Without Darkness There Would Be No Light! How to go from the darkness and into the light!


I used to think why is there so much hatred, darkness, and pain in life, and that there is no way I would wish anyone to be brought into this world, as it was horrible. I don’t think that way anymore as I am no longer depressed. What you focus on expands and I was focused back then on negativity, on the fact I didn’t like myself or my life. I watched TV and the news, which is full of rape, death, murder, violence and betrayal. News focuses on the bad and negative stuff, in order to grip you emotionally and scare you into coming back for more! To make you think, if you don’t watch it, something bad will happen to you, as you don’t know what is going on in the world. But the reality is, you create your own reality, and by focusing on that bad news each day, it makes you more fearful and scared of the world at large, and therefore you have to keep watching it, like a drug, in order to avoid the pain, when in reality, it is injecting pain into you, into your mind, into your body, until you become a fearful, sick, and nervous wreck. This is often subconscious, rather than conscious.

So what can you do?

  • You need to free yourself from the negativity and embrace the positive.
  • Stop watching TV and in particularly the news. Don’t read newspapers daily.
  • If you do watch TV, keep it to comedy, and things that make you feel love, laughter, and joy. Go into the light and cut out the dark on TV. Both the light and dark are there, but you have a choice! Don’t make excuses, make positive choices and positive changes in your life.
  • Be far more disciplined to get good thoughts, words, actions, and images, into your life, and put them into action constantly. Pay attention to the music you listen to, as well and the films you watch, and what you read. Ask yourself, if it is positive or negative. Then get rid of the negative.
  • Listen to positive affirmations daily to help get your mind into a positive state.
  • Know happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy! It’s your life.
  • Practise gratitude daily. Be grateful and thankful for what you have right now in your life, and every single day.
  • You are responsible for yourself, and your life, no one else.
  • Have courage to face your fears head on.
  • Trust your intuition.
  • Learn, develop, and grow yourself, and never stop learning.
  • Realise all the special qualities, skills, and abilities you have, and keep implementing them and recognising them.
  • Find your life purpose and live it.
  • Help others and it will help you to live a purposeful life
  • Realise that all the dark moments in your life, needed to happen, in order for you to learn, develop, and grow yourself, into the person you are today.
  • Be thankful for everything that happens in your life, good or bad, and know that everything happens for a reason, good or bad.
  • Know that when experiencing bad times, it means good times are just around the corner. The more bad and unhappy, the more fortunate and happy times are ahead. Because where there is darkness, there is always light around the corner

I now understand that without darkness there would be no light! But by focusing on the light, it helps to keep the darkness away, and to draw happiness, love, and light, to me always. Like a boomerang, light will ways come back to me, and I will never reside and stay in a pit of darkness and despair, ever again. I will always go back into light. I freed myself of depression in 2012, and even if things are not going the way I want them to, I know that time will pass and I will be happy and joyful again.

Right now, in this moment. My life is awesome. I won’t lie. I am nervous about the future, but also optimistic about it! I love my life and I am very thankful for living in my beautiful flat, for having a roof over my head and food in my belly. For having wonderful friends in my life and people who love me implicitly. A new guy has come into my life who I am very thankful and grateful for. He’s a cutie! And it’s my 3rd 21st mindset birthday next week! On 24th of April! Rock on!

Happy Good Friday and Happy Easter Weekend! What helps you go towards the light and keep out the darkness? Please write in the comments below, as I love to read you.

As always, keep being quirky you and write soon.

Sandra xx

Unleash your inner child! – How do you unleash yours?

Hi everyone

Every now and again, I post a post from my www.beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com blog, that I think may be of interest to you, so here it is.


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Disneyland Paris, Minnie Mouse.

Many a time I hear people saying, I am too old for this or that. Why?

I hear people say I can’t do that now, but I used to do that when I was younger. What’s stopping them from doing it now?

People say I did that, but now I am a grown up. Like not doing a specific thing, makes you grown up, it doesn’t. Being grown up, means different things to different people. Being grown up, in the real sense, means you have physically grown in some way. ‘Grown up’ is a concept and a state of mind.

However, being grown up also comes with stereotypes of what society generally dictates, is acceptable to do, at a certain age.
Being quirky, and embracing my own quirky, you can imagine that I break and defy most of these and I have no shame in doing so.

Having had counselling in the past for depression, I learnt a little about the concept of the inner child and parent within me. At the time, I didn’t really fully grasp the concept. It was after freeing myself from depression, with no medication, and doing a lot to help myself, that I began to understand how these played a vital role in my recovery. Nowadays,the parent and child roles within me, are crucial in maintaining my own mental health and wellbeing each and every day, so as not to fall back into a depressive state.

The parent within me, loves me and nutures me. It gives me positive self talk. It gives me comfort, hope, support and reasoning. If I ever feel down, it lets me know that things will improve and get better. It’s always there in the background should I need it.

The child within me, is no longer just within me, it is me, and I Iove it. It allows my creative mind to be unleashed, to think for itself, to be free flowing and to guide, lead and tell me what to do next. It does this in the most profound and magical way and I am blessed. It’s great for writing, coming up with creative solutions and living a quirky life that is rich with diversity, rewarding and fulfilling.

I encourage you to unleash your inner child. To let go of your inhibitions that stop you from thinking freely and creatively, and that imprison your mind.

Young children try new things, they want to do what pleases them. They like to explore new things. They express themselves freely in the moment, without worrying about what other’s think. They are a bundle of energy and life. If someone tells them they can’t do something, they want to defy the odds, go their own way and just do it. By finding and using these inner child attributes as an adult, there are no limits to what you can accomplish in your life.

By unleashing your inner child, it will free you from the restrictive thoughts and limiting beliefs of your own mindset. This will set you free on the path to success in every aspect of your life. You can be your authentic self. You can be truly unstoppable.

In my past life, as I refer to it, I was old before my time. Now, although I am older in birth certificate age, I am younger, and the authentic quirky me, who I was always born and meant to be. My time for living a young, quirky life, is now. I have unleashed my inner child. How have you unleashed yours?

How do you unleash your inner child?

Write soon and embrace your quirky.


My Invitation to St James’s Palace





Hi Everyone

I thought you may be interested to read my latest post from my other blog http://www.beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com – here it is below:

As you probably know http://www.beatredundancyblues.com is your one stop resource for redundancy. As well as the practical aspects of redundancy it also covers health and wellbeing including stress, anxiety and depression.

You may like to know that I do voluntary work as a Health Buddy for CSV (Community Service Volunteers) in association with BBC Radio Devon. We promote health messages, learn from health specialists and encourage the 5 ways to wellbeing:

  1. Connect
  2. Be Active
  3. Take Notice
  4. Learn
  5. Give

On Wednesday 10th of March, I went to a CSV Health Buddy celebration of music and activities from local refugees who are being looked after by Devon and Cornwall Refugee Support.

I could not help but take notice of the variety of talent amongst the refugees. There were lots of activities including singing, sports, character making out of carrots and foods from their country. I learnt more about them and the foods they eat. People from different backgrounds connected and it was lovely of them to give up their afternoon to entertain and teach us.

At this event I was pleasantly surprised to be presented with a bouquet of flowers and a Certificate of Achievement for helping a distressed and vulnerable person as part of my role as a CSV (Community Service Volunteer) Health Buddy.

I was even more thrilled to be told that I had been chosen to represent the CSV organisation at their 50th anniversary celebration, to be held at St James’s Palace in London on Monday 15th of July 2013. In the presence of Her Majesty the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh.

This is a once in a lifetime opportunity that I feel incredibly honoured to be chosen for.

Redundancy can make you feel deflated and powerless. Take back the control in your life by discovering what you were born to do and make it happen for yourself.

I am living my dreams and I want you to be too.

Stay positive

Sandra Bellamy

Write-A-Thon Winner – Close Contest

Hi Everyone

quirkybooks’ latest competition to win a signed copy of Rochelle Melander’s Write-A-Thon, was a close contest, with many people trying several ways to win.

I am pleased to announce that Casey Jo Roach is the winner of the signed copy of Write-A-Thon. Congratulations Casey.

Thanks to everyone who entered and made the competition a great success.

For this competition I asked the question: “If you could buy any self-help book, what topic would you choose and why?”

Amongst the answers were books about:

  • How to write well
  • Writing resources
  • Writing an interesting Novel
  • How to write a novel quickly
  • Getting published
  • Overcoming Depression
  • Mindfulness
  • Stress
  • De-stressing
  • Anxiety

I thought it was remarkably interesting that two main categories shone through: Writing and Health and Well-being. Two of my favourite subjects to write about. So watch this future space!

If you could buy any self-help book, what would it be? Please leave a comment below.

Next post will be about my nominations for the Liebster Award, so don’t miss it.

Write soon.