CHANGE – INSPIRATIONAL/MOTIVATIONAL POEM BY SANDRA BELLAMY


I am currently going through a huge change in my life because on the 21st of September, I am being made redundant from my day job, after 5 years. My full-time hours are being cut and instead, a part-time weekend only person will be employed. I have the option do just the weekends, or to take the weekend hours for a trial for 4 weekends until 15th of October, then take redundancy, if I don’t find anything else to make up the hours to full-time, as I can’t live on those hours, or take redundancy on the 21st. I am going to go with the middle option of the trial, if I have not got another job by the 21st.

At first I was very fearful, but now I am trying to think positive and look forward to starting a new work life and that new opportunities that will come my way.

I am also going to be focusing more on my Quirky Academy and getting that up and running as my online training centre for entrepreneurs, start-ups and creatives, with specialists teaching in their field – What courses would benefit you right now in your personal and professional development?

Stay quirky

Write soon

Sandra xx

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Asexual Author: Asexuality And My Personal Asexual Story On Straight Up Gay Podcast!


Listen to my interview about Asexuality and my personal Asexual story on the Straight Up Gay Podcast – and no, I am not gay, I am a heteroromatic asexual – attracted to guys (hetero), I don’t want sex, love kissing and romance, but asexuality is tagged onto the LGBT+ QIA Acronym. Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual. Although Asexuality is about who you are not sexually attracted to – no one, whereas the other identities are based on who they are sexually attracted to.

https://pinecast.com/player/0b589f01-df23-4648-99b0-bfc899dc7bf8?theme=minimal

Here is the link to iTunes
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-straight-up-gay-podcast/id1191090742?mt=2&i=1000391267315

If you haven’t yet checked out my Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book on Amazon, it is an insightful read, even if you are not asexual, so be sure to check it out now!! http://amzn.to/2gKnsDs

In broad terms Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, but what does this actually mean for those who identify with this sexual orientation? And what do asexuals really think of love, life and sex?

Whilst all asexuals have one thing in common – the lack of sexual attraction towards a specific person, we are all different in our likes, needs, wants and dislikes. This can make fitting into the asexual spectrum and finding a suitable relationship difficult.

Right now, there are a number of myths about asexuality and stereotypes – even within the asexual community, about what asexuals do and do not like, should and should not do, and these need to be addressed and broken through!

If you identify as asexual do you –

Struggle to have a voice in this sexualized world?
Feel alone?
Misunderstood?
Misplaced?
Broken?
Left out?
Not recognised?
Have no one to relate to?
Find it difficult to find others like you?
Feel like everyone is speaking a foreign language where sex is concerned?

Or are you unsure of your identity and sometimes get confused and you want to know what asexuals really think of Love, Life and Sex, and what experiences they have had or are having; and how they manage their relationships? If so, then look no further than this book. In this book you will discover asexuals who feel just like you.

In this book I will reveal my own asexual perspective and personal story as well as perspectives from 46 asexuals around the globe; dispelling myths and breaking stereotypes; sharing their own personal journey to help you in yours and with a surprising over-riding message!

In this book you will:

•Learn the asexual perspectives of Aromantics; Heteroromantics; Homoromantics; Panromantics; Grey Aces; Demi-sexual; Biromantic; Agender; Transgender; Polyamorous and many more.

•Uncover Asexuals’ deepest fears, concerns and worries about being asexual.

•Find out possible reasons why, in general, society does not accept asexuality as a sexual orientation in its own right and what we can do about this to change the world!

•Discover what asexuals really believe are the differences between sexual attraction, sexual desire and arousal.

•Find out what asexuals really think of nudity; porn; masturbation; BDSM and kinks.

•Discover what it feels like to have sex as an asexual and how to cope with the sexualized world that we live in.

•Find out what asexuals think about living together, about marriage and about having kids.

•Discover what an ideal asexual relationship would look like and whether asexuals believe a relationship with a sexual would be fair or not.

•Uncover the positives about being asexual.

•Find out what advice asexuals would give to a younger version of themselves regarding asexuality and what advice they would give to others who are just discovering they may be asexual.

I feel truly blessed that all interviewees have been willing to open up and share their most intimate moments, thoughts, feelings and emotions with you. What you are about to read is unique, amazing, interesting, sometimes candidly humorous, fascinating and insightful. This is their story, now it’s their time to tell it.

Heteroromantic, Author Sandra Bellamy is the founder of www.asexualise.com, with products, resources and services for asexuals. She sees herself as an ambassador for asexuality and is on a mission to get asexuality recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right throughout the globe so that no asexual has to live in fear of ridicule ever again. By purchasing this book you will gain a deeper understanding of this often misunderstood sexual orientation and help to spread awareness of asexuality at the same time. We may be small in numbers, but we can still make a huge difference to the world at large and celebrate our diversity.

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Thorpe Park MOS Virtual Reality Weekend Away!


Fresh fruit
Fresh Fruit Salad made especially for me by a beautiful Indian guy

F1 Car at DoubleTree By Hilton Hotel Woking.

F1 Car At Hilton Woking

Darren Brown Ghost Ride Mug

Derren Brown Ghost Train Mug

Thorpe Park Ghost Train Ride Mug
Derren Brown Thorpe Park Ride Mug.
F1 side view at Hilton Woking Hotel
F1 car side view at DoubleTree Hotel in Woking.

I spent last weekend away at Thorpe Park Ministry Of Sound (MOS) event. Which meant a special deal of a Park Ticket for Saturday with Sunday free, accesss to late night riding on Saturday night, and the Ministry of Sound event also on Saturday night from 11-3am. Plus, a one night stay at the DoubleTree for Hilton Woking Hotel, that has a formula one car and an awesome breakfast with comfortable rooms. All for £110, which was amazing value for money. I also had to pay for some of the car parking at Thorpe Park, that was £7 a day, and give the person I went with £50 in petrol money, and buy food and snacks. I still think it was great value – despite being told I am being made redundant from my day job, only the day before; the day before the trip. Told on a Thursday and trip was on Sat. I was super excited to be going and I went on 3 rides I had never been on before, including Saw, the Swarm, and Derren Brown’s ghost train – which was why I bought the mug and it was a fantastic virtual reality experience.

Sadly, I went with a guy I was dating for almost two whole months, and his behaviour was not that of a loving, caring and attentive individual who was into me, but the opposite. Without going into everthing on here. On Saturday day, I was the one who was mostly instigating the affection. I felt ignored in the club after he initially mentioned about a meeting point if we get split up, as soon as we arrived. So it became obvious from the onset that he was not thinking about dancing together. An hour and a half later of almost being ignored in the club and I spoke to him about it, he said to me he preffered to dance on his own. He treated me like just a mate who he happened to have gone with him, both then, and the day after in the park. But my friends treat me better, because they care about me, love me, want to talk to me, and hug me just as a friend. Something happened after the club that was potentially dangerous for me too (not anything sexual – he was respectful of my asexuality and boundaries), and he told me on Saturday day not to trust him. So I broke off seeing him completely the day we got back to Exeter. I realised there were no advantages or benefits to me seeing this guy at all. Yes, I cared for him deeply, but it would seem that in the end, it was a one way street, and I would have had a better time on my own or with a friend who would appreciate me and love spending time specifically with me. So yes, I am still a bit sad but I am also glad to have got away from a situation and person who is blatantly no good for me. He, on the other hand, probably does not care. But I am a caring person and can see some good in almost anyone, but thank goodness I have seen the light.

Always remember how precious you are and so is your life and time. Remember that I love you xx

As always, write soon and stay quirky.

Sandra xx

Writing Is The Most Powerful Tool Which You Can Use To Change The World – Inspirational Quote


Quote about writing
Writing is the most powerful tool which you can use to change the world, inspirational quote by Sandra Bellamy.

I truly believe that writing can change lives and the world. To me, there is nothing better in the world, than writing. It is my soul, passion, therapy and life!! I love it so much!!

What do you believe?? Have you changed lives through the written word??? If yes, tell me how in the comments below.

Until next time, write soon and stay quirky

Sandra xx

BBC RADIO AUTHOR SANDRA BELLAMY INTERVIEW WITH GRAHAM TORRINGTON!


On Monday 31st of July, I had an Asexual Author interview with Graham Torrington. I got told my interview was “outstanding”, please check it out http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p057whh1. It is only on iPlayer for 30 days. 22 days to go!!!

Write soon and stay quirky.

Sandra xx

P.S. What do you think of my new Quirky Books blog header?

​Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories Book Review On Pride Matters Blog!


My Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories book was reviewed on Pride Matters Blog Source: ​Asexual Perspectives 

ASEXUAL PERSPECTIVES 47 ASEXUAL STORIES 5 STAR BOOK REVIEW FROM A NEWBIE TO ASEXUALITY!!!


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on July 26, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

For something that I knew nothing about, this book was an upfront and personal invitation to dialogue with the asexuality community. I’m appreciative to the author for her dedication to give voice and visibility to a sexual orientation that currently has little in modern society and media. It’s amazing how different the people in this book are and how different their stories are. I thank them for their bravery and willingness to share their lives.

If you or someone else would like a harmless, cheap, enlightening, insightful, serious, and even entertaining read, then this is your next book.

I was absolutely thrilled to read this Awesome 5 Star Asexual Perspectives book review, from someone who is completely new to asexuality. They obviously thoroughly enjoyed reading Asexual Perspectives 47 Asexual Stories Book so much, and captured the spirit of this book in their review words. I was so happy they not only liked reading the book, but that the praise and recognition for the visibility of our orientation, is so greatly received.
 This feels so good as a writer, that people love my written work, and it is written that well that people outside our asexual orientation, can understand it.
Never give up on your writing dreams.
Stay quirky always, and write soon.
Sandra
xxxx

Angel’s First Birthday Guinea Pig Party Photos!


Angel with card
Angel with 1st Birthday card
Angel and birthday banner
Angel with 1st Birthday banner
Angel with balloon
Angel with animal balloon
Angel with Birthday balloon
Angel with Happy Birthday balloon

On Monday 17th of July, it was Angel’s first birthday! These photos were taken of the morning after, the night before! Chestnut, the brown piggie, is her companion and she is 3. Although I don’t think they look much different in age! What do you think?

I did a Facebook Live on the night of her birthday and she got a bit camera shy!

I have started work on my Quirky Books e-book store, which means you will be able to purchase my digital books directly from it, and it should be up and running in the next few weeks, and it will also have a blog on there too – with some of my best posts from my current blogs, including this one, AND new fresh content! To inspire you to live your best life and fulfil your writing dreams.

Stay quirky and write soon

Sandra xx

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