4 Awesome Ways To Celebrate Being Single On Valentine’s Day/International Celebrate Being Single Day!

On this day in 2015, I founded International Celebrate Being Day – on this Quirky Books blog! So that no single person has to feel alone on Valentine’s Day ever again! Instead, they can celebrate it as their special day, such as with a self-date! So today I am out on a self-date to celebrate being single on #ICBSDAY or #ICBSD! (International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!) I am going to the cinema and for a meal! And I will be even more loved up with myself than usual!

I have to admit, I have always been happier being single than in a relationship! That doesn’t mean to say it will always be the case, but if it is, that’s fine! I get attracted to younger foreign asexual guys in their 20s, (I am an asexual younger cougar – so I like to kiss a younger guy, not have sex with them), so I am limited in finding someone suitable, especially as I don’t want (sex – as an asexual), marriage, or kids, and I love living on my own and still want 100% commitment but to live separate from someone special, and have them living just around the corner from my home would be nice – I don’t want to cook or clean for a guy, or share household bills with a guy, and if no guy likes that, fine, right now I really appreciate my single life and want it to stay like that for a while anyway!

How are you going to celebrate being single today?

Or if you are in a relationship, how are you going to go out of your way to make that someone feel extra special today? Yes, you may take them out at other times of year, yes, they may know you love them all year round, yes, you may buy them gifts all year around, but there is no harm in doing it today – what have you got to lose?

I never want to be with a cynical guy where Valentine’s Day is concerned or any other special day – and there are quite a lot of cynical guys or guys who have left their dating years behind – remember, if you are in a relationship, it is healthy to date once a week and to remember to not take these days for granted, as they won’t last forever! I believe any reason to celebrate life and love should be taken! I think life should be one big party from beginning to end! And quite frankly if a guy is not going to do anything in these respects, then I really don’t need him, as I make myself happy on every special occasion, yes, I never stay in on my birthday either, I go out, even if that means by myself! And I make myself happy all year round, so any guy who is interested in a relationship with me has a lot to live up to!!

Here are 3 awesome celebrate being single tunes to get you feeling that amazing – HAPPY TO BE SINGLE VIBE!

Whatever happens, however you spend February 14th, know that I love you, that I care, and I am here! And always celebrate being quirky you. Happy Valentine’s Day and Happy International Celebrate Being Single Day from me, lots of love, Sandra xxxxxxxx

P.S. Write soon – you know you want to!!

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY #ICBSD

I am in Bristol later today to celebrate – going to the zoo and for a meal and to the cinema.

Lots of love and hugs, stay quirky xx

7 Steps To Being Successfully Single and Happy Being Single! #ICBSD

International Celebrate Being Single Day - Feb 14th! — International Celebrate Being Single Day – Feb 14th!

International Celebrate Being Single Day is just around the corner (Feb 14th), and having founded this special day for singles to celebrate being single, you may be asking yourself, just what is so great about being single. For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my www.Twitter.com/quirkycoaching profile and thought, just what is #powerofone. Power Of One is a powerful online training and coaching programme that I am creating, to show you, just how to be single and be happy being single.

Since being predominantly single from November 5th, 2011, I began to challenge my mind about the way it thinks about being in a relationship and being single. I was in relationships with guys who were no good for me since 15 years of age – until 2011 – about 19 years of my life! With the largest period of being single in that time, just 6 months! 2 relationships I had were long term (not good for me) and lasted years. I wasn’t a happy person back then and had low self-esteem. I did not like being on my own because I felt alone and very lonely, I liked to be needed, wanted and loved, and felt I wanted someone there for me 24/7 as life would be boring on my own. I am also a very romantic person.

It is fine to want to be needed, wanted and loved – but what I have discovered is that you need to get these 3 things from yourself first and foremost; to be at one with your own soul – then you will you be happy and fulfilled as a single person and less likely to get into a relationship that is no good for you because you will not ‘need’ to be in a relationship. In fact, you may fill your own life with so much joy and happiness that being in a relationship no longer appeals to you. Either way, you will have unleashed your power of one and be on your way to being a super successful single sensation.

Step 1. You need to take stock of your life and realise that you have a problem being single and find out why that is.

Step 2. You need to be willing to have an open mind and accept you need to change in this respect.

Step 3. If you have been in relationships for most of your life, you need to give yourself some time to yourself and vow to do all you can to stay single for a set period of time – mine was a year; so I could have time to stop ‘needing’ someone. If on the other hand you have been single all your life and would like to be in a relationship but don’t know how to go about it, then you have some work to do on yourself to ensure you can be single and be happy – as well as work to do on your dating and relationship skills. You can still enjoy dating as a single person and it is good to see what is on offer from a variety of sources, rather than thinking one person is the only choice you have!

Step 4.You need to explore and find things to build your confidence and self-esteem, as well as discover ways to help you to be happy being single. This could include learning from books, articles, training courses, magazines, blogs, videos, audio books and podcasts, or through coaching and/or being mentored.

Step 5. You need to decide what ways you learn best – visual, auditory (listen), verbal, written, – so you can pick which learning method is best for you and implement it. If you don’t know which suits you best, try each out until you find which works best for you. Being happy to be single is a skill you need to master and maintain and you need to recognise this and accept it.

Step 6. Take massive action. You need to implement what you have learned, if you are not prepared to do this then you will stay stuck being single and unhappy – everyone has a choice regardless of their circumstances. If you have no money there is free to watch YouTube videos, blog posts and online articles to read. There is no excuse for not changing your life!

Step 7. Evaluate and monitor your progress via each learning method. If something doesn’t work, then try something else until you can honestly say you are happy being single.

If you would like the early bird offer for my new online training/coaching course when it comes out – just fill in the form below and you will also receive a free bi-monthly newsletter with information, inspiration, motivation and advice, about how to be happy being single.

How are you celebrating being single on Feb 14th – International Celebrate Being Single Day?

Please add #ICBSD to any posts and media you post online to show how proud you are to celebrate International Celebrate Being Single Day!!

What struggles do you have being single and what help would you like to overcome them?

Until next time

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra

INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY DOCUMENTARY: BRISTOL ZOO

INTERNATIONAL CELEBRATE BEING SINGLE DAY DOCUMENTARY: BRISTOL ZOO. This video took me over 6 months of learning IMovie and editing to create it. In this video I take you on my journey of my self-date for International Celebrate Being Single Day. From the moment I get to the train station, to going to the zoo, for food, and the cinema. I did create a shorter version of this without the mouse house that has tons of sound editing, but unfortunately a lot of my files went missing from that version. This version could have been 40 minutes originally so I did well to get it down to almost 24 minutes.

Thanks for all your 6 year blogging anniversary wishes, much appreciated. xx Hugs xx

Stay quirky

Sandra xx