Why it’s Important to Date Yourself!


Hi everyone

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Tonight I am going on a date with myself.

After work, I am going for a meal in Nandos and then the cinema, with healthy popcorn to eat.

It’s important to date yourself, to reconnect with your inner being and the essence of who you are.

When we have relationships with others; whether that is with family, friends or loved ones, it can be amazing, and you can gain a lot through interaction and spending time with each other. You can also lose yourself if you don’t take action to spend time with yourself doing what you love and what were born to do. If you lose yourself, you can feel disorientated, surreal, and like you are living through others. You could be in effect be killing your own personality off in the process, and losing your quirky self. This can transpire into anxiety, nervousness or even panic, which will then affect your relationships.

When sharing activities with others, such as going to the cinema, a pub or a club, you need to consider what they want to watch and where they want to go too. There is a sense of caring and nuturing about those around you, and to be caring and thoughtful, is a beautiful thing. However, sometimes it’s good just to go somewhere on your own and do whatever you want, whenever you want. To feel free and be uncompromised. To strip it back to the bear essentials of what is true to you. To be your naked, quirky self. Once you reignite or reinforce your passion and love for yourself, it allows others to love you more.

If you are worried about taking time out to date yourself, because of what others may think or feel, just explain to them what’s going on, and that you need some quality ‘you’ time to bond with yourself. That it doesn’t mean you care, like, or love them any less. You need to feel stronger in yourself, to be able to give your best to them. So long as you are communicating it in a way that will enhance your relationship with them, and they don’t feel you are cutting them off, then why should they mind.

Another thing you can do, is to set ‘special’ time aside for them, after your date with yourself. So in effect, you are giving them some bonding time with you to look forward to, and rewarding their understanding of dating yourself.

If you are in a relationship and you both love dating yourself, you may be able to co-ordinate your ‘you’ time, so you are both dating yourself at the same time. Thereby taking less time out of your together time. Similarly, if one of you is with their friends and family, that is a great opportunity to date yourself, providing you haven’t got any outstanding things to do, that would stress you out if they didn’t get done.

Whatever you decide to do, spending quality dating time with yourself is a must. Even if you have got 55,000 tasks to do. It’s essential for your own happiness, health and wellbeing. So go and enjoy it and have fun.

How do you date yourself?

You can read more about reconnecting with your inner being, in my new Break through the barriers of redundancy book. That will be available to buy on Amazon.

Until next time; embrace your quirky, write soon, and stay positive.

Sandra

Author Interview with Ian Kane


Hi everyone

My long anticipated Author interview with Ian Kane is finally here.

Author Ian Kane
Author of Rising Storm Ian Kane

Ian was an absolute pleasure to interview and I hope you enjoy reading about him, as much as I enjoyed learning about him as a person and Author.

Enjoy his short book trailer first.

Ian Kane is a published author, freelance writer, and filmmaker. After high school, he joined the military and received numerous awards and commendations for his exceptional service. After serving his country honorably, he worked as a writer for online and print publications, as a journalist and as a health & fitness expert, culminating in owning his own successful business. Ian has also worked as a military consultant for film productions.

Travelling to many places in the world, in both his civilian and military lives, has given him unique insights, and he infuses this international perspective into both his writing and filmmaking.

A storyteller at heart, Ian has recently made the transition to do what he loves most: Creating stories of people whom others can identify with, and hopefully be entertained by along the way as well. He recently signed with Assent Publishing, and is launching his debut novel— Rising Storm: Fading Empires Volume I:—in May 2014. This is the first of twelve epic novels.

Ian writes a regular column called Kane’s Corner for multi-national newspaper The Epoch Times, which is available in print and online, spanning 35 countries and 21 language editions. He is also currently working on a horror short film, Beneath, which will be released Summer 2014. His next film will be an action thriller based on the beginning of Kilbane’s escape from the training island in Rising Storm. 

Tell us a bit about yourself and how you got into writing?

My parents are both brilliant storytellers, so I think that had a lot to do with me becoming interested in telling stories (as opposed to tall-talesmostly). I was also into role-playing games and would make up my own unique, highly detailed worlds for players to adventure in. Movies and comic books were also big parts of my life growing up, and ones with compelling stories were those which I gravitated to the most.

After a while I thought to myself: “I can do this writing thing,” and just started doing it. Although I’d taken Creative Writing courses here and there, and was always good in English, I pretty much taught myself how to write screenplays as well as novels. I’m also an artist, so that helped me out as well. Since I’d had so many story ideas bottled up for so long, I was never at a loss for creating original material.

What genre is your new book, Rising Storm?

Apocalyptic/Survival Horror, and in a broader sense it’s also epic science fiction, since it will comprise twelve novels in all.

How would you sum up your new book, Rising Storm?

If one is interested in what’s going on around the world today, and wants to peer into a possible future world that might just happen, Fading Empires draws many parallels from today’s tumultuous events. Blatant corruption, an encroaching police state, environmental neglect and destruction, the suppression of basic human rights and dignities, a huge divide between the haves and the have-nots.

Rising Storm is an opportunity to escape this new universe and live vicariously through one or more of the characters whom you identify with. All wrapped into an engrossing universe. Rising Storm serves as an introduction to many of the characters, and the storyline of the Fading Empires series.

What inspired you to write your Rising Storm book?

Ideas that I’d had stored up about the state of affairs today, and a possible future.

You told me you were up to some pretty quirky stuff, what more can you tell us about this?

I can wear brown corduroy pants with matching vest and look good in them for starters.

If you could have one writing wish, what would it be?

Simply to write compelling stories which I hope people can enjoy, and universes to escape into.

In one sentence, why should people buy your book?

If you have even a little bit of underdog in you and wonder what it would be like to go up against seemingly insurmountable odds in a nightmarish near-future, come join the resistance with Rising Storm.

What formats is your book in?

Paperback & e-book formats.

What is the price of your Rising Storm book?

Paperbacks vary (around $10), e-books – $4.95.

Where can people buy your Rising Storm book?

Rising Storm: Fading Empires Volume I can be purchased at:
Amazon paperback and e-book – http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FY7Z3BU
Barnes & Noble Nook – http://bit.ly/16lMesw
Apple – http://bit.ly/1fc4vhk

What is the one message that people will take away from reading Rising Storm?

Reviewers have pointed out, after reading Rising Storm, that in spite of the harsh and bleak environments and situations in my book, the characters still maintain a sense of humor, and humanity. I think that’s a good message to impart to everyone. Never give up, and always look out for others.

 

 

Ian Kane                                                         

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Kane’s Corner/The Epoch Times

I hope you enjoyed meeting Ian and getting to know more about his book. Go check it out now and tell me what you think.

Write soon

Sandra

Weekend Edition – Too Old, Stealing Ideas + Great Reads and Writing Tips


Hi everyone

I got back in the early hours of this morning from London, having been to The Business Show at the ExCeL centre, for two days. I heard from some super authors that have had their books published by Wiley, who publishes the Dummies series.

I read this post and felt compelled to share it with you. This is a fantastic post about not being ashamed to read whatever books you like and creating originality out of stories that have been written before, using your own ” mash up“.

Look out for my interview with Author Ian Kane, coming soon to this blog. His new book is called “Rising Storm” and is part of his “Fading Empires” series. You are going to love his book, love his answers and love him.

Write soon
Sandra

Live to Write - Write to Live

You’re too old for that.

pin lengleI was in the children’s room of my beloved library earlier this week and was horrified to hear a mom tell her son to put a particular book back because he was “too old” for it. She said, “That’s too easy for you.” I actually winced.

I’m sure this mom was very well-meaning. I’m sure she just wanted to encourage her son to try something a little more challenging. But, you are never – NEVER – too old for any book. I’ve shared it before, but I’m going to share again the wonderful quote from the fabulous Madeleine L’Engle, “You have to write the book that wants to be written. And if the book will be too difficult for grown-ups, then you write it for children.”

I am, by chronological reckoning, a full-fledged adult, but I will never, ever stop reading so-called children’s books. Some…

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Exclusive Preview – Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy Book Blurb


Hi everyone

I am still working on the final edit of my book and it is taking longer than I expected, but it will be worth the wait.

After a short break, I am working back in my day job again, and I start teaching Blogging as an aid to recovery on Monday 24th of February. I had planned to publish my book in February, depending on how long it took to edit it to a standard that I am happy with. Although I have people waiting to buy my book, I won’t compromise on quality, and I know they wouldn’t want me to. It looks likely I will publish it in March rather than February.

I now own the copyright of the book cover illustration and design, although credit still goes to my illustrator Victoria Warby for creating it. I think she has done a fantastic job.

Please note that the entire book cover is copyrighted and will be revealed in the future – For now, I can exclusively reveal the Book Blurb.

Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy Book Blurb
Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy Book Blurb

Break Through The Barriers of Redundancy Book Blurb: Copyright Sandra Bellamy/quirkybooks – Cover Illustration created by Victoria Warby

Coming soon to Amazon: My new book – Break Through The Barriers Of Redundancy To Get Back Into Work: – An A-Z ‘How to’ guide.

I am pleased to say that a link to my website http://www.beatredundancyblues.com has been added to http://thefilmorecv.co.uk/job-search-sites.php site, that is the sister site to http://www.jobmanji.com.

I would love to have your feedback on the blurb.

Always remember, your writing dreams can come true, if you work hard and believe in your abilities as a writer.

Write soon
Sandra