog, as the information is relevant to any job you go for.

So here it is:

Now that we have settled into the new year, you will probably have noticed a lot of posts about goal setting and how you need to take action in order to move forward with your life. These posts are an invaluable source of information and inspiration and they are absolutely right, if you want to achieve your desired outcome, you need to take the steps to get there by setting goals and then acting on them but in the next few posts I want us to take a look at what may be holding you back from setting goals in the first place.

Sometimes in order for you to move forward you must reflect on the past and assess the present to see what changes need to be made. If you keep doing the same thing then you will always get the same result. If you are not happy with the result then you need to change what you are doing and there is no time like the present, so what are you waiting for?

Let’s consider some of the things that may be holding you back.

Not having the right skills or experience

There is no easy way to say this, if you haven’t got the right skills and experience for the job role that you desire, in these difficult economic times, you need to either obtain them or learn to convert previous experience and learnt skills into transferable experience and skills and if you can’t do that then you probably won’t get a look in because the competition is so tough.

Do not be fooled by a job advert that states: “Previous experience is not essential as full training will be given for the right candidate.”

If the interviewer can get a person with previous experience who has the correct basic skills, the right attitude for the job and is the right fit for the team, then they will go with them instead of someone with little or no experience. When I was a retail manager I recruited my own staff  and I advertised for the experience and skills that I required and yes I still got applicants applying with little or no relevant experience and as time is money in business, usually I would sift theses applications out on first look as I had a large number of applicants. Of the applicants that were sifted out there may have been some that had the right attitude or were a good fit for the team but because I didn’t put them through to the interview stage I would never know this, so having the right skills and experience is essential.

When I wasn’t working, on the odd occasion I would apply for a job that was out of my sector and one that I had little or no relevant skills or experience in, just as I thought, I would get a reject letter or worse, nothing at all. Upon analysis, the reason I got a rejection letter was because I appeared on paper to have some of the skills and experience that were relative to the job and some transferable skills but obviously not as good a offering as someone who blatantly had the skills and experience in that sector and therefore I wasn’t surprised I was rejected and took it on the chin. When I received no reply whatsoever, it was because on paper there were barely any skills and experience relevant to the role for which I had applied, so why should the employer bother to reply to me when it looked like I had randomly decided to ‘give it a go’. An employer wouldn’t like this attitude and to be honest neither do I and when I became a manager I understood that and if I were to apply for a job now I would always tailor my CV and Cover Letter to the Job specification and that’s why I get responses when a lot of other people don’t, so if you are struggling to get responses, now you know the secret, why not try it for yourself?

If you want to gain the skills and experience to get a job you desire, you need to do voluntary work, work experience and you may need to take a course as well.

To read about what else may be holding you back be sure to read the next post on http://www.beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com   and whatever you do, stay positive.

Sandra Bellamy

Tell me how you have got on with job applications?

Still to come on quirkybooks.wordpress.com, The One Lovely Blog Award nominations.

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New site beatredundancyblues.com

Hi everyone.

I have been busy working on my new website beatredundancyblues.com and when it’s finished I hope it will be an invaluable resource for you to use daily.

Redundancy can be one of the most traumatic times in your life but it can also be, as I discovered, one of the most rewarding.  If I hadn’t been made redundant for a second time, during one of the worst economic times, I would not have set up quirkybooks.net or my new redundancy website.  It is through my experience that I have been able to uncover important skills, gain a productive insight into the world of employment and become a more organised and positive person.

To go with the launch of my new Blog beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com you will soon be able to visit its’ invaluable website beatredundancyblues.com

The website will provide:

• Access to job sites
• Interview advice
• Contact details for counselling organisations
• Help in looking after your personal wellbeing
• Time management skills

Write soon.

Sandra

Have You Been Made Redundant? – New Website

Hi Everyone.

I know it has been some time since we last had a catch up but I wanted you to know I am currently working many hours composing a brand new website. – beatredundancyblues.com

This website has been specifically designed for people who have been, or who are going to be, made redundant.

It is also for people who are currently:

• Unemployed
• Looking to change jobs

There will be information on :

• Job Sites to visit
• Counselling services
• Interview advice
• Organisation and time management
• Motivation techniques
• And so much more

With over 14 years retail experience, over 7 of which have been in Management roles, I have been made redundant twice and successfully worked my way back up the ladder.

When it comes to employment and recruitment, I have seen both sides, I know what to look out for, how to target a C.V and Cover letter that stands out from the crowd and what are big interview no no’s.

All this and more, will be at beatredundancyblues.com, COMING SOON.

I am sure you will agree it will be well worth the wait.

Write soon.

Sandra